Can we do confessions?

[meltoine]

H has been saying lately that he wishes he'd stayed in finance instead of becoming a pilot. I've been thinking that since the beginning of UPT, but I feel like a bad/unsupportive wife since this was always his dream. We just don't fit in with the flying community.

[basilosaurus]

Jul 12, 2012 19:59:08 GMT -5 meltoine said:

H has been saying lately that he wishes he'd stayed in finance instead of becoming a pilot. I've been thinking that since the beginning of UPT, but I feel like a bad/unsupportive wife since this was always his dream. We just don't fit in with the flying community.

This might change depending on which plane he gets. The fighter community is vastly different from the various heavy communities, for instance. I really liked my time with the latter and hated the former.

[G22]

Since H had surgery, I feel so stinkin' horny and I just want to have sex. It sucks, because my libido is up and down. So I finally am having a good streak, and we can't do it. I can't wait til he is pain-free!

[Deleted]

I had to buy plan B.

[verycontrary247]

H is going to be underway for 3 months later this year and I'm already planning all the fun stuff I'm going to do while he's gone.

I never do anything while he's here because when he tags along he just complains/wants to leave early and ruins it for me.

[nsl]

I'm thisclose to selling my children to the circus. Oh, and I told H he's on his own with them Saturday morning. I'm going to the mall, where (I assume) no one will tell me I'm horrible, or that I never let them do ANYTHING, and I probably won't have to exile anybody to time out.

Full-time SAHM's, I salute you. It's been summer break for all of one month and I'm ready to go back to work. I could not do this year round.

[amaristella]

Jul 12, 2012 19:59:08 GMT -5 meltoine said:

H has been saying lately that he wishes he'd stayed in finance instead of becoming a pilot. I've been thinking that since the beginning of UPT, but I feel like a bad/unsupportive wife since this was always his dream. We just don't fit in with the flying community.

That is exactly why I keep telling DH to put down the lateral transfer app. He still thinks that flying is the only thing that will make him happy but I'm convinced that it's just not the right community for him in the long run. I always feel like a terrible person for telling him this but I feel it so strongly that I can't keep it to myself.

My confession is that I saw the movie Dirty Dancing for the first time tonight. The whole time I kept going back and forth between two thoughts:

"Gosh, he is kinda hot and I can see how teenage girls would eat this movie up"

and

"I wonder how many times a day guys who dance like that get boners and how the heck do they hide it in those pants!"

[meltoine]

Stan - I've been there. I think it's great that you love your life so much. As long as you realize that gloating over someone else's pain isn't the best thing to do, I see no problem. We all have that same first reaction.

Gumby - that stinks. I hope your H gets better soon

Mary - I feel you there. There have been a bunch of threads on MM and CPE the past few days about "OMG I don't know what I'd do if my H were gone for 2 weeks!" and all I can think is "my choice of take out, my tv shows, and a bed all to myself. Heaven!"

As for us - H drops tomorrow. I hope we fit in better once we actually get into a specific aircraft community. We know he's going heavies/tankers, which is good because we definitely don't mesh with the fighters. I just hope it gets better once we get more settled. I also think a lot of this has to do with anxiety surround drop itself.

[ilovelamp]

I miss my dogs back in GA more than I miss anyone in my family right now.

[verycontrary247]

Jul 12, 2012 23:49:11 GMT -5 meltoine said:

Mary - I feel you there. There have been a bunch of threads on MM and CPE the past few days about "OMG I don't know what I'd do if my H were gone for 2 weeks!" and all I can think is "my choice of take out, my tv shows, and a bed all to myself. Heaven!"

When we're at home we're typically on the same page. It's when I want to go out and do stuff that it goes downhill. Like last week we went to a concert together. He didn't want to dance, didn't want to go up to the front with me, then complained and wanted to leave early.

I enjoy spending time with him, but when it comes to bigger social functions he cramps my style.

[meltoine]

Jul 13, 2012 0:02:16 GMT -5 verycontrary247 said:

Jul 12, 2012 23:49:11 GMT -5 meltoine said:

Mary - I feel you there. There have been a bunch of threads on MM and CPE the past few days about "OMG I don't know what I'd do if my H were gone for 2 weeks!" and all I can think is "my choice of take out, my tv shows, and a bed all to myself. Heaven!"

When we're at home we're typically on the same page. It's when I want to go out and do stuff that it goes downhill. Like last week we went to a concert together. He didn't want to dance, didn't want to go up to the front with me, then complained and wanted to leave early.

I enjoy spending time with him, but when it comes to bigger social functions he cramps my style.

I hear you. MH doesn't like to drink really, and he hates concerts and crowds in general. He always wants to leave parties a half hour after we get there. Most times I don't mind, but sometimes I feel like, "well we paid for the babysitter, let's at least try to have a good time, yo!"

[pennylane]

I recently quit my full time job prior to my H getting back from deployment- the job was killing me. I was burnt out, and not getting paid enough to make it worth my while. Plus they were giving me a hard time about not knowing exactly when he was getting back and wanting to take time off for that and the leave block. So we discussed it and decided it was time for me to just be done.

The plan was for me to SAH for the summer since we have a lot going on, but now that I'm in the midst of it I'm having a bit of an identity crisis/getting annoyed at my H because I feel like I'm just his personal assistant.

[ilovelamp]

I'm so fucking sick and tired of being DHs alarm clock. He has an extremely hard time waking up and can be such a dick in the mornings when he's still half asleep. It's always "5 more minutes..." Listen fucker, this is my day to sleep in get your ass up!

(More of a vent but I'm pissed so...)

[kcd0531]

Maybe TMI, but I finally got cleared to have sex again and just in time for K's birthday. But it was so the last thing I wanted to do even though we haven't in many months. I'm just too gosh-darned tired, feeling so not sexy, and it was like forcing myself to get into it when all I could think was I am just not enjoying myself. At all. So glad he has drill and I get to not have to worry about it for a few more days.

[prettyinpink]

I'm sick of people telling us when to have a baby! I'm glad that your husband and my husband grew up together, but just because you are having a baby any day now doesn't mean we need to have one so they can be best friends just like their dads! UGH!!!
That was a vent more than a confession. Sorry.

[JakJak]

My confession is that I used our upcoming trip as an excuse to spend way too much money on new clothes whoops!

[misshark122]

I don't like working full time. I'm not a lazy person but I feel like full time work is too time consuming and as soon as a part time position opens up at my company (might be soon) I am going to try to switch. I dont have kids so I feel sort of lame for not wanting to be full time.

[G22]

Jul 13, 2012 13:56:42 GMT -5 misshark122 said:

I don't like working full time. I'm not a lazy person but I feel like full time work is too time consuming and as soon as a part time position opens up at my company (might be soon) I am going to try to switch. I dont have kids so I feel sort of lame for not wanting to be full time.

I feel the same way. Your not alone.

[misshark122]

Jul 13, 2012 14:01:06 GMT -5 G22 said:

Jul 13, 2012 13:56:42 GMT -5 misshark122 said:

I don't like working full time. I'm not a lazy person but I feel like full time work is too time consuming and as soon as a part time position opens up at my company (might be soon) I am going to try to switch. I dont have kids so I feel sort of lame for not wanting to be full time.

I feel the same way. Your not alone.

I also wanted to add that I'm 28 years old and I've never worked somewhere for a full year. So it's not like I have any reason to be tired of full time work.... Oh well!

[crimewatcher]

Jul 13, 2012 0:17:29 GMT -5 meltoine said:

Jul 13, 2012 0:02:16 GMT -5 verycontrary247 said:

When we're at home we're typically on the same page. It's when I want to go out and do stuff that it goes downhill. Like last week we went to a concert together. He didn't want to dance, didn't want to go up to the front with me, then complained and wanted to leave early.

I enjoy spending time with him, but when it comes to bigger social functions he cramps my style.

I hear you. MH doesn't like to drink really, and he hates concerts and crowds in general. He always wants to leave parties a half hour after we get there. Most times I don't mind, but sometimes I feel like, "well we paid for the babysitter, let's at least try to have a good time, yo!"

Idk how to PM on here but...

Mel I'm 99.99999% positive you will fit better when you get to his first flying base. I didn't go with H when he went to UPT. I visited several times so it wasn't that I hated Oklahoma but some of the people in H's class drove me nuts (based on the stories he would tell me). A lot of my annoyance came from the immaturity of most of them. I think there was only 1 lat trained guy in H's class; he was a Navigator (which made him the oldest) and was awesome. Once you get to your first flying base (granted he doesn't FAIP) you will have more people across rank, age and family status, therefore giving you more people to click with.

My H flies tankers- although it isn't the exact aircraft he wanted he is really enjoying himself. Except for the fact that he is never ever home I've been really happy with how it all worked out too. Good luck with assignment night it was dramatic and exciting for us. I hope he gets the aircraft he wants. If he does end up getting tankers please PM me and we can chat more.

[crimewatcher]

Jul 13, 2012 13:56:42 GMT -5 misshark122 said:

I don't like working full time. I'm not a lazy person but I feel like full time work is too time consuming and as soon as a part time position opens up at my company (might be soon) I am going to try to switch. I dont have kids so I feel sort of lame for not wanting to be full time.

I was the same. I've worked FT before but sometimes its not worth it. If you can survive/make it working PT then do it. Even working days I found it impossible to get my errands done.

Truth be told people do it all the time and with more extras but I'm not one of them.

[Deleted]

The first time I have a "real" confession and no one cares I had unprotected promiscuous sex!!!

::Stomps foot:: LOL.

[crimewatcher]

My Confession:

We planned to start TTC when H gets back from his next deployment. But I want to be pregnant now because I want a spring baby (for a bunch of reasons) and I don't want to wait another year to plan it that way. Well we just missed our last window as of yesterday. Now I'm hoping that H all of the sudden has super sperm and I'm pregnant right now. haha

[crimewatcher]

Jul 13, 2012 16:35:34 GMT -5 @lemonlover33 said:

The first time I have a "real" confession and no one cares I had unprotected promiscuous sex!!!

::Stomps foot:: LOL.

I hadn't gotten to yours yet. ... here is my awesomely thought out comment...

I take it you are back out on the market.


lol

[crimewatcher]

Ohh I have another one.. It's more of a I judge but I think it still works.

My confession is I judge the shit out of a guy in H's squad. He brags about being on WIC (not what I judge) but just bought a SECOND Great Dane (judgy part). Seriously dude.... you need 'help' feeding your family but can afford another large dog with expensive needs.

[Deleted]

Jul 13, 2012 16:42:49 GMT -5 crimewatcher said:

Jul 13, 2012 16:35:34 GMT -5 @lemonlover33 said:

The first time I have a "real" confession and no one cares I had unprotected promiscuous sex!!!

::Stomps foot:: LOL.

I hadn't gotten to yours yet. ... here is my awesomely thought out comment...

I take it you are back out on the market.


lol

Sort of. It was with a friend. I'm still not ready to date for real. It was a "Knocked up" situation. He was struggling to put the condom on and I was just like "It's okay" meaning that's fine it's taking you a million years to put a condom on NOT don't wear one. I was horrified.
I mean, condoms confuse me too. I can never tell which way they go on. I usually can feel condoms but I guess I wasn't paying attention to that. I feel slutty.

[crimewatcher]

Jul 13, 2012 17:37:20 GMT -5 @lemonlover33 said:

Jul 13, 2012 16:42:49 GMT -5 crimewatcher said:

I hadn't gotten to yours yet. ... here is my awesomely thought out comment...

I take it you are back out on the market.


lol

Sort of. It was with a friend. I'm still not ready to date for real. It was a "Knocked up" situation. He was struggling to put the condom on and I was just like "It's okay" meaning that's fine it's taking you a million years to put a condom on NOT don't wear one. I was horrified.
I mean, condoms confuse me too. I can never tell which way they go on. I usually can feel condoms but I guess I wasn't paying attention to that. I feel slutty.

ha don't beat yourself up. It's only slutty if it's a nightly pattern with different men.

TBH only knowing part of your story with your XH I can see why you are not ready to date yet.

[Smurfette]

Jul 13, 2012 18:13:37 GMT -5 crimewatcher said:

Jul 13, 2012 17:37:20 GMT -5 @lemonlover33 said:

Sort of. It was with a friend. I'm still not ready to date for real. It was a "Knocked up" situation. He was struggling to put the condom on and I was just like "It's okay" meaning that's fine it's taking you a million years to put a condom on NOT don't wear one. I was horrified.
I mean, condoms confuse me too. I can never tell which way they go on. I usually can feel condoms but I guess I wasn't paying attention to that. I feel slutty.

ha don't beat yourself up. It's only slutty if it's a nightly pattern with different men.

This^^. I see nothing wrong with a young woman having fun with a friend. You took precaution and thats what matters most, right?

[G22]

Jul 13, 2012 14:07:54 GMT -5 misshark122 said:

Jul 13, 2012 14:01:06 GMT -5 G22 said:

I feel the same way. Your not alone.

I also wanted to add that I'm 28 years old and I've never worked somewhere for a full year. So it's not like I have any reason to be tired of full time work.... Oh well!

I've worked FT and PT and I prefer PT much more. FT isn't for everyone, and I am one of those people. For now I do it, but will love the day when I switch to PT.

[poppet]

I actually have one!

Before DH left for deployment we figured out exactly how much his paychecks should be while gone and set up our budget accordingly to hit our financial goals for the year.

Well shortly after he left he went from 8yrs in to 9yrs which upped his base pay. I haven't told DH this yet (he never looks at MyPay or our account) and instead of doing something smart with the money I've been cheering myself up by spending the extra $ on myself and things I've been wanting for awhile.

I should feel guilty (although DH probably wouldn't care at all)....but instead I am looking forward to my prenatal massage and new travel luggage this month!