OK, I have one. It seriously gets my hackles up when ladies here declare things "not normal", like in the (I think) UO yesterday. Or like when pretty much everyone told Lauranicole that it was "not normal!!!!" that Peyton was still nursing so much. There are some things in this world that I think we can all clearly agree on things that aren't normal, but kids hiding to eat sweets and nursing a lot at 16 months DO NOT fall into those categories, and it makes me ragey that we would make each other feel bad about things like that.
RAGEY!
<3 I'm super glad that it didn't end up being the root of all my problems. Because truth is, I am just way to lazy to try and struggle and fight with a toddler all day to deny her the all day boob buffet. I was totally bullshitting when I was all "yeah I have gotten her to only nurse every 2hrs" I was lying to you guys, DH, and honestly myself. I think boob denying lasts all of 1 day and probably only because we were out running errands that day so she didn't ask. The next day was a normal day at home while DH was at work so I gave in fairly quickly.
A friend of mine was nursing her almost two year old on demand A LOT A LOT A LOT ... like, so much, that my very pro-breastfeeding husband was kind of shocked. Anyway, it all worked out fine in the end, she weaned her at a little over two years and the kid is now five and in kindergarten is a damn genius.
But it's NOT NORMAL that a bread store wouldn't have bread, amiright?
Well, yes. Was that mentioned in the thread? See, this (and a lack of time) was the reason I didn't say anything in that thread yesterday; I just skimmed through and saw that (I think) Lola and Gisa told katfco that it wasn't normal that her daughter was hiding behind the trashcan to eat cupcakes. Because, trust me, kids do weird shit and it's normal.
Like when I was a kid and we found a cake at the place where all the trash was dumped at the trailer park (you like my humble upbringing?). You know that we all ate it.
Clarification: it was someone who told a story about a kid at a birthday party hiding behind a trash can to eat cupcakes because he isn't allowed any of that stuff at home that was called not normal. I chimed in with the fact that Abby will sometimes sneak food up to her room, but no one said that was abnormal. In fact, people agreed that kids sneaking food is pretty normal and trash cans are no big deal to kids.
I'd hate for the thread to descend into a she said-she said argument so early on.
I hate when first or second time parents say "I have no preference of the gender, I just want them to be healthy". Of course you want your child to be healthy but you dont have a teeny tiny preference??? LIAR!!!
I think if you are having your third and already have both a boy and girl, then its perfectly ok to say "I have no preference", because I feel you really mean that, since you have one of each.
When we TTC again I don't really have a preference, I would love a boy baby or a girl baby. We are not trying for a third to have a girl, we just don't feel our family is complete.
However I did want my first to be a girl because I had no idea what to do with a boy, but boys have grown on me.
I'm fat. When I went jeans shopping, I had to get a size 16! I know I need to lose weight but I don't have the motivation to do it. Where would one find that?
I love the myfitnesspal.com website. It has really helped me be motivated to eat better and at less because I have to track everything I eat.
I hate when first or second time parents say "I have no preference of the gender, I just want them to be healthy". Of course you want your child to be healthy but you dont have a teeny tiny preference??? LIAR!!!
I think if you are having your third and already have both a boy and girl, then its perfectly ok to say "I have no preference", because I feel you really mean that, since you have one of each.
I honestly didn't care. There was a part of me that wanted a girl, because Abby's so awesome, I loved the names we were thinking of and, hey, ruffled dresses. But there was also a part of me that wanted a boy. So I'm not sure if that's not having a preference or something else.
Post by skiesthelimit on Aug 30, 2013 8:13:50 GMT -5
I took a 2.5hour nap yesterday with X attached to my boob. I don't know how to get my kid to nap otherwise. He naps fine at dc but when he's home he either naps in the car or on my boob.
I'm kind of shocked that people are actually going to purchase plane tickets and fly across the country to NYC for the GTG. And this is coming from someone who has traveled for a gtg...Actually getting on a plane seems like so much more and expensive. I'm just a little surprised, is all!
Me too, although it seems like the people who are coming via plane are making a family vacation out of it, so that's cool!
Ill add onto this and say I'm shocked some DHs agree to going to GTGs. If my husband was all "come with me to meet this stranger and his wife at the park", I'd seriously side eye him and say no.
My DH would have zero interest in going to a gtg, nor would I ever drag him to one.
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I hate when people use the word "pussy" to mean weak or afraid. I used to be very vocal about this. The flameful part is that I realized I use "dick" a lot to mean jerk, and I don't want to stop using it, so I decided to STFU about "pussy."
Me too, although it seems like the people who are coming via plane are making a family vacation out of it, so that's cool!
Ill add onto this and say I'm shocked some DHs agree to going to GTGs. If my husband was all "come with me to meet this stranger and his wife at the park", I'd seriously side eye him and say no.
My DH would have zero interest in going to a gtg, nor would I ever drag him to one.
While I do find it surprising that people would spend the money in this tight economy, I think it is normal to want to meet people you have spent so much time with. I also belong to another message forum and we had an epic GTG many years ago in Boston. People flew in from Scotland, California, Florida and all over the US. There was almost 40 of us.
Numerous women on this board have complained on multiple occasions about how hard it is to make friends. Most of us have been together for 2 years now and several people consider themselves friends. Wanted to actually meet your friends is not so shocking.
I agree with this. I went to an epic GTG of my wedding month board in Florida. We'd been chatting for a few years and had switched to a private board, so it didn't seem that weird. DH just rolls his eyes at my "freaky Internet friends."
I hate when people use the word "pussy" to mean weak or afraid. I used to be very vocal about this. The flameful part is that I realized I use "dick" a lot to mean jerk, and I don't want to stop using it, so I decided to STFU about "pussy."
I signed up for a week of Gymboree classes and haven't made it to one. i confess that I hate that all baby/toddler classes are in the morning because that's the only time my kid is guaranteed to sleep. He's still down from last night, so no 10am class today.
My H has his own internet forum friends that he's know for 10+ years. We meet up with them when we travel, so he doesn't side-eye my own forum peeps. I have "the group from Jameson's birth", "the local Austin board group", and "the big board from Anna's birth". He's knows the differences, ha. I will not be joining new BMBs for possible baby #3 and #4. Too many damn things to check already.
While I do find it surprising that people would spend the money in this tight economy, I think it is normal to want to meet people you have spent so much time with. I also belong to another message forum and we had an epic GTG many years ago in Boston. People flew in from Scotland, California, Florida and all over the US. There was almost 40 of us.
Numerous women on this board have complained on multiple occasions about how hard it is to make friends. Most of us have been together for 2 years now and several people consider themselves friends. Wanted to actually meet your friends is not so shocking.
ETA: my husband loves meeting people too. We are both so unsocial that when we get the chance to meet new people who one of us has already developed a repoire with, we look forward to it.
I never said wanting to meet your friends is shocking...I'm more shocked at the purchasing a plane ticket to see said friends. It is expensive and flying is a huge deal to me (I hate flying), so it's not just "meeting a friend." I mean I've driven 2+ hours to meet a friend, so I get it- but the whole flying thing is what I'm talking about.
I would go in a heartbeat if the timing were better. If you have the money and don't mind flying, why not?? But I've always lived far from friends, so I don't think twice about hopping on a plane to visit people. I enjoy traveling and it would be a fun excuse to visit NYC.
And now I'm grumpy I can't go. (Insert angry face here - I can never figure that one out on mobile).
Clarification: it was someone who told a story about a kid at a birthday party hiding behind a trash can to eat cupcakes because he isn't allowed any of that stuff at home that was called not normal. I chimed in with the fact that Abby will sometimes sneak food up to her room, but no one said that was abnormal. In fact, people agreed that kids sneaking food is pretty normal and trash cans are no big deal to kids.
I'd hate for the thread to descend into a she said-she said argument so early on.
Thank you for clarifying. I did agree that there are times where a kid sneaking food is normal, but the situation given by thereigninglorelei did not seem normal. This situation seemed like the kid was legit scared of his mom finding out about him cupcakes and was ashamed of eating them. Maybe I am reafing more into that scenario though
Knowing my sister, I really think in this situation the behaviour wasn't normal. Obviously kids can sneak food and it can be just fine. I just know in the context I gave, I found it kinda sad. But I also don't think you have to eat entirely organic and fresh to be healthy, so my sister and I don't always agree.
Post by Faevantastic on Aug 30, 2013 8:51:58 GMT -5
I have another group of Internet friends that have fairly frequent GTGs that involves people flying INTERNATIONALLY. How cool is that. There's one in UK next month for a wedding that I won't be able to make. Boo. I've known these ladies for 13+ years.
I took $2 out of my husband's wallet so I could buy a muffin this morning for breakfast. I just didn't want to hear the "but you are trying to eat healthier" and I am out of cash and didn't want him to see it on the online banking. So I sneak food too.
I took $2 out of my husband's wallet so I could buy a muffin this morning for breakfast. I just didn't want to hear the "but you are trying to eat healthier" and I am out of cash and didn't want him to see it on the online banking. So I sneak food too.
The best part of me being the one who does the bills. DH has no idea how much crap food I buy while at work. :S
Post by TrudyCampbell on Aug 30, 2013 9:14:30 GMT -5
I would never fly to a probie GTG. But, since this one is in my hometown (and clearly I am too lazy to travel elsewhere), I'm happy people are coming to it!
I'm irrationally annoyed that Hazel's class is PB free. PB&J is so easy and I know she will eat it. Plus I buy those frozen PB sandwich things so now I have to actually do work! I hate that such severe allergies exist though.
This is a part of what makes me sad about Evan's allergy. He's gonna be THAT kid that ruins it for everyone. Or the kid that has to sit away from his friends in the peanut free room.
I would never fly to a probie GTG. But, since this one is in my hometown (and clearly I am too lazy to travel elsewhere), I'm happy people are coming to it!
Barely willing to travel to the UES!
Lol, yes! I think it's really a PITA that this GTG is aaalllllll the way on the UWS. Gosh! That's like a 30 min subway ride.
While I do find it surprising that people would spend the money in this tight economy, I think it is normal to want to meet people you have spent so much time with. I also belong to another message forum and we had an epic GTG many years ago in Boston. People flew in from Scotland, California, Florida and all over the US. There was almost 40 of us.
Numerous women on this board have complained on multiple occasions about how hard it is to make friends. Most of us have been together for 2 years now and several people consider themselves friends. Wanted to actually meet your friends is not so shocking.
ETA: my husband loves meeting people too. We are both so unsocial that when we get the chance to meet new people who one of us has already developed a repoire with, we look forward to it.
I never said wanting to meet your friends is shocking...I'm more shocked at the purchasing a plane ticket to see said friends. It is expensive and flying is a huge deal to me (I hate flying), so it's not just "meeting a friend." I mean I've driven 2+ hours to meet a friend, so I get it- but the whole flying thing is what I'm talking about.
I hate driving so incredibly much (and DH hates it more) that I will always pick flying if it's an option. Or train, bus, rickshaw, whatever! UncleJesse's drive from Florida to PA would NEVER happen here.
I hate driving so incredibly much (and DH hates it more) that I will always pick flying if it's an option. Or train, bus, rickshaw, whatever! UncleJesse's drive from Florida to PA would NEVER happen here.
After last night I am guessing the drive won't happen again.
I confess I don't get the flight angst because I think flying with a baby is so much easier than driving with one. You can get up and move, there are people to look at and flirt with, someone will bring you drinks, there's a table for toys, movies playing, etc.