the nanny has mentioned her pregnancy 3 times to me in texts today. Yes I know you are pg, and I understand that you don't seem to be feeling well, what do you want me to do? Why do you keep telling me? I never talked to my employer this much about it. I DON'T CARE!!
My H is playing baseball in the crazy heat. With his work. Sorry, not a confession. I secretly judge some of the Mommies in my meetup group. And I am disapppointed when only those Mommies show up. And I dont judge their parenting. I judge their clothes, etc.
the nanny has mentioned her pregnancy 3 times to me in texts today. Yes I know you are pg, and I understand that you don't seem to be feeling well, what do you want me to do? Why do you keep telling me? I never talked to my employer this much about it. I DON'T CARE!!
lol. She cares about your kids. Maybe she is under the impression you'd care about hers.
I do care - to a certain extent. But every time she texts me I wonder if it's her way of getting me to tell her to take it easy or stop performing her job functions. I would have a much easier time if I wasn't her employer.
I do care - to a certain extent. But every time she texts me I wonder if it's her way of getting me to tell her to take it easy or stop performing her job functions. I would have a much easier time if I wasn't her employer.
It is probably this Or she is really excited and has a one track mind.
I do care - to a certain extent. But every time she texts me I wonder if it's her way of getting me to tell her to take it easy or stop performing her job functions. I would have a much easier time if I wasn't her employer.
I've had pregnant employees and pregnant BFFs. I love them to death, but I don't need many texts per day about their first trimester woes.
I got into a fight with the guy I'm dating. He was sober and I was drunk. And I'm a little fuzzy on all the details. On the bright side, the Foster the People concert last night was awesome.
Oh, we were fighting in my complex parking lot at like 1 AM. Klassy.
I do care - to a certain extent. But every time she texts me I wonder if it's her way of getting me to tell her to take it easy or stop performing her job functions. I would have a much easier time if I wasn't her employer.
Are you the poster whose pregnant nanny wasn't up to doing activities with your kids that were originally agreed upon?
Sorry, I can't remember if it's you or someone else?
It's bugging me that I can't remember if this was you.
I missed the follow up to how she got pregnant exactly, but is it possible she is scared or nervous and doesnt have a lot of other people to support her? Given her situation, others may be judging her or avoiding her.
For all the mothers of newborns in your complex, Bliss, I hate you. From the teenager/college student in me-these things happen. We have all been there. Well, all the cool kids.
I missed the follow up to how she got pregnant exactly, but is it possible she is scared or nervous and doesnt have a lot of other people to support her? Given her situation, others may be judging her or avoiding her.
Yes, and that's where this whole thing gets so convoluted. I want to support her and be happy for her, but I'm also trying to keep myself semi-detached because I need to not let emotions come into play when treating her as my employee. I already find myself thinking about how I can't let her go because she doesn't have anyone to support her and she's all alone and frankly my concern should be my kids first. I'm just having a really hard time balancing it all and I don't know how to navigate this shit
Oh we weren't like in a screaming match or anything. And my complex is pretty much full of young couples and college kids. There's always someone yelling, singing, whatever in the parking lot around that time.
And no one got punched. But if he's still an ass to me tonight at work, I can't hold any promises. LOL.
I missed the follow up to how she got pregnant exactly, but is it possible she is scared or nervous and doesnt have a lot of other people to support her? Given her situation, others may be judging her or avoiding her.
Yes, and that's where this whole thing gets so convoluted. I want to support her and be happy for her, but I'm also trying to keep myself semi-detached because I need to not let emotions come into play when treating her as my employee. I already find myself thinking about how I can't let her go because she doesn't have anyone to support her and she's all alone and frankly my concern should be my kids first. I'm just having a really hard time balancing it all and I don't know how to navigate this shit
I'm sorry. I can imagine that this is a tough situation for you.
Post by expatpumpkin on Jul 6, 2012 16:06:38 GMT -5
The "dogs belong home" last week did nothing to curtail my dog's outings. He's been in several pubs, on the tube, buses, and even a food store since then. He's awesome and he loves it, and so do I.
Yes, and that's where this whole thing gets so convoluted. I want to support her and be happy for her, but I'm also trying to keep myself semi-detached because I need to not let emotions come into play when treating her as my employee. I already find myself thinking about how I can't let her go because she doesn't have anyone to support her and she's all alone and frankly my concern should be my kids first. I'm just having a really hard time balancing it all and I don't know how to navigate this shit
It would be difficult. Spinning off my first comment, care workers do get very attached to their charges.
I wouldn't be surprised if she thinks the boundaries are a little fuzzy. Especially with spending so much time in your home, she probably feels a closeness to you that you may not feel with her. To you it's an employer/employee relationship but she may feel a more friend/family tie. I wonder.
Does that make sense?
It totally makes sense. I've been a nanny before and I think this relationship is very important and it's one I had with her. But when she got pg I kind of had to take a step back and remember that it's not my job to make sure she's okay, it's my job to make sure my kids are okay.
Pugz, she doesn't have a partner and her family lives in another state.
It would be difficult. Spinning off my first comment, care workers do get very attached to their charges.
I wouldn't be surprised if she thinks the boundaries are a little fuzzy. Especially with spending so much time in your home, she probably feels a closeness to you that you may not feel with her. To you it's an employer/employee relationship but she may feel a more friend/family tie. I wonder.
Does that make sense?
It totally makes sense. I've been a nanny before and I think this relationship is very important and it's one I had with her. But when she got pg I kind of had to take a step back and remember that it's not my job to make sure she's okay, it's my job to make sure my kids are okay.
Pugz, she doesn't have a partner and her family lives in another state.
Then you could also believe this job is the only thing holding her here. In the end, you gotta do what is good for you. Just give her options, be fair and plenty of notice.
I'm totally judging my BFF. I love her, but she's newly single (after a long term relationship) and I'm now remembering how much I dislike her when she's single. I feel like a jerk, but she uses men and does things that I don't agree with. I could never treat men like crap and expect them to wait on me and buy me stuff. But she takes advantage of the fact that she can do this. And it drives me nuts that guys just do it. Apparently she's so "beautiful" it is worth taking her crap to date her.
Sigh. Maybe I'm jealous. I don't think so though. I think it just bothers me that while I still love her, I kind of think she's a jerk.
I'm like Rage Against the Machine at some stupid people on The Bump. I get it. Dumb people have kids. I don't know why it still bugs me. I'm going to a friggen support meeting next week. I'm embarrassed how lame I sound.
I'm irrationally pissed at MH. Me walking in the door with 4 heavy bags is not a good time to come flying down the stairs to criticize me kicking the door open with my foot to get in the house. If you're going to help unpack groceries, start with the refrigerated items and don't leave them in the middle of the kitchen floor when it's 96 degrees out and then call me a shitface. I just lost it with him. Don't start yelling at me when I'm carrying stuff into the house. I kicked the door b/c I had multiple heavy bags. Either come down and help or stay upstairs and leave me alone.
Oh and when you're going to blow up at me for leaving dishes in the sink before I left for work two weeks ago, why did you leave the sink full of empty/dirty lunch containers today?
I just pulled an asshole move. My CW asked if I would stay late for her (until 5:30) because she needs to leave early. I said no because I have post work plans. Not a lie, I do, I'm going to happy hour with other coworkers, I could have easily met them 30 minutes late, but I'm just not feeling it. CW always seems to feel sick, have drs appts, or many other excuses always on Friday, leaving me to stay late. (FTR- she comes in late to stay late while i do not, so double grrr) Well not today!
I just pulled an asshole move. My CW asked if I would stay late for her (until 5:30) because she needs to leave early. I said no because I have post work plans. Not a lie, I do, I'm going to happy hour with other coworkers, I could have easily met them 30 minutes late, but I'm just not feeling it. CW always seems to feel sick, have drs appts, or many other excuses always on Friday, leaving me to stay late. (FTR- she comes in late to stay late while i do not, so double grrr) Well not today!
Non asshole move. She could have asked you earlier this week. Besides her reason for leaving is prob the same as yours just different people
I saw pictures of myself before from my bridal shower 6 years ago & I was so hot. I really need to lose this friggen weight. But what I do ask DH to bring me home a treat from B&N cafe. Sigh.....