Just because you had a child first doesn't mean that you get to control how your sister names her children. Who cares if the names rhyme? I don't see why this is such a big deal. Your daughter is how much older than her future cousin?
See, this pisses me off. Why the fuck is it so hard for people to get that just because something isn't a big deal to THEM, doesn't mean it negates the fact it's a big deal to somebody else. And then is a dick about it. "You don't get to control how your sister names her children!" It's not like she was talking about flinging herself in front of the damn birth certificate. She already knew she probably couldn't say anything.
"I don't think it's a big deal." Unless somebody is asking if it's a big deal then IT'S NOT ABOUT YOUR DAMN OPINION ON IF IT'S A BIG DEAL.
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I already knew I couldn't say anything. And honestly....even if y'all had told me I COULD say something, I probably wouldn't have. I'm pretty non-confrontational in person. But I can still be unhappy about it, as long as I keep that to myself. Or on here. Lol
My sister named her son a rhyming name to my son's name. It's no big deal. It's hardest for my mom to keep the boys name's straight. My sister said she picked out the name way before my son was born. but whatever, it's not high on my list of things to care about.
I knew siblings who were Patrick and Patricia, and both nicknamed Pat.
That's the Catholic in your area talking, Eags.
Those Irish Catholics do not mess around. Of course, on the Italian side of my family I have approximately 27 cousins named Anthony, so I have no room to talk.
My family tree is a cluster-phuque of similar sounding names.
GD1 rhymes with GD3 (like Evian and Avian- lol.) GD1, GD2 and GS2 all have similar sounding names (think Evie, Eva and Evan) My DIL and FDIL are very similar sounding, and also the same or similar to GD3's shortened name (think Ari, Avi, Avie). FDIL has the same name as my sister's DIL (both Ari).
GD1 and GD2 have taken to calling me Gigi ("you're a Great Grandma, grandma. You're a G.G.") which annoys my mom, who also wants to go by Gigi ("they're great-grandchildren so that makes me G.Grandma or G.G. so I should be Gigi"). The girls started it a few years ago - before there were even any other great-grands - and when I told my mom with an "isn't this cute?" there was some major sulking on her part. But the girls started shortly after they moved in with us, and they had enough going on. So I'm Gigi to the girls and she's Gigi to the rest of them and Gigi K or Gramma K to the girls.)
My family tree is a cluster-phuque of similar sounding names.
Dear God. This is nearly impossible to decipher.
It's nearly as impossible to decipher in real life. Loads of fun when we're in a group.
ETA: I changed to examples. Maybe that's easier? And my mom and I are both Gigi. I am Gigi to the two granddaughters who live with me, as a term of affection, and she's Gigi to the rest of the great grandkids, as in "Great-Grandma" so she is Gramma K at our house so we know who is who (which irks her because SHE is Gigi and *I* am merely Grandma without the great. lol.)
2) I love when threads get to the point where the OP is like "Yeah, I know, you guys are right, etc. etc. Look how calm we all are" and then someone comes in all 'TL;DR HERE I COME GUNS BLAZING DON'T BE A TWAT' completely uncalled for.
Just because you had a child first doesn't mean that you get to control how your sister names her children. Who cares if the names rhyme? I don't see why this is such a big deal. Your daughter is how much older than her future cousin?
See, this pisses me off. Why the fuck is it so hard for people to get that just because something isn't a big deal to THEM, doesn't mean it negates the fact it's a big deal to somebody else. And then is a dick about it. "You don't get to control how your sister names her children!" It's not like she was talking about flinging herself in front of the damn birth certificate. She already knew she probably couldn't say anything.
"I don't think it's a big deal." Unless somebody is asking if it's a big deal then IT'S NOT ABOUT YOUR DAMN OPINION ON IF IT'S A BIG DEAL.
See I guess I see it differently. If I were reacting to something in a way that wasn't rational, I like people to point it out to me that it isn't a big deal to calm me down. What I can't handle is when people fire me up even more about it in an attempt to be understanding. That, to me, isn't helpful. It just upsets me more. We all react differently to things so I think having both types of people respond in their ways ensures someone will be helpful to the OP
Post by autumnfire on Jul 15, 2015 12:58:43 GMT -5
I'm in the camp of not seeing it as a big deal, especially with it only being some what matching nicknames.
But with that I'll say, I'm sorry you're frustrated by this. Hopefully with time the frustration lessens. I definitely wouldn't say anything about it now. The time to even joke about it would have been when she first mentioned it. Anything past that may look passive aggressive at which point you mid as well of said how you feel.
My name is Anne and I have a sister. Named Anna. I don't mind so I don't get these posts.
so, your parents are insane? i get that you don't get these posts (how could you? you are anne and she is anna), but it's really fucking weird of your parents to do this.
and IF for some reason, anna is your stepsister that was a result of family blending at a later date (ie: two different people named the child), then it is ridiculous that you did not include this inforamtion.
Hear hear!
That is the second craziest thing Irish has posted here. The first being that a response of "you shouldn't be upset, that's nbd and you're wasting your energy" is helpful in any context ever. My husband is a robot like that about some stuff too. IT'S SO VERY WRONG. I need Bartlett telling people to go sit in their wrongness.
I would mention it. I imagine no one saying anything is how I have seven cousins named Michael. The similar name about me personally but it may be because everyone calls me by dogs names.
Of choose there is nothing you can do if she chooses it anyway but unless you have a really bad relationship it should not be a problem.
Post by snipsnsnails on Jul 15, 2015 13:53:38 GMT -5
Dh's family is like this. Old school Jersey Italian where they have about 4 names that just get recycled. I happen to have the exact same name as my SIL and my MIL due to marrying into this name-cluster. I think it's weird, and always have to ask exactly which aunt or grandma or great uncle they're talking about, but they think it's normal. Ha.
Another Irish Catholic chiming in. FIL was the oldest son of 11 kids, so he, of course, was named after his father. he then named HIS son (my DH) the same name. But of course, being dutiful Irish Catholic kids, 3 of FIL's siblings also named their eldest sons after the grandfather. So DH is one of FOUR first cousins with the exact same first-middle-last combos. It's stupid, but hasn't caused any problems since all 4 live in different states.
Post by bigoleworm on Jul 15, 2015 15:25:34 GMT -5
My brother's brother in law named his kids the same name as my brother's dogs. My brother's two dogs are Jake and Chelsea. His brother in laws kids are Jake and Chelsea. Dogs were around first. It really bothers my sister in law and has told her brother often it bothers her.
I wouldn't say anything, she knows your daughter's name and nickname; but I'd insist on calling her Addison whenever referring/speaking to her and not using the nickname.
Oh yeah. Brilliant. Excellent way to live like a passive aggressive old crone. Welcome to your 70s.
How is calling someone by their given name being passive aggressive? I call both of my children by their given names even though their names could be shortened.
Oh yeah. Brilliant. Excellent way to live like a passive aggressive old crone. Welcome to your 70s.
How is calling someone by their given name being passive aggressive? I call both of my children by their given names even though their names could be shortened.
Those Irish Catholics do not mess around. Of course, on the Italian side of my family I have approximately 27 cousins named Anthony, so I have no room to talk.
Anthony, Nick, Sal, Victor (or Vito.)
There were no boys in my generation so I was Victoria.
I know at least two women who have done this - their last names (and now their sons' first names) are Parker and Bennett. The sons carry their dads' last names.
I know someone who gave her child the same first name as her last name (which is a common first name)…it boggles the mind.
My name is my moms maiden name. And then my last name is from my Dad. It kind of boggles my mind that this boggles your mind lol. This is not an uncommon thing to do.
I know at least two women who have done this - their last names (and now their sons' first names) are Parker and Bennett. The sons carry their dads' last names.
I guess it didn't strike me as that unusual.
Oh yeah I was thinking of Smith Smith. Derp. I'm sure there's at least one somewhere though. Lol
I knew a Jam.ie James and a Gray.son Gray growing up, so...lol.