I have a confession that has nothing to do with the rest of the thread.
I have had problems lately with my feat KILLING me after work and I really need some comfortable shoes. A few days ago I ordered some croc flats from amazon. I know that there was a lot of croc shaming a few days ago on this board (or was it on MM? I cant remember) so I hope they dont make me look like a huge dork. We shall see... they should arrive within the next day or two.
I have a confession that has nothing to do with the rest of the thread.
I have had problems lately with my feat KILLING me after work and I really need some comfortable shoes. A few days ago I ordered some croc flats from amazon. I know that there was a lot of croc shaming a few days ago on this board (or was it on MM? I cant remember) so I hope they dont make me look like a huge dork. We shall see... they should arrive within the next day or two.
I sometimes use the handicapped stall. But only if all the other stalls are full and I really have to go OR if all the other stalls are super gross and it's the only semi decent one. Like at the end of June when we were driving back from my grandpa's funeral. We stopped at a gas station and there were SIX stalls and 1 handicapped stall. All 6 had shit in them; literally. Except for that one, so I used it.
Such a rebel.
I do agree that if you notice a child that REALLY has to go and you can hold it, let the kid go first. They take just a few minutes.
Just today while in the restroom at work, overheard a woman giving someone else a lecture about using the disabled restroom. She was assisted to the stall and knocked and said "Hello? Is anyone in the disabled stall?" Someone was. Then she said "Are you actually handicapped? Or are you just using the stall? Because you should leave the stall for someone who is actually handicapped" The woman ended up apologizing but only after the poor woman asked her to hurry up because she thought she was going to pee her pants. It was funny and sad all at the same time.
Whenever possible, I use the handicap stall with DD. There are usually changing tables in there so I take from that it is for children as well. I worked with people with disabilities for 2 years after college; none of them would begrudge a mother and child using the stall.
Kidlet has a thing about using the handicap stall. A good friend was crushed by a car and broken from her hips down and my ex is also a disabled vet so it's a thing for me to see people using handicapped stalls for no other reason than "it's roomier." I get using it for strollers but just because you don't want to bump elbows on the wall is not a valid excuse. If someone comes in that NEEDS it, it should be available for use if there are other stalls to which the non-disabled have access. It's cruel, thoughtless and careless to take advantage when you have no need and are preventing someone with a true need from using it. I also have a thing for people that use the spaces without needing to (see disabled friend and disabled former spouse, neither of whom *look* disabled. I was with friend when a nerve in her back pinched when she stepped wrong; she fell and couldn't get up. Another time she was at her sink when it pinched and she fell to the ground screaming; she was finally able to get up after about a half-hour, to sit in a recliner crying and not able to get out of the recliner for three days. The poor woman slept in a recliner more often than she slept in her bed because she couldn't lay prone.
DH had a temporary placard when he was having foot problems and needed surgery; someone parked in the handicapped spot with no placard. I asked to restaurant manager to ask the family to either produce their placard or move their car. The wife was mortified and sent her husband out to the car to pull their placard from the glovebox and place it on their mirror. Maybe it's flameful but I'll be that much of a vigilante. I won't block you in but if I don't see a placard, I have asked that it be produced. If there is a placard or plate, I'm not the one to become vigilante because, as stated above, I have friends and family with non-discernible disabilities who have or are entitled to a placard. Those people exist and it's up to a doctor to determine if they're ill enough to warrant a card, not me.
It's just one of the many things that suck about being young and disabled. And of all the days to deal with it, I didn't want to deal with it today. I got definite diagnoses of EDS on Friday, and I've been on the phone with eight doctors offices in the last two days.
Delurking for a second. I have EDS too kirra, it blows when people treat you like that. One thing I have learned and taught a lot of friends is that looks are deceiving. Just because someone looks healthy doesn't mean they are not in pain or sick. I hope you have found an awesome team of doctors, I know it was life changing for me to find my team. I don't know where I would be without them.
Just today while in the restroom at work, overheard a woman giving someone else a lecture about using the disabled restroom. She was assisted to the stall and knocked and said "Hello? Is anyone in the disabled stall?" Someone was. Then she said "Are you actually handicapped? Or are you just using the stall? Because you should leave the stall for someone who is actually handicapped" The woman ended up apologizing but only after the poor woman asked her to hurry up because she thought she was going to pee her pants. It was funny and sad all at the same time.
Whenever possible, I use the handicap stall with DD. There are usually changing tables in there so I take from that it is for children as well. I worked with people with disabilities for 2 years after college; none of them would begrudge a mother and child using the stall.
I have black friends too.
No, I totally understand that. I never said I didn't. I also have a child, I get it. Did I imply otherwise somehow?
It's just one of the many things that suck about being young and disabled. And of all the days to deal with it, I didn't want to deal with it today. I got definite diagnoses of EDS on Friday, and I've been on the phone with eight doctors offices in the last two days.
Delurking for a second. I have EDS too kirra, it blows when people treat you like that. One thing I have learned and taught a lot of friends is that looks are deceiving. Just because someone looks healthy doesn't mean they are not in pain or sick. I hope you have found an awesome team of doctors, I know it was life changing for me to find my team. I don't know where I would be without them.
The diagnosis was confirmed Friday, after being suggested a year ago, so I don't really have a team yet. We're working on it, and I'm hopeful that the diagnosis will make things easier.
I wish people would mind their own business about handicapped parking tags. I had to call the cops on someone today because he blocked me in and was lecturing me for using my tag. I told him it was in my name, and asked him to move his car. He said no. It was a waste of the police officer's time to come verify the the tag is in my name, it was a waste of my time, and it was a waste of the asshole who blocked me in's time. Although I did get to listen in on the lecture the police officer gave him.
I may be young and look healthy, but I'm not. I wish the people who judge me for using my tags could realize that sometimes we aren't as healthy as we look.
This is horrible that this happened to you. I could get a tag, but I don't feel that I need it right now. I get all of the time "but you don't look sick", and no you can't see it, but yes I feel like shit. People suck. I am sorry that you have to deal with this too
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No flames, but I just don't understand it. Why? It's just a toilet. They are basically the same as the others.
The handicapped toilet at my work is higher, so it's much more comfortable.
But in 5 months I've only shared a bathroom with people about twice, so I'm not concerned about hogging the stall.
I use the handicapped stall at work because no one can see your feet from the sole other stall it the waiting area, therefore negating the need for unassuming poop shoes.
Also, we have a handicapped stall purely for ADA compliance. No one in our office is physically disabled, so I'm not "stealing" the stall from anyone.
Whenever possible, I use the handicap stall with DD. There are usually changing tables in there so I take from that it is for children as well. I worked with people with disabilities for 2 years after college; none of them would begrudge a mother and child using the stall.
I have black friends too.
No, I totally understand that. I never said I didn't. I also have a child, I get it. Did I imply otherwise somehow?
No no no. I was responding to your overheard commentary.
ETA upon further review, I see we might be on different pages here. I posted with a buzz. My fault.
I thought we were discussing people using the handicap stall when not necessary, and you were actually posting about someone necessarily needing the handicap stall. Reading fail!
Delurking for a second. I have EDS too kirra, it blows when people treat you like that. One thing I have learned and taught a lot of friends is that looks are deceiving. Just because someone looks healthy doesn't mean they are not in pain or sick. I hope you have found an awesome team of doctors, I know it was life changing for me to find my team. I don't know where I would be without them.
The diagnosis was confirmed Friday, after being suggested a year ago, so I don't really have a team yet. We're working on it, and I'm hopeful that the diagnosis will make things easier.
The geneticist who diagnosed me was key in setting up my team. She is amazing and the orthopedic doctor I see is honestly my lifesaver. He helps me with more that just my joints and PT. he solved my headaches and constant upset stomach. They are also my best advocates, never treat me like I don't know my own body and always try to help me find a solution. Good luck, I know I found great support in talking to others with EDS and finding a few private Facebook groups for young people with EDS.
The handicapped toilet at my work is higher, so it's much more comfortable.
But in 5 months I've only shared a bathroom with people about twice, so I'm not concerned about hogging the stall.
I use the handicapped stall at work because no one can see your feet from the sole other stall it the waiting area, therefore negating the need for unassuming poop shoes.
Also, we have a handicapped stall purely for ADA compliance. No one in our office is physically disabled, so I'm not "stealing" the stall from anyone.
bonquiqui, I'm sorry you have to deal with the "but you don't look sick" crap too. Deciding to get the tag was really hard for me. It felt like I was admitting that I'm broken. I don't use it all the time, but I do when I need it. If there is parking I can walk from, I'll leave the space for someone who needs it more. But sometimes, that tag means the difference between being able to function the next day or spending a week using ice.
I use the handicapped stall at work because no one can see your feet from the sole other stall it the waiting area, therefore negating the need for unassuming poop shoes.
Also, we have a handicapped stall purely for ADA compliance. No one in our office is physically disabled, so I'm not "stealing" the stall from anyone.
Dude, if you think I'm weird please talk to the woman that flushes nonstop whenever she uses the restroom. Or the one that folds her pants up to her knees every time.
I don't know who they are, but I do know their shoes.
The diagnosis was confirmed Friday, after being suggested a year ago, so I don't really have a team yet. We're working on it, and I'm hopeful that the diagnosis will make things easier.
The geneticist who diagnosed me was key in setting up my team. She is amazing and the orthopedic doctor I see is honestly my lifesaver. He helps me with more that just my joints and PT. he solved my headaches and constant upset stomach. They are also my best advocates, never treat me like I don't know my own body and always try to help me find a solution. Good luck, I know I found great support in talking to others with EDS and finding a few private Facebook groups for young people with EDS.
Thanks the geneticist I saw is setting me up with some other doctors who are familiar with EDS, so I think that will help. Over the years I've seen seven local orthopedists, depending on who was on call when I got injured, and all of them missed it.
I rarely use the handicapped stall. Only because the first stall is statistically the cleanest. The majority of people pass it by, so it gets used less. According to some random study, anyway.
It's also statistically cleaner due to the fact that when a toilet flushes, bacteria goes both directions. In a stall that only has one toilet to the side gets less bacteria. Or so I have heard anyway.
My best friend from high school is paraplegic, and because of her disability, when she realizes she has to pee, it's basically an emergency. Soo. If you're in that stall when she arrives in the rest room, she pisses herself. It sucks. I've helped her clean up, cover up, etc. so many times that I never, ever use the handicapped stall. I won't glare at someone who does, but it does strike me as inconsiderate, especially if other stalls are open. How much room does one person need to go to the bathroom?
I rarely use the handicapped stall. Only because the first stall is statistically the cleanest. The majority of people pass it by, so it gets used less. According to some random study, anyway.
Mythbusters also confirmed this. First stall it is.
Just today while in the restroom at work, overheard a woman giving someone else a lecture about using the disabled restroom. She was assisted to the stall and knocked and said "Hello? Is anyone in the disabled stall?" Someone was. Then she said "Are you actually handicapped? Or are you just using the stall? Because you should leave the stall for someone who is actually handicapped" The woman ended up apologizing but only after the poor woman asked her to hurry up because she thought she was going to pee her pants. It was funny and sad all at the same time.
If no one is using the stall and there were no handicapped people around, why wouldn't you use the stall?
Now if the not handicapped person cut in front of the handicapped person and stole the handicapped stall, then sure, shame that person.
My H and I went to see a play or something at one of the theaters in Seattle when I was almost 8 months pregnant. I couldn't get into the non handicapped stall because it was tiny. I waited to use the handicap stall and got yelled at by an old lady when I walked out because I wasn't handicapped.
How do people feel about a person with a handicap plate parking in a handicap spot for 8-9 hours while they are working?
I don't understand.
Handicapped people can work.
What is wrong with this?
I work in a grocery store. We have a sample lady that comes in every weekend to demo new products. She gets there about 9 or 10 in the morning and leaves at 5 or 6 at night. I just feel that she should be leaving it for the customers to use and not keep it occupied for 8-9 hours.
I work in a grocery store. We have a sample lady that comes in every weekend to demo new products. She gets there about 9 or 10 in the morning and leaves at 5 or 6 at night. I just feel that she should be leaving it for the customers to use and not keep it occupied for 8-9 hours.
And your solution is for sample lady to park farther away?
Handicapped spots are for the handicapped. If she is handicapped, she has just as much a right to be there as any handicapped customer.