Stolen from MM- wedding gift poll

[hbear]

Do you remember who did not give you a gift for your wedding?

How about no-shows after RSVPing yes?


I actually do remember, 2 1/2 years later. I wouldn't have minded no gift, except these 2 people actually brought it up. One was my Uncle, who made a point to tell me he forgot the card at home and would send it in the mail after. Never received it.

Also, DH's boss- he outright said he would wait until our 1 year anniversary just in case we got divorced. Ok, fine. Well our anniversary came and went, and no gift from him.

IMO, no gift is necessary, but don't make a big deal out of it! Also, I always felt that even an empty card would have been nice, just to acknowledge the fact that we were just married.

[Deleted]

I remember who the no shows were after RSVPing yes and I remember what their excuses, er, reasons were.

The one that pissed me off the most is a girl who's wedding I was in and did a lot for money wise and time wise. I didn't expect a gift or anything, I just wanted them to be there. I was even allowing her to bring her daughter because of lack of a babysitter. They just forgot because they were packing to move. (mind you, the move wasn't soon, either. It was two and a half months away.)

[RBL]

Yep.

No one and no one. We had a really small wedding (20 people including me and DH).

[iamgrace]

Yes. We had a smallish wedding. Do I care? Not in the slightest.

No one RSVPed yes and didn't come.

[leeann]

We had a super small destination wedding - so we got no gifts (Well, none really. One close friend got us a gift and my parents gave us an envelope) and we had no issues with RSVP's/No-shows

[janegold]

Yes, I do.

[rupertpenny]

We had a lot (about 10) of people RSVP yes and not show up (none were hospitalized). I will probably continue to be annoyed by this for a while.

The no gift thing doesn't bother me much, but I do remember. And I have it all in a spread sheet for thank you note purposes so I will probably never forget.

[manzer1979]

DH and I got married in Vegas with about 15 people. We had a reception when we got home and apparently Dh's grandma told her entire side of the family that they didn't need to get us a gift because she paid for 1/2 the reception. Not only did his aunt/uncles and grown cousins not get us a gift, they didn't even get a card. I didn't even care so much about the gift but you can't even give us a card?! It's not like I would forget you attended, there were only about 50 people there. It's been almost 4 years and still makes me a little angry when I think of it.

Of course 2 of his cousins have been married since and we gave them a card and $$.

[mrsjuleshs]

No shows I do rememember but who did/didn't give a gift, no.

[melindafelinda]

I'm more annoyed by the family of 5 who came and gave us $10. I just feel like it's intentionally being a dick.

[Mrs.Beagle]

I do, but I was just looking at the list recently.

I mostly remember whose check bounced.

ETA: I was also married 8 months ago.

[Deleted]

I used to remember but now we have been married so long that I can't remember who really gave me what.

I do feel bad though about accidentally not inviting DH's boss and co-workers. The invitations fell down the passenger seat of my car when I went to mail them and some how ended up under the passenger seat. I didn't notice until months later. I felt horrible.

[caitlinbree]

Yes. Only because out of our 4 siblings only one gave us a "gift" (an old desk that we have never had room for, which I thanked her for and let her know we couldn't take it).

[revolution]

Jul 19, 2012 11:57:27 GMT -5 melindafelinda said:

I'm more annoyed by the family of 5 who came and gave us $10. I just feel like it's intentionally being a dick.

YES! although ours was a sponge for cleaning a george foreman grill.

weird.

BUt, yes, I remember details of way too many things and the no shows/no gifts thing I remember easily.

[Jalapeñomel]

No. I don't even think I would've noticed if someone didn't give me a gift even the day of.

[cbwm1]

I remember the no-shows, but I don't remember who didn't give a gift (if there was anyone?).

[kellbell191]

I don't really remember who didn't send gifts. I remember a few people who acted like dicks.
DH's aunt RSVP'd for her nieces then didn't bring them.
DH's friend brought his Dad uninvited
DH's cousin and coworker got into a fistfight
One of my friend's poured beer on someone and another friend slapped her.

I avoid the second half of these people like the fucking plague.

[pantsparty]

I remember a few. My brothers, who never gave me a gift (although 2 did eventually). And one of my aunts, who brought my grandma + her caregiver, my uncle, 5 kids + a date for one of her kids...and gave us $100. This was the aunt we later found out was taking approximately $6,000 per month, on top of expenses, as payment to herself for taking care of my grandma.

My mom was actually furious by some of the amounts that her side of the family gave us, but almost everyone had to travel, so eh.

[Deleted]

I only remember who "no-gifted" because I wrote out really personal thank you's.

Only one person RSVP-ed "yes" and didn't show, and he got sick the day of. No big deal.

[lightbulbsun]

I know there were a few people who didn't get us anything, but I can't really remember who they were at this point.

We didn't have any no-shows. We did have someone call a few days before to say they couldn't make it, but they were on H's side and I don't remember who they were, either.

[hbear]

Jul 19, 2012 11:57:27 GMT -5 melindafelinda said:

I'm more annoyed by the family of 5 who came and gave us $10. I just feel like it's intentionally being a dick.

Yeah, that's weird. I think an empty card with Congrats! would have been nicer. For real.

[iamali]

I only remember who RSVP'ed yes and didn't show up.

That was a lot of money to throw away.

[exploding people]

One of my brothers didn't show. So, that I remember. There are a few others too.

As for gifts, I don't remember.

[loveday]

Everyone came that RSVPed, but we only had 45 people. I didn't really care about gifts too much, I think we got something from everyone.

[Deleted]

Everyone invited to the wedding gave us a gift.

Everyone who RSVP'd yes came as scheduled.

[jssymom14]

Don't remember RSVP but I sure remember the check from one of dh's groomsmen that bounced

[sneetch]

We didn't have any no shows. I do remember that my cousin and her boyfriend came and didn't bring a gift or even a card, and it bothered me because I do not really like my cousin to begin with.

[Jermys]

I do remember that the check from H's aunt and uncle bounced. And my brother and SIL didn't give a gift.

[wildorchid363]

Jul 19, 2012 11:44:09 GMT -5 hbear said:

Do you remember who did not give you a gift for your wedding?

How about no-shows after RSVPing yes?

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Gifts- I didn't really track gifts beyond writing thank you cards.

Honestly, I couldn't care less if someone came to the wedding and didn't bring a gift. For me the important part of the day was marrying my husband and having our friends and family there to share the day.



No Shows- didn't have any

[amberlyrose]

I remember the people who no-showed. We had a few.. or the ones who said they were bringing dates and didn't.

Oh, also BIL who was asked to be best man, didn't do ANYTHING for DH beforehand and wouldn't confirm until the week of that he was still going to show up. DH picked another guy to stand in just in case and the BIL showed up at the rehearsal. He also told us at the rehearsal that him + family weren't going to the reception, and then they showed up. Since we had a few no-shows it wasn't a big deal until he got mad about where we sat him (at the groomsmen table instead of immediate family table) and they left before dinner was served.

Also, I pretty much blame BIL for making my wedding miserable. DH and SIL were so upset at his attitude and actions, we were on pins and needles about the whole thing. It was basically the point in DH's family that they "broke up." Great memory.