Save your breath. This is just history repeating itself here. She likes to make posts about making clearly bad decisions, the board tries to talk her out of it, she gets defensive, sometimes comes to her senses but sometimes pulls a You Don't Know My Lyfe You Saggy Tit Olds!, rinse and repeat.
iamali, ugh, that sucks. Sorry you are STILL dealing with all of that.
I'd like an update on @t2j's coworker's baby, and on balletofangels, please.
I am doing great thanks for asking! I barely have time on the computer now that I am able to workout again. I really need to make losing weight a huge priority. My new job is a learning experience, but definitely less stressful. That is probably the biggest blessing in disguise from this mess. Healthwise, I'm cleared by the doctors and feel fine unless a storm is coming.
Update on me: On Christmas Eve last year my doctor called to tell me that my FSH indicated I was post-menopausal and could never have genetic children. I was devastated. Further testing indicated a very very rare q27 deletion in one of my X chromosomes. Egg donation or adoption were given to me as my only option. Doctor was willing to proceed right away but I took 6-7 months to process everything (read: drink and cry a little to much).
Fast forward 7 months and I've picked out a donor and I am ready to proceed. We returned to the clinic, and find that my original doctor had left, but I thought no big deal. New doctor insisted I have an MRI of my heart to rule out any unforeseen risks before proceeding with the IVF w/egg donation. MRI found a bicuspid aortic valve with aortic dilatation. After much back and forth doctor feels there are too many unknowns between my chromosomes and heart. So I am dropped as a patient.
Move on to a new clinic halfway across the country. They accept me as a patient. Currently, trying to schedule my egg donor counseling appointment and fill out the legal paperwork before we proceed with donor egg IVF (fingers crossed).
Thanks. He's been looking but there's not a whole lot going on around here right now. We were considering moving to alberta, but...I don't really want to move out there. Lol. it could be worse, haha. A few of my friends have husband's who go for 4-6 weeks at a time, so I'm lucky he's only gone for 10 days.
What is his trade, if you don't mind saying? I'm just wondering if there would be anything around here for him, but it's mostly pulp mills and mines.
Carpentry, mostly concrete work these days. Right now he's working on building a pulp mill north of edmonton. He was saying that his union could possibly be sending people up to the dam being built in Fort st john, so if he goes up there we'll just go with him.
What is his trade, if you don't mind saying? I'm just wondering if there would be anything around here for him, but it's mostly pulp mills and mines.
Carpentry, mostly concrete work these days. Right now he's working on building a pulp mill north of edmonton. He was saying that his union could possibly be sending people up to the dam being built in Fort st john, so if he goes up there we'll just go with him.
If you all do up there, imagine how fun it will be saying, "hi honey - how was your dam job today?" !
jigsy It is always nice to hear it is possible to still have some sort of relationship with an ex. Everyone I've talked to has been so set on me cutting all contact and it just doesn't make sense to me
My nieces are still living with us. They are doing so great in school and sports, making lots of friends. We've met with counselors at CYS and H and I are moving forward with taking on permanent custody of them. Life with six kids is hard and expensive but we're figuring it all out, I couldn't imagine them being anywhere else.
H and BM finally settled on 50/50 custody of SD after over a year of court dates, drug tests and counseling. BM is clean now and pregnant. She and I had a conversation a few months ago where she broke down and apologized for a lot of the things that she had said and done over the years and we are finally in a really good place. I hope we're able to keep it up permanently because life is SO much more peaceful.
And, for the trifecta of blended family drama that we have going on, DDs have decided that they do not want a relationship with their BD at this point and I've decided not to push it. When they're ready, I will push counseling with them and their BD but in the meantime, he is back out of the picture and everyone seems to be better for it.
Post by bohemianmango on Dec 17, 2014 13:26:28 GMT -5
I posted about my grandpa and his DNR a few months ago. He had a DNR on record and my relatives were fighting it. He went to ER with severe pneumonia and stopped breathing. My aunt is a respiratory therapist and the executor of my grandpa's will. It's still unclear of when and how it was done but she got my grandpa's permission to change his directive. It's 2 days with intubation then end of life of support if no changes.
He's doing okay now. I'm worried about him though. My cousin who currently lives with him just got engaged and will be moving out at the end of the month.
jigsy It is always nice to hear it is possible to still have some sort of relationship with an ex. Everyone I've talked to has been so set on me cutting all contact and it just doesn't make sense to me
I know not everyone can do it, but I honestly feel no animosity toward my ex. Sometimes people just fall out of love, and that is what happened with us. He has issues that he needs to work on, but he is still a good person.
Honestly, with all the stuff that has been going on, I have been leaning on him a lot. My Dad was his family for 10 years, so he is upset about what has happened. And he cares about my happiness and still knows me better than anyone else, so the advice he gives comes from a good place.
I don't know how our friendship will look when we no longer need to talk to each other, but I'd like to think he will be someone I can always call if I needed to. We will see though.
Seems to be going well. I think he is a nice guy but I am still being skeptical. All of my siblings (I have 3) have met him except for 1 of my brothers. He hasn't really talked to my mom since October.
It was disappointing that my brother didn't come to Thanksgiving with us and idk what's going to happen with Christmas, but I'm hoping he'll come around soon.
That sounds . . . cautiously hopeful? I hope she's happy and that you and your brothers have a nice Christmas together.
i hate when i read a 6 pager thread and i and i'm judging the fuck out of something….but by the end of the thread, NO ONE has mentioned it. makes me want to keep it to myself.
i hate when i read a 6 pager thread and i and i'm judging the fuck out of something….but by the end of the thread, NO ONE has mentioned it. makes me want to keep it to myself.
Post by themoneytree on Dec 17, 2014 14:06:38 GMT -5
This time last year I was really cut up about my Mother and her partner traveling in the US for months and neither visiting us nor allowing us to visit them in Vegas.
My Dad compounded last year's crap Christmas by not nothing to send A a Christmas present or call and say Merry Christmas. Just.... nothing.
I FINALLY got the courage to write him an email telling him how disappointed I was and to outright ask him to make a plan with us for how visits could work (he was holding on to the vain hope that his wife would travel here with him - never going to happen). He wrote back and apologized, came to visit (!) and for Christmas sent her clothes, Babar toys and books. I can tell he made a real effort to buy things he really thought she would like. It also prompted me to reach out to my stepsister and reconnect more with her. She had mentioned that my Dad and her Mom never got her kids "anything that required a moment's thought" (her words) so I put together a care package for them and she just sent one back for A which is lovely. : )
My relationship with my Mom is more honest but maybe a little less close which makes me sad. She has made a huge effort and came over 3 times during the year which was amazing. She has a very special connection with A and clearly adores her. When I was in the UK this summer several of my friends echoed what people here said that my Mother is responsible for handling partner better and doesn't. It was.... surprising to hear my old friends say that.
Right now they are a couple of months in to a 6 month trip. In a fit of enthusiasm we invited her AND partner (first time partner has stayed here in 8 years) to stay with us for a few days before they set off on the big trip. It was a bit of a disaster. Things seemed to be going well but then partner took offense (very unfairly) to something H did and got bent out of shape and ended up shoving our dog off the sofa. It was very weird and not ok because our dog is tiny, elderly and seriously the best behaved dog in the world. And she wasn't doing anything wrong. Partner was mad at H and took it out on our dog and while no one said anything the atmosphere just changed. I had to grill my Mother the following day to find out what the heck happened.
They left on an OK note, but once again I was disappointed that no matter how hard we try there is just no having a decent adult relationship with partner. It's very frustrating.
Mom wants us to go and see her (them?) in Miami in January, but as of an email this morning they want to meet in Jacksonville (?) because Miami "isn't their thing" and I had JUST sold H on the idea of Miami and now he (and I) are 'meh' about going.
Mom is coming to visit in April (alone as usual) so I would see her then, but I will have GUILT if we don't do January. So that's annoying.
All in all I am feeling SO MUCH better now than I did at this time last year. We have friends coming for Christmas and I am super excited to see them!
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TLDR: Stuff with Dad much more honest and much better.
Things with Mum also much more honest and better, but disappointing recent visit with partner and potential minefield visit in January to navigate.
I don't know if mine is an update worth sharing or not, but I am thankful for the replies to be easy on myself after our miscarriage. Pregnancy is a such a mindF and then analyzing and blaming myself for what I did or didn't do to lose the baby could have been debilitating, but hearing others encouragement and experiences were incredibly helpful.
I'm still not ready to try again (H is, but understands that I'm not); I know that I will be someday.