Post by expatpumpkin on Jun 28, 2013 10:59:49 GMT -5
So many interesting responses... DH and I have actually discussed this once. We'd be willing to raise the child - unless daughter opts for abortion, which I would support. As for whether we'd be the custodial parents for the kid's entire childhood would depend on the situation.
If my 14-15 daughter has a baby (God forbid!!!), I'd lean strongly towards raising the child until majority, while being open about who mom/sis is. I wouldn't want my daughter to uproot the child when he's 10-years-old, for example.
If daughter is older, however, I'd lean towards preparing her to take over full-time parenting when SHE grows up.
Yeah, but I shudder to think how many teens would approach birth control. I'd have to be on her every night asking "did you take your pill? did you take your pill?" or lay it out by her bed for her in a little cup if I wanted any hope of relaxing about the possibility of pregnancy. lol. Hell, it's hard for adults to take the pill properly.
I was pretty good with it. My main worry would be that they wouldn't use condoms, and get STDs. I did, but it was mostly because it was so ingrained in teenage boys mentalities that they just wrapped one on without asking about BCP. I only stopped using it after a few months with the same boyfriend for who I was the first.
I did take Plan B a few times too.
I was way too scared to get pregnant to not take my pill and/or use a back up method. Way too scared.
I would support her choice, but I don´t think I would do any raising of the child.
I probably would, but to be honest, I think in many situations (and probably even my own), it's a lot healthier to have the child adopted by a family who really wants a child and would cherish him/her, provided they are committed to an open adoption. As the grandparent, raising a child you never planned for or wanted could lead to resentment and lots of unhealthy dynamics.
This is where I'm at. I would love my child and grandchild unconditionally. BUT in the end of the day, it would not be part of my retirement plans to raise another child all over again. I want to grow old with DH and relax, not change dirty diapers and wake up every three hours. It sounds selfish but like Captain Serious said, another family would prepare for caring for it and have all the love and time to do so.