FFFC

[jojoandleo]

I need something actually flameful in here.  It's Friday! 

This will be the second weekend in a row I don't see MH (I don't see him during the week either since I live elsewhere for now).  He forgot I was going sky diving and seemed a bit upset.  He wanted to surprise me with plans.  I feel slightly bad because he never wants to do anything, and the one weekend he does, I won't be there.  Buuuut, not bad enough to change my plans. 

The flameful part is, my always making time for friends and not him is what started the big marital issues.  I should care.  But, I tried for a year to be better about prioritizing him, but he never wanted to do ANYTHING.  I am not a homebody.  Now that he is trying to do things with me, I should probably be more accommodating, but, sky diving!  Nope.

[jojoandleo]

Sept 25, 2015 8:24:20 GMT -5 TR said:

He can't go skydiving with you?

Not now. The times are all booked. I asked if he wanted to when I first signed up for it and he said no. 

[mommadukes]

why are u guys living separately? I know you moved for your job, but why didn't he move? how long will you be living away from him like this?
sorry if I don't know the entire story

[cuddlyevil]

jojoandleo, do you miss him? Do you guys talk often? I'm getting the vibe that you're not really 100% into this anymore--if I'm wrong, I'm sorry.

[jojoandleo]

Sept 25, 2015 9:36:32 GMT -5 mommadukes said:

why are u guys living separately? I know you moved for your job, but why didn't he move? how long will you be living away from him like this?
sorry if I don't know the entire story

It's a long ass story. Before I applied for the job, I talked to H. He said apply and we will see. I applied, got an interview. After interview, I asked how much pay I would need for us to move. He gave me a figure. I was offered that figure. H then was pissed and all, "they are probably making $$ off you by paying exactly what you asked for." He didn't want to talk about the job. He didn't want to talk about moving. he didn't want to talk about anything.  So, I took the job.  H was supposedly going to get the house ready to sell.  I tried talking to him yesterday about what he wants to do jobwise eventually, and SHOCK-he didn't want to talk about it.  So, he lives in our home in old town and I am with a friend in new town.  I am giving it a total of 6 months for him to figure his shit out.

[jojoandleo]

Sept 25, 2015 10:10:55 GMT -5 cuddlyevil said:

jojoandleo, do you miss him? Do you guys talk often? I'm getting the vibe that you're not really 100% into this anymore--if I'm wrong, I'm sorry.

We talk pretty much every day. It's not that I am not into my marriage anymore, it's that I want HIM to show HE is still interested.  his unwillingness to talk about anything ever is getting old.

[bl]

I'm sorry jojoandleo that whole situation sounds frustrating and especially him still not really wanting to talk about the move.

I am going to a concert and football game with a friend in Dallas who I have also hooked up with. He is not in a good place right now and I know sex would be a really bad idea, but dammit if that isn't going to be almost impossible to not do.

[jojoandleo]

bl-the fact I am being so complacent is probably the most flameful part. LOL. I love my husband. He is going through a lot of depression/anxiety. I want to give him time to get his head out of his ass and be the man I married. My marriage was SO EASY for the first three years. And I still get flashes of that guy, but he's just not in a good place. And he puts a lot of that on me. Some of it is deserved. I didn't make him a priority for a while and his feelings were understandable. And I am kind of going back to not making him a priority in his mind. Like, he felt I should have worked from home with him with the whole kidney stones thing. My taking a whole day off and taking care of him was not enough. This is still a new job. I felt the need to be in office. Plus, I still have not successfully logged in remotely. LOL. I DON'T KNOW HOW! I need a new laptop.

[cuddlyevil]

Sept 25, 2015 10:13:46 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Sept 25, 2015 10:10:55 GMT -5 cuddlyevil said:

jojoandleo, do you miss him? Do you guys talk often? I'm getting the vibe that you're not really 100% into this anymore--if I'm wrong, I'm sorry.

We talk pretty much every day. It's not that I am not into my marriage anymore, it's that I want HIM to show HE is still interested.  his unwillingness to talk about anything ever is getting old.

I get that. You need him to make an actual effort.

[bg]

Sorry jojoandleo. Team you on still going sky diving. If you haven't, you could encourage the trying behavior tho and tell him you appreciate the effort if it's something you want to see more of.

Instead of writing today I'm going to help a friend move. I really should be writing.

[bg]

jojoandleo is he getting treatment for the depression/anxiety?

[jigsy]

My flameful is that I've kind of rekindled things with Vegas. I'm doing it a little differently this time around, making sure to continue to see other people and all that jazz...but he seems more in it this time around, so I guess that's good.

[jojoandleo]

Sept 25, 2015 10:49:51 GMT -5 bg said:

jojoandleo is he getting treatment for the depression/anxiety?

He has, but they put him on meds that didn't make it better.  However, rather than going on different meds/talk therapy, he just gave up. And I am of the belief that people need to get help when they are ready/want to. Forcing them into it just makes it worse. Buuuut, that's my Adult Daughter of and Alcoholic speaking.

[Wanderista]

jojoandleo - I guess I'd just offer to do whatever surprise he wanted to do next week.

I don't really have much that is flameful. It looks like I'm going to have a pretty relaxing weekend. I have a busy week ahead next week, so to be honest, I could kind of stand to take it easy.

[Deleted]

jojoandleo yes and no to the you can't help people who don't want to get help when it comes to anxiety and depression. The problem is you can literally be paralyzed from getting the help you need because of the anxiety and depression. It's especially defeating when you make the effort to get the meds and it doesn't work. My family pushed me for about three years before I finally was able to bring myself to make the effort. I'm not saying he shouldn't be responsible for himself but sometimes being tough can effective and saying you need medications and you need help.

[kanga1]

I normally don't mix business and pleasure but I've been texting one of my customers. Started texting about something work related and then went off onto other topics. We ended up meeting for a drink and I gave him a BJ in the parking lot. He is from out of town and but needs to actually come to my store soon. We are trying to time it when neither of us have kids so he can come to my house afterwards. He told me he wants to return the favor but I am hoping we have sex. Flameful because this is one of my customers.

[1confused1]

Oh jigsy no

[glynn]

Sept 25, 2015 10:13:46 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Sept 25, 2015 10:10:55 GMT -5 cuddlyevil said:

jojoandleo, do you miss him? Do you guys talk often? I'm getting the vibe that you're not really 100% into this anymore--if I'm wrong, I'm sorry.

We talk pretty much every day. It's not that I am not into my marriage anymore, it's that I want HIM to show HE is still interested.  his unwillingness to talk about anything ever is getting old.

Are married to my DH???

[kanga1]

Sept 25, 2015 12:23:56 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

Oh jigsy no

That's kind of what I was thinking but I've done that in the not too recent past so I wasn't going to be a hypocrite...

[glynn]

Sept 25, 2015 12:07:38 GMT -5 kanga1 said:

I normally don't mix business and pleasure but I've been texting one of my customers. Started texting about something work related and then went off onto other topics. We ended up meeting for a drink and I gave him a BJ in the parking lot. He is from out of town and but needs to actually come to my store soon. We are trying to time it when neither of us have kids so he can come to my house afterwards. He told me he wants to return the favor but I am hoping we have sex. Flameful because this is one of my customers.

Well, that is a lot....

[kanga1]

Sept 25, 2015 12:26:43 GMT -5 glynn said:

Sept 25, 2015 12:07:38 GMT -5 kanga1 said:

I normally don't mix business and pleasure but I've been texting one of my customers. Started texting about something work related and then went off onto other topics. We ended up meeting for a drink and I gave him a BJ in the parking lot. He is from out of town and but needs to actually come to my store soon. We are trying to time it when neither of us have kids so he can come to my house afterwards. He told me he wants to return the favor but I am hoping we have sex. Flameful because this is one of my customers.

Well, that is a lot....

Heehee I normally don't have anything for FFFC but when I do it's a good one!

[jojoandleo]

Sept 25, 2015 12:07:38 GMT -5 kanga1 said:

I normally don't mix business and pleasure but I've been texting one of my customers. Started texting about something work related and then went off onto other topics. We ended up meeting for a drink and I gave him a BJ in the parking lot. He is from out of town and but needs to actually come to my store soon. We are trying to time it when neither of us have kids so he can come to my house afterwards. He told me he wants to return the favor but I am hoping we have sex. Flameful because this is one of my customers.

What do you do? How is he your customer? I don't begrudge the parking lot BJ, though. I've given BJs in allllll kinds of risqué places.  Buuuut, I wouldn't be giving a BJ to a random unless I was getting something in return.  <--selfish. 

[kanga1]

Sept 25, 2015 12:31:09 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Sept 25, 2015 12:07:38 GMT -5 kanga1 said:

I normally don't mix business and pleasure but I've been texting one of my customers. Started texting about something work related and then went off onto other topics. We ended up meeting for a drink and I gave him a BJ in the parking lot. He is from out of town and but needs to actually come to my store soon. We are trying to time it when neither of us have kids so he can come to my house afterwards. He told me he wants to return the favor but I am hoping we have sex. Flameful because this is one of my customers.

What do you do? How is he your customer? I don't begrudge the parking lot BJ, though. I've given BJs in allllll kinds of risqué places.  Buuuut, I wouldn't be giving a BJ to a random unless I was getting something in return.  <--selfish. 

I work in my family's retail business selling heavy equipment. Known him over the phone for years and he just got divorced this spring. My first time meeting him in person.
I was on my period that night or damn right I would have gotten something in return! But our kiss goodnight turned into a 30 minute makeout session and then I suggested getting in his truck. So it was all my doing, not his.

[LoveBug]

I took the day off but sent DD to school. I bought two cases of wine, four pairs of shoes and now I'm getting my hair done. I'm in my glory and feel zero guilt.

[kanga1]

Sept 25, 2015 12:35:54 GMT -5 TR said:

Oh jigsy. I've been there. It didn't end well for me. I'm not saying it won't end well for you, but please just make sure to keep putting yourself first and watch out for yourself.

And kanga1 - kudos on bringing it in this FFFC, girl! LOL. How bad IS it that he's your customer? What do you do? Was it a broad daylight parking lot beej?

I sell heavy equipment in my family's business. I think it's just going to be weird talking to him down the road for work related stuff! Plus his dad is also a customer so next time he calls I know I'm going to get the giggles. Oh well he's cute and there is great conversation and he is a fantastic kisser so what do I have to lose?

[MauMau]

People who are falling over themselves over the pope visit. I don't get it. Especially when you consider yourself to be a liberal and non Catholic.

His views don't aline with yours but you are worshipping his visit. Calling him cute. Look at his cute fiat. "I'm not catholic but I really like this pope" :/ the Catholic religion is still against abortion and gay. He's a puppet and he's playing you all.

Sorry if your Catholic.

[calle28]

Good flamefuls today! I don't have anything to add though.

[Deleted]

Sept 25, 2015 13:15:14 GMT -5 MauMau said:

People who are falling over themselves over the pope visit. I don't get it. Especially when you consider yourself to be a liberal and non Catholic.

His views don't aline with yours but you are worshipping his visit. Calling him cute. Look at his cute fiat. "I'm not catholic but I really like this pope" :/ the Catholic religion is still against abortion and gay. He's a puppet and he's playing you all.

Sorry if your Catholic.

Not Catholic, don't care.  BUT I do think that the pope can still be Catholic and better for the religion as a whole than the past popes, which is what most people are saying when they remark that they like this pope.  Considering his predecessor, this pope has already changed so much.  Sure, some shit's still antiquated and flat out wrong, but change doesn't do a complete 180 overnight and this pope is helping push the religion into at least the 19th century.  

[MauMau]

Sept 25, 2015 13:23:25 GMT -5 @bigtowlittletoe said:

Sept 25, 2015 13:15:14 GMT -5 MauMau said:

People who are falling over themselves over the pope visit. I don't get it. Especially when you consider yourself to be a liberal and non Catholic.

His views don't aline with yours but you are worshipping his visit. Calling him cute. Look at his cute fiat. "I'm not catholic but I really like this pope" :/ the Catholic religion is still against abortion and gay. He's a puppet and he's playing you all.

Sorry if your Catholic.

Not Catholic, don't care.  BUT I do think that the pope can still be Catholic and better for the religion as a whole than the past popes, which is what most people are saying when they remark that they like this pope.  Considering his predecessor, this pope has already changed so much.  Sure, some shit's still antiquated and flat out wrong, but change doesn't do a complete 180 overnight and this pope is helping push the religion into at least the 19th century.  

But do people have to fall all over themselves about it? I'll be happy when the media storm is over. Haha

[cuddlyevil]

Sept 25, 2015 13:25:07 GMT -5 MauMau said:

Sept 25, 2015 13:23:25 GMT -5 @bigtowlittletoe said:

Not Catholic, don't care.  BUT I do think that the pope can still be Catholic and better for the religion as a whole than the past popes, which is what most people are saying when they remark that they like this pope.  Considering his predecessor, this pope has already changed so much.  Sure, some shit's still antiquated and flat out wrong, but change doesn't do a complete 180 overnight and this pope is helping push the religion into at least the 19th century.  

But do people have to fall all over themselves about it? I'll be happy when the media storm is over. Haha

It's the American way y'know