I had an elaborate birth plan. By that I mean I had a doula, went to natural birth classes and watched the business of being born with DH. He knew what I wanted and drank the kool aid with me. I think he was so unsure of the entire process he did whatever I wanted.
And LOL the stayng by your head. My DH works in the medical industry and there is no keeping him still and from looking at stuff. And I may have made him take a picture for me so I could have proof that the baby was coming and they werent lying to me.
We worked on it together for both kids. But I had final say. H just went along with whatever I wanted.
For DD, H had first was pretty set on a birth center birth. I was the one that convinced him of that. But once he met with the MWs and realized that it was the same as a home birth. We opted to give birth at home. I never thought he would have gone along with that, but one thing I have learned over the years is that he is pretty easily persuaded.
Nope. He was all about the idea of an epidural despite being a total wimp about all medical stuff having to do with him. I was not all about the epidural and I told him there was no way I was getting one. He was fine with that.
After the first was born I told him I was not having any more babies in hospitals so he needed to et on board with a home birth. Luckily for him a birth center opened up.
I think he was a bit surprised that I opted to have our second born in the water, but he thought it was so cool and loves telling people about it so it would seem he was fine with it.
not really I guess. Early in my pregnancy I decided I was going to go the route of midwives/birth center and he just went along with it. He was a big supporter of it but I never really asked his opinion.
I do recall him telling me to "push harder" and the midwife told him to be quiet. lol
he also really wanted to watch (no staying by my head) and was fascinated by it. and he was vehemently against circumcision.
I guess I gave him say over whether we hired a doula. I was thinking I might like to, he was staunchly against it. With 8 weeks to go and nothing done on the topic, I think it's going his way by default.
That is pretty much the only thing that he has had an opinion on though. He understands that, e.g., his mom and my mom may not have the same access to info/updates when I'm in labor and that is ok.
I think I only attempted one with DD1. I had no birth plans. DH's plan was to be there...lol. I'll amend that, DH is very pro epidural, he hates seeing me in pain.
Ha, sort of. Almost. At some point in my pregnancy I mentioned that I absolutely wanted to have the option of an epidural, and J was all um no way. When I asked why, he said it was because he was afraid of the baby ending up all doped up from the painkillers. (I know, I know.) I explained that wasn't possible, and also told him that I was the one giving birth so ultimately it was up to me how much pain relief I wanted and in what forms (using much more colorful language). Then he said okeydokey and that was that.