Post by loskadoodle on Aug 10, 2012 19:40:21 GMT -5
I'm so sorry!
I had the dnc. It was worse emotionally than physically but I still think it was a lot easier than waiting for it to happen and having to deal with seeing whatever you see (which could be nothing more than a period, but still...)
Post by kittycatlove on Aug 10, 2012 20:11:24 GMT -5
I'm so sorry. I had a blighted ovum too. I opted for the D&C, though it wasn't scheduled until a week after we had that dreaded ultrasound. In that week my body hadn't even geared up for a natural miscarriage. Because of that I'm glad I had the D&C so that I could start to heal emotionally.
I had a missed miscarriage a couple of weeks ago. The doctor said that I could wait for the natural passing, which could take a day, or more than a month to start. Instead, I opted for the misoprostal, which is supposed to encourage a natural miscarriage. The doctor said it works for 80 - 90% of people in one dose. I ended up with 4 doses total, feeling miserable (fever, chills, terrible cramps, etc), and no progress. I went on with the D&C.
I wanted the D&C done the same day I went back in for the follow-up, which meant that I couldn't do the full sedation procedure. They had me take a Valium, vicodin, and 800mg motrin. I was completely awake and aware for the procedure. They did numbing shots straight to the cervix, which I didn't feel at all. The procedure was done in less than 10 minutes. I got dressed, left, and we went shopping for junk food at Target. I felt perfectly fine at the time, but looking back, I definitely have some memory loss of the time while I was on the meds. So, I guess they did their job. Unfortunately, I ended up with an incomplete D&C, and I had a couple random experiences of bleeding/passing tissue afterwards. Everything seems to be OK now.
Personally, I know I could not handle just waiting. I think giving the Misoprostal one or two tries is a decent choice. For me, the D&C was quicker and less painful. Physically, it was barely worse than a pap smear. I felt comfortable with the non-sedation, which made recovery very easy. Emotionally, I also prefer to get everything over with quickly as well. With the D&C, they were able to test the tissue, and ruled out several conditions that would be me more likely to miscarry in the future.
Throughout the process, I made all kinds of decisions that I felt unprepared and unqualified to make. Do whatever feels right to you. Whatever you choose, it will all work out.
Feel free to PM me if you'd like to. It sucks. I had only told a couple of friends about my pregnancy, so I felt really strange and alone, just going on with life like nothing ever happened. Do whatever you want to do to help yourself feel better. I felt miserable while pregnant, so I've been eating like a cow ever since. I gave myself free reign until my first post-m/c period. I've been enjoying non-pregnant activities, like sushi, wine, riding my ATV, etc. I've gotten a massage, pedicure, and have let my husband handle most of the chores.
Post by vanillacourage on Aug 10, 2012 23:27:51 GMT -5
I'm sorry.
I was 8-9 weeks when our u/s showed no HB. I had a D&C the next day. It was emotionally tough but it was a relief to basically wave a wand and have it be over. Physically it was pretty easy.
Please feel free to ask any questions or PM if need be. It's a hard thing and tough for "outsiders" to understand or help.
I've had 2 miscarriages, the first was natural, the second I had a D&C. I much prefferred the d&c. Neither was pleasant, I bled for weeks with both (even after the d&c), but as others mentioned it was emotionally easier to just have it 'over'. This is TMI, but with my first I had already started bleeding so I decided to just miscarry naturally. It took weeks and when I finally passed the sac, it was in an elementary school bathrooms during work. That was really no way to say goodbye. With the d&c I was just able to take 2 days off of work to attempt to heal both physically and emotionally.
I'm so sorry that you have to go through this. Take care of yourself.
Post by dancingirl21 on Aug 11, 2012 9:18:07 GMT -5
Thank you all for your kind words and for sharing your stories. It definitely helps to hear other perspectives. For those of you that opted for the d&c, were you able to work the next day? I think a lot of you are right that waiting will be really hard and not knowing when it will happen is not easy if I decide to let it happen naturally. My only concern with the d&c is the risk of scarring the uterus and having issues TTC going forward. I am going to talk with my doctor on Monday, but I do want to put this all behind me and move on.
Mine was natural, I was only 5 weeks. Mine was a blighted ovum so no baby had developed after fertilization. It did make it easier to know that there wasn't really a baby but it's still hard to go through. It's been 7 months since mine and even though I am pregnant again, I think about that pregnancy every day.
I had the d&c on a Thursday, and took Friday off too. Physically, I would have been fine to work the next day, but emotionally, I was happy to have the day off. Personally, I had no complications from the d&c and I went on to have a healthy pregnancy and I have a 3 mo old DD now, but I understand your concerns. After going through the first miscarriage naturally, having the d&c was an easy decision for me. It really is a personal decision, so talk to your doctor and make whatever choice you're most comfortable with.
Physically, I was fine as soon as the loopy meds wore off (4 hours maybe?).
I worked the next day. For me, it was easier to keep busy with work, than to stay home and just be sad. I also have a job that really helps me keep a good perspective on life, which was especially helpful at that time. But that's just me. Take however long you need!
My doctor said that there is obviously a risk with the procedure, but that it is low. They now use suction instead of a scraper, which has further decreased the risk of damaging the uterus. All of the doctors I saw seemed to favor giving the Miso a try first, but were very supportive of any decision.
I took Cytotec (misoprostol) to expel a miscarriage after an ultrasound showed no growth and that the heart (which we had seen beating before) no longer was. I could not get in for a D&C for something like two plus weeks so we went with the pills. Once it took effect (about four hours after I took it) I had a pretty severe reaction to the Cytotec - severe vomiting, sweating, teeth chattering chills, contracting, extreme dizziness, diarrhea, I was basically convulsing on our bathroom floor and thought I was going to die. After about an hour and a half of that, which included the expulsion of what we thought was probably the "baby," I was completely fine. I spotted for I think a couple of weeks, and we followed my Hcg levels back to zero. (My DD was conceived on the very next cycle.)
I can't remember if I went back to work the very next day, or the day after that, but either way, it was against doctor's orders.
Thank you all for your kind words and for sharing your stories. It definitely helps to hear other perspectives. For those of you that opted for the d&c, were you able to work the next day? I think a lot of you are right that waiting will be really hard and not knowing when it will happen is not easy if I decide to let it happen naturally. My only concern with the d&c is the risk of scarring the uterus and having issues TTC going forward. I am going to talk with my doctor on Monday, but I do want to put this all behind me and move on.
I had my D&C late on a Tuesday night. I took off Wednesday and Thursday and went back to work Friday. From what I've read, I've had a tougher D&C recovery than most people though--like I said, the anesthesia did a number on my neck and throat, so it was very sore, and I was pretty weak from everything that transpired before the D&C.
FWIW, if you do opt for the D&C, I would recommend not TTC for at least one full cycle. My doctor told me 3 weeks, and it just so happened that I Oed 3 weeks later, and I got pregnant. It was a chemical pregnancy because the D&C took my lining down to basically nothing and it needed a little more time to regenerate. I wish I'd been told to wait a full cycle. FWIW, this baby is the result of the post-CP cycle and all has been well so it did not seem to have a long-lasting effect on our fertility.
I had the d&c on a Thursday, and took Friday off too. Physically, I would have been fine to work the next day, but emotionally, I was happy to have the day off. Personally, I had no complications from the d&c and I went on to have a healthy pregnancy and I have a 3 mo old DD now, but I understand your concerns. After going through the first miscarriage naturally, having the d&c was an easy decision for me. It really is a personal decision, so talk to your doctor and make whatever choice you're most comfortable with.
Weird, I can ditto almost everything in this post, except my son is 4 months not 3. D&C Thursday, could have worked Fri but DH and I both took the day off work and tried to have a good day. Movie and then lunch at a Mexican place with one of those monster fishbowl margaritas for me.
Post by badtzmaru22 on Aug 11, 2012 15:47:29 GMT -5
I'm so sorry for your loss. My missed mc was discovered on a Wednesday. I took the rest of the week off work because there was a pregnant girl in my dept and i just couldn't look at her. I had a d&c on Friday and went back to work on Monday. I am very glad I chose the d&c. I wish I could have taken more time off work, but I guess it was good to jump back in also. Except my first day back was the day of pg girl's anatomy scan, and everyone else was off their nut excited for her, and I just wanted to crawl under my desk and cry.
With my miscarriage, it started naturally and I was in horrible pain and had tons of bleeding. I ended up going to the ER in Sunday. I went back to the hospital the next day and the pain was unbearable even with the mess they gave me. I was able to get a d&c that afternoon and it was such a relief to not have to go through any more days of pain and bleeding and have the healing begin, so to speak. My OB knew I wanted to get pregnant again and said she tried to do as little scraping as possible. I got pregnant two cycles later and went on to have a healthy pregnancy.