It's Friday. Let's talk about Friday things.

[dreamcrisp1]

I'm so jealous of all people having job interviews and I can't get one. And I'm also mad I'm not american for once because the job situation is so much better down there than the city im in.

[Deleted]

I'm so tired today. Stayed up way too late watching Jurassic World. This is probably a flameful confession. I did really love the movie. I'll probably take a nap after my call at 11.

Also a pretty cute guy messaged me on Tindr. I was sort of excited and saw we had a mutual friend on Facebook so I looked him up. Oooohhh he's married. What an idiot. Maybe don't use the dating app that would let you someone easily figure out you marital status.

[Deleted]

Annnd I'm an idiot hahaha. It's a common name with two spellings. OOOps. Guess I'll say hi haha.

[dreamcrisp1]

@pdx18, I saw Jurassic world too! I loved it. Sooo good!

[LoveBug]

So excited that the new season of Orange is the New Black is now out! I wish I could binge watch it all weekend.

[dreamcrisp1]

Jun 12, 2015 11:37:42 GMT -5 mp said:

Jun 12, 2015 11:26:36 GMT -5 dreamcrisp1 said:

I'm so jealous of all people having job interviews and I can't get one. And I'm also mad I'm not american for once because the job situation is so much better down there than the city im in.

What field are you in?

Project management. The job market is just terrible up here, right now.

[Deleted]

@dreamcrisp! wasn't it?? I really really want one of the theme park companies to create a whole jurassic world/park themed land like they did with Harry Potter. One ride just isnt' enough for me!

[dreamcrisp1]

Jun 12, 2015 11:39:32 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

@dreamcrisp! wasn't it?? I really really want one of the theme park companies to create a whole jurassic world/park themed land like they did with Harry Potter. One ride just isnt' enough for me!

Haha, that's what I said after! I want a dinosaur theme park! Minus the indominus Rex.

[liubot]

I filed all of the paperwork with the courts for full physical custody and child support. It's time to get everything documented with the courts so he can't make decisions without me anymore. I feel like an ass asking for child support but he lives with his gf, they have 2 incomes, and I lost my job. He gave me diapers two sizes too small for her the other day when I ran out. He obviously doesn't know vital things about his daughter.
I'm sitting at the DMV to finally change my name on my license. I've only been officially divorced for 3 years and left XH 5 years ago. It's about time...

[liubot]

Oh I also enrolled in cosmetology school. I start in 2 weeks and I'll be done in 10 months. Time to start over with a brand new career.

[jigsy]

Uhhh...I'm equally excited about hanging out with mp on a boat #BoatsAndHoes

[Eureka1984]

Friday random: I took the day off from my second job. I hate playing hooky but I really just needed a break.

[1confused1]

I have been doing so well working out this week, but I'm taking a break today because I think I pulled my butt muscle

We have an incredibly busy weekend, all fun stuff, but we are going to be exhausted! And it's supposed to be hot.

[Deleted]

Jun 12, 2015 12:23:32 GMT -5 liubot said:

I filed all of the paperwork with the courts for full physical custody and child support. It's time to get everything documented with the courts so he can't make decisions without me anymore. I feel like an ass asking for child support but he lives with his gf, they have 2 incomes, and I lost my job. He gave me diapers two sizes too small for her the other day when I ran out. He obviously doesn't know vital things about his daughter.
I'm sitting at the DMV to finally change my name on my license. I've only been officially divorced for 3 years and left XH 5 years ago. It's about time...

FWIW, they won't consider the GF's household contribution. 

[1confused1]

Jun 12, 2015 12:23:32 GMT -5 liubot said:

I filed all of the paperwork with the courts for full physical custody and child support. It's time to get everything documented with the courts so he can't make decisions without me anymore. I feel like an ass asking for child support but he lives with his gf, they have 2 incomes, and I lost my job. He gave me diapers two sizes too small for her the other day when I ran out. He obviously doesn't know vital things about his daughter.
I'm sitting at the DMV to finally change my name on my license. I've only been officially divorced for 3 years and left XH 5 years ago. It's about time...

Wishing you tons of luck with the courts, I'm glad you're getting something filed.

Was there something that prompted for the full physical custody?  Don't you share custody right now

[Deleted]

Going out to dinner tonight w/BF and friends, which should be fun.

Spent my lunch hour looking at refinancing my car loan. With the reduced interest rate (no fees from either lender) and slightly increasing my monthly payment, I'm shaving 2 years and $$ off the loan. I need to go back in and review/sign the documents, but I think I'm going to pull the trigger.

I plan to binge on OITNB this weekend after DD's in bed.

[MyName]

I should be home already because we're doing summer hours, but I'm still in the office because my pain in the ass client had a crisis yesterday and I'm cleaning up that mess (opening a new bank account, fun!). I came in at 9am instead of 10am all week for nothing! (Not really nothing, I will use the hours another day. lol)

[calle28]

Might be a flameful - I think anyone who has custody of their kid should get ordered child support. It's great having a cordial relationship with your ex, but too much can go wrong. It's best to just let the courts handle it.

liubot - Do not feel bad! That his daughter too and he needs to be financially held accountable.

[1confused1]

Jun 12, 2015 14:13:55 GMT -5 calle28 said:

Might be a flameful - I think anyone who has custody of their kid should get ordered child support. It's great having a cordial relationship with your ex, but too much can go wrong. It's best to just let the courts handle it.

liubot - Do not feel bad! That his daughter too and he needs to be financially held accountable.

Not flameful, I agree.

[liubot]

Jun 12, 2015 13:48:43 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

Jun 12, 2015 12:23:32 GMT -5 liubot said:

I filed all of the paperwork with the courts for full physical custody and child support. It's time to get everything documented with the courts so he can't make decisions without me anymore. I feel like an ass asking for child support but he lives with his gf, they have 2 incomes, and I lost my job. He gave me diapers two sizes too small for her the other day when I ran out. He obviously doesn't know vital things about his daughter.
I'm sitting at the DMV to finally change my name on my license. I've only been officially divorced for 3 years and left XH 5 years ago. It's about time...

Wishing you tons of luck with the courts, I'm glad you're getting something filed.

Was there something that prompted for the full physical custody?  Don't you share custody right now

He went behind my back to sign her up for daycare without consulting me and left me off of the paperwork so I couldn't access my daughter's record or whereabouts. The daycare wouldn't disclose any info so it's time to set everything straight.

[alleinesein]

Jun 12, 2015 11:26:36 GMT -5 dreamcrisp1 said:

I'm so jealous of all people having job interviews and I can't get one. And I'm also mad I'm not american for once because the job situation is so much better down there than the city im in.

I just had my second interview this year and I am now on month 27 of being unemployed.  The job market down here is also dismal  

[liubot]

Jun 12, 2015 13:44:39 GMT -5 @bigtowlittletoe said:

Jun 12, 2015 12:23:32 GMT -5 liubot said:

I filed all of the paperwork with the courts for full physical custody and child support. It's time to get everything documented with the courts so he can't make decisions without me anymore. I feel like an ass asking for child support but he lives with his gf, they have 2 incomes, and I lost my job. He gave me diapers two sizes too small for her the other day when I ran out. He obviously doesn't know vital things about his daughter.
I'm sitting at the DMV to finally change my name on my license. I've only been officially divorced for 3 years and left XH 5 years ago. It's about time...

FWIW, they won't consider the GF's household contribution. 

I know this and that's not really what I'm trying to say... He has help paying his bills so he can't bitch that he has no money to pay CS. He's big on excuses about not having money when he goes out a lot and spends his money frivolously. That's not my business but he can't buy diapers in the correct size or shoes in the correct size for her. He puts her in dirty clothes after baths. It's frustrating. Also he doesn't drive or have his license so transportation for her is unreliable and normally through me. He needs to put her first and he only puts his gf first.

[liubot]

Maybe my flameful today is I'm going to donate plasma for money. In the waiting room now. Yay.

[calle28]

Jun 12, 2015 15:24:47 GMT -5 liubot said:

Maybe my flameful today is I'm going to donate plasma for money. In the waiting room now. Yay.

I did that a few times in college! Not flameful.

[berbles]

I'm still unemployed too.

I'm signing up to be a driver for Uber and Lyft. I'd rather do that than take a temp job doing what I was doing before. My mom doesn't understand (my previous job was in her field; she thinks I should stop being picky about actually liking my job and just take something that pays me. It makes me cry to even consider that.)

[bg]

I'm at a conference and should be trying to network with bigwigs to help me get a job. Instead I'm having fun connecting with other grad students. #sorrynotsorry Of course it's gonna make it harder to get a job next year...

[alleinesein]

Jun 12, 2015 15:29:35 GMT -5 mp said:

Jun 12, 2015 15:12:59 GMT -5 alleinesein said:

I just had my second interview this year and I am now on month 27 of being unemployed.  The job market down here is also dismal  

What field are you in, again? Would you move if you found a job up near LA, or something?

I was in the diamond industry but I am trying to either go back to accounting (9+ years of experience) or just get my foot in the door somewhere and then hopefully move up.  The problem is that 99.9% of HR managers have no idea what my last job was and they can't be bothered to actually ask me about it so even though I have a ton of transferrable skills no one is willing to give me a chance.  Unfortunately moving is not an option due to having no $$$ to move.  

[jigsy]

Jun 12, 2015 15:51:46 GMT -5 alleinesein said:

Jun 12, 2015 15:29:35 GMT -5 mp said:

What field are you in, again? Would you move if you found a job up near LA, or something?

I was in the diamond industry but I am trying to either go back to accounting (9+ years of experience) or just get my foot in the door somewhere and then hopefully move up.  The problem is that 99.9% of HR managers have no idea what my last job was and they can't be bothered to actually ask me about it so even though I have a ton of transferrable skills no one is willing to give me a chance.  Unfortunately moving is not an option due to having no $$$ to move.  

Do you need a resume re-vamp maybe? If you think the issue is that your skills aren't being seen as transferable/applicable, maybe a skills based resume is needed.

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Jun 12, 2015 15:12:59 GMT -5 alleinesein said:

I just had my second interview this year and I am now on month 27 of being unemployed.  The job market down here is also dismal  

 OMG.  I had no idea the job market is still so bad - certain fields?  Areas?  Sending many positive vibes your way...


Random Friday:

My dad just texted me  "Your dad now has a SMART phone" haha.  I had to do a double-take when the text alert chimed.

I have no plans, again, this weekend.  I'm ok with that.  OITNB.   I decided today I'm giving myself 6 months to adjust/grieve my divorce (official date 3/25 started the clock) before I stress myself out about making more of an effort at being social, dating, or whatever. 

[alleinesein]

I use cover letters when they are specifically requested; I've actually come across job postings that state that they will automatically toss your resume if you include a cover letter. I've also had an HR manager for L-3 look over my resume and she says it is fine. The few recruiters who have reviewed it said that there is nothing wrong with it so I'm a bit perplexed as to what needs to be changed.

One thing I did do was change my last name to an initial and I removed my college graduation year and that got me 1 interview and 2 recruiters contacting me after no nibbles in 3+ months.