Okay, I know 8 married couples whose stories I know.
4 of them met in college (1 couple is now divorced), 1 in high school (did not date until college, different colleges). The other 3 met after college and 2 of those met online.
ETA I did not include myself in these numbers. Jake and I met in college.
I don't think meeting the person you're going to marry while you're in college is uncommon.
Post by disappointedkittens on Nov 21, 2013 10:00:56 GMT -5
I can only think of one from high school, but they didn't get married until they were about 25 and had been dating for 8 years already. I know a few sets from college though. The majority of my friends are just getting engaged/married now and they are with people they met long after college.
Most of them. H and I started dating at the end of high school and our BFFs were high school sweethearts. We both had about a 6 month break in there somewhere. Many of our friends met their spouses in college.
Post by underwaterrhymes on Nov 21, 2013 10:09:18 GMT -5
I can't think of any friends that are married to their high school sweethearts.
I do have one friend who is married to her first college boyfriend, but the vast majority of my friends married in their late 20s and early 30s to people they met in their late 20s and early 30s.
DH and I met in the summer between H.S. and college. This will be our 14th year together. Neither of us can ever remember how long we've been married, but we can always remember how long we've been together.
I think this has a lot to do with where you grew up, religious beliefs and if you pursued higher education (graduate school/professional school).
the weirdest part about all the people I know like this is that they all grew up in an affluent suburb, left for college and still managed to only marry people that they ate lunch with in the cafetorium
I don't personally know any high school sweethearts from my group of friends but lots of people got married to their HS boyfriends or girlfriends and lots more people got married to their college sweethearts right after college graduation. There were students who were engaged at my high school and I graduated in 2002 so not even all that long ago.
Post by sillygoosegirl on Nov 21, 2013 10:27:42 GMT -5
Maybe 30%? A lot of my classmates did. Even more married people they met in college but didn't date until after, or fellow alums they met after graduation. The percentage is dropping as I get older and more of my friends are getting married.
Average age at first marriage varies a lot regionally.
I never expected to marry a high school or college boyfriend, but then again, I didn't expect to date someone as awesome as DH in college.
Close friends - none. Most of my close friends aren't even married yet (and I'm 35.)
I can think of three couples from college that got married - two shortly after school and one just a few years back after more than a decade of dating.
One distant friend married her high school honey. It's been a challenging marriage that included failed businesses, 4 aging parents, infertility, a stint in prison for a Ponzi scheme and several breaks.
My mother's old neighbors met in kindie and died within months of one another.
DS's high school friends married classmates at an alarming rate. Of a class of 123 people, 32 of them married someone they graduated with. One woman married 2 different men from the same class but she didn't go to school with them.
High school sweethearts, not a ton, a large percentage met in college. I started dating H while we were in high school but we didn't go to the same school, we met at work. I think a lot of this is our area of the country skews towards marrying younger, even though a huge majority from my high school went on to college.
I met H in college and got married the day after we graduated. we're the only ones we know who met in college and got married. I know 3 couples who married their HS sweetheart and 2 of those were divorced less than 3 years later
My husband and I are the only ones out of out friends that are high school sweethearts. We met when we were in 2nd grade . One of my other friends married her college boyfriend. They started dating her second semester in college. We are the only two that have been with our H's for so long.
Post by aprilsails on Nov 21, 2013 10:51:58 GMT -5
Two of my closest friends from high school also married their high school sweethearts (as did I). We all start dating in the spring before graduation. DH and I were the first married 7 years later. the others at 8 years and 9 years.
I have a couple more friends who married their bf/gf from university. They were much more likely to get married straight after graduation which I found odd since the HS people all waited much longer than that.
Post by mellimel19 on Nov 21, 2013 10:55:32 GMT -5
I don't know anyone who married their hs sweetheart. I know 2 couples who met in college, but didn't marry until several years after they graduated. But it is also rather uncommon in my area for people to marry young. Even 25 is considered relatively "young" to get married here.
I met my husband my junior year of college. We married 5 1/2 years later, and just celebrated our 9th wedding anniversary yesterday. Several of my BFFs married men who they started dating, or at least met, in college. I did have one years long relationship prior to my husband and several other more short-lived relationships.
H and I were college sweethearts. We have two couples among our groups of friends who were HS sweethearts. Most got together after college but were friends in college.