So I'm due Sept 22 for this baby boy. I'm having a scheduled c-section due to suffering a 4th degree tear with DD2.
I am able to schedule it anytime the week of September 15 when I'm 39 weeks. One thing I have been thinking about is that kindergarten cutoff date is September 15. I know he would be super young for that grade if we did decide to put him in, but I think it would be nice to have the choice if he was honestly ready.
Should I try to get scheduled for that Monday? Is it worth it? Otherwise I would probably wait until Thursday or Friday of that week.
I scheduled mine for as late as possible, I wanted the baby to be in there as long as they could stay and was hoping to go into labor both times on my own, so I say wait until Thursday/ Friday
Hm, I would probably wait until Thursday or Friday, closest to your due date. That's not considering the school thing, just a maternal/natal health thing.
I'm in the "keep him in as long as possible" camp so I'm of no help. Really, though, are you sure you want a kg cutoff date to determine your kid's birthday? Weird.
I'm in the "keep him in as long as possible" camp so I'm of no help. Really, though, are you sure you want a kg cutoff date to determine your kid's birthday? Weird.
Well I'm thinking ahead. If he's 4 and in the situation where hmmm he's pretty smart. Everyone says he'd fine in kindergarten but oh shoot his birthday is 2 days late and now I have to pay another year of daycare. That would kind of suck. At least I would have the option if he was ready.
I'm in the "keep him in as long as possible" camp so I'm of no help. Really, though, are you sure you want a kg cutoff date to determine your kid's birthday? Weird.
I do t think it's that weird. I had an early Sept due date and the k cut off was definitely on my mind.
Anyway, I would still err on the side of scheduling a cs as late as possible.
Wait as long as possible. Babies are still developing each day they're in the womb. If they have to come earlier due to medical reasons, that's one thing, but if you kind of have the choice, keep baby cook in' as long as possible.
As far as KG, I'd lean towards holding back a boy born within a week or two of the cutoff date (or more, depending on the child) anyway.
I'd schedule for the last day possible. One, I'd want to keep the baby in, two, I like my boys being some of the oldest in their class. They're both October babies.
Wait as long as possible. Babies are still developing each day they're in the womb. If they have to come earlier due to medical reasons, that's one thing, but if you kind of have the choice, keep baby cook in' as long as possible.
As far as KG, I'd lean towards holding back a boy born within a week or two of the cutoff date (or more, depending on the child) anyway.
I realize that. I know there is a good chance I would hold him back anyways even if he made the cut off. But having that be my decision would be nice.
I'm in the "keep him in as long as possible" camp so I'm of no help. Really, though, are you sure you want a kg cutoff date to determine your kid's birthday? Weird.
Well I'm thinking ahead. If he's 4 and in the situation where hmmm he's pretty smart. Everyone says he'd fine in kindergarten but oh shoot his birthday is 2 days late and now I have to pay another year of daycare. That would kind of suck. At least I would have the option if he was ready.
Is this your first? Because I feel like you're not thinking rationally about birthing a baby.
Have your other babies come early? This would play into my decision too. If I am having a c section regardless I would like to avoid going into labor on my own.
Ok ok fine . I had talked to my H about the kindergarten thing a while back. And he felt we should go for 9/15. But then I decided I didn't care and was going to aim for like 9/19. But yesterday at the doctor they said I could schedule it whenever so when I talked about it he brought it up again and got me thinking.
Have your other babies come early? This would play into my decision too. If I am having a c section regardless I would like to avoid going into labor on my own.
I choose close to the weekend because it makes it easier for kid coverage, husband having time off etc.
Also I always get sensitive about the "leave the kid in as long as possible thing" because I never got to do that both times.
Hell I couldn't even make it to 39 weeks. Your baby should be nice and cooked. Pick a date that would be easy for you family. 39 weeks of pregnancy is great and you are doing a great job.
Wait as long as possible. Babies are still developing each day they're in the womb. If they have to come earlier due to medical reasons, that's one thing, but if you kind of have the choice, keep baby cook in' as long as possible.
As far as KG, I'd lean towards holding back a boy born within a week or two of the cutoff date (or more, depending on the child) anyway.
I realize that. I know there is a good chance I would hold him back anyways even if he made the cut off. But having that be my decision would be nice.
But I do know its good to keep them in longer.
Maybe think of it this way...you're guaranteed that his lungs will continue developing I. The womb. Are you willing to take that away for the *chance* that he *might* be ready for KG early? (Even though, statistically speaking, boys are less ready to go early than girls?).
Cut-off dates can change over time. And, if you ever have to/choose to move, there's no telling what the date may be!
Well I'm thinking ahead. If he's 4 and in the situation where hmmm he's pretty smart. Everyone says he'd fine in kindergarten but oh shoot his birthday is 2 days late and now I have to pay another year of daycare. That would kind of suck. At least I would have the option if he was ready.
Is this your first? Because I feel like you're not thinking rationally about birthing a baby.
No its my 3rd. I'm dealing with all sorts of getting ready for kindergarten stuff right now which is probably why I even thought of this. Kindergarten cut off hadn't even crossed my mind until I saw something about it while looking at stuff for my DD1.
It would be a 1-3 day difference of gestation. I understand keeping them in longer is great. Its not like I'm trying to have this baby at 35 weeks.
I totally understand thinking about that! If it was your first you wouldn't, but seeing as you already have kids, stuff like that enters your mind. I think September 15 is a really late cutoff though. Ours is August 1, and I still don't know what I'll do with DS and his birthday is July 2.
You never know if you'll move in the next 5 years to a different school district that has a different date. I wouldn't choose the date based on that. Again, though I get taking it into consideration.
Hell, I chose DS's birthdate (repeat C-section) b/c our friends always have a party on July 3rd and I wanted his birthday to be his own special day. Let the flames begin!
Post by rupertpenny on Jul 24, 2014 7:58:51 GMT -5
I feel like people are kind of being assholes to tigress. I think kindergarten cutoffs are not a small deal and although most of us don't have a choice in the matter, she does. There is absolutely nothing wrong with considering her options.
Having a baby early is also not a small deal, but it doesn't seem like she is disregarding that.
Have your other babies come early? This would play into my decision too. If I am having a c section regardless I would like to avoid going into labor on my own.
DD1 was 1 day late, DD2 was born on her due date.
In that case I would probably schedule it whatever day that week my doctor or the one I liked best would be there. I wouldn't worry too much about the cutoff. This probably sounds bad but I would probably be more worried if I was having a girl. My ds was born October 8 and cutoff here is September 30. I am glad I don't have to make a decision because statistically speaking even if he was born September 29 he probably won't be ready for K until he is 5.
ETA I am not trying to discount the benefits of cooking the baby for as long as possible but your doctor and ACOG say that 39 weeks is okay. Don't feel like an asshole for trying to plan something you actually have a say in around what works best for you, your other children, etc.
I totally understand thinking about that! If it was your first you wouldn't, but seeing as you already have kids, stuff like that enters your mind. I think September 15 is a really late cutoff though. Ours is August 1, and I still don't know what I'll do with DS and his birthday is July 2.
You never know if you'll move in the next 5 years to a different school district that has a different date. I wouldn't choose the date based on that. Again, though I get taking it into consideration.
Hell, I chose DS's birthdate (repeat C-section) b/c our friends always have a party on July 3rd and I wanted his birthday to be his own special day. Let the flames begin!
Thanks, because apparently I'm crazy to think of such things lol.
Tigress I have a June kid and I am already thinking about what I would do. If we are being honest, I would rather not have the choice to send early. I think it kind of sucks being in this position. Jack was a December baby and that was easy because I didn't have a choice.
Soooo, with the K stuff I would pick after the cut off date and then you don't have to second guess yourself. He will be barely 6 which IMO is the perfect age to start K.
In that case I would probably schedule it whatever day that week my doctor or the one I liked best would be there. I wouldn't worry too much about the cutoff. This probably sounds bad but I would probably be more worried if I was having a girl. My ds was born October 8 and cutoff here is September 30. I am glad I don't have to make a decision because statistically speaking even if he was born September 29 he probably won't be ready for K until he is 5.
True, I know most boys mature a little later. I have girls, and very verbal ones at that. DD1 would have been ready had this been her, she is a smarty pants and a super talker. But I know this one probably won't be the same.
I see where your're coming from and had similar thoughts. Though my EDD is 9/26 and our K cut off is 10/1, so it's not a matter of "how early" for us, just how late am I willing to go.
But one of the PPs mentioned childcare for your other kids being easier on the weekend. Is that true for you? Because my DD is in daycare during the week and that would actually be helpful for us as DH could spend the day with me in the hospital instead of relying on grandparents for so long during the day.
Tigress I have a June kid and I am already thinking about what I would do. If we are being honest, I would rather not have the choice to send early. I think it kind of sucks being in this position. Jack was a December baby and that was easy because I didn't have a choice.
Soooo, with the K stuff I would pick after the cut off date and then you don't have to second guess yourself. He will be barely 6 which IMO is the perfect age to start K.
DD is June, DS is July, our cutoff is Aug 1. My daycare asked me when DD was 3 when she'd be going to K. I was all "um, in a few years, leave me alone!" But once they hit 3, they move all the kids in August to the preschool room IF they're going to K in 2 years. They like to keep them together. So she would either have stayed in the 3 room for a year and 2 months or just 2 months. She's pretty damned smart, so we decided to move her up. I still have time to change my mind of course, but that was NOT something I was thinking about when she was 3!
They're almost exactly 2 years apart and it's so odd to me that we get to make the decision to have them 1, 2, or 3 years apart in school!
When I was pg with DS1 and due mid-October, I thought a lot of about him starting school and wondered if I'd do private K so that he could start at 4-almost-5. As that time draws near, the idea seems laughable. He will be just fine starting at 5-almost-6. Even summer birthdays are being held back, so a Sept/Oct birthday isn't going to be the oldest.