If/when you get married again

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It's been a while since we've chatted about this sort of thing.
If/when you get married again, what type of wedding celebration would you choose (if any)? And what's different about it from the last time around (besides the groom-lol)? If you've done it already, tell us about it.

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[Deleted]

I'll answer my own question. I've never cared to have a big wedding.  The first time was small (less than 50 people) and held at a restaurant.  It was nice, nothing crazy. And honestly more than I wanted. 

When/if I do it again...I really don't want a wedding.  I'd be perfectly happy with going to the courthouse and then on a nice long vacation. I don't care for being the center of attention and spending tons of money on a "party".  

[bg]

I'm the same as you. I had a small wedding the first time and I'd rather just elope on our own if I end up getting married again.

[sweetchix]

I'd prefer something smaller and more informal. However, if my fiancé had never been married before and wanted something bigger, I'd probably be ok with that.

[1confused1]

I likely won't get married again.

But I'll still play: it would be a small ceremony on a boat in Lake Tahoe with just close family and friends.

My first wedding was the first marriage for both families so it was huge and followed all the wedding rules.

[alleinesein]

It all depends. If I marry someone who has never been married before then I will do whatever they want to do. I had 6 family members at my first wedding so if I do get remarried I hope that a few more of them would actually be able to make it.

[achase123]

It's a tough call. BF and I have discussed this hypothetically. He would still want another wedding with a lot of people. I would be fine with this but would not want a stuffy formal wedding that would be stressful. I would just want a big party. And I do think that experience would be good for P.

[jigsy]

My first was exactly what I wanted. Small, on a beach, beautiful.
Next time, who knows...I think the groom matters.
That said, I'd be the dream daughter in law for a FMIL who only had boys...she could plan whatever the hell she wanted, I'd roll with it.

[MauMau]

Elope in a fun location. Or backyard wedding with just family. We know a guy who comes to your house and makes pizza. It's been great for small gatherings and I think perfect for a wedding.

I had this gorgeous wedding. It was perfect. My mom and planned out so many neat details. It was on the harbor. But I married a douche. And I realize how much money was spent on it. And I don't want to personally spend that and of have my parents spend that again.

[Deleted]

I will never remarry. But I love the idea of an amazing Vegas wedding. Ceremony in the bellagio gardens followed by a super fancy dinner then VIP and bottle service at a fun club. I'd probably have 25 people max and in my dreams would pay for them all. I also want a post wedding brunch at a buffet with unlimited mimosas.

[bl]

I had an amazing smallish 60 person wedding where we just had a blast. It truly was a fun celebration with friends we had a photo booth, did shots with the bartender, rapped ice ice baby, and then the whole bridal party went back to the suite and drank champagne and ate leftover wedding cake until 4am. It was everything I wanted.

I would absolutely do something like that again or I would be happy doing a smaller ceremony on a beach with a party after. I would leave it more up to the groom if it's his first wedding, but I would like some kind of celebration.

[tiffany81]

I would want to elope or have a small, intimate wedding on the beach. Nothing big or expensive. I have money guilt over how much we spent on my wedding to XH. But like jigsy, I'd defer to my fiancé if he had never been married or it was super important.

[cuddlyevil]

I want to get married again. I would take in to account what kind of wedding my partner wants. What I'd really love is an wicked awesome honeymoon since stbx and I never really did one.

[acr]

I'm planning my 2nd wedding right now to someone who hasn't been married before, and I feel like I'll be having what I want. I really would have been happy with a church ceremony and a small dinner with family & friends afterwards, but he would like a bit more pomp. Ceremony & reception at a winery we love, fun food (right now we're leaning towards wood fired pizza & a gourmet donuts), bocce ball, jenga, corn hole, bounce house outside, and acoustic guitar player singing on the patio. My first wedding was a huge fancy church and country club affair. This will be a more casual party that reflects the life we're building together.

[dreamcrisp1]

I haven't gotten married before but...

We've decided we're gonna have a small destination wedding and a reception/party when we get back. I've always wanted a small wedding. Id rather elope but our parents have said they'd rather be there so small destination it is! I think a big wedding is a waste of money but it's also not my style. We've discussed Costa rica, Fiji, Aruba... But logistics and financials would need to be determined to choose one.

[acr]

Like cuddlyevil, honeymoon was a big priority for us. We booked that before we did anything else!

[Emerald1486]

IF I get married again.... it would probably be a small wedding. Or a wedding at renfaire so all of my close friends could attend. I don't really want a big thing. I'd rather have a great honeymoon. But, it would also be what my partner wants too.
I'm not sure how much I would do different, aside from the length of the ceremony (longer than 5 minutes please!)

[jellymankelly]

I got married in Vegas the first time. It was perfect. If I had it to do over, the only thing I would change (other than the groom) is, I would have gone down to the end of the strip and had fun photos made at the Welcome to Las Vegas sign.

As for wedding #2, I want it to be small. Unfortunately, just family and close friends would probably be about 75 people, which is not my definition of small. I want it to be casual - no tuxes, I want to wear a short dress, I want lots of music that's meaningful to us, rather than traditional stuff.

I should add that BF has never been married and his mom likely won't travel, so a destination wedding is probably out.

[Wanderista]

I haven't been married before. I would want to do it in an economical but stylish way. My mom would want a lot of the traditional elements. I'd try to make it nice and fun but not too much of a production. I guess that's easy for me to say when I've never planned one but I would be willing to do something like have it in the middle of the day on a Sunday. I would want significant people to be there and for them to be allowed to have a +1. I would want to feed them decently.

Luckily, I happen to know some talented musicians, stylists and photographers among my friends. I'd want it to be nice but I wouldn't want to spend extravagantly either. I would want a gorgeous dress though. There's a side of me that would elope but I know that my mom wouldn't have any of it.

[cam13]

I doubt I'll get married again but if I do, I'd like something small and very us. And I want a kick ass dress and some amazing shoes!

[Wanderista]

Oh, one other thing is that I would like to have a small second ceremony at a historic church that has symbolic meaning for my family. It's a historic site that they helped to found and over the years, there were a number of important family events there like weddings and christenings. For a number of reasons, I probably wouldn't want my main ceremony to be there. It's really remote for most of my friends and because my parents are divorced, it would cause some drama to have a main ceremony there. However, it only costs $300 to rent the building, so it would be easy to have a simple additional ceremony there for sentimental familial purposes.

[stephreloaded]

I haven't been married but I have never liked big parties or stuffy/formal weddings. I would like to do something very small so a destination wedding with very close family would be perfect.

[starryfish]

I haven't been here for a while....but I eloped with my now DH in March. We both wanted to get married with our toes in the sand, so we took a cruise and got married on Grand Cayman Island. It was beautiful and absolutely perfect with just the two of us.

[mysterons]

I had a traditional wedding the first time around.  My dream second wedding would be on a cliff in Big Sur. Something small and private, maybe just the two of us. I'm most looking forward the prospect of picking out a dress, which would be something like this perhaps: cpbetas.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/05/plus-size-wedding-dress-melbourne.jpg

[MyName]

Jun 11, 2015 23:16:20 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

I likely won't get married again.

But I'll still play: it would be a small ceremony on a boat in Lake Tahoe with just close family and friends.

My first wedding was the first marriage for both families so it was huge and followed all the wedding rules.

Mine too.  Honestly, our wedding was for our families.  There was a lot of bad stuff going on at the time (his grandmother's death devastated MIL and my mom had been diagnosed with lung cancer), and we wanted a happy occasion everyone could look forward to.  I never wanted to get married, but we had been together so long we figured, why not?

Now I know exactly why not!!  lol

I won't get married again.

[winecat]

I'd prefer not to do all the wedding shenanigans that increase the cost but nobody notices but I'd like some sort of "wedding" type event so that I have good memories. My wedding was great, thoughtful, fun, and not too expensive but after I learned what was going on behind the scenes, it hurt and it's what I remember most.

[prettyinpearls]

I had the best of both words with my second wedding. I couldn't decided if I wanted something small and intimate or a big party. So, we did both!

Friday evening we had a ceremony with about 35 family members. It took place on the amazing back deck of H's grandparents house and we took everyone out to dinner after. The next day we hosted a casual BBQ for 150 of our friends/family. H's XW didn't let him invite any of the firefighters to their wedding, so being able to do that was really important to him this time around.

[riverpestie]

Well, when I get married (again) in 28 days, I will do it in Italy! Because, why the heck not?! HAH!
About 12 - 15 people will be there and we're having a very casual reception back home.

[Queen Mamadala]

My first H and I did GOP, and then dinner followed by a trip to Disneyland. We had a ceremony planned, but plans went out the door due to his leave (military) being changed.

I re-married last spring and we had a handfasting at one of our favorite restaurants and old movie theaters. It was just us and the officiant. No one was aware we were eloping. It was a retro theme.

Tower Theatre/Restaurant

[Queen Mamadala]