We still have Lucy. We reintroduced her to SS last night and she was crying and whining with happiness. G still isn't allowed around her much, but they have had supervised interactions in which she cried and whined with happiness and wouldn't stop licking his face.
We are still taking it day to day but she isn't going anywhere.
Well, someone needs to remember because you clearly don't. Or don't think you deserve better. And you DO.
Save your breath. This is just history repeating itself here. She likes to make posts about making clearly bad decisions, the board tries to talk her out of it, she gets defensive, sometimes comes to her senses but sometimes pulls a You Don't Know My Lyfe You Saggy Tit Olds!, rinse and repeat.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Post by cinnamoncox on Dec 17, 2014 11:26:32 GMT -5
iamali I'm so sorry about your moms situation. That must be so hard on you. And the bed bug saga is downright awful. I'm so mad for you. Have you gotten anywhere with talking to tenant rights groups to try to break your lease?
And I was recently wondering how gmail is doing too with her skin.
luvvy I'm glad things are steady with the dog. Another wicked tough situation.
And I didn't want to ask before in case she fell off the wagon but I saw her update recently gozf yay x10000000 for being smoke free still good job!!
Still not pg! I think we'll see a dr. in early spring. I'm fucking terrified, and having lots and lots of emotions, which I'm generally keeping completely bottled up, except when I sometimes cry in the shower.
If sucks. Why are you bottling it up? It will help to let it out. Hugs...
iamali, ugh, that sucks. Sorry you are STILL dealing with all of that.
I'd like an update on @t2j's coworker's baby, and on balletofangels, please.
They have had a really rough week and the doctors have let them know that this is probably the end. He has a very serious infection and his lungs have collapsed. They are just doing comfort measures at this point. Any good thoughts and prayers you can send their way are so appreciated. They are really struggling in a lot of different ways right now.
rachelgreen- hows it coming girl? Had that baby yet?!
Sure did! My birth plan was 100% opposite of what happened LOL. Team Green turned to Team Pink last night at 11:25 pm via c-section. Caroline Virginia completed us last night
Congratulations! I have a Caroline as well (who's middle name is Anna after her grandmother Virginia).
Post by trafficgirl on Dec 17, 2014 11:55:41 GMT -5
I think I've mostly been posting about sleep (or lack thereof) and work.
I posted on the MoM board, but we moved the boys into separate rooms maybe a month or so ago and they have been STTN ever since. They wake up at 5am every day, but still, it is heaven.
Work is nutty for me with one person in my department who left last month and another leaving at the end of the year, but it will die down after Friday. Which praise baby Jesus because I am exhausted and haven't gotten to see much of my kids the past 2.5 weeks. Who are getting so big (for a limited time, PDQ).
Post by gretchenindisguise on Dec 17, 2014 11:55:51 GMT -5
I'm not sure if anyone remembers me posting about my grandma not being well and going into a rehab center. And then my aunt passing away.
Update is that we moved my grandma from Chicago to California a mile away from our house. She's doing great. Making friends. Walking more. Still misses home and talks about it, but is becoming ok about staying. Uncle is still crazy.
Speaking of gozf, what happened with the job interview?
I AM STILL WAITING TO HEAR BACK.
zomg. I'm dying.
Interview was 2 weeks ago yesterday. When I left, they told me they were hoping to have made a choice by the holidays. I am trying hard not to panic, but it's VERY HARD NOT TO PANIC.
Speaking of gozf, what happened with the job interview?
I AM STILL WAITING TO HEAR BACK.
zomg. I'm dying.
Interview was 2 weeks ago yesterday. When I left, they told me they were hoping to have made a choice by the holidays. I am trying hard not to panic, but it's VERY HARD NOT TO PANIC.
Look, I got nothing. I had to read my own post history to see if I had anything at all to update.
I was wondering about malibu and her mother (and I think her DH too). Also wondering if gmail ever came back and how she is doing with her topical steroid withdrawl.
Now I'll go check to see if either of them are in this thread.
Hi,
My mom is doing OK. She had some steroid injections in her hips for bursitis about two months ago, those have already worn off. The surgery (she had spinal fusion, and they went in through her stomach as well to remove bone spurs and chip away at the cyst that started her twenty years of nonstop pain) had gone well; she wound up with some pretty major nerve pain stemming from her back near the surgery site, and still has some pretty significant discomfort now - she said it's like having pins and needles in her feet all day long, every day. The surgery itself went very well, she's just still in pain now due to the newly discovered bursitis in her hips.
And yeah, H too.
I posted my huge long story in June.
He went to treatment end of June, returned home end of July. He'd quit his job June 4th. As of today, he is still not employed. He did not take his outpatient seriously, and went back to drinking starting during my trips for work to Canada at the end of August. Money's getting awfully, scary tight; he's just NOW been starting to seriously apply for open positions. The accountant in me is starting to panic about the tax bill we'll have in April (he cashed out his 401k when things went down in June, which is now nearly gone) and not having enough money to pay it. It's been one of the toughest years of my entire life. Before anyone asks why I haven't kicked him out or left - the answer is that I don't know. I haven't been able to answer that question. Something keeps me there, but I really don't know what it is. He did pick up where he left off with schooling, which has been going well for him. I don't think his depression is being properly treated which is definitely contributing to the shittiness of the whole situation. He went for a physical shortly after, where the doctor suggested he get tested for adult ADD, which of course he never did. I've done a little Googling on symptoms of ADD, and nearly every single one of them fit him to a T. I am in therapy; I go every two weeks. My Cymbalta was upped around September, so the crippling anxiety I was having is better under control. Therapist has told me that if I decide I'm done with it all, I'll know, and we'll tackle that if and when it happens.
I wish I had a better update, but I don't. It's been a terrible year, one I'm ready to see be over. Christmas is a week away, and thanks to the amazing, awesome, unbelievably kind MN MLers who surprised me with a basket and gift card, DD will get gifts, and I will probably get a little something for myself, too.
a good friend is also going through this. Shady Groove actually snickered at her on the phone when she told them she's only been trying 8 months. I'm kinda shocked they didn't have more compassion.
Shady Grove is super shady, so rude, even their director--just a complete douchebag (IME). Compassion? HA! I would NEVER use them. Dominion Fertility-Dr. Rey!!! = WAY BETTER.
I got great advice about my son and he is doing amazing. That is about all I have to offer. everything else kinda sucks bc I am in a huge funk right now.
Post by BlackCanary on Dec 17, 2014 12:15:37 GMT -5
I'm still getting divorced, but I know it's for the best. I honestly want him to be happy. Once we get all the paperwork together, we'll meet with the mediator and hopefully be divorced next year.
I'm just really looking forward to moving on. My parents are very supportive and they are letting me stay with them. I just miss my kitty. Since my parents have three cats, I can't bring him over. He's a bit of a bully. When I get my own place I'll be able to take him with me. I also miss Abby, but I can bring her over to my parents house for a night or two. I'm taking her this weekend, I'll have her over for my birthday on Monday!
Hmm. I think the only thing I've actually posted on here asking for advice about was whether or not I should push back on my BF about staying with his late wife's family when we went to visit them/their area this summer. I was really worried that it would be hard for them/him to have his new girlfriend staying in their house, since everything about losing their daughter was difficult and I assumed a reminder of their loss (in their face, since I doubt a day goes by that they aren't reminded) would be sad and awkward for everyone.
I actually only took the advice to talk to my BF at length about it, and he insisted it was fine and everyone would be happy and that he wanted to spend the time with them. Fine. I figured this was his territory and if he was comfortable and thought they were, it wasn't up to me to tell him no. So we went, and it was actually great. They were lovely people who were very welcoming and while I felt kind of uncomfortable the first night, I got over it and had a really nice visit. I actually thought it was kind of beautiful how much they love my BF and accepted me into their home and life. Life is so hard, but all the people involved were a great example of how you can be ok and happy even after the worst thing imaginable happens.
My update is brief. He's still in the house. We've agreed to work things out, with individual counseling and marital counseling being non-negotiable. He didn't realize how furious/pissed/serious I am about this, until I told him this week if I had had a match or lighter with me that morning, the truck would have been torched in that parking lot. I don't trust him yet, and it will be a long while before I do.
Part of me wants to say its over, but I'm not done trying yet. If or when it's time to walk, I'll be able to do so knowing I did everything I could to make it work.
I know that feeling all too well of wondering why you stay. You will know if and when the time is right to leave, you are doing all the right things to lead you to a comfortable decision. I feel like you H is very similar to my stbxh. I'm always around if you want to chat <3
I just updated that I am officially getting a divorce. I am going to wait until the new year and then we will figure out how to handle the house. Everything else has already been split so once we decide it should be a fairly painless process (I hope).
As for the health issues my doctors assured me I don't need to worry and that my lyme test was a false negative. I was diagnosed instead with osteoarthritis and anemia so I'm popping tons of iron and dealing with the fact that my hands and knees will probably always just be sore.
I forget what I post here and what I post on SO…but here is me in a nut shell. I know I posted back in April when my XH told me he no longer wanted to be married. So many of you said the kindest things, even though it took me a few months to listen to what you all said. Divorce was finalized the first week of November. We still talk, and have a good relationship, but with the help of time, therapy, and other people, I have realized that I really do deserve more than what he could offer me.
I went to Vegas in August, and I wanted to find a random dude to break the seal, if you may. I ended up meet a guy, and we really clicked…and it just so happened that he also lived 5 minutes from me. We shop at the same grocery store…so I have been seeing him since then, though we are just having fun at this point. I am not sure I am ready to be in a real relationship.
I also think I posted about my job situation, and ultimately, I am leaving my current place with a severance package. In the end, it looks like it might be all for the best, even though looking for a new job is the suck.
My dad was diagnosed with Pancreatic cancer about 6 weeks ago, he wasn’t able to start treatment right away because the cancer had caused a blockage in his liver, so his billirubin levels were too high. After 3 stints, the blockage was under control and his levels were stable, so he was set to start chemo last Friday. When they reviewed his scans, they had to admit him because they discovered two blood clots in his lungs that needed to be taken care of. Upon further review of the scans, they also discovered in the six weeks the cancer had spread to his liver. So his original prognosis was he’d be around for a year, now it is 3 months. So the timing of joblessness isn’t the worse thing in the world. I think I will be spending a lot more time with my family in Utah, and come back to California every few weeks if I need to. I’ll keep applying for jobs, but only positions that are like “dream job” status…I won’t take just anything quite yet. Hopefully I can make it work financially so I don’t have to stress about it, but I think it will be ok.
a year ago I was just starting Megace and the side effects that came along with it. I've been off it for 5 months now, and I feel like I am just starting to get my health back in order. And my hair. My poor hair.
My DH is doing really great, the treatment he started in September is really working and he's been able to go back to work. His big tumors shrank by over 2cm at his last scan (biggest one was 9cmx13cm). He's still always going to have Stage IV cancer, but it's looking like we still have a lot of years left (one patient with his same genetic mutation has been on this regime for 8 years!) when back in August we were thinking it was going to be months. Right now the rest of his family is being tested for the genetic mutation he has, so fingers crossed none of them have to deal with this too.
It's almost a year since his diagnosis and I'm hopefully 2015 will be less of a shitshow than 2014.
I posted about h losing his job last month. Anyway, he was offered another oot job like 3 days after his lay off, so we decided he should take it while still looking around for local stuff. It would be nice to have him home more, but he didn't want to turn down a job so close to Christmas (they usually don't take on new people because the sites shut down mid December until after the new year.)
I didn't know this. I hope he finds something local, that would be awesome.
Thanks. He's been looking but there's not a whole lot going on around here right now. We were considering moving to alberta, but...I don't really want to move out there. Lol. it could be worse, haha. A few of my friends have husband's who go for 4-6 weeks at a time, so I'm lucky he's only gone for 10 days.