Post by vanillacourage on Jun 23, 2012 7:58:18 GMT -5
Every time I watch Teen Mom or pass that awful American Girl store at the mall I thank my lucky stars I have two boys and will never have to deal with that shit!
Every time I watch Teen Mom or pass that awful American Girl store at the mall I thank my lucky stars I have two boys and will never have to deal with that shit!
Yeah, because there was no involvement by teen boys in getting the girls knocked up?
My house doesn't look like Disney Princess exploded either. (much to my DD's dismay)
And OP, I hope I am misreading your post - it comes across to me like you are saying that because you have boys, you don't have to worry about teen pregnancy... That's not what you meant, right? Because surely if your DS get some chick KU, you would insist that he be involved and take responsibility... Right?
And to answer the original question, I think a lot of moms always dream of having a little mini-me that they can dress in cute outfits and turn into a shopping buddy.
Post by Willis Jackson on Jun 23, 2012 8:21:10 GMT -5
I wanted a boy the first time around. I think it's because I thought that's what DH wanted (he refused to admit a preference) and if he got what he wanted, he would be more likely to love the baby.
I was team Green and didn't have a strong preference. However, there was a part of me that was terrified of having a pre-pubescent and then teenage girl one day. I still am. I calculate I am approximately 7-10 years away from the first "I hate you mom!/You ruined my life!" explosion, but I will deal with it somehow.
And there is a heck of lot of pink crap in my house. I would never lie about that or pretend it's what I always dreamed of. But having a house full of stuff I didn't pick for myself comes with the having a kid territory, no matter the sex.
I think a lot of women start off wanting to have a girl because, being female themselves, that's what they're most familiar with. That's their comfort zone. I was slightly disappointed to find out DS1 was a boy for that reason. Now of course I adore my two sons and I wouldn't change them for the world.
It's funny though because now that raising boys is what I'm familiar with and I've come to see myself as a "boy mom," I was slightly apprehensive to find out that #3 is a girl. Just because it's different and not what I've become accustomed to. I think it's just a little fear of the unknown and that will go away once we meet her and start to get to know her.
I wanted a boy the first time around. I think it's because I thought that's what DH wanted (he refused to admit a preference) and if he got what he wanted, he would be more likely to love the baby.
This was true for us too. I think DH would have been disappointed if he never had a son whereas I never really cared that much about what we ended up with. Luckily he got two. It does make me wonder what he'll be like as the father of a daughter though.
Post by EloiseWeenie on Jun 23, 2012 10:16:03 GMT -5
I had a slight preference with each kid, and I ended up with what my preferences were. I wanted a boy with my first. I love having a son, and he's awesome. Most of our toys are gender neutral, but I knew I wanted several kids, so I wasn't attracted to gender specific toys. I knew I wanted a daughter one day, and my second is a girl (she is just as awesome as my son). We would like a 3rd, and I think I would like another boy, but just like with my first 2 kids, it doesn't matter in the end. We wanted children first and foremost, and that was always what we focused on.
Post by hannamarin on Jun 23, 2012 10:17:32 GMT -5
See the poopy diaper thing seems gross for boys. All those testicle wrinkles. My girlfriends and I were discussing it. I also think it is not a big deal for me to separate a vagina because .i have one, but I am always worried that I might hurt the testicle, penis, etc
See the poopy diaper thing seems gross for boys. All those testicle wrinkles. My girlfriends and I were discussing it. I also think it is not a big deal for me to separate a vagina because .i have one, but I am always worried that I might hurt the testicle, penis, etc
Yeah, I don't see cleaning the poop on a girl and different than a boy with chubby legs. Poop gets in DD's little chubby rolls too.
PLUS, we don't have to worry about American Girl either. Canadian girl babies FTW!
See the poopy diaper thing seems gross for boys. All those testicle wrinkles. My girlfriends and I were discussing it. I also think it is not a big deal for me to separate a vagina because .i have one, but I am always worried that I might hurt the testicle, penis, etc
ha ha. Babies don't have huge testicle wrinkles! This makes me giggle. You just wipe it like you wipe normal skin DS doesn't have really chubby legs so I can't speak to poo getting stuck in his leg folds.
After I saw DS hit himself and pull his penis I realized that there is pretty much not much I could do to hurt it.
I felt so sure I was having a boy it took awhile to get used to the idea of a girl. I am so excited but I do think I'd like to have one of each. There are just different things to experience and I think it's natural to desire to have both experiences.
the thing that gets to me sometimes is the comments about how girls LOVE their daddys, and boys LOVE their mamas. It makes me worry sometimes although rationally I know she will love us both
I felt so sure I was having a boy it took awhile to get used to the idea of a girl. I am so excited but I do think I'd like to have one of each. There are just different things to experience and I think it's natural to desire to have both experiences.
the thing that gets to me sometimes is the comments about how girls LOVE their daddys, and boys LOVE their mamas. It makes me worry sometimes although rationally I know she will love us both
I felt the same way, down to being sure I was having a boy.
I really wanted a girl because I'm so close to my mom and sisters but, being so sure I was having a boy, I was so surprised when I found out that we're having a DD. I was happy but I was shocked to feel disappointed that the baby is not a boy. It took me a while to adjust my picture in my head. I had been so looking forward to seeing DH with a little boy. It's very hard to explain feeling so happy yet disappointed at the same time.
Someone else said in the other thread (I think) about wanting both experiences and that really struck a chord with me. I'm over the moon excited about DD being a girl but I really hope to also have a boy someday and experience that, too. Then again, I'd also like to have another DD so that she has a sister. We only want to have 2 kids so I think I'm always going to be very happy with whatever sex our baby is but still disappointed in that loss of what might have been.
I know my dad must have been disappointed to never have a boy. He had 3 girls. He would have loved to have a boy to build things with, work on cars with, etc., and he got 3 VERY girly girls. Fast forward 30 years later and he was seriously relieved when we found out that his first grandchild is a girl. He doesn't know how to handle little boys! Point being, disappointment is normal but life goes on.
Post by barefootcontessa on Jun 23, 2012 12:01:04 GMT -5
I think it has to do with all the girl stuff like dresses, etc. Boys are so much easier to take care of. Need to be dressed up? Khaki pants, button shirt, khaki shoes, brown shoes. Comb hair. Brush teeth. Done. With girls you have the dress, the tights, the matching shoes, the hair bows.
yeah dh was reading a book about newborns and said "really girls seem easier, no circumcision, no peeing across the room, what's the downside?" He obviously forgot what teenage girls can be like
Post by rootbeerfloat on Jun 23, 2012 12:41:58 GMT -5
As someone who has cleaned plenty of blow-outs in both sexes, girl diapers are more challenging due to more crevices to clean. But newborn boys pee on you (and the wall), so eh.
And I never even head of American Girl until recently. There are no stores here, and I have no plans to introduce them!
I got totally skewed out when my sister told me her boys starting getting erections as young as 4 or 5. Very thankful for my two girls, pink explosions and all. Oh, and American Girl is one of the reasons I WANTED girls.
yeah dh was reading a book about newborns and said "really girls seem easier, no circumcision, no peeing across the room, what's the downside?" He obviously forgot what teenage girls can be like
Lord help DH (and me!) when there are 14 and 16 year old girls in this house.
The only problem I have with having a boy is that we had to open the whole circ debate can of worms. Oy vey.
I wouldn't overthink it too much (easy for me to say because I know for sure which way we would go). But seriously, in the scheme of things, your son will be fine either way.
--Someone who has had sex with both "types"
I forgot all about the circumcision thing. Yikes. Easy to say the not overthinking it thing when you don't have a multi-faith household! This debate was a big one last time around.
I have two boys. I adore them so much. They are funny, kind, and generally awesome, and I certainly wouldn't want either of them to be anyone other than who they are. But while I am thrilled to have my boys, I am a little sad that I will likely never have a daughter. I don't care about the girly baby stuff, but I am very close to my mother and would really love the opportunity to have that kind of relationship with my own adult daughter someday. I also think growing up with an opposite sex sibling can be good for kids in terms of exposing them to different viewpoints. Boys rock, but I personally would love to have the experience of parenting both sexes. I am, however, okay with the fact that I will just raise boys.
I got totally skewed out when my sister told me her boys starting getting erections as young as 4 or 5. Very thankful for my two girls, pink explosions and all. Oh, and American Girl is one of the reasons I WANTED girls.
Try 4 or 5 MONTHS.
I think the biggest surprise about having a boy has been all the penis talk. Who has one, who doesn't, where he is allowed to touch his (ftr: his room and the bathroom), etc.
The other day DS said, out of the blue, "I have a little tiny penis. Daddy has a REALLY BIG, FURRY penis." Thank god we weren't in public.
I got totally skewed out when my sister told me her boys starting getting erections as young as 4 or 5. Very thankful for my two girls, pink explosions and all. Oh, and American Girl is one of the reasons I WANTED girls.
Try 4 or 5 MONTHS.
I think the biggest surprise about having a boy has been all the penis talk. Who has one, who doesn't, where he is allowed to touch his (ftr: his room and the bathroom), etc.
The other day DS said, out of the blue, "I have a little tiny penis. Daddy has a REALLY BIG, FURRY penis." Thank god we weren't in public.
This made me lol. My son is obsessed with his penis too. The other day while I was changing he said "mommy, you have a very little penis" I wasn't sure what to say so I just went with it.
For me, I wanted a boy and a girl. It makes me a little sad that I am not having a girl because I am so close with my mom but I won't miss all the girly stuff. Girls clothes and toys seem so overwhelming to me although I'm sure I would get used to it. My aunt has 3 boys and is incredibly close with her sons. They are all adults but none of them are married yet so I am really curious to see what happens to their relationship when her sons get married.
I got totally skewed out when my sister told me her boys starting getting erections as young as 4 or 5. Very thankful for my two girls, pink explosions and all. Oh, and American Girl is one of the reasons I WANTED girls.
Try 4 or 5 MONTHS.
I think the biggest surprise about having a boy has been all the penis talk. Who has one, who doesn't, where he is allowed to touch his (ftr: his room and the bathroom), etc.
The other day DS said, out of the blue, "I have a little tiny penis. Daddy has a REALLY BIG, FURRY penis." Thank god we weren't in public.
That's hillarious!!! You totally cheered me up. :-(
Post by matildasun on Jun 23, 2012 15:37:08 GMT -5
My daughter has also been obsessed with body parts lately. While I was changing her the other day she announced "Daddy has a penis, Max has a penis, I have a vulva, and Mommy has a fluffy vulva".
As for the original topic, I really wanted two of one gender, for practical reasons. We live in a tiny two bedroom row house and really didn't want to have to think about moving when opposite sex siblings get too old to share a room. I ended up with a boy and a girl. Although I was very surprised that Max was a boy, we were team green and I was convinced he was a girl, I was never disappointed and was thrilled to meet him.