Post by rainbowchip on Aug 30, 2013 11:40:16 GMT -5
I was a little annoyed in the fast food conversation yesterday when people said that some college educated people don't make $15/hour. I think it would have been better phrased as some people in higher skilled jobs don't make $15/hour.
I hate when people use the word "pussy" to mean weak or afraid. I used to be very vocal about this. The flameful part is that I realized I use "dick" a lot to mean jerk, and I don't want to stop using it, so I decided to STFU about "pussy."
I don't know if this has already been said, but not the same! The word dick is not usually used for a woman and especially not to say she's somehow less of a woman. No one ever says "Ugh, don't be such a MAN!" to the extent that the opposite is used. Like its SUCH an insult to be a woman.
@therealmc that is a great response. I'm done trying. They are so confident that people are wasting their money on the newest technology and clothes and cars. I let them know they'd never change my mind and I'd never change theirs and that that type of conversation makes me sad for humanity.
I hate the lack of compassion and, let's face it, prejudice, that often accompanies those sentiments. What's worse is this friend of mine is a pretty staunch Christian, but seems to think, like you said, that everyone out there who's poor or on government assistance is driving a nice car, wasting money on iPhones and shacking up with losers just to pop out more babies. The whole "Why should I have to pay for their bad decisions" bothers me a great deal.
Of course, this friend also once made a post criticizing a woman for using her food stamp card while her son was holding a Starbuck's cup. Fortunately other people got on her for that one.
I was a little annoyed in the fast food conversation yesterday when people said that some college educated people don't make $15/hour. I think it would have been better phrased as some people in higher skilled jobs don't make $15/hour.
I hate the lack of compassion and, let's face it, prejudice, that often accompanies those sentiments. What's worse is this friend of mine is a pretty staunch Christian, but seems to think, like you said, that everyone out there who's poor or on government assistance is driving a nice car, wasting money on iPhones and shacking up with losers just to pop out more babies. The whole "Why should I have to pay for their bad decisions" bothers me a great deal.
Of course, this friend also once made a post criticizing a woman for using her food stamp card while her son was holding a Starbuck's cup. Fortunately other people got on her for that one.
Someone just said to me, "BTW what exactly is white privilege because I want some of that"
Post by creamsiclechica on Aug 30, 2013 11:58:05 GMT -5
I've gotten to the point I am so disgusted with fellow Americans lately, I'm not sure how or where to articulate my rage. I feel surrounded (NOT BY YOU GUYS HERE, I mean in general in life, NONE of you) by racist, ignorant, presumptuous, and completely extremist assholes who are unwilling to open their fucking eyes. Facebook has really exacerbated this, but FUCK, we're a nation filled with hateful and blind assholes, and it sickens me.
All this does is make me want to go back to school RIGHT NOW, and it's just not feasible until C turns one.
I feel like my brain is wasting away into a puddle by association.
I hate the lack of compassion and, let's face it, prejudice, that often accompanies those sentiments. What's worse is this friend of mine is a pretty staunch Christian, but seems to think, like you said, that everyone out there who's poor or on government assistance is driving a nice car, wasting money on iPhones and shacking up with losers just to pop out more babies. The whole "Why should I have to pay for their bad decisions" bothers me a great deal.
Of course, this friend also once made a post criticizing a woman for using her food stamp card while her son was holding a Starbuck's cup. Fortunately other people got on her for that one.
Someone just said to me, "BTW what exactly is white privilege because I want some of that"
Ahhh omg! That's the point where I would have to get away from the computer or I would go off.
I hate the lack of compassion and, let's face it, prejudice, that often accompanies those sentiments. What's worse is this friend of mine is a pretty staunch Christian, but seems to think, like you said, that everyone out there who's poor or on government assistance is driving a nice car, wasting money on iPhones and shacking up with losers just to pop out more babies. The whole "Why should I have to pay for their bad decisions" bothers me a great deal.
Of course, this friend also once made a post criticizing a woman for using her food stamp card while her son was holding a Starbuck's cup. Fortunately other people got on her for that one.
Someone just said to me, "BTW what exactly is white privilege because I want some of that"
I've gotten to the point I am so disgusted with fellow Americans lately, I'm not sure how or where to articulate my rage. I feel surrounded (NOT BY YOU GUYS HERE, I mean in general in life, NONE of you) by racist, ignorant, presumptuous, and completely extremist assholes who are unwilling to open their fucking eyes. Facebook has really exacerbated this, but FUCK, we're a nation filled with hateful and blind assholes, and it sickens me.
All this does is make me want to go back to school RIGHT NOW, and it's just not feasible until C turns one.
I feel like my brain is wasting away into a puddle by association.
How come everyone is so PC nowadays? I'm just being real.
I was a little annoyed in the fast food conversation yesterday when people said that some college educated people don't make $15/hour. I think it would have been better phrased as some people in higher skilled jobs don't make $15/hour.
Let's have a hair splitting contest.
We can only do that if everyone gets a ribbon. You know, because no one can be better than anyone else.
I'm just saying that I have a higher skilled job that I started out at a lower level and self taught to get where I am now. I am not considered college educated.
I've gotten to the point I am so disgusted with fellow Americans lately, I'm not sure how or where to articulate my rage. I feel surrounded (NOT BY YOU GUYS HERE, I mean in general in life, NONE of you) by racist, ignorant, presumptuous, and completely extremist assholes who are unwilling to open their fucking eyes. Facebook has really exacerbated this, but FUCK, we're a nation filled with hateful and blind assholes, and it sickens me.
All this does is make me want to go back to school RIGHT NOW, and it's just not feasible until C turns one.
I feel like my brain is wasting away into a puddle by association.
I forget what state you are in, but I want to help you not be so disgusted! I have a background working with an amazing youth group that has given me so much hope for the future. They are average kids, but brilliantly brave and are doing something. Not accepting the way things are and addressing the issues. I find so many adults won't question the way teens will.
Sorry, I'm not trying to "save" people, but I have such hope because of what I've seen, but I've also between in the dumps because of the way things are., we need to give our babies hope when we might even question our own. I'm also disgusted, but I want to see the change.
Not an FFFC, but bigapple your topic title reminded me of this and I thought you would enjoy:
The person that gave out the AMNY papers at my old subway station used to say over and over "AM New York, read all about it!" And it drove me CRAZY because that's not the story, its the name of the paper. I'm supposed to "read all about" the paper?? I would have this discussion in my head EVERY morning.
Not an FFFC, but bigapple your topic title reminded me of this and I thought you would enjoy:
The person that gave out the AMNY papers at my old subway station used to say over and over "AM New York, read all about it!" And it drove me CRAZY because that's not the story, its the name of the paper. I'm supposed to "read all about" the paper?? I would have this discussion in my head EVERY morning.
Lol
I always think how much it must suck to be those people. No one ever takes that paper.
Post by charlielove on Aug 30, 2013 12:20:41 GMT -5
I watched a show on Showtime last night called Polyamory, after the swinger discussion this week it piqued my interest. I DO NOT GET IT. There was a married couple that had a live in girlfriend that they were both in love with, and another married couple with a young child, who were both in love with another couple and they all moved in together. That kid is going to be confused. They were all over each other all the time like a bunch of horny teenagers.
Post by thedahliharpa on Aug 30, 2013 12:32:04 GMT -5
Oh here is a confession. They have locally, maybe statewide, banned the sale of puppies in pet stores. I know puppy mills are terrible things and the animal person in me supports the ban BUT H loved going to see the puppies at D's age and D would love it too. So, it kind of bums me even though its a positive step overall.
Oh here is a confession. They have locally, maybe statewide, banned the sale of puppies in pet stores. I know puppy mills are terrible things and the animal person in me supports the ban BUT H loved going to see the puppies at D's age and D would love it too. So, it kind of bums me even though its a positive step overall.
There are rescue dogs at our pets art every Saturday, nice humane outing... Noise just depends on how any people are in the store.
Oh here is a confession. They have locally, maybe statewide, banned the sale of puppies in pet stores. I know puppy mills are terrible things and the animal person in me supports the ban BUT H loved going to see the puppies at D's age and D would love it too. So, it kind of bums me even though its a positive step overall.
I know what you mean, and I am a huge animal person. A part of me even enjoyed looking at the puppies even after I knew how terrible pet stores (that sell pets) were. Is there a rescue our shelter you could take her to? The dog kennel at our local shelter is loud and kind of scary, but maybe some are less so...
There is one around here that is supposed to be nicer and I think its a no kill but I'm too afraid of coming home with something :-). Growing up our local shelter was one that euthanized and I remember being about 10 and leaving in tears because they clearly stated the dates the animals would be euthanized.
We do go to a Boston Terrier rescue event every year and there are about 200 BTs that attend. D will lose her mind there this year. It's pretty fun.
Post by creamsiclechica on Aug 30, 2013 13:24:31 GMT -5
I was going to suggest the adoption days at PetSmart too, we love taking A to those. Here they do them like every other Saturday. She squeals with delight. Mostly because the majority of those dogs have tails (and her puppa brothers don't) and tails are the most hilarious thing on Earth apparently.
So the agruements against living wage are really bogus. We have a living wage here and we were not hit as hard as other cities the same size by the recession. There is good documentation that shows that the living wage played a part in this. In fact, i was talking to a friend of mine who owns a business and is a bookkeeper here in town. She told me that the living wage forced them to better train and more carefully hire their employees. As a side-effect they lowered their costs because turn over was less. Another company in the same industry moved their main manufacturing out of the city to avoid the living wage. the cost of doing so, just to avoid the living wage, caused them to go belly up.
We also have strong green codes which has also not effected the cost of new home construction for the lower and middle income house buyers. The codes were not written very smartly, but they are still better than before.
Oh here is a confession. They have locally, maybe statewide, banned the sale of puppies in pet stores. I know puppy mills are terrible things and the animal person in me supports the ban BUT H loved going to see the puppies at D's age and D would love it too. So, it kind of bums me even though its a positive step overall.
I know one in Escondido that we still visit at the mall. I need to find an animal shelter close to us because we spend an hour at least once a week visiting the dogs and bunnies
I was going to suggest the adoption days at PetSmart too, we love taking A to those. Here they do them like every other Saturday. She squeals with delight. Mostly because the majority of those dogs have tails (and her puppa brothers don't) and tails are the most hilarious thing on Earth apparently.
Our inlaws have beagles. They whack Mila in the face with their tails and she lovessss it for whatever reason. That will never happen with our pugs
My confession is that I kind of want to nurse forever. For one, it is our only cuddle time. And, selfishly, I just love what nursing does to my metabolism. I normally have to work out 6 days a week and eat super healthy to maintain my weight. Now I just like, eat cake, and I weigh the same. I don't want to give that up. I also still don't have my period and I LOVE it. I normally suffer from debilitating pms (very bad depression one week a month) and it is amazing to not have to deal with that. I feel like I might just nurse until I get pg again and then nurse another 3 years or so.
I have so much anxiety over getting rid of the bottle. I need help. I don't even know where to start and I feel so behind on it. She will take a sippy cup but the bottle is her security and comfort. She wants it to sleep, and still gets a few in the middle of the night. There has been times when she falls and gets hurt and will pick the bottle over us comforting her. It doesn't hrlp that I'm exhausted a lot of the time and I don't want to hear the screaming and crying. Save me!
Post by livinreality on Aug 30, 2013 15:41:54 GMT -5
I know I should call and set up a time for the kids to see the inlaws, it has been six weeks since they have seen there grandparents who live 20 minutes away. (As in I would like my kids to know there grandparents so I should make some effort)
Instead I planned out the weekend doing exactly what I wanted to do and told DH last night I refuse to change my plans when they call crying in the morning that they need to see the kids.
I hate when first or second time parents say "I have no preference of the gender, I just want them to be healthy". Of course you want your child to be healthy but you dont have a teeny tiny preference??? LIAR!!!
I think if you are having your third and already have both a boy and girl, then its perfectly ok to say "I have no preference", because I feel you really mean that, since you have one of each.
I absolutely had no preference whatsoever. NONE. ZILCH. NADA.
Of course, I had dealt with years of IF and just wanted a baby nothing more a baby. Hell I had no feeling if Kalvin was a boy or a girl even up to the time of delivery.
By the time that Katelyn came around, I swore up and down she was a boy just because the pregnancies seemed so similar. Even while they were cutting her out I was still telling DH what "his" name was going to be. It doesn't mean I was wanting a boy, I just thought she was a boy.
We were team green twice. We honestly had no preference at all with either pregnancy.