I had a friend who changed her wedding plans a few months before the wedding. They decided they didn't want to spend cash on a the ceremony and reception. So their plan was to have their ceremony and reception on a cruise ship before it embarked (with them on it, of course.)
So the wedding invitations invited everyone to this shitty port city, and then asked for each attendee to send her a copy of their license and $35 because that's what the cruise line required to allow them on board for cake and punch, and the get off the boat before it left a few hours later.
And then she got mad because half the bridal party declined to participate and only some close family members attended. Because who wants to spend multiple days in a shitty port city on their own dime with a few months notice? So they can eat cake and punch on cruise ship they won't be traveling on?
I already shelled out about $500 just in attire she asked me to purchase as part of her bridal party, and when I refused to book a trip to shitty port city with a few months notice, it pretty much ended our friendship.
And I know she spent $15k between her wedding dress and wedding ring, so there was $0 reason to ask guests to pay $35 to sit on a boat and eat cake.
Nothing crazy except the standard "No Boxed Gifts Please" at the bottom of many of the Indian wedding invitations we get. I am always tempted to wrap the check in a box.
then asked for each attendee to send her a copy of their license and $35 because that's what the cruise line required to allow them on board for cake and punch,
^o) People LITERALLY had to pay to attend her wedding. I just can't even....
Nothing crazy except the standard "No Boxed Gifts Please" at the bottom of many of the Indian wedding invitations we get. I am always tempted to wrap the check in a box.
I actually completely understand this. In the absence of a registry, you get some humdingers of gifts. I was 13 when my uncle got married, and was there for the, day after, gift opening bonanza*. Picture 8 adults and a couple of kids in a room, opening gifts, and getting rid of wrapping, trying to figure out what it is and who sent it, in order to send a thank you note.
And then there were the multiples of things 4 silver tea sets - all engraved with a monogram so you're stuck with it for life, can't even regift that crap. I have no idea what happened to half of it after it was opened. I don't think I've ever seen any of it again.
We had a regsitry and *still* ended up with a bunch of random stuff from my relatives - jewelry for me. A pair of watches for us that is not either of our style, but was fairly expensive.
Although I have to say I'm guilty of this myself once or twice. If I can't find something I like on the registry I have gone off script. We bought a good friend of ours a really nice chess set, because he's really into chess. I've never seen it, but their youngest is 3, so I hope it will make an appearance at some point when the kids are older. Right now, it would have teeth marks on it.
*eta somewhere between 300 and 400 guests, so you do the math. Everyone brought something because in India, you bring the gift to the wedding, you don't send it before or after.
Oh I get it - but it is still tacky IMO. We have received a lot of crazy, random things even with a registry as well. It was all donated unless it was jewelry since that is expected to be worn later.
The latest wedding has no registry and has that at the bottom so it means exactly what you think it means. And I find that side-eye worthy.
I had a friend who changed her wedding plans a few months before the wedding. They decided they didn't want to spend cash on a the ceremony and reception. So their plan was to have their ceremony and reception on a cruise ship before it embarked (with them on it, of course.)
So the wedding invitations invited everyone to this shitty port city, and then asked for each attendee to send her a copy of their license and $35 because that's what the cruise line required to allow them on board for cake and punch, and the get off the boat before it left a few hours later.
And then she got mad because half the bridal party declined to participate and only some close family members attended. Because who wants to spend multiple days in a shitty port city on their own dime with a few months notice? So they can eat cake and punch on cruise ship they won't be traveling on?
I already shelled out about $500 just in attire she asked me to purchase as part of her bridal party, and when I refused to book a trip to shitty port city with a few months notice, it pretty much ended our friendship.
And I know she spent $15k between her wedding dress and wedding ring, so there was $0 reason to ask guests to pay $35 to sit on a boat and eat cake.
Nothing crazy except the standard "No Boxed Gifts Please" at the bottom of many of the Indian wedding invitations we get. I am always tempted to wrap the check in a box.
I actually completely understand this. In the absence of a registry, you get some humdingers of gifts.
But I don't get why you need to TELL people "give cash". If they want to give you a humdinger of a gift, well, that's THEIR choice. Dictating that you want cash is just tacky, no matter how justified it may feel.
then asked for each attendee to send her a copy of their license and $35 because that's what the cruise line required to allow them on board for cake and punch,
People LITERALLY had to pay to attend her wedding. I just can't even....
I had a friend who changed her wedding plans a few months before the wedding. They decided they didn't want to spend cash on a the ceremony and reception. So their plan was to have their ceremony and reception on a cruise ship before it embarked (with them on it, of course.)
So the wedding invitations invited everyone to this shitty port city, and then asked for each attendee to send her a copy of their license and $35 because that's what the cruise line required to allow them on board for cake and punch, and the get off the boat before it left a few hours later.
And then she got mad because half the bridal party declined to participate and only some close family members attended. Because who wants to spend multiple days in a shitty port city on their own dime with a few months notice? So they can eat cake and punch on cruise ship they won't be traveling on?
I already shelled out about $500 just in attire she asked me to purchase as part of her bridal party, and when I refused to book a trip to shitty port city with a few months notice, it pretty much ended our friendship.
And I know she spent $15k between her wedding dress and wedding ring, so there was $0 reason to ask guests to pay $35 to sit on a boat and eat cake.
The shitty port city wasn't in NJ, was it?
Nope, it was Galveston.
I hate Galveston. Sorry Texas.
It may be nice for people who live in that area, but it's nothing I'd travel hundreds of miles to see.
Someone invited women to her shower but not the wedding.
I had a friend do this as well, even when I gently tried to suggest that that wasn't how it was supposed to work.
Now, my BIL and his bride and planning to rescind some of their STD "invites" because a few people haven't been "supportive enough" over the last couple of months.
Someone invited women to her shower but not the wedding.
I had a friend do this as well, even when I gently tried to suggest that that wasn't how it was supposed to work.
Now, my BIL and his bride and planning to rescind some of their STD "invites" because a few people haven't been "supportive enough" over the last couple of months.
my sister went to some wedding in the middle of nowhere. You had to drive along a hilly + muddy dirt road, and she didn't exactly have an off-road car. Guests showed up and were enlisted in prep tasks, up to and including cooking dinner.
I don't know nuggetbrain's story, and now I'm curious
I had a friend do this as well, even when I gently tried to suggest that that wasn't how it was supposed to work.
Now, my BIL and his bride and planning to rescind some of their STD "invites" because a few people haven't been "supportive enough" over the last couple of months.
lol ... what exactly is "supportive" to them?
My favorite example was the friend who didn't answer his phone when BIL called him one morning. :? Seriously, BIL's car wouldn't start so he called this friend thinking he should be home and friend didn't answer the phone. So now, BIL doesn't want him at the wedding.
My BIL is getting married 2 weeks before Christmas on a Thursday morning. We know they are on a budget so we offered the $500 difference so they could do Saturday morning. He declined and told us he was going to use it for their honeymoon. It will be a brunch reception with no booze.
He thinks people will only have to take Thursday off work (leave after work Wednesday & after the wedding Thursday). We are their closest family at 3.5 hours away.
They have also set up a honey fund and PayPal account instead of a traditional registry.
High school friends got married soon after college and invited all their friends to the reception but not the ceremony. But the reception AFTER food and cake. The invitation said a time to come, cash bar and their registry info. My mom was disgusted and told me not to go but I wanted to see everyone.
Basically it was an invitation to the dance. Pay for your own drinks, no food, no cake and bring a gift.
When I got there they were running later than they assumed or something and all the late reception guests were standing in this hallway waiting. A friend of mine was a relative of the bride and saw me and waved me in to the dinner to talk. I went to her table and squeezed on her chair to talk to her for a few minutes. The sister of the groom was giving me NASTY looks. I said good bye and went back to the hall to wait and was embarrassed I had crashed the wedding or something. Years later I was like no, that entire family should be ashamed. That was tacky as hell.
Post by bluelikejazz on Apr 2, 2015 16:20:06 GMT -5
I got a FB message like 6 months before the wedding asking for our address so they could send us an invite for the wedding "in June". Cool, whatever. Then SILENCE. Nothing.
Monday before the wedding, we get another FB message that says "Hey guys, we forgot to send invites. Wedding is on Saturday at XX park at YY time. Hope you can come!" -8 hour drive away.
Then I saw pictures after the fact - reception was a Chipotle.
Post by tacoflavoredkisses on Apr 2, 2015 16:35:49 GMT -5
My husband's best friend eloped and 4 months later had a BBQ at their house to celebrate. We got a handmade invite on construction paper inviting us to the BYOB BBQ.
Apparently we were the assholes because we didn't want to drive 10 hours or pay to fly to a party that we had to bring our own beverages to.
So, it wasn't "tacky" per se, but I received a wedding invitation that only had the Bride and Groom's first and middle names. I couldn't figure out who the couple was until I realized their faux pas.
My cousin sent save the dates for a fancy wedding at a Biltmore estate. Then, a few months preceding they put out word (to at least me and my folks) that the wedding was off. 3 weeks before said date, my dad got a request to give my uncle money for travel, a tux, and a gift for said wedding (dad has guardianship over his disabled brother).
Not exactly a wedding, but I got a fb invite to a bridal shower three days before the event, which was being held at 11am on a Thursday. I obviously declined.
I was invited to the actual wedding, which was AWFUL. Outdoors, 80+ degrees, super humid, complete with filthy stinking port a potty, ceremony started an hour late and all they had to drink was luke warm beer (I was 8 months pregnant). It was at the bride's family "farm", which was really a shitty cabin in the middle of nowhere. The couple didn't register, then had a jar where you could put money next to the dance "floor" aka the only solid surface to be found. Everywhere else was covered with straw to absorb the mud. Guests also had to take a shuttle to the site, which was some guys van, so we were stuck there for hours. Omg I'm raging just thinking about it again.
Someone invited women to her shower but not the wedding.
I had a friend do this as well, even when I gently tried to suggest that that wasn't how it was supposed to work.
I just about had to demand my MOH stick to the wedding invite list for the shower. She was all "buy everyone will want to come!" Meanwhile, I'm clutching pearls.
Otoh, back in college, before I knew anything... A friend of mine was getting married. Her sister threw a small lingerie shower. She was my fraternity pledge sister, and the only ppl I knew at the shower were the sister (also in fraternity) and said pledge sister's fraternity big sister. Fast forward a bit and me and big sister were the only ppl to get wedding invites. We went, it was fun. Kinda wonder why it as just us two. Fast forward about 6 years and I'm all "Oooooooohhhhhhhhh."