Because of that, we put DD into a mother's day out program 1x week for 5 hours. But, to be honest, I feel like I often spend that time doing stuff that doesn't recharge me, like going to the dentist or getting my hair cut. I actually DREAD getting my hair cut because I have to make small talk for an hour. It feels really unfair that DH can just take that time out of work and I have to take that time out of my recharge time.
You need to prioritize yourself. If I have a week (like this one) where I have to go into the office on my telecommute day, I feel like naptime Saturday/Sunday needs to be rush rush rush - laundry, cleaning, changing sheets, etc. A few weeks ago I realized that I need to give myself a pass to just veg for like an hour. I feel terribly guilty because H is often working on the house from 9am-5pm Saturdays, but I remind myself that in a certain way that's how he recharges too.
I feel like it's physical vs. mental health. Like I spent a lot of MDOs this year driving to the chiro because I was getting migraines again. It sucks but realistically, I'm also prioritizing myself by doing that vs. grocery shopping for example. Unfortunately it's not going to recharge me like being in pjs on the sofa and losing track of time.
I think what's hard is that I have SO MANY NEEDS built up that it never feels like enough time. If I land a big freelance project, I might be able to afford a nanny for another 3 hours a week, which could help.
Post by formerlyllizzyb on Oct 28, 2014 20:40:02 GMT -5
This thread is like coming home, lol. You all get me.
Having a crappy sleeper for 18 months wore me down and I really think it's because of my introverted nature. I never made that connection until now.
My kid is fairly introverted himself, but he is a TOUCHER. OMG he has to be touching me or on me 24/7. It wears me out. Both he and his father have physical touch as their love languages. Sometimes it makes me want to run away!
We have always planned on two kids, but i am wondering if I'm OAD. I just don't want to regret it later. When I picture my family all grown up, I don't see only one kid. But if I have another, I'm not sure how I'll survive, LOL.
My happiest days at work are when I get to sit at my desk and write code all day. Unfortunately, it doesn't happen often.
This is me too! All of it. Though other things are also factoring into my OAD musings, such as I also really don't want to be pregnant again
Interestingly I am a super extrovert and DH is a super introvert, but he is the one who would prefer I be with him all the time. We kind of don't count as people for each other, ha!