Post by peachdragon on Jul 11, 2012 9:56:03 GMT -5
It matters to me, and I think I have an unrealistic perception of how thin I should be. But never enough to do something harmful to myself.
When I find out the measurements or weight of a woman whom I find perfect to be, I'm usually surprised to hear that she's bigger than I. This still doesn't help me realize my expectations for myself are too high. When I see myself in pictures, I feel like I'm a cow.
Eta: my husband has said in the past that i can only gain 10 pounds before he says something, but I don't believe he'd really even care. However, He definitely isn't hoping I'll gain weight.
Kuus, my old roommate was 6'4 and hated it. And I have watched people treat her like goddamned circus freaks about it.
Maggie, I am sorry your husband was so short-sighted. I don't think that he thinks he "owns" your body or anythying, but I do think that some men sometimes get it in their head that women try to look good to please them, and they attach meaning to things that are meaningless. Do what you want with your body, and work with some sort of professional to get your relationship back to a place of trust and respect. It sounds like this person, while clearly misguided, knows that his thinking was off, is interested in working on it, and loves you dearly. Those are important.
I would love to drop the 20 "My mom died and my fiance almost died" pounds and the 20 "I went to law school and it was ok" pounds mainly because I have always had high cholesterol, and I don't want to put further strain on my heart. And, because who's kidding who, its nicer to fit into your clothes than to be sitting at your desk constantly fidgeting with your clothes that don't fit. The fiance would love me if I weighed 5 pounds or 500, but also comments that he hates how we have let ourselves go. RIght now though, that has not correllated into any positive action to address it, so who knows :-)
Post by wrathofkuus on Jul 11, 2012 10:33:04 GMT -5
"I don't think that he thinks he "owns" your body or anythying, but I do think that some men sometimes get it in their head that women try to look good to please them, and they attach meaning to things that are meaningless.:"
Um, that IS thinking that he owns her body and body-image.
Post by runforrest on Jul 11, 2012 10:55:57 GMT -5
My H thinks I'm too thin.
I care a great deal about being thin and with my past/lingering issues (bulimia) with food, I have to be careful. I workout (run) almost every day and watch what I eat, and if I feel that my pants are getting a bit too tight, I freak out...a LOT. I also freak out if I have to jump to a bigger size.
I don't care how much other people weigh - it's just a personal issue/demon.