PEOPLE. They are throwing it for themselves and asking for gifts! This isn't tacky anymore? It doesn't get a side eye? What is the world coming to?!? Lol.
I always bring gifts when I meet a new baby. Always. In fact, I'm meeting a friend's granddaughter tonight and have a few outfits to bring. And if someone else wants to throw a little party, great. But you don't throw yourself one and ask for presents!
It gets an eyeroll, a "no" RSVP, and then a move the fuck on.
Frankly, the whole "ew, ew, ewww" of your OP is just as gross and tacky as the shower.
I'm expecting my 3rd. I need to buy a few things. If I make myself a registry only to get a completion coupon is that acceptable?
I registered for my fourth, for the coupon/discount. I didn't share the registry. Surprise baby after I had given all my stuff away - yup needed as much discount as possible.
I don't mind showers/sprinkles for second, third, children etc. If they demand new cribs, gear for each child - that is on them. But I would love to give them something they could use - clothes, diapers, bottles, care stuff, etc
I am having a sprinkle for my sister this Sunday. On the invite I specifically did not use the word shower or sprinkle, I just called it a luncheon. People keep asking me where she is registered, it is taking all I have in me not to text back "she isn't because she isn't tacky tyvm". After all of this I am still scared you may be talking about me LOL.
It's tacky for people to want to celebrate the new baby with a gift? (huh)
If she was e-blasting a registry THAT would be tacky....this is not.
Of course not. But a shower isn't a welcome baby party, it's a welcome to the mommy-tribe party for the expectant mother. It;s a bit like losing your virginity, once you're a mom- you're a mom.
It's tacky to solicit. It's outright rude to throw your own gift-giving event.
I always buy my friends a baby gift of some sort for the birth unless I will be invited to celebrate a baptism, baby naming or bris with them soon after.
PEOPLE. They are throwing it for themselves and asking for gifts! This isn't tacky anymore? It doesn't get a side eye? What is the world coming to?!? Lol.
I always bring gifts when I meet a new baby. Always. In fact, I'm meeting a friend's granddaughter tonight and have a few outfits to bring. And if someone else wants to throw a little party, great. But you don't throw yourself one and ask for presents!
I thought it was being thrown by their parents not the actual mom who is expecting.
I don't think second showers are tacky, but throwing your own is.
I'm expecting my 3rd. I need to buy a few things. If I make myself a registry only to get a completion coupon is that acceptable?
are you really asking this?
Yes I am. Thanks for asking.
I didn't someone to somehow find it and think I'm gift digging. I just would like a discount since I need to buy a new stupid infant seat since mine is perfectly fine yet 5 years old and expired.
She is talking about a totally different "luncheon" that she is throwing for someone and being snarky at guests asking where they can find a registry for the baby.
PEOPLE. They are throwing it for themselves and asking for gifts! This isn't tacky anymore? It doesn't get a side eye? What is the world coming to?!? Lol.
I always bring gifts when I meet a new baby. Always. In fact, I'm meeting a friend's granddaughter tonight and have a few outfits to bring. And if someone else wants to throw a little party, great. But you don't throw yourself one and ask for presents!
Okay? Maybe I need more coffee or yput OP was not very clear. I thought I read the "sprinkle" is being thrown by their parents aka the kid's grandparents.
But yeah, I'm still on the 2nd or 10th shower = not tacky. Throwing your own = HELLA TACKY.
PEOPLE. They are throwing it for themselves and asking for gifts! This isn't tacky anymore? It doesn't get a side eye? What is the world coming to?!? Lol.
I always bring gifts when I meet a new baby. Always. In fact, I'm meeting a friend's granddaughter tonight and have a few outfits to bring. And if someone else wants to throw a little party, great. But you don't throw yourself one and ask for presents!
I read the parents as the parents of the guest of honor.
Of course not. But a shower isn't a welcome baby party, it's a welcome to the mommy-tribe party for the expectant mother. It;s a bit like losing your virginity, once you're a mom- you're a mom.
It's tacky to solicit. It's outright rude to throw your own gift-giving event.
I always buy my friends a baby gift of some sort for the birth unless I will be invited to celebrate a baptism, baby naming or bris with them soon after.
Whut? Violet isn't the OP.
She is talking about a totally different "luncheon" that she is throwing for someone and being snarky at guests asking where they can find a registry for the baby.
At least tag me if you are going to be a bitch. I was just kidding about texting back in fact everyone who has asked about if she is registered I say she is not but that I know she needs diapers if they want to get her something. Is that an okay response? Would you like to send me your number so I can run all my communications by you to make sure I am responding "appropriately"?
Eh, I say all babies deserve a shower or sprinkle (which is a dumb name) or whatever. I'm happy to get what the parents need, and I'm happy to celebrate every child with them.
Tacky or not, don't invite me to a baby shower/sprinkle without a registry. It's so much easier for me to go online, pick out exactly what you want and be done with it.
At least tag me if you are going to be a bitch. I was just kidding about texting back in fact everyone who has asked about if she is registered I say she is not but that I know she needs diapers if they want to get her something. Is that an okay response? Would you like to send me your number so I can run all my communications by you to make sure I am responding "appropriately"?
I think we all realize you aren't actually texting that back. It's the fact that you're throwing what YOU called a "sprinkle" and that you know that some guests will bring gifts, but then you're getting pissy because they dare to ask where she's registered.
There is nothing wrong w/ her being registered, for one, and secondly, they aren't committing any social faux pas by asking what is actually a very simple question.
Post by adhdfashion on May 13, 2014 13:09:34 GMT -5
My Mom threw me a Sprinkle. Much to my protest and you bitches told me to shut up. Be grateful for my family loving me. It was nice, my mom is an amazing cook. People brought diapers, hair bows and ridiculous girly fluff. Because I didn't actually need anything. Everyone left with a bouquet of fresh flowers and chocolate dipped strawberries.
Post by definitelyO on May 13, 2014 13:56:28 GMT -5
I hosted a sprinkle for my friend's 2nd child - 6 years ago... but specifically said NO GIFTS - it was really just to get together with the mom-to-be and celebrate the new baby. I don't see anything wrong with that.
but any time you specifically ask for money that's tacky to me.
So having a baby shower after baby number one is tacky? I seriously didn't know this. Actually I went to one for H's cousin who was on baby #3 and it was her first girl. Oh well.
Post by sailorgray on May 13, 2014 14:04:53 GMT -5
I love babies, hanging out with friends/strangers and eating cake, so I'd be all about a sprinkle. I also see nothing wrong with celebrating another baby.
The only time I rolled my eyes was when my H's very well-off cousins had one for the 3rd. Is was a full blown shower with registry. She said they needed to have one because they SOLD everything. She bragged that they got a lot of money for what they sold, too. It just rubbed me the wrong way.
So having a baby shower after baby number one is tacky? I seriously didn't know this. Actually I went to one for H's cousin who was on baby #3 and it was her first girl. Oh well.
Yes. As is the mother or sister of the mother-to-be hosting the baby shower (first or any) since it will look like she is soliciting gifts.
ETA: A "meet the baby" open house or drop-in is more appropriate for 2nd+ babies.
So having a baby shower after baby number one is tacky? I seriously didn't know this. Actually I went to one for H's cousin who was on baby #3 and it was her first girl. Oh well.
Yes. As is the mother or sister of the mother-to-be hosting the baby shower (first or any) since it will look like she is soliciting gifts.
ETA: A "meet the baby" open house or drop-in is more appropriate for 2nd+ babies.
What about MIL's hosting? Cause I wouldn't really have anyone else who could host it other than my mom or sister. Sad panda
Yes. As is the mother or sister of the mother-to-be hosting the baby shower (first or any) since it will look like she is soliciting gifts.
ETA: A "meet the baby" open house or drop-in is more appropriate for 2nd+ babies.
WAIT, HOLD UP!
So a mother and sisters shouldn't be hosting a shower for their own family member?
Who "should" be doing it then?
This is ridiculous.
Anyone except your mom or your sister? Don't you have friends? This particular rule of etiquette has relaxed in recent years but yes, showers hosted by immediate family members are a no no.
So a mother and sisters shouldn't be hosting a shower for their own family member?
Who "should" be doing it then?
This is ridiculous.
Anyone except your mom or your sister? Don't you have friends? This particular rule of etiquette has relaxed in recent years but yes, showers hosted by immediate family members are a no no.
See, I think this is BS. EVERY shower (baby AND wedding) I have ever attended was thrown by the Mom's or Bride's mother or sister. Showers ARE gift grabs. And IDGAF who's throwing it. I'm there to celebrate the guest of honor (and if I'm in the wedding and the MOB wants to throw the shower, I'm ALL for it!)
And I'm sad that people don't want to celebrate subsequent babies and it's not just because I was the second born!