jessnpaul, see in my mind having a boy is like a compromise right there so I should get naming rights. I have learned with a Charlotte that you as the parent can dictate a nickname easily but apparently DH has forgotten that.
boiler717 I did! My OB who is from Indiana told me. My dad's side of the family is from OH and Whitcomb and James are both family names so I need to see if there's some relation.
Ditto the boy being a compromise... albeit one I didn't get a chance at winning ;-)
I totally get naming rights since I'm the one who has to carry this child! But I at least want DH to like (or at least tolerate) the name too!
That's what I said!! I'm carrying and birthing the child, I should get 60-40% advantage
Appt today went well, my fundal height hasn't changed in 2 weeks. I have one more every other week appt, then he is starting me on twice weekly NST appts. I told him about anxieties about still birth and he thinks it will be a good plan to help me relax a bit.
I had an appointment today as well. Turns out, as I suspected, I don't have GD (hooray!). However, I am anemic and also have slight hypothyroidism so am being put on supplements and medication accordingly. Doctor said neither of these things affect the baby, who regulates her own thyroid and who is probably the one stealing all my iron, but fixing them will put more pep in my step. I'm hoping they might slow my 3rd tri weight gain because I feel like I put on a lot of weight in 2nd tri (I'm up about 10kg from pre pregnancy - about 22lbs?).
I had an appointment today as well. Turns out, as I suspected, I don't have GD (hooray!). However, I am anemic and also have slight hypothyroidism so am being put on supplements and medication accordingly. Doctor said neither of these things affect the baby, who regulates her own thyroid and who is probably the one stealing all my iron, but fixing them will put more pep in my step. I'm hoping they might slow my 3rd tri weight gain because I feel like I put on a lot of weight in 2nd tri (I'm up about 10kg from pre pregnancy - about 22lbs?).
Sorta random - I also found out from the same set of bloodwork that I don't have GD but am anemic. And I started taking thyroid medicine when I was TTC. All the checks I've done since pregnant have verified that I still need it, although it's only high for pregnancy and TTC, not for regular life.
I was surprised by the anemia, because I was feeling really good. I have to admit I've been bad about taking the iron supplement. I'm traveling for work right now, which already tends to, shall we say, interrupt my regular poop schedule, so I haven't wanted to make it worse with the iron supplement.
I weighed myself yesterday at 4 days post partum and I'm down 20lbs already! I ended up gaining about 35 lbs all together by the end, but that was a pleasant surprise.
Also padcicles are the most amazing thing ever. For real.
Be kind to yourself, G22. Recovery is no joke. Let people help you and fetch things for you. Have you pooped?
Yes. Thank the Lord for stool softeners. I was legit terrified of my first poop due to all the stitches I got, but it wasn't bad at all.
Did you find it took a while to get back to being able to "be active"? I put that in quotes, because I don't mean exercise, but just have the energy to walk around without being winded. I had a moment post delivery where they had me get up to pee and I got lightheaded and had to lay on the bathroom floor to keep from passing out. And then I just wasn't able to walk around without getting out of breathe easily. It's gotten better each day, but I still find I get winded if I'm too active right now. I'm trying to be understanding of the fact that it's only been 5 days, but I'm a sucky patient. It's hard feeling less than normal for an extended period of time.
And I'm totally letting my MIL make dinner every night. I don't feel bad at all about that.
Be kind to yourself, G22. Recovery is no joke. Let people help you and fetch things for you. Have you pooped?
Yes. Thank the Lord for stool softeners. I was legit terrified of my first poop due to all the stitches I got, but it wasn't bad at all.
Did you find it took a while to get back to being able to "be active"? I put that in quotes, because I don't mean exercise, but just have the energy to walk around without being winded. I had a moment post delivery where they had me get up to pee and I got lightheaded and had to lay on the bathroom floor to keep from passing out. And then I just wasn't able to walk around without getting out of breathe easily. It's gotten better each day, but I still find I get winded if I'm too active right now. I'm trying to be understanding of the fact that it's only been 5 days, but I'm a sucky patient. It's hard feeling less than normal for an extended period of time.
And I'm totally letting my MIL make dinner every night. I don't feel bad at all about that.
Are you getting enough fluids? Electrolytes? Remember that you actually need more calories BFing than you did pregnant. I do remember getting lightheaded a couple times in the hospital and I feel that way from time to time even now- usually because I have been slacking on water drinking. I don't think I have been out of breath, but it makes sense. Your body just went through quite the traumatic experience.
Post by cactuscookie on Nov 4, 2015 10:48:42 GMT -5
spearmintleaf, that really sucks. DH kind of did a similar thing. I woke him up and told him about the positive test, and he said, "well, let's not get excited." Um...look, I get that there's a long road ahead and things can go wrong, but this is the first step. And it's a big freaking deal when it's a step that's so hard to achieve for us.
Plus, not only would you probably like to share your excitement with him for getting here, but I imagine you'd like to be able to share your anxieties and support each other too.
Post by EllenGriswold on Nov 4, 2015 10:53:25 GMT -5
Hugs spearmintleaf! That sucks. I know I finally had to tell H to shut up because he kept saying "well at least we know this works" - NO! we aren't looking for a silver fucking lining here, we are excited! Hopefully he just needs a little time to process everything.
Post by callmehales on Nov 4, 2015 10:56:25 GMT -5
so my RE has a new student working there, and she's the one who gave me my PIO shot today.
here's the running commentary, WHILE SHE'S PUTTING A NEEDLE IN MY BUTTCHEEK.
"this medicine is so thick...i've never seen a thicker medicine!" "sorry it's taking so long, you're getting A LOT of this...more than most people get" (cue my internal freakout) i try and make things lighter saying "well, nothing is worse than the menopur"...to which she says "what's that?".
BITCH GET OUT.
of course i spend the whole drive home PANICKED i'm on more progesterone than most people because mine is low and my baby is doomed....except i'm on 1ml. which is TOTALLY STANDARD FOR IVF PATIENTS. ugh, i'm so annoyed.
Yes. Thank the Lord for stool softeners. I was legit terrified of my first poop due to all the stitches I got, but it wasn't bad at all.
Did you find it took a while to get back to being able to "be active"? I put that in quotes, because I don't mean exercise, but just have the energy to walk around without being winded. I had a moment post delivery where they had me get up to pee and I got lightheaded and had to lay on the bathroom floor to keep from passing out. And then I just wasn't able to walk around without getting out of breathe easily. It's gotten better each day, but I still find I get winded if I'm too active right now. I'm trying to be understanding of the fact that it's only been 5 days, but I'm a sucky patient. It's hard feeling less than normal for an extended period of time.
And I'm totally letting my MIL make dinner every night. I don't feel bad at all about that.
Are you getting enough fluids? Electrolytes? Remember that you actually need more calories BFing than you did pregnant. I do remember getting lightheaded a couple times in the hospital and I feel that way from time to time even now- usually because I have been slacking on water drinking. I don't think I have been out of breath, but it makes sense. Your body just went through quite the traumatic experience.
Probably not as much as I should. Which may be my issue. It's just a feeling of getting worn out easier when I decide to get motivated to do something.
It's also entirely possible I've tried to do too much the last day or so and it's my body saying chill out. I took it easier today and didn't have that feeling. I hate feeling lazy and forget what all my body has been through. I apparently need a reminder about that.
Well I'm only 3w5d. I'm so annoyed at my H. He is refusing to acknowledge the pregnancy in any way. Like, won't discuss it, doesn't smile when I bring it up. I asked him directly and he said he's afraid it will be another chemical PG. I mean, obviously, so am I, but that doesn't mean let's just pretend that nothing good is happening to us. It's actually pretty isolating. I haven't told anyone else, and the one person who knows acts like he doesn't give a shit. I told him it sucks feeling like I'm the only one who cares about the pregnancy or is rooting for it to succeed. Intellectually I know it's the opposite, that he cares TOO much, but the complete lack of engagement is pretty terrible. It's not like I asked him to go buy a stroller this weekend but for fuck's sake don't just ignore it completely.
I think this must have been how my H felt about me for the longest time. I mostly ignored this pregnancy at first, then moved on to making sarcastic comments. One day, when I made a remark about how his expectant fathers DVD doesn't address the death of a baby, he finally told me how he felt. My coping mechanisms were making him feel like he wasn't allowed to be excited for this baby. I've been working hard to be a bit more positive ever since. Time and certain milestones have helped, too. Hopefully your H will relax a bit more when he sees good results/scans.
spearmintleaf - my DH isn't one to get overly excited about things either. I mean, he didn't ignore my BFP but he's not one to be all "OMG WE'RE PREGNANT!" and jumping up and down. Some guys are just more reserved about their feelings. And also, he's probably scared... like we all are with our histories of IF!
I would tell him your feelings, but just know that he's probably hesitant to be excited, not ignoring it.
spearmintleaf, I'm so sorry. It's hard to be the only one excited. Like callmehales said, let US be excited with you! Hopefully that helps a little
We just had our first ultrasound. I mean, the baby is still only the size of a sesame seed, so we couldn't see much, but it was still kind of cool. I was validated in my disdain for our RE, too. As soon as he left the room, H goes, "Man, he really needs to work on his bedside manner." The RE was basically like "Huh. You've got a huge cyst on your ovary. And your left one is 2-3 times the size of a normal ovary. Welp....see ya!" Like, no explanation, no nothing. I think I only see him one more time, and then it's on to my normal OB, thank God.
so my RE has a new student working there, and she's the one who gave me my PIO shot today.
here's the running commentary, WHILE SHE'S PUTTING A NEEDLE IN MY BUTTCHEEK.
"this medicine is so thick...i've never seen a thicker medicine!" "sorry it's taking so long, you're getting A LOT of this...more than most people get" (cue my internal freakout) i try and make things lighter saying "well, nothing is worse than the menopur"...to which she says "what's that?".
BITCH GET OUT.
of course i spend the whole drive home PANICKED i'm on more progesterone than most people because mine is low and my baby is doomed....except i'm on 1ml. which is TOTALLY STANDARD FOR IVF PATIENTS. ugh, i'm so annoyed.
Psssht. Forget her. I was on 1.5 ml and taking suppositories too. You're not doomed!
Well I'm only 3w5d. I'm so annoyed at my H. He is refusing to acknowledge the pregnancy in any way. Like, won't discuss it, doesn't smile when I bring it up. I asked him directly and he said he's afraid it will be another chemical PG. I mean, obviously, so am I, but that doesn't mean let's just pretend that nothing good is happening to us. It's actually pretty isolating. I haven't told anyone else, and the one person who knows acts like he doesn't give a shit. I told him it sucks feeling like I'm the only one who cares about the pregnancy or is rooting for it to succeed. Intellectually I know it's the opposite, that he cares TOO much, but the complete lack of engagement is pretty terrible. It's not like I asked him to go buy a stroller this weekend but for fuck's sake don't just ignore it completely.
Try not to be too upset. I'm sure he is way because he is scared. Being pregnant after dealing with infertility and losses is such an emotional rollercoaster.
My husband and I have just started to start sentences with "when the baby is here" instead of "if the baby is here". And that didn't start until after my 12 week ultrasound. And we still say "if" too.
G22 definitely take it easy. Muddled is right about the electrolytes too, that's an excellent suggestion. I was up and out pretty quickly but when I overdid it my stitches were so painful and I had a couple issues with my pelvic floor. Did they give you tucks/witch hazel pads or dermablast spray? Those really helped with my stitches were bothering me, mostly when they started healing and itching a bit.
spearmintleaf big hugs. My DH was/is the same way and it is hard. He still doesn't want to feel the baby kick because it'll make it too hard if something happens. We will be excited with/for you!!!
bcarp30, I have tucks and definitely have been using them. They do feel good because I've hit the point where things are itching/healing and they help with that. I'll work on the electrolytes and see if that helps too. I've got a follow up with my OB on Monday so if I'm still feeling like this I'll ask him about it. But I did feel better yesterday, I do think I've probably been overdoing it some.
Happy November! I am 23 weeks along , due March 3rd, with a baby girl. My fundal height measured slightly small (1.5 cm under norm) at my appointment earlier this week so I'm hoping that isn't an issue. The OB didn't seem too concerned but did ask about my next growth ultrasound at the MFM.
spearmintleaf, I'm sorry your DH isn't ready to celebrate yet. My DH was the same way early on and it hurt. He was so afraid and felt, if something bad were to happen, that he would have to be the strong one. He came around and I hope your DH does soon. You're pregnant. That's wonderful. And feeling over the moon is wonderful and totally normal.
jessnpaul – my friend’s nephew is a Loui.s Sherm.an the 5th – they call him Quinn
spearmintleaf – I’m sorry your husband is being so disconnected with your pregnancy especially since you are so excited, but I can understand where he is coming from. For the most part I don’t want to discuss or think about this baby. Way too many people know about my IVF cycle and they are excited and ask me about the due date, how far along I am, etc. And I’ve told them that I don’t know – I’m afraid to look up anything, when my RN called to give me my second beta number, she asked if I wanted to set up my OB U/S and I told her absolutely not – I don’t even want to think about it – I just want to see those beta numbers going up and enjoy that news. I’m so terrified of that u/s, to be so excited and not see a heartbeat was devastating. Logically I know not acknowledging this baby won’t make the hurt any less if I get bad news, but for now, I can’t let myself fall in love with his little one yet - I have to be a little more guarded, a little more realistic, a little more distant just so I can get through the day and not get overwhelmed with the fear of the unknown. My thought would be to give your husband a little time – once you get some good betas and u/s he’ll come around and get super excited – I promise - becuase I know I will
Post by callmehales on Nov 5, 2015 10:40:09 GMT -5
light watery spotting is probably nothing right? if it had happened a week ago, i'd have just blamed the progesteron suppositories, but since learning about the small bleed monday, of COURSE i kind of panicked.
but i also had to get up at 2 am to pee for the first time last night, and woke up feeling like ass. methinks baby just likes messing with me.
callmehales it's most likely absolutely nothing but I would call and beg for an ultrasound anyway because there's just no way I would be able to get past it mentally (I totally did this at 9 weeks, like 4 days after my first OB visit).
i haven't even seen my OB yet...and i have an appt for another u/s on Monday with the RE. ugggghhhhhh