I found a gynecologist and went in for my annual appointment at the end of December, and I'm probably over thinking the whole thing, but it made me pretty uncomfortable. I'm going to switch because obviously that's really the last place I want to feel uncomfortable, especially if we decide to have another kid.
Before the actual exam, he came in to talk to me for about ten minutes, which I guess is his normal thing. While we were talking, he commented multiple times on my appearance, and grabbed my ankles so he could look at them because "I always heard Iowa girls didn't have ankles"... Then he commented on his favorite literature when he found I was an English teacher, and made the point that he really liked the Harlem Renaissance "because of the sex". Then he left, and I got undressed an into the gown. He came back in for the exam, and wanted to see my back first, because "it's [his] hobby". Then he did the exam itself and I guess nothing seemed terribly weird about it, but I was really uncomfortable during the whole thing. When it was done, he and the nurse left; then he came back in to tell me something about something I had asked about prior to the exam--which is fine, but I had already started to get up to get dressed, and he didn't knock, but I was able to get covered up yet. It just felt off.
ETA: Assuming there are multiple physicians in the practice, you'd be doing them a favor by calling back to report your discomfort with the experience.
I don't think you are over thinking it at all. If something makes you uncomfortable, especially when it comes to something like this, you should definitely listen to your gut. I would NOT be returning. Omg.
ETA: Assuming there are multiple physicians in the practice, you'd be doing them a favor by calling back to report your discomfort with the experience.
He's the only doctor there. The other doctor had left recently, and it didn't sound like an amicable split. I found one review after I had visited that his office had refused to send documents to a patient that went with the other doctor, and it was nearing her due date. She finally had to threaten to get a lawyer involved to get her records. I had thought about reporting it, but it's HIS practice.
Thanks ladies. I just keep coming back to it, and I get really anxious and feel sick--I know that's probably an overreaction, and I'll get over it. But hearing that I'm not an idiot for feeling like something was off helps.
ETA: Assuming there are multiple physicians in the practice, you'd be doing them a favor by calling back to report your discomfort with the experience.
He's the only doctor there. The other doctor had left recently, and it didn't sound like an amicable split. I found one review after I had visited that his office had refused to send documents to a patient that went with the other doctor, and it was nearing her due date. She finally had to threaten to get a lawyer involved to get her records. I had thought about reporting it, but it's HIS practice.
Thanks ladies. I just keep coming back to it, and I get really anxious and feel sick--I know that's probably an overreaction, and I'll get over it. But hearing that I'm not an idiot for feeling like something was off helps.
I really don't think how you feel is an overreaction. It sounds like you got a really weird vibe and you should trust it. I would be feeling the exact same as you.
ETA: I feel uncomfortable and squicked out and all I did was read about it.
What the hell? As a patient, I'm not there to facilitate my doctor's motherfucking HOBBIES. You examine that which is medically necessary to examine, and do it like a professional. Drop him.
I have a pretty much zero tolerance for doctors that make me uncomfortable. I switched GYNs once when she asked me if some students could observe and when I said no, sighed deeply and rolled her eyes. SIGHED DEEPLY. Take your disappointment and shove it, lady. That's my vagina. That's right. I'll drop you for an overzealous exhalation of breath.
You may be able to report it to the board that holds his state license.
Have I let too much time go by to report him? A lot of this happened one on one, so it would be my story against his. The "hobby" part the nurse was in the room for.
Thanks ladies. I just keep coming back to it, and I get really anxious and feel sick--I know that's probably an overreaction, and I'll get over it. But hearing that I'm not an idiot for feeling like something was off helps.