How did you guys choose an OB? And when did you choose? And when did you switch over? 10 weeks?
My first was bc I wanted the practice in my area with the lowest Caesarian rate. They also had a reputation that was very pro natural birth. I also loved they were are females (combo of OBs and midwives) and delivered at my ideal hospital. They are 40+ minutes away from my home.
Mid pregnancy with DD, two docs left to start their own practice. A midwife later followed. I was in too deep to chance at that time so I stayed bc the other docs were great too. After a not ideal birth experience, and an argument with a very rude nurse, I changed to that new smaller practice.
I'm even happier with the new practice. They gave a similar low cesarean rate, great hippy reputation, and same hospital and a much smaller and more personal experience.
ETA: saw them after I was released from RE at 9w. So first appt was right after that.
I picked my OB based on 1) Female 2) Hospital I wanted and 3) Decent hours. So the irony here.......... when I had my son, my OB was on vacation and I ended up with her partner at the time, who was male! He was fine, but I was so adamant about finding a female OB and that's not how it ended!
Of course after dealing with secondary IF and having about 9000 different doctors both male and female up my hoohah, the gender thing no longer bothers me.
I still find the idea of having my own doctor quite foreign. I'm so used to dealing with a variety of doctors and midwives, different ones each time, and have only seen "my" Canadian doctor twice so far. The doctors at my practice here rotate being on-call/coming into the office, so unless it's a routine appointment, you might not see "yours". I wouldn't expect that mine would be on call for delivery either, but I'm not too fussed because they all seem qualified, and I'm going to be in a hospital anyway. I guess I haven't really had time to build up a relationship with her, but how much of a relationship can you build when each appointment is only 10 minutes, and you don't even have them doing scans and stuff? I suspect part of my indifference lies in my past trauma.
Yeah, I won't have an OB to call my own. In my area we have low risk maternity clinics with a group of doctors who share care for all patients. You get who you get for both appointments and labour and delivery. The big benefit is there is always someone on call and you never wait for appointments or deal with cancellations because your OB has been called out for an emergency.
I was a little iffy about it with my first but it worked out well. Over the course of my pregnancy I saw all the docs at least a couple times and honestly when it came time to give birth I didn't really care who was there as long as it was a doctor.
My clinic also had a a doctor who specializes in breastfeeding and postpartum issues which was a huge help for me with DD.
I'm so thankful and relieved...I'm still wary that something will happen, almost afraid to fully embrace this pregnancy – I know this is normal for PGAL - I'm just wondering when I will let myself enjoy and start to get excited?
M/S has kicked in - I've been getting sick at least daily since Sunday - I think driving is a real trigger - it seems the motion of the car is causing problems, but I'm not complaining - thankful to be at this place and hopeful that this baby will stick!
My RE said I can come back 1 more time in 7-10 days or head straight to my OB - not sure what to do....
I'm so thankful and relieved...I'm still wary that something will happen, almost afraid to fully embrace this pregnancy – I know this is normal for PGAL - I'm just wondering when I will let myself enjoy and start to get excited?
M/S has kicked in - I've been getting sick at least daily since Sunday - I think driving is a real trigger - it seems the motion of the car is causing problems, but I'm not complaining - thankful to be at this place and hopeful that this baby will stick!
My RE said I can come back 1 more time in 7-10 days or head straight to my OB - not sure what to do....
Do one more at the RE! And then the OB will probably do an ultrasound at your first appointment with them, so you'll maximize your opportunities to see the baby and get peace of mind.
I still find the idea of having my own doctor quite foreign. I'm so used to dealing with a variety of doctors and midwives, different ones each time, and have only seen "my" Canadian doctor twice so far. The doctors at my practice here rotate being on-call/coming into the office, so unless it's a routine appointment, you might not see "yours". I wouldn't expect that mine would be on call for delivery either, but I'm not too fussed because they all seem qualified, and I'm going to be in a hospital anyway. I guess I haven't really had time to build up a relationship with her, but how much of a relationship can you build when each appointment is only 10 minutes, and you don't even have them doing scans and stuff? I suspect part of my indifference lies in my past trauma.
So very true. Maybe this is part of the problem (if there really is one) with my doctor, my appointments seem perfunctory? I don't know. At first I figured that as long as someone was there to catch the baby, who cares, but the more I get attached to a certain sort of birth, the more I think the doctor actually matters (e.g., I'd like to avoid an internal fetal monitor if possible, but the L&D nurse on the hospital tour said one of the doctors likes to use them). But the doctor who does the delivery will be whoever is on duty when I'm ready, so how much does it really matter what my doctor prefers anyway?
Are you still planning on a scheduled c-section, loira ? I'd assume your actual doctor would perform that, in that case.
I hate the OB mode of different providers for every appt and you get luck of the draw for delivery. HATE. With my anxiety and history I would hate trying to explain everything at each appt and mine isn't even as concerning as many others. My office policy is that you see all 10 doctors during pregnancy. Luckily my established OB and friend both work in the same practice and agreed I could just see the two of them. My friend wants to come in for my delivery, so odds are good she will be able to deliver. The only thing is that I'm not going to call her on Christmas, but my established OB is on call for Christmas! With twice weekly NSTs I'm having to see a couple of other docs but it shouldn't be too bad. I actually have my 38w0d appt with her (Dec 21) and my 38w3d appt with him (Dec 24) and really, really, really hope they don't let me leave at least one of those appts without being admitted.
Are you still planning on a scheduled c-section, loira ? I'd assume your actual doctor would perform that, in that case.
I'd like to have one, but I've resigned myself to the fact that if she comes early, it probably won't happen. My doctor is not actually an OB, because here your routine care is provided by a GP who specialises in maternity care. They refer you to an OB for any special tests, or high risk procedures (or for my cervix in my case), and all OBs are based out of the hospital. So my doctor would be present at my c-section, but wouldn't be the one performing it. That would be left to one of the OB surgeons at the hospital.
Are you still planning on a scheduled c-section, loira ? I'd assume your actual doctor would perform that, in that case.
I'd like to have one, but I've resigned myself to the fact that if she comes early, it probably won't happen. My doctor is not actually an OB, because here your routine care is provided by a GP who specialises in maternity care. They refer you to an OB for any special tests, or high risk procedures (or for my cervix in my case), and all OBs are based out of the hospital. So my doctor would be present at my c-section, but wouldn't be the one performing it. That would be left to one of the OB surgeons at the hospital.
Would you still want to/be able to have a c-section if she comes early? (Or if I'm being too nosy, I can STFU.)
I really, really hope you don't have to layer another traumatic birth experience over your past one.
I hate the OB mode of different providers for every appt and you get luck of the draw for delivery. HATE. With my anxiety and history I would hate trying to explain everything at each appt and mine isn't even as concerning as many others.
This is why, even though I saw different doctors at my hospital in London, I liked that system better. All my records were available to every doctor, and each one I saw had already read a detailed account of my history. I didn't need to explain everything, and they went into the appointment knowing to treat me with extra patience and understanding. Here, when I saw the OB for my cervix last week, he only had records of the scan that showed my cervix - nothing else. I had to explain the rest of my history to him, which, as you can imagine, I don't much like rehashing.
cactuscookie, not nosy at all. I'd still have liked one even if she comes early, but the OB I talked to last week said that unless they're breech etc, preemies do better with a vaginal birth. So basically I'll try to schedule a c-section for term, but if she comes before 35 weeks, I'll suck it up and do it vaginally for baby's health. He was very nice about it (made the case for it medically, didn't make me feel bad at all for asking), and said he was so sorry for what I went through, and that if I did go into labour early I could have an epidural as soon as I wanted one (I was refused one with V).
I'm so thankful and relieved...I'm still wary that something will happen, almost afraid to fully embrace this pregnancy – I know this is normal for PGAL - I'm just wondering when I will let myself enjoy and start to get excited?
I'm only dealing with IF, not PGAL...but for me, I'm just now getting excited, less anxious all the time. And I'm 12w3d.
and ditto boiler, go RE then OB...you'll probably get one last scan at the RE, and that'll tide you over !
Post by belovedbride07 on Nov 24, 2015 15:09:16 GMT -5
loira, that's interesting...I read in one of my twin books that before 35w the prefer a c-section because labor is too stressful on the baby. I find the Canadian vs US differences interesting (and annoying, because they make me wonder what the best practice really is!).
We had a good ultrasound. Babies are measuring 3lb9oz and 3lb10oz, and my cervix still looks good. Baby girl (B) flipped over again and is feet-down...I need to encourage her to get back on my head-down plan!
Trying for #3; FET 8/18 -- BFN. Leaving things up to chance for now... After three years, three IVFs, and two FETs, we finally have our miracle babIES!
cactuscookie , not nosy at all. I'd still have liked one even if she comes early, but the OB I talked to last week said that unless they're breech etc, preemies do better with a vaginal birth. So basically I'll try to schedule a c-section for term, but if she comes before 35 weeks, I'll suck it up and do it vaginally for baby's health. He was very nice about it (made the case for it medically, didn't make me feel bad at all for asking), and said he was so sorry for what I went through, and that if I did go into labour early I could have an epidural as soon as I wanted one (I was refused one with V).
Panorama results are back and I'm at no increased risks for chromosomal abnormalities. I also found out that I am pregnant with a daughter. A baby sister for DD. I've been walking on clouds all day. I can't believe I'm this lucky.
We have a heartbeat! I'm measuring at 8w3d, which is right on target. The heartbeat is 171 bpm. There's a weird-looking mass alongisde the baby in the sac, and the RE didn't know what it could be, but he didn't seem concerned. I guess this means we're telling my parents tomorrow--eek!
What does your spreadsheet say about the percentage of TTTCgrads who are having girls, cactuscookie ? I feel like there are a LOT of us!
I was thinking the same thing. Looks like, of the people aren't team green (obviously) and aren't having B/G twins, there are six of us expecting girls and just three expecting boys.
We're back from Disney and had such an awesome time with DS. It was hotter than the pits of hell but so, so worth it. My ankles are biblical but my bp is still good and no protein in my urine so I'm trying not to buy trouble. I had a growth scan today with the MFM and Baby Girl is measuring in the 68th percentile and the tech said she has long limbs. Looks like I'm going to have another bubba baby. We got an awesome picture and comparing DS to DD....well, you can definitely tell they are related.
And, I realize they can be off 10% but this is my fourth scan and the baby has consistently been 3w ahead and 99the percentile so guessing he or she isn't going to be a tiny one (but hopefully a little less huge)
The MFM came in and interrogated me about GD again, yay. The tech had said "over 6" but apparently it's 6 lbs 12 oz. My OB said we were going to skip another GD test but I guess I'll see next week what he wants to do.
Post by ginkgoleaf on Nov 25, 2015 14:46:23 GMT -5
Boring appointment today. DS really wanted to hold the cup while I peed in it and I put my foot down on that, which resulted in a bathroom meltdown. Fun times. But he got to help hold the Doppler to hear the heartbeats, which he liked. Next appointment is in 2 weeks and I'll get another ultrasound then.
And, I realize they can be off 10% but this is my fourth scan and the baby has consistently been 3w ahead and 99the percentile so guessing he or she isn't going to be a tiny one (but hopefully a little less huge)
I'm having flashbacks to my pregnancy with DS when you post. He was consistently 3 weeks ahead the entire pregnancy. My MFM at the time told me he would be well over 10lbs if I went to term. I was terrified. I ended up with a section because he was breech and at 39w3d he was 8lbs9oz and 22.5 inches long. He was big but not as big as they thought. Hang in there Boiler. You're doing great.