I have a daycare question. WARNING SAD STORY INSIDE

[cleo29]

I am not sure how it works at most places, but at C's school, if I did not phone in her absence from school, the school would call and email us.  Do most daycare centers do something similar?

We had a heartbreaking case here this week of an eight month old baby who was left in her mother's car ALL DAY when it was in the low 90s. The mom made this discovery as she was getting ready to leave work and drove over to a hospital near her house, which is not in the same county as where she works.

It's just so sad.

[cleo29]

Jul 7, 2013 13:07:12 GMT -5 @awesometothemax said:

Was the baby okay? I'm guessing not

No   H and I both wondered why she didn't just call 911 immediately rather than driving to another county hospital, but who's to say what a person would do in that situation.

[ssmjlm]

Oh what a horrible thing.

Our daycare requires a call by 9am if the child will be absent. E has started there yet but I'm assuming if we don't call them they call us.

[meganew]

I've heard of this happening before and it's my biggest fear. That poor baby and parents. : (

[snorky]

Oh, that is my worst nightmare. There was a gut wrenching story about these incidents in the Washington Post from 2008/9 that I read while I was pregnant- it apparently happens a lot more often than one would think and to all sorts of people. It got the message across and I think of it every time I get out of the car. articles.washingtonpost.com/2009-03-08/news/36840402_1_courtroom-tissue-class-trip warning: very, very sad article.

Most daycares do call, but it is possible that the mother didn't have her cell phone on or something.

[lilybug]

Jul 7, 2013 13:16:18 GMT -5 HRH Queen Dick I said:

Jesus put a warning in your post title

Seconded. I'm overly sensitive, but this is not your usual "daycare question"

[cleo29]

Jul 7, 2013 13:21:55 GMT -5 lilybug said:

Jul 7, 2013 13:16:18 GMT -5 HRH Queen Dick I said:

Jesus put a warning in your post title

Seconded. I'm overly sensitive, but this is not your usual "daycare question"

I apologize, I meant to go back and do that but my daughter woke up early from a nap. Sorry to disturb everyone.

[dragonfly08]

My kids never went to daycare, but a call to a parent/guardian to verify any unreported absences was policy at their preschools, and their elementary school does it, too.

[speckledfrog]

Some do, some don't. I would never blame the child care center in an instance like this.

[snickers]

Oh my god. That is horrific.
At the daycare I work at you are supposed to call, but if you don't call they don't call you. I always call the kids from my class who don't show up because sometimes they are just planning on coming late, or they are sick and I like to check up on them. This is a great example as to why every daycare should call. Holy

[snickers]

However, as speckled said, I would not blame the daycare for sure.

[gretchenindisguise]

Ours does not call.

H and I have a system of calling/texting the other when she's dropped off and picked up.

If H is out of town/country, I call/text my parents. I'm a bit neurotic about this.

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[Deleted]

I definitely wouldn't blame the daycare. How horrible.

[cleo29]

Jul 7, 2013 13:36:59 GMT -5 speckledfrog said:

Some do, some don't. I would never blame the child care center in an instance like this.

I'm not blaming them, I just wondered what the policy was at most places or what's common at least. It's a tragic situation.

[snickers]

Jul 7, 2013 13:42:17 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

Jul 7, 2013 13:36:59 GMT -5 speckledfrog said:

Some do, some don't. I would never blame the child care center in an instance like this.

I'm not blaming them, I just wondered what the policy was at most places or what's common at least. It's a tragic situation.

Oh goodness I hope you don't think that's what I meant. I didn't think you blamed them at all! It's very tragic.

[Deleted]

How do some of you people who needed a warning in the title function in every day life? FFS, it is not like she posted a picture of the dead kid.

[ginger]

I don't think it's policy at M's daycare, but it's a good idea. I think I might suggest it.

[speckledfrog]

Jul 7, 2013 13:53:30 GMT -5 elle said:

How do some of you people who needed a warning in the title function in every day life? FFS, it is not like she posted a picture of the dead kid.

Avoidance, I'm assuming.  I don't read stories about dead or tortured animals because I have difficulty shaking them from my mind.  Right after I had W I couldnt' handle stories about children because it made me anxious and sometimes it's just better to not read them at all.  Not everyone can be a badass!   

[cleo29]

Jul 7, 2013 13:53:51 GMT -5 ginger said:

I don't think it's policy at M's daycare, but it's a good idea. I think I might suggest it.

I like it. I always call or text her teacher, but there were times I forgot to also inform the front office and they don't just call me back, they also call H. Granted, it's a public school system, but I think it's a great practice to have in place.

[fakejew]

No. Ours did not.

[ginger]

Jul 7, 2013 14:01:49 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

Jul 7, 2013 13:53:51 GMT -5 ginger said:

I don't think it's policy at M's daycare, but it's a good idea. I think I might suggest it.

I like it. I always call or text her teacher, but there were times I forgot to also inform the front office and they don't just call me back, they also call H. Granted, it's a public school system, but I think it's a great practice to have in place.

At least around here, I'm pretty sure it's standard policy for most (if not all) schools. Daycares have different regulations though. I like the idea though.

[Deleted]

Isn't this the kind of story that makes the news though? I am genuinely curious. Do you shut the news off when it covers stories like this? Avoid reading the newspaper or news feeds? I don't think you have to be a bad ass to not need a warning before reading a story like this.

[speckledfrog]

Jul 7, 2013 14:10:35 GMT -5 elle said:

Isn't this the kind of story that makes the news though? I am genuinely curious. Do you shut the news off when it covers stories like this? Avoid reading the newspaper or news feeds? I don't think you have to be a bad ass to not need a warning before reading a story like this.

Pretty much.  I stopped watching the news many years ago after they showed, over and over, a lawyer getting shot at outside a CA courthouse.  This man was running for his life and it was terrible and I was horrified that the news kept showing it.  I understand that not watching the news seems just as horrifying to other people and that it makes me seem ignorant to some.  I am not generally an anxious person but I do find that I am a happier person this way.

[jenna]

I was watching the news while recovering from my c-section in the hospital.

The news was all about the home invasion in Connecticut. Those news stories gave me horrible nightmares - while I was in the hospital - that I can still remember vividly 2 1/2 years later.

So, as a result, I generally avoid watching the news on tv.

I was never affected by the news to this degree until I had E.

[Deleted]

I am truly dumbfounded there are grown women who actually avoid the news, but I see I am in the minority. toledo- can you come here and reassure me all women don't become too delicate to watch the news after giving birth?

[isabel]

snorky

Well, that article should stick with me. I'm now convinced I need an alarm system once I have a kid. Those poor parents. I can't even imagine that kind of loss.

[otowngirl]

Jul 7, 2013 13:39:09 GMT -5 gretchenindisguise said:

Ours does not call.

H and I have a system of calling/texting the other when she's dropped off and picked up.

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Yup.

[lilybug]

I wouldn't say that I encounter stories about babies suffering and dying in everyday life.

Suggesting a warning is not to say that this shouldn't be posted about / reported on the news. It's just a warning. Obviously I read the thread without one - I was thinking of the people who hadn't yet seen it who would happily click to answer a daycare question, but would rather stay head-in-the-sand about another dead baby.

FTR, I watch the news. There are sad stories sometimes. Whatever. I deal with it.

[Deleted]

I also avoid the news for the most part. I'll read headlines but if nothing interests me I won't read it. I haven't bought a newspaper in years and don't really care too.

[joenali]

I'm pretty sure the elementary school I work at calls home if the parents do not report the absence. I just take attendance via computer and the attendance person in the office makes the call. I would assume its the same type of protocol with other schools, especially if there are no contact orders etc.

I wonder why the day care center didn't call?