I can't keep a secret either

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Nov 26, 2013 13:33:36 GMT -5 Poppy said:

Nov 26, 2013 13:21:20 GMT -5 @redbellpeppers said:

:? What is wrong with people? Did she at least ask you in private?

I made it sound worse than it was. This was H's best man at our wedding and all three of us have been close friends since college.

He did wait until we were alone. It just caught me off guard. To be fair, we were at a microbrewery and I wasn't even attempting to pretend to drink or presenting an excuse, which is very unusual for me. Of course I'd have preferred that he didn't ask but he was so excited for me it was hard to be mad. He wants me to talk to his wife to help convince her that they should go for it, lol.

Ok, I wouldn't be too upset about that. I have many friends I "suspected" before they made the announcement, and each time I wanted to just ask them to clear the air (walking around with these secrets seems so taxing!) but didn't because I know that's rude. 

I have a gay male friend who is likely to out me at his Christmas party. He actually commented last week that I was "glowing" and was there something I wanted to tell him? I actually was pregnant but didn't know yet. I think he doesn't "get" that people don't necessarily like to announce brand new pregnancies to the world, but like you, I can't fault him for being excited. 

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Congrats! That's awesome.

[brooklyn]

Congratulations!

[litasail]

Yay!! Congrats!!

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YEAH!!!!

Also COME GET MY BABY GEAR I DON'T WANT IT ANYMORE!!!

Just kidding.

But not really.

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Nov 26, 2013 13:52:19 GMT -5 @carmensandiego said:

YEAH!!!!

Also COME GET MY BABY GEAR I DON'T WANT IT ANYMORE!!!

Just kidding.

But not really.

Ha, I was thinking that I needed to ask you about those books that I initially declined. 

Want to GTG soon?

[Poppy]

Nov 26, 2013 13:36:54 GMT -5 @redbellpeppers said:

Nov 26, 2013 13:33:36 GMT -5 Poppy said:

I made it sound worse than it was. This was H's best man at our wedding and all three of us have been close friends since college.

He did wait until we were alone. It just caught me off guard. To be fair, we were at a microbrewery and I wasn't even attempting to pretend to drink or presenting an excuse, which is very unusual for me. Of course I'd have preferred that he didn't ask but he was so excited for me it was hard to be mad. He wants me to talk to his wife to help convince her that they should go for it, lol.

Ok, I wouldn't be too upset about that. I have many friends I "suspected" before they made the announcement, and each time I wanted to just ask them to clear the air (walking around with these secrets seems so taxing!) but didn't because I know that's rude. 

I have a gay male friend who is likely to out me at his Christmas party. He actually commented last week that I was "glowing" and was there something I wanted to tell him? I actually was pregnant but didn't know yet. I think he doesn't "get" that people don't necessarily like to announce brand new pregnancies to the world, but like you, I can't fault him for being excited. 

Haha, well good luck! Honestly I am kind of glad I told him because his reaction made me really excited to tell other people. Can't wait until Christmas (13w)!!!

[caramia17]

Nov 26, 2013 10:41:16 GMT -5 @redbellpeppers said:

Nov 26, 2013 10:37:20 GMT -5 anna7602 said:

@redbellpeppers, my MO to fake people out is to grab a drink and then just have one tiny sip. If anyone notices I haven't finished it, I say it's my second or third drink already. Or, I make DH drink it when no one is really looking. If I can get my own drink away from curious eyes, I order something clear and fizzy like Sprite and say it's a vodka-something or other.

This is what I was thinking. I hosted my Bible study group last night, and I think they're already on to me. I served a bottle of Apothic Red and didn't even pretend to drink any. (H suggested I drink red grape juice as a decoy, but I didn't have a chance to get to the store and honestly didn't care that much.) They kept talking about how good the wine was, and at one point I thought they were messing with me. LOL

I feel like it would be so much easier if I just told people. Keeping secrets stresses me out. But I know that the high miscarriage rate in the first trimester probably makes this a bad idea. 

Congratulations!

My family are big wine drinkers and we did a test run before we were at a family thanksgiving party to determine what looked most wine like (I was 10w at the time). The verdict was Pom Wonderful pomegranate juice looks just like Cab. My H would "pour" my glasses. He would pour two glasses and then take his while he "grabbed his phone" or whatever and dump it and then refill with Pom and then we would switch. They would have been all over me with nosey questions had we not had something in a wine glass. I also pretended to sip champagne at a baby shower that same weekend and no one noticed that my glass never got empty. We also went to a big work conference (for me) in Hawaii around 8 w and he would drink both of our drinks and/or get me a pineapple juice/cran/soda and claim it was some kind of tropical cocktail. 

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Y'all. I just got a text from a Bible study friend saying "Apothic Red is on sale for $8.99 at Kroger!"

ARE THESE PEOPLE MESSING WITH ME??

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Nov 26, 2013 10:32:45 GMT -5 @redbellpeppers said:

Nov 26, 2013 10:28:42 GMT -5 anna7602 said:

Yayyyyyyyyyy! Congratulations! My doctor won't see me for another two weeks, so I feel your pain. There are online calculators that will tell you your due date based on LMP.

Are you telling family? DH and I decided NOT to tell anyone until after our first doctor's appointment. Getting through Thanksgiving week with my ILs will be so hard. I'm not sure I will be able to keep this to myself.

My first appointment is the day before I leave for Vegas for my mom's 60th birthday (I'll be eight weeks at that point). I don't see how I can be sober in Vegas for three days without copping to the reason, so I will tell my family then and H's right after (right around Christmas).

I'm not sure what to do with my friends. This is like the worst time of year to try and hide a pregnancy. We will be attending so many holiday parties, and I rarely turn down a drink. One of my questions for MMM is how to make it through holiday parties, because I don't necessarily want the whole world to know when I'm six weeks along!

My due date with DD1 was 7/25 so right around the same timing. At holiday parties I would just carry around a drink and occasionally tip some into a sink or toilet if it was at a house party. If it was at a place with a bar I would ask for a cranberry and soda water. At H's office party I actually got called out because of the cranberry drink (everyone knows I normally drink manhattans) and I said "Oh, I had so many manhattans the other night I can't look at one right now" (lol). No problems.

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Nov 26, 2013 13:53:30 GMT -5 @redbellpeppers said:

Nov 26, 2013 13:52:19 GMT -5 @carmensandiego said:

YEAH!!!!

Also COME GET MY BABY GEAR I DON'T WANT IT ANYMORE!!!

Just kidding.

But not really.

Ha, I was thinking that I needed to ask you about those books that I initially declined. 

Want to GTG soon?

Definitely! We are in and out over Thanksgiving but I will have some time this Sunday if you want to have lunch. I could also do a weeknight after 7ish, or the weekend of December 7-8. Let me know what works for you.

[greekypie]

Yaaaaaay!!!

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Nov 26, 2013 13:59:09 GMT -5 @carmensandiego said:

Nov 26, 2013 13:53:30 GMT -5 @redbellpeppers said:

Ha, I was thinking that I needed to ask you about those books that I initially declined. 

Want to GTG soon?

Definitely! We are in and out over Thanksgiving but I will have some time this Sunday if you want to have lunch. I could also do a weeknight after 7ish, or the weekend of December 7-8. Let me know what works for you.

Awesome! Let me get back to you. This Sunday may be a possibility, otherwise a weeknight. We are OOT 12/6-8.

[kangaroo11]

Woohoo! Congrats and good luck on the "drinking"!

[holly116]

Yay!! So very excited for you!!

[auberge]

Congrats!

[heygrey]

CONGRATULATIONS! so so so excited for you!

i have no good lies for not drinking. i was in the middle of a weekly bachelorette meet up with some of my girlfriends and we always had drinks. i tried saying shit like "I'm cutting down on my week night drinking!" they all guessed on the first night, but thankfully just talked amongst themselves until i broke down at 9 weeks and confessed. i really don't mind the speculations (we know we all do it with our friends), but i really appreciated that they didn't pressure me to out myself.

[urbancowgirl]

Congrats!

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Holy crappola lady, CONGRATS!  So glad I went on the board today, lol. Squeee!!!!!!!!!!

[ginkgoleaf]

Congrats!

[MamaMaui24]

Congrats! Baby bell peppers!

[bunch]

Woooo hoooo! Congrats! Enjoy the holidays sober

[dexteroni]

Congratulations!!! So excited for you!

[mlvmd]

Congratulations! I ended up telling some friends around 10 weeks because I was terrible about parties and drinking.

[otowngirl]

YAYAYAYAY! Congrats, @redbellpeppers!   <)

[MadamePresident]

Good secrets are no fun to keep. Congrats!

[cosmos]

Woo congrats!!!!!

[fortmyersbride]

Congrats!

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Nov 26, 2013 16:07:31 GMT -5 bunch said:

Woooo hoooo! Congrats! Enjoy the holidays sober

Very funny bnchanums. 

[rikki]

AHHHH!!! @redbellpeppers Elijah's birthday is 8/2. I got my BFP on 12/1. I am so excited for you!!