No high school sweethearts, but well more than half of my college friends married their college sweethearts. We were college sweethearts.
If I look at all of my friends though (not just college friends), most started dating their spouses at least a few years after college, so college sweethearts don't make up a big portion of them.
Post by schitzengiggles on Nov 21, 2013 8:35:21 GMT -5
I don't know of a whole lot of people who married their high school sweethearts. I do know a lot of people who married their college sweethearts though!
That makes me the odd duck, because DH and I met when I was 16 (he was 18). We didn't go to school together though, we met while working at a resort. Our home towns were only 30 minutes apart. We ended up working at the resort together for several summers, and eventually had our wedding there too.
We have now been together for almost 15 years, married 9.
H& I met when I was 14 and he was 16. We shared a bunch of mutual friends. Started dating when I was 16, broke up when I was 18 and back together for good when I was 23. A good amount of our mutual friends all started dating when we were teens also and got married right out of high school. There are only a few left still married.
ETA: I should add that although DH and I got back together when I was 23 we didn't get married til I was 26 and he was 29.
Interesting. I knew my peers were outliers on age of starting parenthood.I had thought of marrying your high school or college boyfriend as a sweet but old fashioned idea**. It sounds like it is pretty common among people here and their friends.
** (I thought it was an old fashioned idea specifically when I was a college student myself, with a serious boyfriend. I was one of the few of my college friends in a relationship that lasted long enough (over three years) it likely would have led to marriage in a different era. Living with him wasn't a big deal to me because he made a good roommate. But the idea of marrying him? Inconceivable. That had as much to do with him specifically as it did my preconceptions, though.)
Did you meet your spouse in law school/graduate school/med school?
I can only think of one couple that were high school sweethearts. A couple that met and started dating in college. Most of my friends that are married met after college.
I don't have any married friends that were high school sweethearts. My Sister married her HS boyfriend and they lasted 23 years before divorce. I have a few friends who were college sweethearts. I think most of my friends met their spouse at work.
Post by starburst604 on Nov 21, 2013 8:46:58 GMT -5
Very few. When one of my friends got married at 24 to her HS boyfriend I remember thinking it was SO YOUNG to get married.
The doctor I work with is married to her HS sweetheart and I find it fascinating that they stayed together through her going to both college and medical school, long distance. In their home there's a framed pic of them at the prom, it's really cute.
Did you meet your spouse in law school/graduate school/med school?
Nope :-) We met at a Guatemalan grocery store. It doesn't make as much sense as meeting at school (college. grad, professional, high school, whatever) where you are likely to share friends and interests.
My smug 19 year old self thought marrying a guy from college would be self limiting. Looking back, I think that had as much to do with the guy I was dating as my age at the time.
Surprisingly I have quite a few friends that married their high school sweethearts. But then again, I also went to a high school that more than half the students never bothered to go to college, so there's that.
I started dating H when he was in high school. So technically I'm his high school sweetheart. I was basically robbing the cradle.
Post by juliagoulia on Nov 21, 2013 8:57:36 GMT -5
I married my high school sweetheart (started dating at 17, married at 22). I can only think of a couple people I know who married people they were with in school to I know (2 have gotten divorced already). But there are quite a few people I know who married people they went to school with, just didn't actually start dating until they were in college.
Post by noodleskooze on Nov 21, 2013 8:58:18 GMT -5
I would say an unusually high percentage of couples that got together in my high school are either married or on that path. I say "unusually" because I went to a SUPER small high school. It's more common in small, conservative circles.
My friends always make fun of the fact that I said my 20s would be my "me" years and that I wouldn't get married until 30, because I was the first one married at 24. I married my college sweetheart. So I had the same outlook as you, but when I was dating H, I just knew that this was it.
Of my group of 10 friends only two married their college sweethearts; another met in grad school - does that count? The rest met their SOs elsewhere.
Well, my college roommate married her college bf. That is the only couple I know that dated in college/HS and ended up married, so that is definitely not the norm in my circle of friends.
My H and I are high school sweet hearts; I only know one other couple that is married that started dating in HS. I know quite a few that met in college and married.
I can think of 3 couples that married their HS sweetheart and a lot from college. I started dating H while I was in college but we didn't go to college together.
Post by sineadorebellion on Nov 21, 2013 9:25:08 GMT -5
Several paired off and in high school and married. Some went off to college but still paired off and married people from our area. It's not even that small of a town but just this community. It sucks you back in.
No one from high school but a lot from college. I started dating DH my senior year in college and I wasn't planning on getting into a long-term relationship. I almost broke up with him when I graduated because I wasn't into the idea of marrying my college sweetheart. I ended up changing my mind because it seemed like a silly reason when our relationship was really good and I could see a future together.
A lot. I grew up in a tiny little farm town and most people didn't really leave. Actually, it's easier for me to list the people who actually dated and married people outside of Armstrong. I knew my h when I was in HS, but we didn't start dating until a few years after I graduated.