I would start looking for a new job. I don't know that I would want to work for a company who would pull that kind of crap. If I don't feel the administration has my back, then I don't really hold any faith in them. There is very little loyalty left. I'm so sorry this is happening to you. No one deserves to be made to feel like that by a coworker or their boss. ETA: Definitely go after them. If it's happening to you, it could be happening to others as well. They shouldn't get away with it.
Everyone has given good advice. The one thing I'd like to add is to be mindful of your safety, especially since he has escalated this week. Try not to be alone around him, be careful going to your car, etc.
Post by lyssbobiss, Command, B613 on Jul 25, 2012 15:49:47 GMT -5
Is there a subgroup of HR that deals specifically with employee relations? I work for a big university and we have one, which I had to utilize last year when another employee harassed me. Good luck. It sucks and I'm sorry.
"This prick is asking for someone here to bring him to task Somebody give me some dirt on this vacuous mass so we can at last unmask him I'll pull the trigger on it, someone load the gun and cock it While we were all watching, he got Washington in his pocket."
I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I don't blame you for not being aggressive enough'. Going up against a company is scary! I agree with the other posters that said talk to a lawyer first. They can advise you through this and it will help you feel more confident with someone in your corner so you don't feel alone in this. Good luck!
I'm so sorry this happened to you. I would have called the cops after the looking up the skirt. What a fing piece of shit. His wife is going to get one hell of a wake up call.
Seriously, if your company is big enough, the emails are still there. I'm a doc review attorney. I read corporate emails for a living. And I'm in some from 2005.
Thanks, and to you as well, firedancer. It really was awful, and I so regret not doing anything about it. At the time, I really thought my hands were tied.
(I have since learned, though, that he was doing similar things to a few other female coaches at the same time. I got the worst of it, because my cube was right outside his office. And it was similar to Boston's, in that his favorite thing to do was, on Monday mornings, walk into my cube, massage my shoulders, and lean into my ear to ask me if I'd gotten laid that weekend.
I'm really sorry that you are going through this! I've been sexually harassed (pale in comparison to the stories shared here), I was so shaken up. You can do this! Be strong! Please update when you can.
Ugh, guys - what do I do first? Email HR/ boss? Call the head legal counsel for the company? Call a lawyer? Kick this dude in the nuts if he walks by again? Maybe I should go home "sick" or something.
I would email your boss with a "follow up" to your prevois conversation. In that email you should give the details of your conversation with your last boss. Indicate that in no way was the issue resolved. BCC HR AND YOUR PERSONAL EMAIL?
I would also reach out to IT and tell them that a folder is no longer in your outlook and you need them. You don't need to tell them why. This will give you a better indication of who removed them. If they were removed by IT they will have a record and may tell you that they can not access the file.
I keep thinking about you. I don't know where in the city you are, but if you're near downtown and want to meet for coffee or lunch to get a break or let off some steam, let me know.