Let's do a Friday Flameful

[bl]

I got semi upset over two things today that normally wouldn't have bothered me and both were super stupid. Its been a bit of an emotionally draining week, so I think that made things hit harder.

[jojoandleo]

Jan 29, 2016 11:32:35 GMT -5 bl said:

I got semi upset over two things today that normally wouldn't have bothered me and both were super stupid. Its been a bit of an emotionally draining week, so I think that made things hit harder.

I'd say feel free to share, but then you would get a slew of people all "Well, I guess it's flameful that I am so super evolved so as to not care about such things" *hairflip* which will piss me off and make me rage hulk because I am angry lately to begin with. So, Sorry stupid shit pissed you off. No matter how evolved everyone else on this board pretends to be, stupid shit pisses ME off ALL. THE. TIME. So, *hugs*

I guess my flameful is that everything is making me angry. Like, I just need to hit a punching bag for a week or something and get it out.  I'm blaming this election cycle.

[TR]

Jan 29, 2016 11:38:15 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Jan 29, 2016 11:32:35 GMT -5 bl said:

I got semi upset over two things today that normally wouldn't have bothered me and both were super stupid. Its been a bit of an emotionally draining week, so I think that made things hit harder.

I'd say feel free to share, but then you would get a slew of people all "Well, I guess it's flameful that I am so super evolved so as to not care about such things" *hairflip* which will piss me off and make me rage hulk because I am angry lately to begin with. So, Sorry stupid shit pissed you off. No matter how evolved everyone else on this board pretends to be, stupid shit pisses ME off ALL. THE. TIME. So, *hugs*

I guess my flameful is that everything is making me angry. Like, I just need to hit a punching bag for a week or something and get it out.  I'm blaming this election cycle.

Amen.

And to the bolded, that's why I love my kickboxing class. Sometimes it just feels good to fucking HIT something.

[bg]

Jan 29, 2016 11:39:43 GMT -5 TR said:

Jan 29, 2016 11:38:15 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

I guess my flameful is that everything is making me angry. Like, I just need to hit a punching bag for a week or something and get it out.  I'm blaming this election cycle.

Amen.

And to the bolded, that's why I love my kickboxing class. Sometimes it just feels good to fucking HIT something.

I have a punching bag sitting in the garage of the house that I could totally use right about now while dealing with stbxh's crap but there's definitely no place to put it in the apartment. Ironically, stbxh got it for me. 

[jigsy]

I think it is weird that people find release in hitting things. I mean...why be so violent.

[jigsy]

JUST KIDDING!!!!!!!!



Don't hit me.

[jigsy]

The posts over the last week on ML have made me feel like I may have outgrown this place. I just had to roll my eyes at the predictability of the monster thread. Popular opinion sways one way, until there are enough people saying the opposite, then everyone has to jump over onto that bandwagon...it is just. so. predictable.

I have met some wonderful people here, and I truly cherish the support I was able to get while separating and divorcing. And it is nice to know that maybe I can help offer that same support to other women, but, to be honest, 90% of posts here (and by here, I mostly mean ML since that is my "home board") bore me and don't interest me in the slightest. And posting here on SO, I feel like I censor myself a little more, because the nature of the board is more supportive, and the more truthy things I sometimes think have already been said...and I don't care to post about my own situation because:
1 - I don't know what is up with me, I am in a weird place that I can't verbalize and
2 - the suggestions I would get would probably not work out because you don't know my lyfe!1!

At least, that is how it has gone before, lol.


So all that to say. Hey guys, I think you are great, but I am stepping back (but I won't say I am leaving because I am fickle, lol)

[jojoandleo]

jigsy-I think this is why I have spent more time on CEP. I don't have kids or care about kids. Plus, ML has a lot of long time posters that typically set the tone. And on SO, I do get a bit tired of the same questions over and over. I get new people haven't read those super old threads and don't blame them, but there are only so many times I can say "Hire a lawyer and a therapist" before I want to cry. I do think SO has a softer touch, but I think a softer touch is needed when people are in a vulnerable place.

Anyway, you do what you need/want. MP has my number if you want to get together for California HP world.

[Deleted]

I couldn't be bothered to read the monster thread. I find myself not checking in as often - it's same shit, different day almost.

[Deleted]

I really miss a lot of the old posters on the board who left or don't really participate more. I felt invested in them as people and still care about their lives even if they feel like they've graduated from SO or whatever. Come back! Tell me things! I mean I'm not really "starting" over either. I may not have found a forever relationship, but I've clearly moved past the starting over after my divorce phase. I just like a place with cool ladies who get having a similar relationship past to me. That's not to say I don't really like the newbies as well!

[jojoandleo]

Jan 29, 2016 13:58:29 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

I really miss a lot of the old posters on the board who left or don't really participate more. I felt invested in them as people and still care about their lives even if they feel like they've graduated from SO or whatever. Come back! Tell me things! I mean I'm not really "starting" over either. I may not have found a forever relationship, but I've clearly moved past the starting over after my divorce phase. I just like a place with cool ladies who get having a similar relationship past to me. That's not to say I don't really like the newbies as well!

I miss a lot of them, too. I do not miss the few who were complete assholes who really posted here to revel in people's misfortune. 

[bullygirl979]

@pdx18, how are you doing? I've been thinking about you. Sorry if you updated somewhere already. I am hit or miss on here.

[Deleted]

Jan 29, 2016 14:27:03 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

@pdx18 , how are you doing? I've been thinking about you. Sorry if you updated somewhere already. I am hit or miss on here.

That's so nice of you to ask! You know I was doing a lot better and totally thought I had conquered it. Umm no. Last night I totally lost it. Like cried harder than ever. Work has also been incredibly stressful with lots of changes and late nights. My house was also a total mess (I just spend the holiday getting it all really organized and had been proud of keeping up on it) and I was really, really missing my little man. So all three things hit me. Sometimes you just need a good cry though. And I feel better today. My boss (who is also my best friend and we sort of run his company in tandeum) freed up some stuff for me today so I can get my house all sorted out and cleaned. 

I'm hoping this weekend will be a good one to just actually relax and come to some peace. 

[bullygirl979]

Jan 29, 2016 14:34:24 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

Jan 29, 2016 14:27:03 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

@pdx18 , how are you doing? I've been thinking about you. Sorry if you updated somewhere already. I am hit or miss on here.

That's so nice of you to ask! You know I was doing a lot better and totally thought I had conquered it. Umm no. Last night I totally lost it. Like cried harder than ever. Work has also been incredibly stressful with lots of changes and late nights. My house was also a total mess (I just spend the holiday getting it all really organized and had been proud of keeping up on it) and I was really, really missing my little man. So all three things hit me. Sometimes you just need a good cry though. And I feel better today. My boss (who is also my best friend and we sort of run his company in tandeum) freed up some stuff for me today so I can get my house all sorted out and cleaned. 

I'm hoping this weekend will be a good one to just actually relax and come to some peace. 

Good! I am glad you are doing a bit better and yes, sometimes crying is the one thing that DOES help.

How is your other pup doing? If I remember correctly, you had 2?

[Deleted]

Jan 29, 2016 14:37:23 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

Jan 29, 2016 14:34:24 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

That's so nice of you to ask! You know I was doing a lot better and totally thought I had conquered it. Umm no. Last night I totally lost it. Like cried harder than ever. Work has also been incredibly stressful with lots of changes and late nights. My house was also a total mess (I just spend the holiday getting it all really organized and had been proud of keeping up on it) and I was really, really missing my little man. So all three things hit me. Sometimes you just need a good cry though. And I feel better today. My boss (who is also my best friend and we sort of run his company in tandeum) freed up some stuff for me today so I can get my house all sorted out and cleaned. 

I'm hoping this weekend will be a good one to just actually relax and come to some peace. 

Good! I am glad you are doing a bit better and yes, sometimes crying is the one thing that DOES help.

How is your other pup doing? If I remember correctly, you had 2?

I do! He's doing better now. Poor guy is really confused and depressed. I got him as a rescue where he was literally on the streets and I think Paco is the only animal he really bonded with. They were never separated so it's been a huge adjustment. He's had a few playdates and still goes out with the walker once a day. We are both settling pretty well into our new routine.

[jojoandleo]

@pdx18-when we lost Leo, Callie was pretty depressed for a bit. She gained weight and wasn't as active. Then, she realized she got ALL THE ATTENTION! And was happy again. Then we got Jerry. Now she instantly hates any dog that dares to enter her home because WHAT IF IT STAYS!?! I think she is plotting ways to off Jerry...

[1confused1]

Jan 29, 2016 14:49:26 GMT -5 @32flavors said:

I'm dressing up like a pirate and invading the port of Tampa tomorrow. I'm sure I'll have a mimosa in hand by 10am.

That sounds so fun!!  I'm guessing it's an event, not just a random pirate invasion? 

[1confused1]

I agree with all the sentiment about the stuff over on ML. I have been staying out of it and didn't read the super thread after a few posts, I knew which way it was going to go.

[pinkdutchtulips]

I've wisely learned to stay out of threads where race and SES are the main topics :/

[dreamcrisp1]

Jan 29, 2016 15:20:33 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

I agree with all the sentiment about the stuff over on ML. I have been staying out of it and didn't read the super thread after a few posts, I knew which way it was going to go.

Yep I felt the same. Then it started again in the apology thread. Sigh.

[pandora]

Jan 29, 2016 14:34:24 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

Jan 29, 2016 14:27:03 GMT -5:

@pdx18 , how are you doing? I've been thinking about you. Sorry if you updated somewhere already. I am hit or miss on here.

That's so nice of you to ask! You know I was doing a lot better and totally thought I had conquered it. Umm no. Last night I totally lost it. Like cried harder than ever. Work has also been incredibly stressful with lots of changes and late nights. My house was also a total mess (I just spend the holiday getting it all really organized and had been proud of keeping up on it) and I was really, really missing my little man. So all three things hit me. Sometimes you just need a good cry though. And I feel better today. My boss (who is also my best friend and we sort of run his company in tandeum) freed up some stuff for me today so I can get my house all sorted out and cleaned. 

I'm hoping this weekend will be a good one to just actually relax and come to some peace. 

Man, do I get it. More hugs, pdx!

I just had to pick up Pandora's ashes and I am bawling in the car. It sucks losing a pet!! I miss her every freaking day and only another pet owner gets that.

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aww pandora. Big hugs! Picking up paco's ashes was awful. But now I'm somewhat comforted by them. I feel like he's back "with" me in a sense and I can talk to his urn and stuff. And yes only another pet owner would get it!Thankfully almost all of my friends are pet owners so the support has been incredible.

[dreamcrisp1]

@pdx18, I think of you often. I hope it gets more manageable. I can't even imagine the pain of losing Paco.

[1confused1]

Jan 29, 2016 16:03:40 GMT -5 dreamcrisp1 said:

Jan 29, 2016 15:20:33 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

I agree with all the sentiment about the stuff over on ML. I have been staying out of it and didn't read the super thread after a few posts, I knew which way it was going to go.

Yep I felt the same. Then it started again in the apology thread. Sigh.

Exactly.  Sometimes things just need to be let go.  

[pandora]

Jan 29, 2016 16:10:48 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

aww pandora. Big hugs! Picking up paco's ashes was awful. But now I'm somewhat comforted by them. I feel like he's back "with" me in a sense and I can talk to his urn and stuff. And yes only another pet owner would get it!Thankfully almost all of my friends are pet owners so the support has been incredible.

I won't post about it any where else because I have too many cat hating FB friends and frankly, they can suck it. I'm glad that you have some peace. It's still so sure all and I still talk about the 2 of them in the present. ;(

[pandora]

My flameful, I have this 3rd cat that I ended up with after what was intended for temporary until someone got a new house. Now that I'm down to just the brother, since Pandora passed, I don't want this 3rd cat. I feel bad and I would never give her away but she's a lot of work and she hasn't really bonded with me. She prefers men but is bonded with my guys. I'm sad that I will end up with just her at some point. I want my awesome duo still. The original owner got a kitten instead without saying a word to me - a$$hole. He's a bad pet owner and shouldn't have pets so guess I'm glad that she has a better life all these years though.

Gah, I'm so sad and can't stop crying with her ashes here. She was so awesome. I wanted her to meet baby boy.

[Deleted]

Awww pandora big hugs! I feel you on the pet guilt. I actually had a really hard time feeling like i was "left" with autzen. While I love him and all there was such a special bond with Paco. So if I had lost Autzen first, Paco would have comforted me. But as the time goes on I'm starting to really enjoy what Autzen has to offer and that he's just different. I hope you and the kitty warm up to each other!

[pandora]

I had plans to meet.up with a friend tomorrow. I've been trying to see her for 2 months now to tell her about the baby to no avail.

Turns out that she's planning a hike in the am and bbq after. I can't really hike between my back and being pregnant. You would think that food after would be perfect, right? Nope, she's a huge pot head and I don't want to be in her house with the windows closed breathing the pot while pregnant. I may just say F it and just skip her as she's been such a PIA to see. Am I being a flame worthy, hormonal B? I have waited 2 months to announce publicly because of her and I think I'm done waiting.

[sweetchix]

Not really a flameful, but I had a very unsettling dream about WG and M that woke me up at 6:39am. It took awhile to shake it. But, there are a lot of parts to the dream that I could see playing out in real life. There is a lot of drama, mostly caused by M, and I am just done dealing with it all.

[starburst604]

I still pop in from time to time to see what everyone is up to. I don't wanna bore people with baby stuff, and life is freaking BUSY! And now I'm that mom that has to worry about food allergies and blah blah. See? Boring. Ha.