Did you say anything to your ultrasound tech about not wanting to know the sex?
Last time we wanted to know, so I specifically asked. Just wondering if I should be clear right away that we don't want to know in case that affects how they speak about baby and/or keep screens on during that part?
YES you need to. Especially because you may get different ultrasound techs who don't know any better than to not shield you from obvious baby parts. This happened to DH and he had to keep it a secret from me for 6 months that he already knew.
But TBH having done it both ways it's just as special to know this time. I felt like I needed it this time to help me bond with the baby sooner and that has made somewhat of a difference.
Yes and don't watch the screen when she first puts the wand on your belly. I was watching when she first touched it down with DS2 and the first shot was of his penis. MH didn't believe me ("maybe it was his arm!") but I knew it was a boy and the surprise was spoiled.
Post by timorousbeastie on Aug 6, 2015 17:19:29 GMT -5
The tech asked before one of the early scans. She must have noted it in my chart, because the tech (not always the same one) always asked if we were still team green before each scan after that.
Every time I reaffirmed I DID NOT WANT TO KNOW. Didn't want a slip up. I'd tell them right away so they know to avoid showing you the girl/boy bits during the u/s. Our tech turned the screen away when she was doing the medically needed checks to make sure we didn't see anything, then turned it towards us and showed us face/arms/feet/see and hear the heartbeat.
Post by sillygoosegirl on Aug 6, 2015 17:32:34 GMT -5
We mentioned it up front both times, as the tech told us when to look away from the screen. She said that sometimes it's really obvious even on the early ultrasounds and to always remind the tech for each ultrasound that we didn't want to know.
Post by Velar Fricative on Aug 6, 2015 17:36:36 GMT -5
Yes, every single visit. They knew we didn't want to know but they're human and therefore could forget for a split second, so we made sure to remind them right away each time.
ETA: Also, do not look at the screen just as they put the wand to your belly in case they hit the spot right away. Look away and then confirm the coast is clear.
Yes. I had an u/s every 3 weeks and said it each time. Sometimes they'd say he or she but they told me it wasn't the gender, it was that they hate saying it so sometimes he/she came out.
Yes, always. I had so many u/s the second time as well as genetic counseling and I was always clear that I did not want to know the sex. I also made it clear when I started seeing different doctors in my ob/gyn's practice, so they wouldn't say anything if it happened to be on my chart.
Yes. I had an u/s every 3 weeks and said it each time. Sometimes they'd say he or she but they told me it wasn't the gender, it was that they hate saying it so sometimes he/she came out.
The techs/nurses/doc all told us that too. The OB would alternate he/she through out the convos. Various techs/nurses used either he or she consistently by preference or habit.
Yes, remind them every time. We found out with our first, but not with #2 or #3. And this last time I was getting monthly ultrasounds, but it said on the top of my file that we didn't want to know. And it was highlighted. They were very thorough, lol.
I wasn't team green but my friend is. She's told the tech each time but at her last scan the tech still said "he." Could mean absolutely nothing and the tech may just feel weird saying "it" or "baby" all the time, but she already feels like the baby is a boy so we'll find out soon enough.
Team green x 2, I said it every time except with the tech who I saw weekly at the end with DD2.
When I had to get MaterniT21 with DD2, despite wanting to vomit from nerves about the results of the test, I reminded them not to tell me the sex before the caller said anything substantive.
Yes. I mentioned it at the anatomy scan (and didn't have any ultrasounds after that one). The tech didn't even put it in the chart so my docs didn't know either.
I wasn't team green but my friend is. She's told the tech each time but at her last scan the tech still said "he." Could mean absolutely nothing and the tech may just feel weird saying "it" or "baby" all the time, but she already feels like the baby is a boy so we'll find out soon enough.
I cried at my 41w appointment when my OB used a pronoun for the first time - "he." Well, I cried because there was zero progress at 41w and I didn't want to be induced, but then I also cried because I thought he spoiled the surprise after we were so close to finding out after waiting so long. I had a girl. In hindsight, if I had a boy I probably shouldn't have put much stock into it anyway considering how many patients my OB has and the majority find out before birth, so I bet the use of pronouns is common enough that they may use them interchangeably or may default to one or the other regardless of the actual sex.
All that to say...sure, she could be having a boy. Or a girl.
Yes we mentioned it every time. They would sometimes ask first, sometimes they would be about to start with the screen pointed at us and I'd tell them we didn't want to know, so they turned it away until they knew they had a good non-genital shot.
Yes we mentioned it every time. They would sometimes ask first, sometimes they would be about to start with the screen pointed at us and I'd tell them we didn't want to know, so they turned it away until they knew they had a good non-genital shot.
I'm a little nervous about the screens, because the room we were in for C had multiple screens showing what the tech was seeing. So he/she wouldn't really be able to just turn it away!
Yes we mentioned it every time. They would sometimes ask first, sometimes they would be about to start with the screen pointed at us and I'd tell them we didn't want to know, so they turned it away until they knew they had a good non-genital shot.
I'm a little nervous about the screens, because the room we were in for C had multiple screens showing what the tech was seeing. So he/she wouldn't really be able to just turn it away!
I'm sure they have a way to turn them off. Team green isn't that unpopular. I'm sure you won't be the first to ask.
Our u/s techs always asked that question first thing. We found out with our first two but aren't going to find out for hypothetical #3. I definitely plan to tell them upfront.