Should I feel weird about this?

[laurental]

Jul 16, 2015 14:26:28 GMT -5 Captain Serious said:

I just find it interesting that most the people in this thread who have family members with intellectual disabilities or severe mental delays have spoken up agreeing that they would appreciate it if the OP's husband found out a little more before taking him to get a tattoo.

I feel like your personal experiences are giving you crazy tunnel vision on this.

[Captain Serious]

Jul 16, 2015 14:38:46 GMT -5 11d said:

Jul 16, 2015 14:35:28 GMT -5 kevin arnold said:

So now this guy is assumed to have severe mental delays? 

I get why you want your voice to be heard above all others in this conversation, but you're doubling down here based on your assumptions.  Back up a half step and consider that if your assumptions are wrong, then the advice you're giving isn't good. 

This is reaching. 

Well, based on Rak's knowledge, Rak believes there could be a mental delay or disability. So Captain Serious is taking that information and saying if it's true, this is how to proceed. Captain Serious is just talking to the what if, not that it is FOR SURE. Why does communication have to be such a bad thing? 

Thank you.

[calle28]

Jul 16, 2015 14:37:48 GMT -5 AutumnRose25 said:

Jul 16, 2015 14:35:58 GMT -5 calle28 said:

I'm ASSuming rak has more reason to believe this guy might be developmentally delayed than she has shared here.

If she does then why wouldn't she have included that info?

A lot of people don't include all the info in their OP. I have no idea why she didn't. But I just can't see her jumping to thinking he is mentally/developmentally delayed based solely on the fact that he has someone drop him off in scrubs.

She also mentioned he might be in a group home, we don't know the details of that conversation either.

[Captain Serious]

I feel that what I had to say has been heard, so I'm going to check out if this post now. We aren't going to agree and I've given my opinion. There's no need to keep this going.

[calle28]

Bernadine - Come back!

[Bernadine]

Jul 16, 2015 14:43:53 GMT -5 calle28 said:

Bernadine - Come back!

I was in a meeting (I swear), back now, but....I don't really know what to say!

[knx9211]

What have you heard that makes you think he's in a group home? I don't know how you just "get that impression" from someone.

[Bernadine]

Jul 16, 2015 15:07:00 GMT -5 knx9211 said:

What have you heard that makes you think he's in a group home? I don't know how you just "get that impression" from someone.

I swear, I can't remember the exact conversation- I haven't talked to him as much as h has.  I just remember he said something that made me think that.

[Bernadine]

Jul 16, 2015 15:14:50 GMT -5 jenny1980 said:

Jul 16, 2015 15:11:45 GMT -5 Bernadine said:

I swear, I can't remember the exact conversation- I haven't talked to him as much as h has.  I just remember he said something that made me think that.

Does the driver drop him off or is it clear she's actively assisting him?

She does not actively assist him, but she does stay there while he's bowling.

I guess it's a combination of the group home, driver, and the way he speaks is....immature?  I don't know how to describe it.

[Bernadine]

Jul 16, 2015 15:14:53 GMT -5 AutumnRose25 said:

Jul 16, 2015 15:11:45 GMT -5 Bernadine said:

I swear, I can't remember the exact conversation- I haven't talked to him as much as h has.  I just remember he said something that made me think that.

Group home doesn't always mean someone is disabled.

It could be a halfway house situation....does he drink when he is bowling?

Maybe he is a recovering addict or was homeless in the past and that is why he is (possibly) in a shared living situation.

He doesn't drink.

[thebreakfastclub]

I have a unique POV with a tattoo artist brother who has been in a halfway house multiple times. The halfway houses didn't do group activities besides therapy; it's one step out of jail.

My dad was in a rehab hospital for a brain injury, and those caretakers did take the patients to the mall, etc as a group. But they actively assisted/managed the outings. You would not have known immediately that my dad had/has a TBI. He could still consent to a Steelers tattoo, and a Ravens one would be over his dead body.

People do like to bring friends along to tattoo appointments, if they are a fan of the work. I think I'd just offer to meet the guy at the tattoo shop.

[Deleted]

Bob from accounting is on medication that precludes him from driving, so his wife Irene who is a nurse drops him off at bowling.

Bob can't drink on his medication so he feels a little socially awkward in this sittuation.

He befriend Mr Rak because he is a nicee guy.

Now the internet is all up in arms about whether or not he can consent to a tattoo.

Poor Bob.

[tictac]

Jul 16, 2015 17:06:47 GMT -5 tillie said:

Jul 16, 2015 17:05:20 GMT -5 mofongo said:

NOOOO, you ruined the PERFECT ending to this thread.

Damn.  Sorry.  If I were good at gifs I'd add one.

[Deleted]

All this about a tattoo?

At the very worst, the tattoo is bad.

Then you just get another tattoo to make the first tattoo less bad.

[Deleted]

Jul 16, 2015 18:19:30 GMT -5 mofongo said:

This is if the person is neurotypical, MISO!! Did you NOT read?

That means he'll like Pikachu then, right?

[Deleted]

But, really, isn't this the best tattoo fix ever?

I love it so.

[kcr1972]

My boyfriend has a brain injury and doesn't drive. He is sometimes driven to places by his coworkers (wearing scrubs) I wish someone would dare ask intrusive questions about his condition and if he is allowed to get a tattoo. The response from either him or one of his coworkers who know him very well would be very entertaining.

[tictac]

Jul 16, 2015 18:24:37 GMT -5 @misoangry said:

But, really, isn't this the best tattoo fix ever?

I love it so.

I saw this on Buzzfeed a few weeks ago. I love it so freaking much!

[Deleted]

I'm not a big-hearted enough person to care if somebody gets a tattoo.

It's like I also don't care if I drop a fork or knife or whatever during dinner in the air in that other thread.

(So you should just disregard anything I have to say, really.)

[Deleted]

Jul 16, 2015 18:35:42 GMT -5 mofongo said:

Jul 16, 2015 18:34:39 GMT -5 @misoangry said:

I'm not a big-hearted enough person to care if somebody gets a tattoo.

It's like I also don't care if I drop a fork or knife or whatever during dinner in the air in that other thread.

(So you should just disregard anything I have to say, really.)

YOU COULD KILL SOMEONE?? 

Isn't it over water?

Eh.

[Deleted]

Jul 16, 2015 18:38:55 GMT -5 mofongo said:

Jul 16, 2015 18:36:33 GMT -5 @misoangry said:

Isn't it over water?

Eh.

That kind of takes the thrill out...

What?  It's not enough simply to dine high in the air?

You need an element of Russian Fork Roulette?

[Deleted]

Jul 16, 2015 18:48:41 GMT -5 tators said:

Is this a good time to add that my h has Jesus on his back. Jesus.
I wish someone would have consulted his care taker before he got it.

Could this be turned into a tattoo of Jesus painting a self-portrait?

Because I'm all about that.

[Deleted]

Jul 16, 2015 18:52:40 GMT -5 @misoangry said:

Jul 16, 2015 18:48:41 GMT -5 tators said:

Is this a good time to add that my h has Jesus on his back. Jesus.
I wish someone would have consulted his care taker before he got it.

Could this be turned into a tattoo of Jesus painting a self-portrait?

Because I'm all about that.

Or a tattoo of Bob Ross painting Jesus.

[Deleted]

Jul 16, 2015 12:56:36 GMT -5 kevin arnold said:

I change my answer. You SHOULD be concerned. What kind of douche gets a Ravens tattoo?! Save him from himself.

I love you