Post by dulcemariamar on Nov 25, 2015 12:16:19 GMT -5
Does this surprise you? Over on buzzfeed they have a poll on "controversial" parenting topics and it was pretty evenly split about parents who think spanking is okay versus ones that don't. I thought spanking wasn't that common anymore.
My mom spanked, my dad didn't. I spanked DD once and she bawled so bad and then I felt like a shit parent. I do tell her that she'll get a spanking if she doesn't "insert what I want her to do" and she usually listens. I probably need to stop threatening a spanking, it's probably not healthy.
My male co-worker told a story yesterday about his 4 yo daughter acting up. He casually mentioned that she received a spanking... I didn't say anything, but I was pretty taken aback. I would never spank.
We totally got spanked as kids, but like once or twice ever. I only remember once. I once patted (somewhat sternly) DDs bum when she did something dangerous (like running out onto the street or something), more as a reflex/out of frustration, felt horrible about it and committed to never doing it again.
It kind of surprises me. My parents never spanked. I think my dad swatted my butt once when I pulled a plant over on myself, and he felt worse than I did if my mom is to be believed. It just wasn't part of my childhood at all, and I can't even imagine spanking Ben.
I know my good friend, who comes from a much more conservative (and Southern) family, was regularly spanked as a kid, and very occasionally does it with her kids. Her cousin does it, too - I remember asking her at her wedding about her secret to such well-behaved children, and she was like, "Y'all can't be afraid of a little spanking!"
I have no idea if people I know spank. I've never seen anyone spank, but I assume it's not often done with an audience.
I saw it happen twice to kids younger than two. In both instances, the toddlers did something to my daughter. So the moms spanked their kid. I was shocked. They didnt need to do it on my behalf. I felt horrible.
Not surprised it's so evenly split. I know a ton of people who spank, but I live in a very conservative area of the country. I don't know that those two things are related exactly, but based on my sample set of friends and family, it seems to be linked at least for the most part.
I know I've mentioned this here before, but some friends of ours have bragged on numerous occasions that their daughter has only wet the bed once at night, shortly after being PTed at age 2. They spanked her for it and she never wet the bed again.
Not suprised. Lots of ppl do. Dh has spanked dd as have I on occasion. Maybe a dozen times total? She doesn't respond to it though so we don't anymore.
I'm not surprised. We don't spank and I don't know anyone who does for sure. But I wouldn't be surprised if a few people I know do it. I also realize that my sample is definitely not the norm just as it isn't for pretty much any other topic.
I do remember a couple of times when my father did it. It was horrible. It did not really stop the behavior it just caused us to run and hide in humiliation. I don't hate my parents for it or anything but it's absolutely not a choice I respect, at all.
I have wanted to spank my son at times. When I was stressed during unemployment, I sometimes had a hard time keeping it together around him.
It doesn't surprise me in the least that people do.
I only like this because I understand the feeling. Even though I haven't spanked my child, I have wanted to beat his ass many times in the heat of the moment. 6 was a tough age.
We do not spank. I don't believe it is an effective discipline method. Even when people are like, "Oh, I only spanked my kid once when he ran into the street and he never did it again," I am slightly taken aback. Regardless of the lesson or it's purpose, I think it can be achieved without spanking.
Not surprised, although I don't think I know anyone who spanks. I suspect I have family members that may. I was spanked as a kid and it would not surprise me at all if people I grew up with spank their children.