We've been invited to a sprinkle

[Bernadine]

Not a shower, because they already have a kid. A sprinkle, specifically for diapers and gift cards, as noted on the invite. Hosted by...the parents. We just got the invite like 2 days ago. Sprinkle is Sunday. Mom-to-be just texted J to ask if we're coming. Ew, ew, ew. I'm dying at the tacky. Luckily, we have plans that day.

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[kimmyo73]

I got invited to my cousin's shower (full on shower) for the 3rd kid but first girl.  I think this is incredibly tacky.  Supposedly her mom is throwing the shower but my cousin is the one that posted the FB invite.  I would love to go and see everyone but I just hate the idea that they think this is okay.  

[VeryViolet]

I am having a sprinkle for my sister this Sunday. On the invite I specifically did not use the word shower or sprinkle, I just called it a luncheon. People keep asking me where she is registered, it is taking all I have in me not to text back "she isn't because she isn't tacky tyvm". After all of this I am still scared you may be talking about me LOL.

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Ugh.

[Bernadine]

May 13, 2014 9:35:54 GMT -5 VeryViolet said:

I am having a sprinkle for my sister this Sunday. On the invite I specifically did not use the word shower or sprinkle, I just called it a luncheon. People keep asking me where she is registered, it is taking all I have in me not to text back "she isn't because she isn't tacky tyvm". After all of this I am still scared you may be talking about me LOL.

Lol, no, the invite specifically said sprinkle and specifically asked for diapers and gift cards.

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[no0b]

SIL has had two sprinkles now. FWIW, they were not thrown by her and she did not want them so I felt less "ugh" about it. Plus, she needed clothes for the opposite sex for her last one.

[lightyears]

lol at "sprinkle."

j's friends do the diaper party thing. i have never heard of this.

[Jalapeñomel]

Eh, I say all babies deserve a shower or sprinkle (which is a dumb name) or whatever. I'm happy to get what the parents need, and I'm happy to celebrate every child with them.

[firedancer49]

May 13, 2014 9:35:54 GMT -5 VeryViolet said:

I am having a sprinkle for my sister this Sunday. On the invite I specifically did not use the word shower or sprinkle, I just called it a luncheon. People keep asking me where she is registered, it is taking all I have in me not to text back "she isn't because she isn't tacky tyvm". After all of this I am still scared you may be talking about me LOL.

So my question is, why are you even having it and disguising it as a luncheon if you think it's tacky? 

[ProfessorArtNerd]

Flame full: I hope someone plans something for us if project baby in 2015 works out for us. But Lucy will be nearly seven, maybe that mitigates the tacky? Whatever, I like presents!

[no0b]

May 13, 2014 9:39:16 GMT -5 Jalapeñomel said:

Eh, I say all babies deserve a shower or sprinkle (which is a dumb name) or whatever. I'm happy to get what the parents need, and I'm happy to celebrate every child with them.

This is true.  I think everyone that attended SILs multiple sprinkles would have bought plenty of gifts and clothes for the babies even if there wasn't the added "pressure" (I use that term loosely) of attending a sprinkle. 

[ECB]

May 13, 2014 9:35:54 GMT -5 VeryViolet said:

I am having a sprinkle for my sister this Sunday. On the invite I specifically did not use the word shower or sprinkle, I just called it a luncheon. People keep asking me where she is registered, it is taking all I have in me not to text back "she isn't because she isn't tacky tyvm". After all of this I am still scared you may be talking about me LOL.

I don't see how being registered in and of itself is "tacky".  And yea... as you are referring to it as a sprinkle, that tells me that you are actually expecting people to bring gifts.  But then when they ask if she's registered so that they KNOW what it is she wants... you want to call THEM out? 

I'm confused.

I don't care that you want ot have a celebratory lunch for your sister.  But the rest of it - huh?

[VeryViolet]

May 13, 2014 9:38:22 GMT -5 AutumnRose25 said:

May 13, 2014 9:35:54 GMT -5 VeryViolet said:

I am having a sprinkle for my sister this Sunday. On the invite I specifically did not use the word shower or sprinkle, I just called it a luncheon. People keep asking me where she is registered, it is taking all I have in me not to text back "she isn't because she isn't tacky tyvm". After all of this I am still scared you may be talking about me LOL.

It's tacky for people to want to celebrate the new baby with a gift?  (huh)

If she was e-blasting a registry THAT would be tacky....this is not.

No but full on registering for your second baby is kind of tacky. I actually told her to register for the discount but she didn't want to do that and have people find it.

[Deleted]

Maybe I'm just getting tackier, but I don't really get ragey about this anymore. Just don't go. I'd eyeroll that they're hosting their own event and move on.

I wouldn't side eye a friend for having a sprinkle or shower for a second baby. I get that it's not proper, but I'm not the fucking Queen of England. Second babies need random shit too!

[VeryViolet]

May 13, 2014 9:40:25 GMT -5 firedancer49 said:

May 13, 2014 9:35:54 GMT -5 VeryViolet said:

I am having a sprinkle for my sister this Sunday. On the invite I specifically did not use the word shower or sprinkle, I just called it a luncheon. People keep asking me where she is registered, it is taking all I have in me not to text back "she isn't because she isn't tacky tyvm". After all of this I am still scared you may be talking about me LOL.

So my question is, why are you even having it and disguising it as a luncheon if you think it's tacky? 

May 13, 2014 9:43:38 GMT -5 ECB said:

May 13, 2014 9:35:54 GMT -5 VeryViolet said:

I am having a sprinkle for my sister this Sunday. On the invite I specifically did not use the word shower or sprinkle, I just called it a luncheon. People keep asking me where she is registered, it is taking all I have in me not to text back "she isn't because she isn't tacky tyvm". After all of this I am still scared you may be talking about me LOL.

I don't see how being registered in and of itself is "tacky".  And yea... as you are referring to it as a sprinkle, that tells me that you are actually expecting people to bring gifts.  But then when they ask if she's registered so that they KNOW what it is she wants... you want to call THEM out? 

I'm confused.

I don't care that you want ot have a celebratory lunch for your sister.  But the rest of it - huh?

I was just calling it a sprinkle in my post because it is her second baby. I am having a lunch to celebrate, people will probably bring gifts but they don't have to. I am not trying to disguise a gift grab as a lunch. I really just wanted to have a celebratory thing for her because she has had a shitty few months and new babies are always a reason to celebrate. With second kids I am terrified every move I make is being perceived as tacky that is all I was trying to say. 

[tigress]

On this tacky note.

I'm expecting my 3rd. I need to buy a few things. If I make myself a registry only to get a completion coupon is that acceptable?

[ECB]

May 13, 2014 9:47:16 GMT -5 tigress said:

On this tacky note.

I'm expecting my 3rd. I need to buy a few things. If I make myself a registry only to get a completion coupon is that acceptable?

No, it's not.  The creation of a registry means absolutely nothing to anyone but you.  Whatever the reasons you make it- it's JUSt a registry.

Now- if you go on FB and post "Hey everyone!  I'm registered" - THAT is tacky.

As long as you don't draw anyone's attention to it, have at it!

[miss.colorado]

May 13, 2014 9:48:59 GMT -5 ECB said:

May 13, 2014 9:47:16 GMT -5 tigress said:

On this tacky note.

I'm expecting my 3rd. I need to buy a few things. If I make myself a registry only to get a completion coupon is that acceptable?

No, it's not.  The creation of a registry means absolutely nothing to anyone but you.  Whatever the reasons you make it- it's JUSt a registry.

Now- if you go on FB and post "Hey everyone!  I'm registered" - THAT is tacky.

As long as you don't draw anyone's attention to it, have at it!

This exactly. 

[VeryViolet]

May 13, 2014 9:50:34 GMT -5 freedom said:

May 13, 2014 9:46:54 GMT -5 VeryViolet said:

I was just calling it a sprinkle in my post because it is her second baby. I am having a lunch to celebrate, people will probably bring gifts but they don't have to. I am not trying to disguise a gift grab as a lunch. I really just wanted to have a celebratory thing for her because she has had a shitty few months and new babies are always a reason to celebrate. With second kids I am terrified every move I make is being perceived as tacky that is all I was trying to say. 

If this were the case why not have it after the baby is born? I honestly don't Care about 2nd or 3rd showers or sprinkles. I only bring it up.because you are so terrified of tackyness

Am I seriously about to be flamed about being scared of being tacky? I am actually laughing that everyone is taking an off the cuff comment I made so seriously. Like sands through the hourglass, so are the days of ML. 

[Deleted]

I'm okay with sprinkles. I don't think you should throw your own.

Call it a "sip and see" and hope for gifts.

[statlerwaldorf]

May 13, 2014 9:47:16 GMT -5 tigress said:

On this tacky note.

I'm expecting my 3rd. I need to buy a few things. If I make myself a registry only to get a completion coupon is that acceptable?

Amazon and Target have an option to make your registry private. But even if it's not private, I don't think it's tacky.

[Champagne Supernova]

Sprinkle? LMFAO.

People are so fucking cute nowadays with their cutesy names and shit.

[wannabe]

May 13, 2014 9:55:30 GMT -5 Lucy Honeychurch said:

I registered for my second baby. Tacky, right here. And I don't give a tinker's damn.

Yeah, me too. Granted, my first kid was 12 at the time. I gave less than zero fucks.

[rex]

May 13, 2014 9:40:57 GMT -5 ProfessorArtNerd said:

Flame full: I hope someone plans something for us if project baby in 2015 works out for us. But Lucy will be nearly seven, maybe that mitigates the tacky? Whatever, I like presents!

if someone plans it for you then i do not consider it tacky.

planning your own is rude!

[jaylea]

My reaction to these things is pretty much always determined by whether I like the person or not.

Friend of mine? Wouldn't bat an eye. Someone annoying? Tacky as hell!

My family doesn't do second baby showers. I was kind of bummed since I've been invited to a bunch since I had DS, but I didn't judge anyone. It's probably nice to get new stuff for a new baby!

[pantsparty]

I probably wouldn't go to a sprinkle, but I usually give close friends a gift when meeting the baby for the first time.

[Champagne Supernova]

And honestly, I don't have an issue with showers for the 2nd, 3rd or even 10th baby but shit, just call it a damn shower and don't be all cute about it.

New babies always need new shit, yo.

[Bernadine]

PEOPLE. They are throwing it for themselves and asking for gifts!  This isn't tacky anymore?  It doesn't get a side eye?  What is the world coming to?!?  Lol.

I always bring gifts when I meet a new baby. Always. In fact, I'm meeting a friend's granddaughter tonight and have a few outfits to bring. And if someone else wants to throw a little party, great. But you don't throw yourself one and ask for presents!

[sergey]

There are many shades of tacky from 'eh, that's tacky but whatever' to 'damn those people have some nerve' tacky. The party in the OP falls solidly in the latter category.

[ECB]

May 13, 2014 9:59:38 GMT -5 jaylea said:

My reaction to these things is pretty much always determined by whether I like the person or not.

Friend of mine? Wouldn't bat an eye. Someone annoying? Tacky as hell!

For me, my reaction is based on the motive behind the shower.

As in, the only 2nd showers I've been invited to were 100% the idea of someone else, not the MTB.  In one case, the MTB didn't want it but only went along with it because she knew she'd SO upset her mom to not have it. 

This, whatevs.

But when a shower for a 2nd/3rd/etc kid is thrown because "but I NEED stuff for my baby!", that's where I become judgey.  While I like to celebrate babies and always give a small gift, it's not MY choice that YOU'RE having a kid.  You NEED stuff?  Well good, go out and buy it!  But don't start expecting me to buy stuff for you.

That's what is it for me - the expectation. 

At least I only see the 2nd scenario come about in various on-line forums.  no one I know personally has ever acted like that.