3 people have sent me FB messages/emails this week essentially telling me I need to pray more if I want my milk supply to increase. The fuck man, that is not helpful!! I am not even responding to these messages because I just do not have words.
The BF support group I'm going to has great people in it that I like talking to, but one mom is ruining it for all of us. She won't stop talking, interrupts conversations and redirects them back to herself, and is outwardly judgmental towards those of us that are supplementing (and there are several of us that are, we all had preemies). I was so not surprised today when she mentioned something about the diaper raffle she had at the shower for her 4th child. I'm going to find another group because it is grating to sit in that room with her every week, biting my tongue while I feed my baby.
I returned the pump today as my rental was up and I am relieved to be done pumping. I saw no increase in supply doing it, pumped so very little, and it was such a time/energy suck. I am much happier now and just enjoying breastfeeding for what we get from it, and have no problem following up with a bottle. It is what it is and Gretchen is happy. She's gained a lb over the last 2 weeks and is 7lbs now. Woo hoo!
Good for you pugz for making peace with the nursing stuff. The LCs at my local center said that they're biggest goal is to always preserve the mother/baby bond and if that is supplementing, then so be it. Enjoy that precious little girl!
My AW: J is starting to "share" with us. He will bring us his toys, place them in our hands and then get so excited when we take them and say thank you. We play this game for probably 30-45min a day (at a minimum) and I just melt. We're going to try to get it on video this weekend. He is just my best little guy!
Whoa. I would *not* be thrilled with those FB messages either.
And I don't blame you for wanting to find another group. I'm annoyed on your behalf.
Good for you for not beating yourself up over the pumping stuff. You're doing great, mama!
Also, where did you get those ADORABLE blocks in that pic of your ADORABLE gal?!
thanks my sister actually painted them for us! I ordered the plain blocks online and she modeled them after some ones on Etsy that I liked! She got all the creative genes in our family.
People that act like prayer has a dial and if you can't get it to eleven you're not doing it wrong... are what's wrong with Christians. Sorry, pugz, and I say that as someone that goes to church and says her prayers.
I'm pretty much through the ordeal that is hand, foot, and mouth disease in an adult. I'm taking one more sick day tomorrow, though, because being sick ruined my long weekend last weekend and I still look kind of like ass. The sores on my face could use a few more days to fade, and my one finger looks like I burned the hell out of it.
Owen is so freaking cute. He's starting to talk and it drives me nuts how cute he is. And he's finally signing "all done". While saying it. I could eat him up.
Post by fortmyersbride on Aug 9, 2012 22:21:30 GMT -5
Bah. Militant BFers are just as bad as antiBFers, they both make moms feel unnecessarily like crap for doing what is good for their babies. You definitely need to find a new group!
Whoa. I would *not* be thrilled with those FB messages either.
And I don't blame you for wanting to find another group. I'm annoyed on your behalf.
Good for you for not beating yourself up over the pumping stuff. You're doing great, mama!
Also, where did you get those ADORABLE blocks in that pic of your ADORABLE gal?!
thanks my sister actually painted them for us! I ordered the plain blocks online and she modeled them after some ones on Etsy that I liked! She got all the creative genes in our family.
If she ever opens her own Etsy site or decides to sell similar ones, lemme know. Those are so much cuter than the rubber blocks we used for my daughter's monthly pics, and we're expecting #2 in Feb.
Gretchen is so cute! I can't believe it's been a month already.
I need to start supplementing with formula next week. I have mixed feelings, but I'm hoping this will take a lot of pressure and stress off of me.
DD is SO cute lately. She is crawling and standing up and her personality is really coming out now that she has some independence. She also learned to "cluck" her tongue today and did it for like a half hour straight!
My vent does not compare to others. But I'm pushing 6 days late and kinda feel like I will be pregnant forever. I also regret starting my maternity leave last week, as I've already burned 6 days and no baby in sight.
DH and I just planned a date for tomorrow--just dinner and a movie (Ruby Sparks), but I'm pretty excited about it. I feel like this is just the sort of thing that will ensure I go into labor tomorrow afternoon. Here's hoping...
Post by zeewifeandmama on Aug 9, 2012 23:13:59 GMT -5
Oh pugz that picture is SO cute!! Also screw that bitch in your BF group....people who are judgmental assholes about BF'ing burn me up!! Ugh! You are awesome!
My confession is TMI....but I looked at my one month PP vagina today and cried. Its way worse than last time I initially was looking because I am still having some sharp pains and I wanted to see if there was something going on...couldnt tell and I wish I wouldnt have looked.
Ugh, I hate those people! They really ruin a group.
Anyway, my vent...which I feel a bit guilty about now: I love that ds has been sttn since 6 weeks. What I don't love is waking up at 4am anyway because my breasts are so painfully engorged and leaking all over the place. I'm literally stuffing my nightshirt with facecloths to reduce the damage. If I get up to relieve the pressure I don't even have to pump. I just hold a bottle under my nipple and do some hand expressing and can get an oz in 10mins. Once I just pulled aside my bra and the milk came squirting out on it's own in a stream that shot a good 4-5inches before I could catch it in a bottle. So, I'm not so much sttn although I've got a ton of milk saved up now
Which is ironic given my bragplaint. Random people will stop me and tell me how beautiful my daughter is- a guy in in his late 40s at Target, random moms at the playground, strangers in the mall. People will stop with a look of total awe and mention it. I've even heard them stop other people to tell them to look at her. She's cute, but not that cute. Anyway, it sort of creeps me out, but I also hate that they completely ignore my son sitting there. I know she's only 16 months, but I also don't want her to think that's all she needs to be.
I'm late and feel like crap but BFN every morning. I'm 14 DPO and giving up hope for a positive this month. I just want my period to start so I can start over.
Pugz-Gretchen is adorable and tell that one mom to STFU. Seriously maybe the group leader should ask her to find another group. Oh and I might totally steal the block idea.
My vent is that I'm having horrible anxiety TTC. I don't even know what's wrong with me and I'm afraid to tell DH, b/c it might totally freak him out. We're only on month 2, but I'm stressed about TTC, stressed about telling family, stressed about when the baby would be born, etc etc etc. I'm afraid that all this anxiety is going to make it not fun if it doesn't happen soon and then I'm going to be anxious that there's an issue, etc etc.
I'm hoping our vacation next week will calm me down, but then again, we'll be with my parents and my mom will probably ask and say something about how she had no trouble getting PG and then I'll be all anxious again.
I know it's selfish, but I seriously do not want a fall or winter baby. I don't want my kid to have to share in the damn IL family party b/c 4 of the kids have bdays from Aug-Oct.
Pugz, you're doing what's right for you and Gretchen, just ignore those STUPID people. We're all really proud of you for trying so hard with EBF, sometime it just doesn't work but you gave it your best shot. I'm glad you've found something that works well for the two of you, that's the important thing. Stay strong momma! You're doing great! Look how happy and healthy she is!
I am ridiculously excited to be going out to lunch with DH and DS. We're going to this fancy restaurant in town which has vanilla bean creme brulee w/ a chocolate ganache bottom. MMMMMmmmm... I think that's what heaven must taste like.
I am much happier now and just enjoying breastfeeding for what we get from it, and have no problem following up with a bottle. It is what it is and Gretchen is happy.
This is the point I got with DD. It was so hard at first to let go of of the idea that I couldn't do it all. As in I wasn't able to produce enough to satisfy her or keep her gaining. Once I let go of wanting to be the best mom ever (in my crazy head) I began to enjoy the whole bf process. She got what she needed from me and then she would enjoy a bottle as well. She was healthy and growing and that is all that matters. I BF for nearly 11 months (and supplemented) and that in itself was a accomplishment.
Pugz, definitely find a new group. You don't need toxic people like that chick. You are doing what is best for you and G. That is all that matters.
This has been one hell of a week for us. I got my job offer late Friday night, I negotiated and got shot down on everything but accepted by Wednesday. lol. DS, DH and I toured a total of 7 daycares since I wasn't initially sure when my start date would be . We got super lucky and found a daycare right across the street from DH's office. He can drop in at any time, which makes all of us feel great about this place. Plus, he is now in charge of drop off. Woot for me! lol. On top of that, we found a great babysitter through sittercity. I was extremely nervous but she received glowing reviews from her references and she was super professional and efficient with my requests. I <3 her already.
Oh hells no, pugz. FWIW, there is supposed to be an awesome BFing support group at the hospital I'm delivering at if you want the info. I know it's a hike for you, but if you want details let me know. The LC seemed really cool at the class we went to the other day.
I am finally having BH contractions. It's weird. I thought something was wrong with me because I had had, like, one or two total up until now, but I had one in the middle of the night last night when I got up to pee.
A friend of ours is making all of our nursery bedding and curtains. We paid for all the fabrics and stuff, but she won't tell me what we owe her for labor. She's kind of flighty and hard to get a hold of, so I'm not sure if she's not telling us because she's not going to let us pay her, or just because she has forgotten I asked. I am stressed out about this because I don't know whether to plan for $0 or $500. On the bright side, we are getting the bedding on Saturday and I'm going to AW the shit out of our nursery as soon as it's done Sunday or Monday.
DH and I carpooled this morning and freaked out imagining the scenario in which Physician Cousin picks the same name for her baby that we are using for ours because it is somewhat GN and we have similar tastes. Now we are frantically e-mailing about backup names just in case.
I just finished reading a baby led weaning book and a friend asked me to summarize it for her. I summarized it in the most neutral way possible considering how biased the book is against purees. Now my friend, who started purees at 4 months, feels the need to constantly justify their decision to do purees to me as if I was judging her. We haven't even decided if we're going to do BLW yet and we just haven't started solids because we're lazy, I'm definitely not judging. I really hate having to pick my words so carefully and her still finding offense.
Same friend agreed to go to the zoo with us on Sunday and then backed out. She decided later that she is interested in going again. I still expect her to back out the morning of.
My vent is that I'm tired of people telling me how miserable and hot I must be and how awful I must feel being pregnant right now. I'm trying to be positive and actually feel pretty good, I can't stand all of the debbie downers giving their two cents.
I'm worried that I'll go into labor Monday, which is DS's birthday. I really want him to have his own day. I'm 4cm dilated and 60% effaced and just lost my mucus plug Wednesday so at this point I feel like a ticking time bomb!
My vent is that I'm tired of people telling me how miserable and hot I must be and how awful I must feel being pregnant right now. I'm trying to be positive and actually feel pretty good, I can't stand all of the debbie downers giving their two cents.
Yes this is super annoying. I already have started getting "I bet you hope she comes early!" comments. It's like... no, not really. I mean obviously we will play the hand we are dealt but I am hoping to make it full term even if it is hot outside.
Amen.
My OB looked shocked the other day when he was like, "ready to have this baby yet?" and I was like, "well, I mean, I don't want him to come until he's ready to, so...no."
Post by Ashley&Scott on Aug 10, 2012 9:59:55 GMT -5
G is so cute! Yay for gaining totally sucks about that mom in your bf group, maybe you can exchange contact info with the other premie moms & they can move to a new group with you.
My AW: DS is officially on the move! He was doing a full army crawl last night, we were enticing him with his Baby Einstein music box
Also, I am in a local FB moms group and a poster with an infant in her profile picture posted about how she is so excited a friend of hers has kids with chicken pox. The thought of willingly exposing a tiny baby to chicken pox makes me ill and I want to tell her off so bad but a CW of mine is in the group too so I try to keep my mouth shut. Of course all the responses are, "woo, that's awesome!"
Post by jackpackage on Aug 10, 2012 12:34:54 GMT -5
Cute pic
I wish I had rented a pump instead of blowing 250 on a PISA. I've been averaging about a ML/45 mins so I rarely use it.
H and I really want to take a vacation in September, but we can't agree on where to go. I really want to go to Hawaii with O, but a flight from Michigan with a 3 month old (who is currently colicky) sounds like hell.
I wish I had rented a pump instead of blowing 250 on a PISA. I've been averaging about a ML/45 mins so I rarely use it.
H and I really want to take a vacation in September, but we can't agree on where to go. I really want to go to Hawaii with O, but a flight from Michigan with a 3 month old (who is currently colicky) sounds like hell.
We went to Hawaii with DS at 4 months. The flight was awesome, he slept the entire time and it wasn't tough at all. We rented most of the stuff we needed (swing, beach toys, etc) so we didn't have a ton of stuff to bring. The one issue we had was with the time difference. DS wanted to get up at 3 am every day because his time was all off. Otherwise the trip was great.
We took him again at 18 months and while the trip itself was fantastic and the time change wasn't an issue, the flight was a little rough because he wanted to run around and play.