I don't mean anything particular against the July board. I am definitely lurking there. I just find the quality of responses so much lower on the bump than on GBCN.
It was funny you said that because they alluded to some reactions to the board by others on our original bmb... and I am not surprised by your thoughts on the board as that seems par for the course on many bmbs. :-)
I've tried to post there, but just can't get into it. The siggies alone are out of control. I feel like any time I click on it I'm announcing my pregnancy at work to anyone who happens to walk by my computer.
Congratulations, RBP!!! I usually do what everyone has suggested above - carry around a drink and pretend to sipm, make my husband drink for 2, or drink something that looks alcoholic. It's going to be a hard holiday season for sure.
I'm also never one to turn down a drink. When I was early pregnant, I ordered club soda with a splash of cranberry at the bar and it looked enough like a drink that no one seemed to notice. At parties, I'd grab a beer, take a few fake sips and try tp slyly trade with my H after he'd had a bit. I'd also discreetly mix my own non-alcoholic drinks if there was a bar set up. It's funny because I thought that I had been all sly, but after we finally told people, I asked our closest friends if they had noticed that I hadn't been drinking. They laughed and said that it was way obvious. They figured that I was either pregnant or having health problems and that I'd tell them when I was ready
I'm no help on drinking. I tried the slow sipping wine trick and the club soda trick and got called out both times. I guess it was really obvious when I wasn't drinking!
Yayyyyyyyyyy! Congratulations! My doctor won't see me for another two weeks, so I feel your pain. There are online calculators that will tell you your due date based on LMP.
Are you telling family? DH and I decided NOT to tell anyone until after our first doctor's appointment. Getting through Thanksgiving week with my ILs will be so hard. I'm not sure I will be able to keep this to myself.
My first appointment is the day before I leave for Vegas for my mom's 60th birthday (I'll be eight weeks at that point). I don't see how I can be sober in Vegas for three days without copping to the reason, so I will tell my family then and H's right after (right around Christmas).
I'm not sure what to do with my friends. This is like the worst time of year to try and hide a pregnancy. We will be attending so many holiday parties, and I rarely turn down a drink. One of my questions for MMM is how to make it through holiday parties, because I don't necessarily want the whole world to know when I'm six weeks along!
This was the one awesome thing about getting pregnant right after the New Year--no one questions not drinking if you claim "New Year's resolution." I would have been outed so quickly if I had to abstain at Thanksgiving and Christmas... actually, that's exactly how I figured out my good friend was knocked up (she was due in August).
It is hard. We celebrated T-day last weekend, and I switched drinks with my H. I don't think it was subtle enough since we did it right at the table. I'm pretty sure my family knows, but nobody called me out. Oh well, let them wonder.
You should be prepared though for someone asking you point blank. The first friend to do that is the only friend who knows now. Oops. Now I say, "that would be news to me!"
Congrats! I am due a week or so before, and I am sure my neighbor at work already knows. She hasn't started hinting around yet, but I don't think there is any way she will be able to hold out another 6 weeks or so.
You should be prepared though for someone asking you point blank. The first friend to do that is the only friend who knows now.
:? What is wrong with people? Did she at least ask you in private?
I made it sound worse than it was. This was H's best man at our wedding and all three of us have been close friends since college.
He did wait until we were alone. It just caught me off guard. To be fair, we were at a microbrewery and I wasn't even attempting to pretend to drink or presenting an excuse, which is very unusual for me. Of course I'd have preferred that he didn't ask but he was so excited for me it was hard to be mad. He wants me to talk to his wife to help convince her that they should go for it, lol.