Beach vacation = yay! Limitless booze at beach vacation = meh, and boo if the drunken crowd is rowdy/loud.
Vacation is when we dry out. And on relaxation-type vacations we want to be antisocial and ignore everyone. But I recognize that this is not the majority approach.
I know you've said this before, but I totally don't get it lol.
It is not a vacation until I've drank at all three of meals of the day.
I don't really think she was. The comparison she made to Mexico is way too detailed for a joke. I think what we have here is a classic case of backpedaling.
LOL
Or trying to get a rise out of people in a flamefuls...
Probably not? Nor the Seychelles. I'm just not into island beach vacations. Full stop.
Hell, I'm waffling if I even want to go to Hawaii and my in-laws are paying for accommodations. That's how much I loathe laying on the beach.
Oh Mery. First of all, I am wondering if you didn't get the joke, which is about someone on TK back in the day saying "what's Mauritius?" and you saying something along the lines of how ignorant do you have to be not only not to know about Mauritius but also to think it's nbd to ask (thus exposing your ignorance) rather than Googling.
And second of all, I will skip my sermon about culture since I now see it was an unclear joke (?), but FWIW, I went to Aruba for my HM. We made a point to talk to locals and learn about the history. I will grant you that what we learned from locals is that there isn't really one unique, unifying culture because there have been so many outside influences (mostly I was sad this seemed to mean no major national foods!), but that doesn't mean there's nothing except beaches. Now you can say you know someone who went to the Caribbean - I think you know I went to Cuba too - and saw culture!
Probably not? Nor the Seychelles. I'm just not into island beach vacations. Full stop.
Hell, I'm waffling if I even want to go to Hawaii and my in-laws are paying for accommodations. That's how much I loathe laying on the beach.
Oh Mery. First of all, I am wondering if you didn't get the joke, which is about someone on TK back in the day saying "what's Mauritius?" and you saying something along the lines of how ignorant do you have to be not only not to know about Mauritius but also to think it's nbd to ask (thus exposing your ignorance) rather than Googling.
And second of all, I will skip my sermon about culture since I now see it was an unclear joke (?), but FWIW, I went to Aruba for my HM. We made a point to talk to locals and learn about the history. I will grant you that what we learned from locals is that there isn't really one unique, unifying culture because there have been so many outside influences (mostly I was sad this seemed to mean no major national foods!), but that doesn't mean there's nothing except beaches. Now you can say you know someone who went to the Caribbean - I think you know I went to Cuba too - and saw culture!
I have no idea what this was!
But oddly, I do remember that you went to Aruba. It's crazy what my memory stores, I guess.
Post by emilyinchile on Feb 21, 2014 14:01:54 GMT -5
Haha, that's funny that you don't remember it at all...I think you took a pretty solid flaming for it at the time. You must have thought that was the most random question from atlas!
Haha, that's funny that you don't remember it at all...I think you took a pretty solid flaming for it at the time. You must have thought that was the most random question from atlas!
If it was on SB, I would go there just TO get flamed, I think, so that wouldn't be surprising!
I do hope whatever I said contained a link to justfuckinggoogleit.com
This reminds me how much I want to go back to Turks and Caicos. It was gorgeous when we stopped there. On our Carnival Cruise :-)
I'm going for the first time in May for 3 days, which is about as long as I can spend on a beach before getting jumpy. As it is we are already planning an all-day boat charter so we'll only end up with 2 actual "beach" days. I am excited to see this gorgeous water, though.
v, we are the same way about using vacations to detox. It's not intentional but we are so active during the day when we travel most places that at night we usually want no more than one glass of wine each, as opposed to the full bottle plus aperitifs/digestifs we have when we go out (or eat at home) here. We come back from trips with practically zero tolerance.
We'll see how you feel in 5 months. I bet a HUNDRED MILLION DOLLARS all of a sudden you will think your kid is the most interesting thing on earth. I hope I can dig up this post when you do.
My kid is definitely not the most interesting thing on earth to me. I adore her, she is funny, I love seeing how much she learns on a daily basis--but she's 4. She wants to play with dolls, dress up, and color. Not all that interesting to me. I'm good at feigning interest for her so she has positive self esteem, but- no. I guess this is my flame worthy. She is the love of my life and I want the very best for her- but, yeah.
Also, re niq's post, I'm much more productive now at work since becoming a parent. Of course, this is due to my new career and has nothing to do with the fact that I spawned. But before in my old job I felt it was dead end. That's why I fucked around on the internet so much. Now I love what I do and I work hard. I can guarantee the work I do now translates into BigLaw billable hour requirements when before I struggled to actually bill 1700/year.
Not everyone who is a parent revolves their world around their kid. I guess what's why I'm not on MMM all that often. I don't really even think of her much during the day unless I'm with her.
Oh another flame worthy confession- I'm in Florida with my sister. Left DH and DD home. I'm laying out by the pool. All we plan on doing is eat, drink, swim, do nothing, sleep. Delinquent mother, bad wife, and boring beach vacation rolled into one!
I don't think there's anything wrong or weird about thinking that your kid is the most interesting thing in the world... to you. I'd imagine/hope that a lot of you with kids feel that way?
It's only an issue when you don't realize that your kid may not be the most interesting thing in the world to other people.
[[pats self on back for not making an analogy to my cats]]
Oh another flame worthy confession- I'm in Florida with my sister. Left DH and DD home. I'm laying out by the pool. All we plan on doing is eat, drink, swim, do nothing, sleep. Delinquent mother, bad wife, and boring beach vacation rolled into one!
I am insanely jealous of you. I am trying to figure out how to go somewhere warm without DH since he has no vacation time and I have two more weeks than he does this year. The trick is to go somewhere he wouldn't be too interested in so he's not even more bitter that I'm off and he isn't.
That reminds me -- I *maybe* am planning to go to London at a time when I know my husband can't go because of work because I think I'd have a better visit with my friend without him :-#
I figure it's okay as long as he is allowed to go away without me when he wants?
Oh another flame worthy confession- I'm in Florida with my sister. Left DH and DD home. I'm laying out by the pool. All we plan on doing is eat, drink, swim, do nothing, sleep. Delinquent mother, bad wife, and boring beach vacation rolled into one!
I am insanely jealous of you. I am trying to figure out how to go somewhere warm without DH since he has no vacation time and I have two more weeks than he does this year. The trick is to go somewhere he wouldn't be too interested in so he's not even more bitter that I'm off and he isn't.
I have wayyy more time than he does. I don't have to use a vacation day for sick days (I have unlimited paid sick days) and I can work from home if DD has off from school, so unless I just take off and go away without him, I'll never use them all. I can carry over half of my days but the rest are use it or lose it.
I encourage husband free trips. I went on two last year, and have another one planned in May.
All I got out of this (other than making the last two hours of work go by quicker) is that supergreen comes off very much as a holier-than-thou, better-than-everyone else as a mother poster.
Please refresh my memory because I read the whole thread yesterday and am too lazy to go back through to find it - what was supergreen's comment about?
There were a few of them that really rubbed me the wrong way. The one that stuck out though was in reply to RBP not liking kids, suggesting she's remember to save her post when she comes back after rbpchild is born and she's 'posting all the time about her kid' to remind her of it. The way it was worded really had me rolling my eyes. How ML is too dirty for her and she feels like she might get herpes (wtf). I unfortunately wound up with a bunch of work I have to get done this afternoon or I'd go back and C&P. They were all in the later pages though, after page 8, I think.
We'll see how you feel in 5 months. I bet a HUNDRED MILLION DOLLARS all of a sudden you will think your kid is the most interesting thing on earth. I hope I can dig up this post when you do.
My kid is definitely not the most interesting thing on earth to me. I adore her, she is funny, I love seeing how much she learns on a daily basis--but she's 4. She wants to play with dolls, dress up, and color. Not all that interesting to me. I'm good at feigning interest for her so she has positive self esteem, but- no. I guess this is my flame worthy. She is the love of my life and I want the very best for her- but, yeah.
Also, re niq's post, I'm much more productive now at work since becoming a parent. Of course, this is due to my new career and has nothing to do with the fact that I spawned. But before in my old job I felt it was dead end. That's why I fucked around on the internet so much. Now I love what I do and I work hard. I can guarantee the work I do now translates into BigLaw billable hour requirements when before I struggled to actually bill 1700/year.
Not everyone who is a parent revolves their world around their kid. I guess what's why I'm not on MMM all that often. I don't really even think of her much during the day unless I'm with her.
Oh another flame worthy confession- I'm in Florida with my sister. Left DH and DD home. I'm laying out by the pool. All we plan on doing is eat, drink, swim, do nothing, sleep. Delinquent mother, bad wife, and boring beach vacation rolled into one!
@sfgal530 This is the one I was referring to (not Cosmos' post but the one she quoted). Cosmos, I feel exactly the same way.
Damnit, why don't we have an eye-rolling emoticon anymore?
I'm just amused that people still think talking about sex makes one dirty somehow.
It's not the talking about sex that bothers me. @wandering and @champagna to answer your question it's the constant talk about anal sex and farting in your lover's face and all the other gross shit that you guys think is funny. It's just not my scene, so I don't go over there. Hence, that's my flameworthy opinion.
Well at least I had some really flameworthy opinions! Y'all always ask for them, but when I finally come up with some, you're rolling your eyes at me. Which is fine by me, whatever.
I'm just amused that people still think talking about sex makes one dirty somehow.
It's not the talking about sex that bothers me. @wandering and @champagna to answer your question it's the constant talk about anal sex and farting in your lover's face and all the other gross shit that you guys think is funny. It's just not my scene, so I don't go over there. Hence, that's my flameworthy opinion.
Yeah, because no one ever talks about farting during oral sex over here, lol.
It's not the talking about sex that bothers me. @wandering to answer your question it's the constant talk about anal sex and farting in your lover's face and all the other gross shit that you guys think is funny. It's just not my scene, so I don't go over there. Hence, that's my flameworthy opinion.
Clearly you don't lurk over there very often. There are a lot of other posts to read that have nothing to do with those things; if you don't click on them, you don't have to, you know, read them.
Regardless, I'm glad you don't post there. So there is that.
Well the posts usually start out okay. Something benign like "had great sex last night!" so I click on it, planning to like it or say something like "that's awesome!" And the rest of the post is something like "just kidding, I farted in DH's face." So yup, I stopped clicking on them and then gave up on ML altogether. You have to admit you guys are really raunchy. That's not everyone's cup of tea.
I'm not interested in "learning" on all my vacations. Sometimes one just likes to lay the fuck back and be brought drink after drink. (hot)
You know, years ago, I used to be all, "why would people go to an AI when you can really SEE THE WORLD?!"
But my work days have gotten incrementally longer and harder since I left college, and I just don't have the energy to think about a planning a travel-focused vacation, much less think while actually on one.
I'm not even a lay-by-the-beach-all-day person, but really, all I want to do on my vacation time now is be outside with my brain shut off.
OK with that said, I've got something for you to jump all over. While I don't judge people who go to AIs, what I don't get is why someone who is on a beautiful island with lovely ocean nearby would choose to sit by the pool. When we were in Hawaii, we got stuck talking to this random couple who basically had spent their previous 5 days on the island going to different hotel pools and then spent a good 10 minutes telling us how clean they were. I mean, WTF people. Do you not see the BLUEST, PRETTIEST PACIFIC OCEAN WATER 10 FEET AWAY?!
Pools suck. Ocean and sand FTW.
Sand. I used to think the same (I grew up in cape may so I've always been a big beach goer) but then I had kids. Mixing sand with kids is a big pita that's not worth it when they're just as happy and maybe even happier in a pool.
Let's clear something up...it's not a flameFREE thread and if you post something flame-worthy OF COURSE you're going to get flamed. This is probably true even in a flamefree thread, let's be honest. How is this not obvious?
ETA: not directed specifically at supergreen, but to everyone who's made similar comments.
Oh I'm enjoying myself. This is funny! Especially since I got my own thread on ML! I'm so proud.
Um, she already said she stopped clicking on them. Do you really need to personally insult her rather than just disagree with her opinion? You're like a dog with a bone--we get it, you don't want her on ML...and she's not. Drop it already.
Except she is. lol.
Well...you guys brought me over there And I thank intentionalsnarkshark for having the cojones to tag me, otherwise there would have been a whole thread going on behind my back, which is soooo high school. You can't complain that I'm over there, when you made a whole thread about me.
Post by DarcyLongfellow on Feb 21, 2014 16:01:24 GMT -5
23 pages in, and I decide to reply for the first time.
I think my daughters are fascinating, and I could talk to DH or my mom about them for hours. I do think they are probably the most interesting things in the world to me because I'm so invested in their lives, wanting to so a good job raising them, thinking about how they interact with the world, etc. But I absolutely don't think they are that interesting to anyone else.
I think it is totally okay to respond to a parenting post with a comment about your pet. There are a lot of ways that pet parenting and child parenting are similar. Not all, of course. I once had a friend ask why you couldn't just leave a baby in a crib and run to the store, since it was okay to leave a dog in a crate and leave the house. (Sadly, she was really asking. Not joking!)
My brother died 14 years ago. If my parents still think about him every day, of course. But they don't talk about him more than they do about me or their granddaughters or sign his name to their cards to people. If they acted like his memory was vastly more important than my life, it would really make me feel hurt. And I already have a ton of surviving child guilt. If someone acted like that, I would strongly recommend counseling. Any sort of behavior is normal immediately after a loss -- I spent a summer watching my mother basically barely survive. It was as if she had died too. Yes, everyone handles grief differently, but if you still can't function years after a loss, you need assistance. And my heart breaks for everyone in this thread who suffered a loss -- it is my greatest fear. Just giving a perspective as the surviving child.
We'll see how you feel in 5 months. I bet a HUNDRED MILLION DOLLARS all of a sudden you will think your kid is the most interesting thing on earth. I hope I can dig up this post when you do.
Oh another flame worthy confession- I'm in Florida with my sister. Left DH and DD home. I'm laying out by the pool. All we plan on doing is eat, drink, swim, do nothing, sleep. Delinquent mother, bad wife, and boring beach vacation rolled into one!
You're not out learning about the Floridian culture? How small minded and ignorant of you.
I am insanely jealous of you. I am trying to figure out how to go somewhere warm without DH since he has no vacation time and I have two more weeks than he does this year. The trick is to go somewhere he wouldn't be too interested in so he's not even more bitter that I'm off and he isn't.
I have wayyy more time than he does. I don't have to use a vacation day for sick days (I have unlimited paid sick days) and I can work from home if DD has off from school, so unless I just take off and go away without him, I'll never use them all. I can carry over half of my days but the rest are use it or lose it.
I encourage husband free trips. I went on two last year, and have another one planned in May.
In that case I think you, me and @beagle need a girls trip. When do we leave?
I have wayyy more time than he does. I don't have to use a vacation day for sick days (I have unlimited paid sick days) and I can work from home if DD has off from school, so unless I just take off and go away without him, I'll never use them all. I can carry over half of my days but the rest are use it or lose it.
I encourage husband free trips. I went on two last year, and have another one planned in May.
In that case I think you, me and @beagle need a girls trip. When do we leave?