9/27 check in!

[G22]

Oct 1, 2015 7:50:55 GMT -5 boiler717 said:

Oct 1, 2015 7:41:19 GMT -5 G22 said:

And my due date just got bumped up to 10/30 after today's appt. Even though that's only a few days change, it makes it feel so much more real now that it's the month of my due date. Unless he goes late (which is obviously a possibility), I'm having a baby this month! Yikes!

That's so exciting!! Why did they move it? I didn't think they would with IVF pregnancies!

I think he explained something to do with ER/ET, but I didn't quite understand. I think he's counting from ER, rather than ET? He spoke very good English, but there was still some confusion over words here and there. It really only is a few days change and I don't think it really makes much difference at this point since I'm so close to the end. But still it makes it more real to see an Oct due date rather than a Nov one now.

[FastHands]

*hugs* awick14. Hoping for the best for you and for a late O.

[shanwalk]

Oct 1, 2015 4:44:40 GMT -5 boiler717 said:

Sept 30, 2015 20:12:11 GMT -5 shanwalk said:

I used Bradley method with #1, but definitely plan to look into and practice hypno birthing if I make it that far with this pg. I was not prepared for what labor was, last time.

Tell me more about what happened!

I did about 20 hrs of active labor without meds. I used every position I could imagine to give any relief and I felt completely trapped in the pain. I wasn't progressing past 7. I was 7 for hours and hours. I ended up getting really scared about a cs, and got a "whiff" epidural. I was sure it would help me relax enough to dilate. No luck. At the 31 hour mark I was an 8 and my (saint of an OB) told me she wanted me to have the CS in an hour if I still hadn't progressed. At 32 hrs I was at a 9. She told me she would give me another hour. At 33 I was at 10 and pushed her out in 3 pushes.

I don't know if any other OB in my area would have let me labor that long/intensely before labeling me failure to progress.

In the end, labor was so mental for me. I needed something to keep me calm and focused. I did far too much screaming and felt very out of control. I think hypno babies would help me get a better hold on that huge element and pleasepleaseplease make for a shorter labor.

[boiler717]

@cookiemonster03 I brought it up with the MFM and he was less than helpful. He said I shouldn't be gaining more than a pound a week and that "pregnant women eat a lot more than they think they do." I explained to him that I am measuring, tracking and working out and he basically said working out didn't matter because I'd "have to run 35 miles a week to lose one pound and you won't be doing that now." To be fair, I'm not and while it might not be the most accurate MFP/Fitbit give me around 500-600 exercise calories a day based on a 2000 calorie diet (which I don't eat). I basically left the appt feeling like he thought I wasn't doing enough, but I was the one who brought up weight, not him, so I'm not really sure.

[boiler717]

Thanks FastHands. The 0.5 a week is way below what I'm gaining -- 2.5 lbs/wk in the last 6 weeks for me.

[jessnpaul]

boiler717 - have you met with a nutritionist? Maybe they can look at your diet and see what's causing your weight gain?

I'm overweight and last time my OB told me to stick to the 15-25 pound weight gain. This time she (same OB) hasn't said a word and I'm actually starting out like 7 pounds heavier than I was last time (I'll blame the four rounds of fertility meds!). I'm hoping to stick to the 15-25 pound range and right now I'm doing great (only 1 pound gained so far) but i'm still in first tri and I know things will change. But it's hard... it's so easy for me to gain and so hard for me to lose!

I'm horrified for you that they said you should be losing weight in pregnancy. That's just not right!

[boiler717]

jessnpaul no I asked for a referral at my first OB appt and he said I didn't need one. I think I am going to press for one on Monday regardless of what he says.

[cactuscookie]

Oct 1, 2015 8:48:36 GMT -5 boiler717 said:

@cookiemonster03 I brought it up with the MFM and he was less than helpful. He said I shouldn't be gaining more than a pound a week and that "pregnant women eat a lot more than they think they do." I explained to him that I am measuring, tracking and working out and he basically said working out didn't matter because I'd "have to run 35 miles a week to lose one pound and you won't be doing that now." To be fair, I'm not and while it might not be the most accurate MFP/Fitbit give me around 500-600 exercise calories a day based on a 2000 calorie diet (which I don't eat). I basically left the appt feeling like he thought I wasn't doing enough, but I was the one who brought up weight, not him, so I'm not really sure.

This is frustrating. It sounds like he basically thinks you're stupid and eating more than you think you are, which clearly you're not because you're tracking so carefully. So instead of a source of support and information, he basically just gave you more negativity and doubt.

I hope you find someone to listen to you. Even if there's no medical concern with the weight gain (other than having to lose it later), you don't want to spend the next 3 months feeling bad about yourself.

[boiler717]

Exactly cactuscookie! And by his logic, to gain 2.5 lbs/week from food I'd have to be eating 1250 A DAY more than my OB's recommended 2000 cal/day for no gain. I'm averaging probably closer to 1850-1900, so there is no way I'm actually eating 1.75x the amount of food I'm measuring/tracking. Weight loss for me has never been as simple as calories in / calories out but apparently that's what the MFM thinks.

[dollyllama]

WOAH! Sorry, that got really long

boiler717 I am overweight too and stress about getting weighed at every appt. My recommended gain is 11-25 lbs and up until my 20 week appointment, I hadn't gained any and then between 16 and 20 I did and was practically sobbing because I was so upset. My dr was great at informing me that even though they say ".5 a week" it rarely works out that way and weight gain will often go in spurts and had nothing but good things to say. I'm not one of those people that believes in "eating for 2" or using pregnancy as an excuse to eat what you want but my Dr was great in reminding me that my body is in fact growing a human being and it's not easy and I can only dictate so much. I track my food on MFP and have exceeded my calories 1 day thus far and it was before my 16 week appointment. DH keeps reminding me that no matter what I do and eat, my body is going to hold onto what it and the baby need for growth. That for me was really reaffirming because the weight gain made no sense and I've battled with weight my whole life so trying to be okay with the number on the scale increasing is not a concept that exists to me. It became such an easy thing for me to obsess over so I've cut down to only weighing myself once a week and making sure every nibble of food I eat is tracked and leaving it at that. I couldn't trust my body to get pregnant but I am trying to trust it's knowing of creating a baby. I'm so sorry that you are having a hard time, it's so hard and it's unfortunate that your Dr is adding extra pressure on you. You are very active and I'm sure that will continue through your pregnancy and after and you also seem to be really on top of your eating habits so know that you are doing everything you can and you're doing a great job.

FWIW re: baby size, I was talking to my SIL the other day and she said at her 20 week, my niece was 1lb 6oz and she was terrified of the baby already being so big and niece was born at 38.5 weeks at 5lb 9oz.

Also, we are planning on doing some Bradley training and our doula also recommended Birthing from Within and I am really excited about that. Are you doing in person classes or online/book?

[boiler717]

dollyllama thank you for your kind words!
I'm glad your niece wasn't too big! At 20w my baby (still weird to say!) measured 1 lb 12 oz.
I need to order Birthing from Within, I've had 2 people recommend it today! I really liked Ina May's book. I'm doing hypnobabies but I have the Bradley book and workbook to read as well in case there's some helpful info. We start classes in a few weeks but our daily self practice begin earlier this week.

[dollyllama]

Oct 1, 2015 10:17:37 GMT -5 boiler717 said:

dollyllama thank you for your kind words!
I'm glad your niece wasn't too big! At 20w my baby (still weird to say!) measured 1 lb 12 oz.
I need to order Birthing from Within, I've had 2 people recommend it today! I really liked Ina May's book. I'm doing hypnobabies but I have the Bradley book and workbook to read as well in case there's some helpful info. We start classes in a few weeks but our daily self practice begin earlier this week.

You totally said hypnobabies originally.   I should go ahead and put the disclaimer in my signature that if there was a gold medal for pregnancy brain, it'd be no contest. We're looking at hypnobabies too, my SIL gave me some CD's and a book. I'm trying to take something from as many methods as possible so if something isn't working, I have plenty of options to change stuff up. 

[boiler717]

I am with you on the pregnancy brain! The other day I spent 5 min trying to figure out why my headlights were super dim and orange before realizing I was wearing sunglasses in the dark!

[loira]

jessnpaul, boiler717 I think I win the pregnancy brain. The first time I went to drive last week, I drove on the wrong side of the road for 4 whole blocks before figuring it out. I never even drove in London, ever!

[Mushe]

Thinking of you today for a great induction experience, Muddled! I promise that's not an impossibility.

[bcarp30]

Good luck today Muddled!!! Mushe what time is your appointment??

[G22]

Oct 1, 2015 11:04:20 GMT -5 loira said:

jessnpaul, boiler717 I think I win the pregnancy brain. The first time I went to drive last week, I drove on the wrong side of the road for 4 whole blocks before figuring it out. I never even drove in London, ever!

I'm sorry but this made me giggle. I'm glad you were safe and didn't come across any other cars while on the wrong side of the road.

I have family in England and can remember my uncle pulling out of our driveway and trying to drive on the wrong side of the road here in the states one time while visiting. 

[Mushe]

Oct 1, 2015 13:11:22 GMT -5 bcarp30 said:

Good luck today Muddled!!! Mushe what time is your appointment??

2:30 (pacific)!

[bcarp30]

Oct 1, 2015 14:33:47 GMT -5 Mushe said:

Oct 1, 2015 13:11:22 GMT -5 bcarp30 said:

Good luck today Muddled!!! Mushe what time is your appointment??

2:30 (pacific)!

Good luck!!

[loira]

Good luck Mushe!

[boiler717]

Froyo with oneslybookworm makes you feel better

[Mushe]

Update: I can start breathing again. Kinda. Measurement last week was supposed to be 6w5d and today was 7w2d, but he said different machines and blah blah. This is okay, right? I figure just not going totally to rump would get a different measurement too. The EDD I was operating from was from a website, and he said 5/17, so I guess I need an update.

I'm still so nervous! The RE was so sweet, though. Really happy for us.

[Muddled]

I've been postponed. Such a mind fuck.

[thiswillbe]

Oct 1, 2015 17:32:50 GMT -5 Muddled said:

I've been postponed. Such a mind fuck.

Oh dear. ((hugs)) I hope it ends up being a good thing for you.

[cactuscookie]

Oct 1, 2015 17:27:54 GMT -5 Mushe said:

Update: I can start breathing again. Kinda. Measurement last week was supposed to be 6w5d and today was 7w2d, but he said different machines and blah blah. This is okay, right? I figure just not going totally to rump would get a different measurement too. The EDD I was operating from was from a website, and he said 5/17, so I guess I need an update.

I'm still so nervous! The RE was so sweet, though. Really happy for us.

Wait, your EDD wasn't just from your IUI? I didn't really pay attention to the specific timing measurements as long as the doctor said things were on track.

[cactuscookie]

Oct 1, 2015 17:32:50 GMT -5 Muddled said:

I've been postponed. Such a mind fuck.

Gah, you're making me all stalkery. I saw somewhere else until Sunday. That does mess with you, but ultimately kind of what you wanted, right?

(Also, to the person who posted that induction was one of the worst things to happen to her, SHUT UP UNTIL NEXT WEEK, that is so not helpful right now. Anecdotes: Scheduled inductions are all the rage where I live, and everyone I know who's had one has had a smooth experience.)

[Muddled]

Oct 1, 2015 17:51:34 GMT -5 cactuscookie said:

Oct 1, 2015 17:32:50 GMT -5 Muddled said:

I've been postponed. Such a mind fuck.

Gah, you're making me all stalkery. I saw somewhere else until Sunday. That does mess with you, but ultimately kind of what you wanted, right?

(Also, to the person who posted that induction was one of the worst things to happen to her, SHUT UP UNTIL NEXT WEEK, that is so not helpful right now. Anecdotes: Scheduled inductions are all the rage where I live, and everyone I know who's had one has had a smooth experience.)

Yes. It is what I wanted. It's just hard to keep recalibrating. My emotions are all over the place.

Go back and read my induction thread from the other day. It is primarily positive stories.

I have things to say to boiler and mushe, but I just can't focus right now.

[loira]

Oct 1, 2015 17:32:50 GMT -5 Muddled said:

I've been postponed. Such a mind fuck.

No! Or YAY!

Depends on how you're feeling about it all. I am willing to champion both disappointment and hope. There is a Loira for every occasion.

[loira]

In other news, I had a very weird dream last night that I went to visit my new hospital and it was this spooky, old Victorian building, all dark and Halloweeny. Then I met with my new doctor and she didn't seem to care about my history, and I spent most of our appointment making her tea, after which she told me our appointment was over. Doesn't take a dream analyst to figure out that I'm obviously anxious about Monday.

[swiftlyirun]

Muddled what a freaking emotional rollercoaster! I'm total noob, so forgive me if this is a stupid question, but why did/would they postpone?