IL Vent. Or maybe it's not that big a deal...

[2vermont]

Jun 25, 2012 16:08:06 GMT -5 marie427 said:

Ditto everyone else (well, except Sisu). Your ILs were wrong, SBP. And no offense, but your MIL sucks for that comment about the necklace.

I just have to say that I chuckled at her comment. Not in a gee, she's so funny, but wow, she is so clueless. As much as I love my MIL, I could totally see her saying something like this in her usual clueless, tacky fashion. It's taken me a bit of time and getting used to but I tend to try to write those sorts of comments off because I really don't think she means to hurt.

[copzgirl1171]

Being old seems to be a blank check to being an ass.

I would be HURT, not annoyed and trust me you would rather see me annoyed rather than hurt.

I am really sorry they suck

[iammalcolmx]

I am still pissed about them coming over with a stomach flu after a baby just having fucking heart surgery. PS, I can't believe your little boy is so big now!!!

[ECB]

I'm just curious - you say you're seeing the light. What about your DH? Does he see what's going on here or does he still have his head in the sand? What happens next year?

[eclaires]

Jun 26, 2012 8:20:45 GMT -5 ECB said:

I'm just curious - you say you're seeing the light. What about your DH? Does he see what's going on here or does he still have his head in the sand? What happens next year?

Even if he isn't quite to the point SBP is, it's been rather easy for MH and I to agree to be a bit selfish w/r/t our plans and the kids. It's not like we exclude our families, but we just don't go out of our way for things anymore. We make the decision based on what is best for the kids/us, and then go from there. Our families are more than welcome, and we even travel to them for birthday parties and stuff b/c we live out of town and both sets live in the same state. We just don't make it all about their schedule/requirements/etc., and it has really toned down our bitterness. We do the same for holidays and visits... we let them know our availability, make sure it works for them, and then we make our decision - we don't let their preferences or demands make the choice for us. We do what makes us happy, and that mindset, even though we still travel to them and take them into consideration has made all the difference in our enjoyment of holidays, visits, birthdays, etc.

We aren't necessarily 100% on the same page (MH and me), but the way we make our decisions is something we are on the same page about, if that makes sense. He obviously has more patience w/ his parents than I do, and that's fine - they're his parents. It's enough that we make ourselves/the kids the priority in our decision making process.