ETA: Don't judge me. Everyone came around to my side eventually. Read on if you want to cry from laughing so hard.
H had hinted that he was going to do something for me for Valentines Day today and asked what time I would be at work. We NEVER do anything for Valentines day so I was kinda excited and have been all day.
He fucking showed up on a boat (my hotel is riverfront) with my balloons and flowers (he had the balloons in the storage area). The reason why that pisses me off is that there is nowhere for me to get the balloons and flowers from him unless I got in my car and drove to the nearest dock or walked about a mile across the bridge to get them. And he showed up at 2:45 in the afternoon so me taking off for 30 min to walk a mile there and back is impossible.
He got pissy with me and I got pissy with him and he left and I didn't get my valentines. I think it was a cute gesture but it was clearly more for him (an afternoon of guilt free boating) than it was for me.
I hate that I am upset about this but it is bugging me like whoa. Why did he have to get me all excited and then clearly not think things through. I was watching my office door all day hoping he would walk in
Yes, you need to get over it. He made a sweet gesture, he may not have thought things through all the way but he attempted to do something nice for you and that is what counts in my book.
Post by hopecounts on Feb 13, 2015 15:21:31 GMT -5
Pout now but try to let it go before you get home. He tried to do something special and missed the finer details in the planning, it was a dumb screw up but he was trying to do something nice.
How bad do you need balloons? Isn't the actual gift the effort and thought he put into it, and the fact that he loves you enough to bring a damn boat to your job? I'm guessing you'll see the balloons at home later.
Yes it totally is. I don't even need the balloons! But I just got to wave at him from a distance. LOL. I couldn't even kiss him. He took the boat because he wanted to. That effort was for him. But I do appreciate the effort. I guess I was just let down after being excited.
I say be inwardly irritated but nice. The day before H proposed, he called me at work all 'When are you leaving? I have a surprise on the way!!!' so I watched the door all.day.long. Nothing ever came. He had ordered flowers late that am and they didn't have time to deliver them. I was so irritated. Now we have a rule that he can't tell me about surprises so I'm not disappointed if they don't pan out. Lol.
But, he tried in a way that if he failed he still had a good time.
It isn't like he hasn't been at my hotel before.... He has even been in the water in front of it.
OMG I'm pulling a mom move here.
Will it matter in 2 weeks?
I can't tell you how many times I heard that, but honestly. It's not worth fuming about. He just sucked at the execution and thinking it through, but I still think he was thinking of you when he planned it. I don't think he was being selfish,
Awww. I might've given it a head-tilt for lack of attention to detail, but at least a solid B+ for effort. I say get over it, though I probably wouldn't be able to resist teasing him about it.
You'll laugh about this later and it will be a good story.
But, he tried in a way that if he failed he still had a good time.
It isn't like he hasn't been at my hotel before.... He has even been in the water in front of it.
OMG I'm pulling a mom move here.
Will it matter in 2 weeks?
I can't tell you how many times I heard that, but honestly. It's not worth fuming about. He just sucked at the execution and thinking it through, but I still think he was thinking of you when he planned it. I don't think he was being selfish,
Nope.
I am not fuming. I think I am more sad and a little irked. I really was excited!
But, he tried in a way that if he failed he still had a good time.
It isn't like he hasn't been at my hotel before.... He has even been in the water in front of it.
What does this even mean? He failed? He made a show of balloons and flowers on a boat. Surely you realize that he could just bring them home for you, and he wasn't forced to throw them overboard without being able to hand them to you.
Ya it wasn't the best thought out plan but he tried. And he tried pretty damn well. that's romantic. As comparison my husband asked me what time I'd be home from work because he wants to bang tonight. So theres that lol
I don't know that I would be upset but I would definitely side eye my DH if he did something like this. It would be just one more example of his not thinking through the details. Though thinking that you could just leave for 30 minutes in the middle of the afternoon is a pretty big detail to not think of, TBH. Yeah, the more I think about it, he tried to do a good thing but it was likely more about being able to drive around in the boat.
My DH is never about the details so I am pretty familiar with the side-eye, wth?, did you even think this through feeling. So this is totally something my DH would do.
It was a cute idea to bring them by boat, but it doesn't sound like he completely thought it through.
This is where I am at. It sounds like something he put a lot of effort into actually. I get that it wasn't "ideal", but I can see why he would be hurt.
ETA: I didn't see the part about the boat being a regular thing. But I still think he tried and that counts for something.
Taking a boat is not a gesture people. Maybe back story would help. LOL.
He is always out on the boat. We have argued that he goes too much before.
I was going to ask this. Given that, I can kind of see being irked. I think boats have more of a grand gesture feel when they aren't a contentious point in your relationship. I mean, if he loved to go-kart and drove by on his go-kart holding a cupcake that you could totally eat later, I don't think he'd be getting as many "Awwww"s.
I think it is a sweet gesture, I would not be upset about it. I wouldn't want balloons of any sort, but I couldn't be upset at my DH for making an effort of some sort.