Skipping is immature and her immaturity shows time and time again on these boards. I tend to ignore everything she posts, but I am cracking up at her repeated promises to try better and do better. It's a message board, FFS. Chill.
kirra - I hear what you're saying. But when somebody is all, "I use a handicap permit when I don't need to! Flame if you must!" that's a little bit different than what you experienced today. That guy was an ass, and he should have minded his own business. If it wasn't for people like Anlon (or whatever) who abused the tags, there wouldn't be assholes like you encountered today. I'm sorry that that happened to you.
I'm on my ipad, and the quoting isn't working right.
melindafelinda I get cussed out at least twice a week and blocked in a least once a month. This is the first time I've had to call 911, though. Usually if I threaten to they leave me alone.
I wish people would mind their own business about handicapped parking tags. I had to call the cops on someone today because he blocked me in and was lecturing me for using my tag. I told him it was in my name, and asked him to move his car. He said no. It was a waste of the police officer's time to come verify the the tag is in my name, it was a waste of my time, and it was a waste of the asshole who blocked me in's time. Although I did get to listen in on the lecture the police officer gave him.
I may be young and look healthy, but I'm not. I wish the people who judge me for using my tags could realize that sometimes we aren't as healthy as we look.
Well, yes, I totally agree but on the flip side I wish people wouldn't misuse them. I am very sorry for what happened to you:(
But I mean in no situation is it ok for some random dude to take it upon himself to #1 even question her and #2 block her car in. I would have DESTROYED him.
Holy shit, where do you live? I swear, it must be the ballsiest place on earth. Even though there are people who abuse the system, I cannot imagine actually accusing somebody of doing so!
It's just one of the many things that suck about being young and disabled. And of all the days to deal with it, I didn't want to deal with it today. I got definite diagnoses of EDS on Friday, and I've been on the phone with eight doctors offices in the last two days.
My Husband gets pissy when he sees someone park in a handicap spot and just get out and walk off. I have to keep reminding him that sometimes you just cannot see what the problem is and handicap doesn't mean outward physical appearance only. Then he's all "oh yah, duh". And you have to just assume it is a person who needs it and isn't abusing the spot, especially if they do have a tag.
I do not, however, curb his annoyance when someone doesn't hang a handicap/lay on dashboard sign OR have it on their license plate. Those people annoy me too.
I'm in Alabama. The problem is I look relatively healthy. I dress to disguise the braces, and I limp, but most days I don't need crutches. So I "look" like all the people abusing the system.
It's just one of the many things that suck about being young and disabled. And of all the days to deal with it, I didn't want to deal with it today. I got definite diagnoses of EDS on Friday, and I've been on the phone with eight doctors offices in the last two days.
I'd put a huge ass sticker on my car saying "Yes! I'm disabled. Thanks for being such a judgmental asshole. Mind your business. "
You gave me my first laugh of the day thanks. It might be worth it. Or a sign to put on the dashboard next to the handicapped tag, so I didn't have judgmental asshole on my car when I go to church.
I wish people would mind their own business about handicapped parking tags. I had to call the cops on someone today because he blocked me in and was lecturing me for using my tag. I told him it was in my name, and asked him to move his car. He said no. It was a waste of the police officer's time to come verify the the tag is in my name, it was a waste of my time, and it was a waste of the asshole who blocked me in's time. Although I did get to listen in on the lecture the police officer gave him.
I may be young and look healthy, but I'm not. I wish the people who judge me for using my tags could realize that sometimes we aren't as healthy as we look.
This is just HORRIBLE. I am so sorry you went through this. That guy is a complete and total jackass. I hope the cop let him have it!
I'm in Alabama. The problem is I look relatively healthy. I dress to disguise the braces, and I limp, but most days I don't need crutches. So I "look" like all the people abusing the system.
The cop was livid. I got to listen in on a lecture on how he was abusing tax payers resources, keeping the officer from being available for an actual emergency, and how many people who use handicapped tags are not visibly disabled.
But I mean in no situation is it ok for some random dude to take it upon himself to #1 even question her and #2 block her car in. I would have DESTROYED him.
No it's not, 100% agree but there are obviously people out there who do abuse them. It's not necessarily always a mind your own business situation, especially if you're with the handicapped person and unmarked cars are in the hand. spot, which has happened to me.
And some people do abuse them as evidenced by earlier post in here.
Yes and obviously that's awful. But people abuse all sorts of programs. It's not up to the regular person to confront them. Write down their license plate and call in and make a complaint through the proper channels for them to investigate. It is insane, offensive, and completely unnecessary to harass a person who very may well have "hidden" disabilities. And this girl faces this multiple times a month. Fuck that.
The cop was livid. I got to listen in on a lecture on how he was abusing tax payers resources, keeping the officer from being available for an actual emergency, and how many people who use handicapped tags are not visibly disabled.
Did the guy at least apologize to you?
No, but the police officer did. He said he was sorry my day was harder then it had to be. I thanked him for coming and fixing the problem. He said I was right to call, and blocking me in was illegal.
The cop was livid. I got to listen in on a lecture on how he was abusing tax payers resources, keeping the officer from being available for an actual emergency, and how many people who use handicapped tags are not visibly disabled.
Did the guy at least apologize to you?
I always think these people are of the same ilk as Lucy's officemate during pee jug gate. "I'd do it again!!"
The thing is, I think most people who harass me mean well. They think they are helping society by calling out people they think are abusing the system.
Oh kirra that's awful. I can't even imagine anyone acting like that.
Honestly, I never pay attention to people getting in and out of their car in handicapped spots. My best friend told me today she notices when women are walking around braless and she judges them. I don't notice that either. Are there hordes of people sprinting from handicapped spots and running around town braless?
The thing is, I think most people who harass me mean well. They think they are helping society by calling out people they think are abusing the system.
No, you're giving them way too much credit. More than likely they're just assholes with a major case of inflated hubris.
Quite possibly. I try to frame it in a positive way to make it easier to deal with.
Just today while in the restroom at work, overheard a woman giving someone else a lecture about using the disabled restroom. She was assisted to the stall and knocked and said "Hello? Is anyone in the disabled stall?" Someone was. Then she said "Are you actually handicapped? Or are you just using the stall? Because you should leave the stall for someone who is actually handicapped" The woman ended up apologizing but only after the poor woman asked her to hurry up because she thought she was going to pee her pants. It was funny and sad all at the same time.
Just today while in the restroom at work, overheard a woman giving someone else a lecture about using the disabled restroom. She was assisted to the stall and knocked and said "Hello? Is anyone in the disabled stall?" Someone was. Then she said "Are you actually handicapped? Or are you just using the stall? Because you should leave the stall for someone who is actually handicapped" The woman ended up apologizing but only after the poor woman asked her to hurry up because she thought she was going to pee her pants. It was funny and sad all at the same time.
If no one is using the stall and there were no handicapped people around, why wouldn't you use the stall?
Now if the not handicapped person cut in front of the handicapped person and stole the handicapped stall, then sure, shame that person.
Ugh Kirra that's awful. I had a friend with CF and when we were teens and she drove we would use her tag. We all looked healthy and would get looks and comments. But ya know, she was drowning on the inside, so shut your trap.
I was at Target a couple of weeks ago with C and K, so I have the stroller with me. I go to try on the clothes, but the stroller will not fit in the regular dressing room and the family one was occupied. Turns out it was this one woman using it even though there were tons of regular, roomy fitting rooms open. The more K started to fuss, the more annoyed I became especially when she kept coming out to get more shit to take into the room.
Just today while in the restroom at work, overheard a woman giving someone else a lecture about using the disabled restroom. She was assisted to the stall and knocked and said "Hello? Is anyone in the disabled stall?" Someone was. Then she said "Are you actually handicapped? Or are you just using the stall? Because you should leave the stall for someone who is actually handicapped" The woman ended up apologizing but only after the poor woman asked her to hurry up because she thought she was going to pee her pants. It was funny and sad all at the same time.
If no one is using the stall and there were no handicapped people around, why wouldn't you use the stall?
Now if the not handicapped person cut in front of the handicapped person and stole the handicapped stall, then sure, shame that person.
Just today while in the restroom at work, overheard a woman giving someone else a lecture about using the disabled restroom. She was assisted to the stall and knocked and said "Hello? Is anyone in the disabled stall?" Someone was. Then she said "Are you actually handicapped? Or are you just using the stall? Because you should leave the stall for someone who is actually handicapped" The woman ended up apologizing but only after the poor woman asked her to hurry up because she thought she was going to pee her pants. It was funny and sad all at the same time.
If no one is using the stall and there were no handicapped people around, why wouldn't you use the stall?
Now if the not handicapped person cut in front of the handicapped person and stole the handicapped stall, then sure, shame that person.
I think it had more to do with the fact that there are like 7 regular sized stalls in the restroom and one disabled stall and I was the only other person in the restroom. It isn't like all stalls were taken so she used the disabled stall. She had her pick of stalls and chose the disabled stall. I just don't understand why people use the disabled stalls as poop stalls. Having a larger stall doesn't make me anymore comfortable about pooping in public. In this instance (although I didn't see her) I assume she had incontinence issues and also had a helper in the stall assisting her, so yes, it was imperative and time was of the essence in that case.
I was at Target a couple of weeks ago with C and K, so I have the stroller with me. I go to try on the clothes, but the stroller will not fit in the regular dressing room and the family one was occupied. Turns out it was this one woman using it even though there were tons of regular, roomy fitting rooms open. The more K started to fuss, the more annoyed I became especially when she kept coming out to get more shit to take into the room.
it might seem dumb, but at the time I was TICKED!
That is annoying just like people using the family restroom. Before I had my daughter, I was at a store with my girlfriend while she was potty training with her 3 year old. The ladies room had a line out of the door and the family restroom was occupied and there was one young kid in front of her in line to use the family restroom. Her daughter began crying because she could not hold it and instead of the girl in front of her being nice and letting her go, she went next in line. Her poor daughter ended up peeing her pants by the time she was able to get to a stall. Like, I get it, we all have to pee, but seriously? A kid? You can't hold your bladder for 5 extra minutes so a little kid can go?
I have a confession that has nothing to do with the rest of the thread.
I have had problems lately with my feat KILLING me after work and I really need some comfortable shoes. A few days ago I ordered some croc flats from amazon. I know that there was a lot of croc shaming a few days ago on this board (or was it on MM? I cant remember) so I hope they dont make me look like a huge dork. We shall see... they should arrive within the next day or two.
I use handicapped stalls now when I'm out on my own with the baby and there is no family washroom. I cannot fit the car seat/stroller in a regular stall, and I'm not about to put him on the floor or leave him with a stranger.
Though, I have peed twice while wearing him in a carrier (in a regular stall).
I use handicapped stalls now when I'm out on my own with the baby and there is no family washroom. I cannot fit the car seat/stroller in a regular stall, and I'm not about to put him on the floor or leave him with a stranger.
Though, I have peed twice while wearing him in a carrier (in a regular stall).
This is the only time I use the handicapped stalls. Most times I have K in the stroller which does not fit in the other stalls and that is where the diaper changer deal is in a lot of restrooms too.
I love the family restrooms, especially on car trips.