Tuesday Randoms

[jojoandleo]

So, I am going to Puerto Rico in February! It's so far away, but in terms of getting bikini body ready (during a time I usually hibernate and add a nice layer of pooch), IT'S SO CLOSE! Living with my friend, she cooks "kind of" whole 30. Meaning, last night was whole thirty, but she added rice (and I added cheese because I fucking love cheese!). So, I am eating pretty healthy. But, I also need to exercise. BUT IT'S SO HARD! I AM LAZY AS FUCK! My friend and I are trying to, like, plank and shit while watching Netflix, but I prefer Netflix and wine.

I wish the weather would decide if it is going to still be summer, or actually be fall.  90 something yesterday, 60 something today.  I JUST WANT TO KNOW HOW TO DRESS!

[glitzyglow]

My sinuses are hurting so badly. The weather shifted overnight and my sinuses can't deal. The pressure sucks. On my lunch I might have to go buy some otc meds.

I kind of want to cut more hair off...maybe 2-3 more inches. If I do that, I would have cut off 15 inches of hair this year!

[bg]

I'm not happy with the weather either. It's way too hot for mid-October. And today I have to drive inland which is going to be even more hot. Awesome.

I swam this morning to see if I could loosen up my legs a bit after my run on Sunday. It was nice, but my IT bands are still super tight.

[pantsoffdanceoff]

I made a psych appointment for early November. I'm looking forward to it. I hate not being able to concentrate and focus.

I got my flu shot yesterday and today I feel like I have been shot in the arm. Coincidentally I feel like I'm actually coming down with the flu.

[jigsy]

Tritto on the WTF to the weather. It has been in the 80's-100's the past few days. I am so over it. And today, my office has no air. Supposedly, the AC tech was coming at 6:30 am, then 7:30 then 8:30....they still are not here, and if there is no air by lunch, I am out. Sick time is meant to be used, right?

[Eureka1984]

I'm having bad anxiety and I'll fifth the idea and blame it on the change in weather. I made an appointment with my therapist for next week. I'm trying to figure out what triggered it.

[1confused1]

Oct 13, 2015 11:53:10 GMT -5 Eureka1984 said:

I'm having bad anxiety and I'll fifth the idea and blame it on the change in weather. I made an appointment with my therapist for next week. I'm trying to figure out what triggered it.

I have been having MAJOR anxiety at night, I figured out that it is because it's getting darker earlier.  It's making me so anxious for some reason.


My random: I wish I didn't read the flamefuls on ML.

[jojoandleo]

Oct 13, 2015 12:04:40 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

Oct 13, 2015 11:53:10 GMT -5 Eureka1984 said:

I'm having bad anxiety and I'll fifth the idea and blame it on the change in weather. I made an appointment with my therapist for next week. I'm trying to figure out what triggered it.

I have been having MAJOR anxiety at night, I figured out that it is because it's getting darker earlier.  It's making me so anxious for some reason.


My random: I wish I didn't read the flamefuls on ML.

Why?  It's 9 pages now.  I doubt I will catch up.  LOL.

[glynn]

So my 8 year DD saw a text from H's girlfriend Sunday that said I Love you. She came and said to me "Carla R Loves my dad". I tired to ignore since I was furious. Then later I was fixing her hair for church and she said it again as he walked in. I told her to tell him. She did and he went off on her for seeing the message. She tried to explain that she was sitting with him when she saw it and had not gotten his phone. I turned and walked out and told DD to come on and go to church. I told him I was done acting like a happy family and he was not welcome to ride with us. I went to take her to class and left my purse and her sweated in our usual seats. I came back and he was sitting there so I got my stuff and moved to the other side. He left before it started.

He told me over 5 months ago he wanted a divorce and confirmed later that we that he has a "best friend". I have pictures, text and other things to prove that he has been cheating as of at least 5/5. We had mediation last week and nothing has been resolved.

My counselor told me last night that I am letting him be to comfortable at the house. I was trying to protect my DD who has behavior problems and does not know about the divorce. H does not want anyone to know here but is carrying on like a single man in the next town over. She and others told me to make it uncomfortable so he will want to leave. I can't make him leave the house we need to sell. Today at lunch I moved all of his stuff out of my room into his in boxes....

[idahome]

I'm stuck on this work project that won't end. It's like everyday some new horrible thing is uncovered. I'm struggling with the work load right now and making sure I'm delivering when I'm supposed to, but right now it's so damn hard.

Excited that the weather seems to finally be getting into fall. I just need to sit outside, with a fire, and think.

[1confused1]

Oct 13, 2015 12:16:22 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Oct 13, 2015 12:04:40 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

I have been having MAJOR anxiety at night, I figured out that it is because it's getting darker earlier.  It's making me so anxious for some reason.


My random: I wish I didn't read the flamefuls on ML.

Why?  It's 9 pages now.  I doubt I will catch up.  LOL.

I'm super sensitive to "life would be easier if my husband was gone and we shared custody, kid free weeks!".  I know this is my issue and my situation isn't normal, but it bothers me.

[1confused1]

glynn why can't you make him leave?

[jojoandleo]

Oct 13, 2015 12:20:23 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

Oct 13, 2015 12:16:22 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Why?  It's 9 pages now.  I doubt I will catch up.  LOL.

I'm super sensitive to "life would be easier if my husband was gone and we shared custody, kid free weeks!".  I know this is my issue and my situation isn't normal, but it bothers me.

I can see that. 

[cuddlyevil]

glynn, DD knows now so it's time to start making the plans.

[glynn]

Oct 13, 2015 12:21:24 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

glynn why can't you make him leave?

We both own the house and he refuses to leave. Lawyer says I can't make him without a court order.

[glynn]

Oct 13, 2015 12:34:28 GMT -5 cuddlyevil said:

glynn, DD knows now so it's time to start making the plans.

I have been trying to but every time we get a agreement he backs out. I am beyond frustrated. She did not ask any questions but I know she knows something is up. I can't afford to leave without child support and he says he can't with still making the house payment. 4 1/2 hour mediation did not resolve this issue.

[1confused1]

Oct 13, 2015 12:46:01 GMT -5 glynn said:

Oct 13, 2015 12:21:24 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

glynn why can't you make him leave?

We both own the house and he refuses to leave. Lawyer says I can't make him without a court order.

Have your attorney file an emergency order to get him out of the house.  

[jojoandleo]

Oct 13, 2015 12:55:12 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

Oct 13, 2015 12:46:01 GMT -5 glynn said:

We both own the house and he refuses to leave. Lawyer says I can't make him without a court order.

Have your attorney file an emergency order to get him out of the house.  

Depending on where she lives, this may not be possible. Some states allow equal access to the house until everything is done and final. Family law is SOOOOO state specific. It sucks.

[Deleted]

I'm so excited for the debate tonight! I'm such a political junkie. My friend and I are going to get pizza and wine. This negates my healthy eating plan but whatever. Flameful. I've been rewatching old Kardashian episodes while working today.

[1confused1]

Oct 13, 2015 12:58:12 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Oct 13, 2015 12:55:12 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

Have your attorney file an emergency order to get him out of the house.  

Depending on where she lives, this may not be possible. Some states allow equal access to the house until everything is done and final. Family law is SOOOOO state specific. It sucks.

So true.  but it never hurts to ask!

[glynn]

Oct 13, 2015 12:58:12 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Oct 13, 2015 12:55:12 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

Have your attorney file an emergency order to get him out of the house.  

Depending on where she lives, this may not be possible. Some states allow equal access to the house until everything is done and final. Family law is SOOOOO state specific. It sucks.

The only way that can happen is with physical abuse and that is not happening.

[glitzyglow]

Oct 13, 2015 13:32:39 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

I'm so excited for the debate tonight! I'm such a political junkie. My friend and I are going to get pizza and wine. This negates my healthy eating plan but whatever. Flameful. I've been rewatching old Kardashian episodes while working today.

This is random, but I was taking buzzfeed quiz about random singers in the 2000s. I don't remember one named Amerie, but this Amerie girl and Kourtney K. look similar. Google for some pointless entertainment...one of the google searches was for Amerie and Kourtney together, lol.

[Deleted]

Oct 13, 2015 16:03:35 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

Oct 13, 2015 13:32:39 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

I'm so excited for the debate tonight! I'm such a political junkie. My friend and I are going to get pizza and wine. This negates my healthy eating plan but whatever. Flameful. I've been rewatching old Kardashian episodes while working today.

This is random, but I was taking buzzfeed quiz about random singers in the 2000s. I don't remember one named Amerie, but this Amerie girl and Kourtney K. look similar. Google for some pointless entertainment...one of the google searches was for Amerie and Kourtney together, lol.

I also took that quiz! But I didn't see the resemblence until now! Crazy.

[pinkdutchtulips]

Oct 13, 2015 12:20:23 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

Oct 13, 2015 12:16:22 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Why?  It's 9 pages now.  I doubt I will catch up.  LOL.

I'm super sensitive to "life would be easier if my husband was gone and we shared custody, kid free weeks!".  I know this is my issue and my situation isn't normal, but it bothers me.

hugs ! It bothers me too ...

[liubot]

How old is too old to date?

[liubot]

Oct 13, 2015 21:15:34 GMT -5 mp said:

Oct 13, 2015 21:06:57 GMT -5 liubot said:

How old is too old to date?

You know... I wish nothing but the best for you. and I hope you know that. But, this.... is a rather dramatic statement. And I hope it's not a serious question. 

I'm not asking for drama. I've dated a few men 15 years older than me with no issues but I'm judging myself over the older man I'm going to meet Saturday. We've been talking on the phone every night and I like his personality. He's sweet and has good qualities. He's just a little older than I normally date. I texted my therapist about the issue too and she thinks it's fine. I'm just judging myself.

[Mrs.Rad888]

Oct 13, 2015 21:06:57 GMT -5 liubot said:

How old is too old to date?

Dead? Or do you mean how much older than me am I willing to date?

[liubot]

He's 20 years older than me.

[liubot]

It's just lunch and chatting. What's the worst that can happen?

[Mrs.Rad888]

Oct 13, 2015 21:20:32 GMT -5 liubot said:

He's 20 years older than me.

The only people that have to be OK with it are you and him. People are always going to find something to talk about, don't let that be the reason you don't give him a chance.