I'd like to add that had he received a similar note, I would not have gotten my feelings hurt, I would have felt good that someone else appreciated the looks of my date. Also, if he had shown offense I probably would have thought that he took himself too seriously and would have stopped seeing him.
I still vote that telling him about the note was mean. The note writer is an asshole and your actions are not so great either.
I would wonder if someone knew my date or knew about something terrible he'd done if I got a note saying I could do better. Looks didn't even come to my mind, just personality. I assume this because it doesn't appear the person wanted to get to know you, but was just trying to let you know that he or she knows something about your date that you don't.
*shrugs*
This would run through my mind if it was from a woman, too. Hence another reason I would not tell him about the note.
noted-do not date Mekkojo. I take myself too seriously because I would get upset that a perfect stranger was insulting me. mpkaneen-why so serious?
Being a kind person is something I'm deadly serious about.
I'm not always kind, but I try to be to people I am dating! I am a pretty serious person, though. Let's be honest. I mean, I'm dead fun, and I find myself to be a laugh riot, but serious things I take seriously. Like not making fun of another's appearance, because no matter how someone may act/appear, a lot of people have self-esteem issues/body dysmorphia. Plus, looks are subjective! The letter writer may find steve buscemi attractive (*cough*Gozf*cough*)
noted-do not date Mekkojo. I take myself too seriously because I would get upset that a perfect stranger was insulting me. mpkaneen-why so serious?
Being a kind person is something I'm deadly serious about.
I guess I'm too honest to be considered kind then. I value honesty a lot more than someone who is trying to spare my feelings. I'll admit, sometimes my mouth overrides my ass and I might say something that hurts someone's feelings, but I don't do to be vicious or to cut anyone down. I think too often kind people get walked on because they are too afraid of hurting someone's feelings to be honest.
Being a kind person is something I'm deadly serious about.
I guess I'm too honest to be considered kind then. I value honesty a lot more than someone who is trying to spare my feelings. I'll admit, sometimes my mouth overrides my ass and I might say something that hurts someone's feelings, but I don't do to be vicious or to cut anyone down. I think too often kind people get walked on because they are too afraid of hurting someone's feelings to be honest.
Yeah, not telling him I got a note that said mean shit about him totally makes me dishonest.
There's a difference between honesty and sharing a story about a potentially hurtful note that didn't need to be known.
What's "honest" about that? Did he ask if you were given a note? Did someone bring it up? No, you went out of your way to address it. That's not HONESTY that's hurtful.
And I am honest to a fucking fault, but I don't go around and tell people they need to lose weight or find a new foundation color - unless they ask. Because I'm not an asshole.
Sweetheart, if you take what complete strangers think about you that seriously, I don't know how you can participate out in that cruel, cruel world we live in. It was a note, from someone neither of us knew, we could have been brother and sister for all they knew. Seriously? And it's not like I looked at him and said "haha, someone here thinks you are a loser and I shouldn't be with you". I said to him "dude, someone just put a note in front of me that said I could do better, fucking random, but I ignored it, cause I think you are just wonderful" and he laughed and said "i know" and I rolled my eyes.
There's a difference between honesty and sharing a story about a potentially hurtful note that didn't need to be known.
What's "honest" about that? Did he ask if you were given a note? Did someone bring it up? No, you went out of your way to address it. That's not HONESTY that's hurtful.
And I am honest to a fucking fault, but I don't go around and tell people they need to lose weight or find a new foundation color - unless they ask. Because I'm not an asshole.
There's a difference between honesty and sharing a story about a potentially hurtful note that didn't need to be known.
What's "honest" about that? Did he ask if you were given a note? Did someone bring it up? No, you went out of your way to address it. That's not HONESTY that's hurtful.
And I am honest to a fucking fault, but I don't go around and tell people they need to lose weight or find a new foundation color - unless they ask. Because I'm not an asshole.
Sweetheart, if you take what complete strangers think about you that seriously, I don't know how you can participate out in that cruel, cruel world we live in. It was a note, from someone neither of us knew, we could have been brother and sister for all they knew. Seriously? And it's not like I looked at him and said "haha, someone here thinks you are a loser and I shouldn't be with you". I said to him "dude, someone just put a note in front of me that said I could do better, fucking random, but I ignored it, cause I think you are just wonderful" and he laughed and said "i know" and I rolled my eyes.
Oh honey, are we too serious for thinking it was mean to tell someone a stranger insulted them and can't live in this cruel, cruel, world, or are you just all about honesty over kindness and knew you were an asshole. Which is it?
Also, if people like you just wouldn't spread the hatred, maybe the world wouldn't be so cruel. Sorry If I think not spreading someone's insults is the way to go. God my life must be so hard!
I officially think you suck now. I didn't before, I just thought you didn't think when you said it or whatever, but yeah, you suck. What, I'm just being HONEST.
Because I was trying to get it ahead of jojo's but she barely beat me to it...lol. Since mine was after her's it no longer made sense and lost it's comedic value.
Instead of getting all defensive, she could have just been like "eh, is what it is. I see your point but it was funny to us in the moment." Instead of "Oh sweetheart"-ing me.
And YES I am a sensitive soul. But somehow, SOMEHOW I am able to function. Without deactivating.
I KNOW! Had she stopped with her like "I can see some people thought it was mean" or even had said "Yes, I can see how it would hurt some people's feelings, but it didn't seem to hurt his, meh." Everyone would have gone on with their lives. It's the need to constantly defend your actions rather than just saying -you have your opinion, I have mine, that creates the crazy threads. And yes, sometimes I am that person.
@boing admittedly I am having a hard time understanding who that is aimed at - and am feeling like it's me since I called myself sensitive. Alas, the issue here is not that I can't laugh at myself so I'm just going to pretend I didn't see your post instead.
Noooo at the one who deactivated on a mild call out!
I know! This is nothing! Especially from someone saying WE can't handle the cruel, cruel world. Like, WHAT!?! I am dying laughing at the hypocrisy she displayed by deactivating.
There's a difference between honesty and sharing a story about a potentially hurtful note that didn't need to be known.
What's "honest" about that? Did he ask if you were given a note? Did someone bring it up? No, you went out of your way to address it. That's not HONESTY that's hurtful.
And I am honest to a fucking fault, but I don't go around and tell people they need to lose weight or find a new foundation color - unless they ask. Because I'm not an asshole.
Post by Wrath0fKuus on Sept 4, 2013 17:11:21 GMT -5
We seem to have skipped over this guy telling her that, just fyi, he has dated girls (not women, apparently) who were "supermodel-pretty". Can we talk about that now?
We seem to have skipped over this guy telling her that, just fyi, he has dated girls (not women, apparently) who were "supermodel-pretty". Can we talk about that now?
It is kind of like that insurance commercial where they say "the internet said so and the interent does not lie" and then in the next scene comes girl's internet "french model" who clearly is no model from GQ magazine.
I would love to know what this d-bag claims is "supermodel- pretty".
We seem to have skipped over this guy telling her that, just fyi, he has dated girls (not women, apparently) who were "supermodel-pretty". Can we talk about that now?
We seem to have skipped over this guy telling her that, just fyi, he has dated girls (not women, apparently) who were "supermodel-pretty". Can we talk about that now?
Yah. That + the whole "He looked around and saw no one was competition to him" = he sounds awesome.
When would that even come up? Were they just sitting around and he was all, "Just so you know, I have dated girls super model pretty in the past."