Poll: tackiest wedding invitation you've gotten?

[v]

Any other good ones?

(I don't mean aesthetically tacky -- like, rude tacky).

[magdala]

Does it count as an invitation if it is through Facebook?

[v]

Apr 2, 2015 9:26:28 GMT -5 magdala said:

Does it count as an invitation if it is through Facebook?

Of course!

[Susie]

I can't think of any invitations that will rate, compared to some of the ish I see people post about.

But this seems like a fair time to bring up the wedding on a dairy farm that we went to a bunch of years ago. It poured, and they had all the guests sitting outside w/ no cover. There was a cover over the "altar" area though for the wedding party and musicians. I always wondered if they had any second thoughts when looking at photos of all of us sitting there in rows with our umbrellas staggered and stuffed in.

[mbcdefg]

I don't think I've ever gotten a particularly tacky one. I don't even remember if I've ever gotten a wedding invite with registry into. I know friends of mine have received those. 

I once got invited to an engagement party at a casual restaurant, and then when I got there I found out we all had to pay for whatever we ordered. 

[UnderProtest]

I'll let you know in a bit. I haven't gotten the one for the in law wedding yet.

[Pom]

Apr 2, 2015 9:27:50 GMT -5 Susie said:

I can't think of any invitations that will rate, compared to some of the ish I see people post about.

But this seems like a fair time to bring up the wedding on a dairy farm that we went to a bunch of years ago. It poured, and they had all the guests sitting outside w/ no cover. There was a cover over the "altar" area though for the wedding party and musicians. I always wondered if they had any second thoughts when looking at photos of all of us sitting there in rows with our umbrellas staggered and stuffed in.

It pisses me off when people give no consideration their guests.  Did it also smell?  Because dairy farms stink and wet dairy cow shit smell is indescribable.  :::gag:::

[v]

We have two -- both former coworkers of my husband.

1. Destination wedding at an all-inclusive resort in the the Dominican Republic. Meaning, the couple got a free wedding because they were going to be bringing people to the resort who would attend the wedding as part of the all-inclusive experience the guests had paid for. RSVP was by phone, which was very odd for a wedding. Registry info was included on the invitation. But the part that was really bad is that the hotel info card noted "Please note that if you do not stay at [the resort where the wedding was] you will be charged [however much a daypass to the resort was] to attend the wedding."

2. Maybe 3 weeks before a coworker's wedding y husband and a few received others an email from the coworker that attached a scan of her paper wedding invitation. The ceremony was at 4 pm on a Tuesday (but she's orthodox so maybe that's normal? at any rate...) The invitation shared all wedding details, but the email said that she couldn't invite these people to the wedding reception, but you are invited to the ceremony. (The "we can't invite you to the wedding reception" was not a religious thing -- other non-orthodox coworkers were invited to the whole shindig).

(Note: we did not attend either wedding).

[magdala]

So my cousins decided to announce their wedding on Facebook Saturday morning for a 1 pm service at their house that day with a potluck picnic to follow. It was drizzling that morning. The service was conducted by a circle leader (still not sure what religion that is). They were incensed that about two thirds of the family did not show. They did call our mutual grandmother since she is not on Facebook, but she was not home either. Since I was part of the group of no shows, I don't know how big a fiasco it truly was. They have not spoken to me in the last six years and I haven't missed them.

[Pom]

Apr 2, 2015 9:33:16 GMT -5 v said:

"Please note that if you do not stay at [the resort where the wedding was] you will be charged [however much a daypass to the resort was] to attend the wedding."

No assholes, if the guests don't stay there, YOU AS THE HOSTS PAY FOR THEM TO BE ON PROPERTY.

I think "some" people lose all sense of propriety when weddings roll around or maybe I am too generous and are they always so clueless?

[h]

We have received a couple invites with registry information included with the invitation, but that's about it. I can't think of any horribly tacky invites. My H went alone to the wedding of a b-school friend who sent him an e-vite, but I never saw it and therefore cannot speak to it's relative tackiness.

We did recently receive what looks like a wedding invitation from some already married friends inviting us to join them on vacation in Hawaii during a two-week period. It includes information about where they are staying and says kids are welcome, and there is a response card included. However, it gives no information about any parties they will be hosting and does not indicate that the host couple will be paying for anything. Just an engraved invitation to say "we're going on an expensive vacation. Why don't you come to?" Kind of odd, no?

[Susie]

Pom - DID. IT. EVER.

[UnderProtest]

Oh, I wasn't invited, but the worst wedding I've heard of was an outdoor wedding in July in the pit of South Carolina. The couple LOVED this outdoor location and HAD to have it on her (late) father's birthday. Uhm, pick one or the other, outside in SC in July is not an option. The guys must have lost about 10 pounds due to sweating under their suits.

[bunnysmom]

My husband's boss had two diferent "classes" of guests at his wedding: he invited some people to the normal reception and he invited some others to come after dinner, so that he wouldn't have to cover their plates.

My husband was invited to come after dinner and without me, so it goes without saying that he didn't go.

[Deleted]

I got one which had glitter/confetti in it along with 3 different "we're registered" here cards. No RSVP card either.
Im more annoyed by things which happen at the wedding/reception than the invite though. Don't direct your guests to shitty hotels, run out of food, don't provide anything besides water to drink, or show up 2 hours late to the reception among them (after a 2 hour gap).

[Deleted]

hmm I haven't gotten anything bad for a wedding. One time I was invited to a bridal shower/bachelorette. It was an evite with the registry info there (that part is totally fine). But we all got an email later with the registry info again and ANOTHER email that we were supposed to buy gifts with a theme and make a basket. "For example, kitchen theme would have gifts for the kitchen, wrapped in a basket." wtf I wasn't making a basket and decorating it. There was also a number or email if you had any questions. I remember I tried to contact it and it turned out to the bride herself. lammeee

I think this counts as a tacky wedding invitation. One of my co-workers got married here and then spent some time in our office overseas a few months later. We have a few ppl staffed there. He invited them to a nice dinner to celebrate his wedding. His wife was not there. They gave him red envelopes with $$ (traditional in our culture) since it was like he was hosting a reception/celebration or something and then he EXPENSED the dinner. The admin told me she couldn't believe it. lol

Not wedding related. I got an evite to a bday party of a girl I barely knew. She sent it out herself and then requested giftcards to Victoria Secret because she "needed new stuff hehehe". (She had just gotten a boob job and was pretty aw about it on fb.)

[CallingAllAngels]

The e-vite wedding invitation

[qcinoct]

my cousin got married at a state park in Maine, about 1.5 hours from any hotels (and most of the family lives in MA). That, in and of itself, isn't bad, but their invitation stated that the wedding was POT LUCK, including BYO dishes/utensils. So, basically a camping wedding. I couldn't go but my parents did and brought wine, since they didn't want to deal with lugging a cooler to a wedding.

[itsme]

Apr 2, 2015 9:47:32 GMT -5 milsaroo said:

I received a STD in the mail for a reception in September, but an e-mail with the link to the invite on TK for the August ceremony.

It's obviously been awhile since my wedding because I read this way wrong.

[ECB]

Apr 2, 2015 9:41:46 GMT -5 h said:

We did recently receive what looks like a wedding invitation from some already married friends inviting us to join them on vacation in Hawaii during a two-week period. It includes information about where they are staying and says kids are welcome, and there is a response card included. However, it gives no information about any parties they will be hosting and does not indicate that the host couple will be paying for anything. Just an engraved invitation to say "we're going on an expensive vacation. Why don't you come to?" Kind of odd, no?

Surprise vow renewal???

[thatgirl2478]

I'm not sure if it's rude or tacky or if I'm just BEC with this particular person.

We received an invite to a wedding that stated that while children under 6 were invited, they would not be providing food for them but that we (the parents) should feel free to a) feed them before the event b) pack snacks or c) share your plate with them. There are seriously 6 kids under 6 - and 3 of them are either not eating table food or are just starting (it's a family wedding, I know how many kids are on our side, who knows how many are on the other side).

And it's not in a location where you would expect to be able to have access to a microwave (ie a hotel with a breakfast area or whatever)...

OH and they are moving shortly after the wedding, so they didn't register and instead asked for money for either establishing their household or their honeymoon... which I get, but shouldn't that be word of mouth rather than printed on the invite?

[h]

Apr 2, 2015 10:37:49 GMT -5 ECB said:

Apr 2, 2015 9:41:46 GMT -5 h said:

We did recently receive what looks like a wedding invitation from some already married friends inviting us to join them on vacation in Hawaii during a two-week period. It includes information about where they are staying and says kids are welcome, and there is a response card included. However, it gives no information about any parties they will be hosting and does not indicate that the host couple will be paying for anything. Just an engraved invitation to say "we're going on an expensive vacation. Why don't you come to?" Kind of odd, no?

Surprise vow renewal???

That was my thought, but if that was the case wouldn't you at least provide a date for dinner or something? The invitation just gives a two week window when they will be there. It seems like people could end up coming for part of the time and miss the vow renewal. I really have no idea what is going on.

[ECB]

Apr 2, 2015 10:40:37 GMT -5 h said:

Apr 2, 2015 10:37:49 GMT -5 ECB said:

Surprise vow renewal???

That was my thought, but if that was the case wouldn't you at least provide a date for dinner or something? The invitation just gives a two week window when they will be there. It seems like people could end up coming for part of the time and miss the vow renewal. I really have no idea what is going on.

Yeah.... that's true.  That's REALLY weird then.  When yo ufind out, you have to tell us!

[irene adler]

I recently received an fb save the date (with the promise of an evite to follow) to a wedding at Magic mountain in the middle of summer(ie, when it's HOT). They will be getting married at one of the roller coasters at noon.

This was the same couple that threw a zombie apocolypse baby shower fundraiser (where you could buy raffle tickets to win a free private performance of the baby daddy's band). Hipsters aren't really my thing, but I do regret not going to see this.

[gibbinator]

The one where we didn't get an invite. The bride(dh's coworker) just told him on a Thursday that we were invited to their Saturday wedding.
B-listed. Womp womp

[mbcdefg]

Apr 2, 2015 11:19:20 GMT -5 gibbinator said:

The one where we didn't get an invite. The bride(dh's coworker) just told him on a Thursday that we were invited to their Saturday wedding.
B-listed. Womp womp

Two days before with a verbal invite? That's, like, G-listed. 

[girlscout]

My sister was in her friends wedding. the friend was a neighbor of ours growing up and my sister and her husband lived across the street from the friends childhood home where they were getting dressed for the wedding. I was babysitting my sisters kids and we were outside to see the bride leave for the church. Her mom, who didn't realize I was babysitting, comes up to me and says " we had a few people say they cant make it today, why don't you come in their place?" I think that is lower than "B"list! LOL

[Pom]

I have gotten just the run of the mill stuff with invites, but nothing over the top. I have dealt with some pretty heinous brides though over the years with the "well it's my wedding, so I don't care about my guests" attitude with regards to venue, seating, rain/weather plans, etc... When discussions turned to considerations that didn't fit in with the "vision" of the wedding, they shot down any alternate suggestion or back-up plan.

Okay then, fucking elope, just don't make your guests suffer.

Clearly, it was time for me to quit the wedding biz.

[lpcats]

We got an invitation about a week ago for a wedding on April 11. The RSVP date was March 11. The invitation hadn't gotten lost in the mail as the postmark date was just a few days earlier. We were clearly on the B list, if not C list.

[ssmjlm]

1-When BIL got married to SIL they had a small wedding (I mean, her 3rd, his 2nd, so yeah), but all the details were 2nd and 3rd hand. We really had no idea what was going on until the day before. Then I showed up in a sundress and realized besides the B&G I was the most dressed up person there. :/

2-DH's cousin texted me that she hadn't received my RSVP. I had to figure out what she was talking about. She had gotten married a few months previously because her mom was sick, so everyone was under the impression that was her wedding. NOPE she was having a 2nd wedding for family/friends/gift grab. I asked her to send us an invite, but she never sent one. We had no idea what was going on b/c she never sent us an invite. Then the weekend of her wedding we had a hurricane and the wedding was cancelled. The marriage sadly didn't make it a year. I told DH I wanted my gift back after all that clusterfuck.