13 years and not nearly enough. Between a child that won't sleep through the night (still at 2 years old - curse you toddler bed) and the AD's I'm taking, I just can't get it up (pun intended) for sex most of the time. When we do it I mostly initiate.
We've been together for 7.5 years. Before kids (DD is almost 2) we had sex about 3 times a week. Once things got back to "normal" after DD, we were probably at about 2x/week. I've had a rough pregnancy so far, so we're only having sex about once a week right now.
13 years, for the past 6 years (since we had our first child) it's been maybe once a month, sometimes as little as once every 3 months. In the last couple of months it's been 3 or 4 times a week. I really don't know why the change.
Post by pixelpassion on Oct 2, 2013 17:17:02 GMT -5
Together 7 years, we have sex maybe 1 or 2 times a month? There's usually no pattern, sometimes it'll be 5+ times in a week, but others we won't do it for over a month. He usually initiates, since my sex drive plummeted after taking birth control.
We've been together for six years. For the last two years-ish we've had sex probably 10X per month bc TTC is a bitch. We're averaging once a week right now, and not TTC anymore.
I think it's b/c it's like a new toy. In a long time relationship the newness wears off.
for me it is also a familiarity thing. i feel uncomfortable being my true bedroom self w/ my husband because i have to look him in the eye the next day. in the beginning it was nbd, i guess because you are still getting to know each other, i don't know. it's like i'm scared that i will be embarrassed, even though logically i know he would never judge me or care. but with a stranger i would never see again i could just do whatever. it's a weird mental block.
I think it's b/c it's like a new toy. In a long time relationship the newness wears off.
H and I had sexathons when we first got together. So awesome! But yeah. I love him and am still hot for him, but I need to work at it more. Sometimes it's just checking sex off a mental checklist, because I do get anxious if we go more than a week without any extenuating circumstances.
DH works shifts, so sometimes less and sometimes more when we're actually both home. Being home at the same time tends to help our sex life, lol, who'd have thought?
All I know is that ML makes me feel better about my sex life. I know I worry sometimes that we aren't doing it right, in terms of being young and "just married" (which I don't consider 2 years brand spanking new, it's new but not that new, especially since we lived together the 2 years before marriage). A lot of the time I feel like 1 to 4 (again, with trying for kids, it's not our norm. at all.) times a week is an answer that will forever be judged because the world makes it seem like married couples my age are having sex 24/7.
It's just...nice? knowing that there are not nearly as many people doing it as often as society would like us to believe.
Sexual activity has been almost non-existent for the past 15 months due to DH's illness but we're trying to get back in the groove of things but it is difficult.
I always have to initiate and I get rejected a lot and it sucks.
However, I just try and remember that this too, shall pass.
Together 7 years. Pre-pregnancy, I tried to make an effort for once a week. Depression has killed my drive. Currently, it's been a couple of months. I feel bad for a minute sometimes and then throw up and feel less bad.
for me it is also a familiarity thing. i feel uncomfortable being my true bedroom self w/ my husband because i have to look him in the eye the next day. in the beginning it was nbd, i guess because you are still getting to know each other, i don't know. it's like i'm scared that i will be embarrassed, even though logically i know he would never judge me or care. but with a stranger i would never see again i could just do whatever. it's a weird mental block.
This is so me. I feel like I could be a lot more...um...slutty with a stranger. Our sex life is not very adventurous, and I'm sure H would do anything I asked, but I just can't.
Post by themoneytree on Oct 2, 2013 17:35:30 GMT -5
This is a really sore subject for me right now.
We have been together 12 years, married 11. Before the baby we had sex once or twice a week'ish.
After baby we have sex about 2 - 3 times a month. I nag which must be really sexy for H(!) I am really frustrated and resentful. Even when we do it it's not that wonderful. H is worried we'll get pregnant again. I would like to, so it feels like we're on totally different pages.
We're in a rut. I really hope it gets better. I feel much more connected to H when we bang more.
It's sad really because I love him to death and always have.