FFFC

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Okay I'll start! OMG I am so not cut out to a be a larger dog owner. I've always had chihuahua's and I puppy pad train them. Because I live in the city and actually going in and out of my building to take them out is a huge pain in the ass. So they still go out for a big walk, but not everytime they need to potty. I'm dog sitting for my friends' dog who goes out four times a day and I'm exhausted! She's a total sweetheart, but being awoken to go out at 6:30am was not so fun. Ha!

Also I'm suppose to go on retreat for a volunteer council I'm on. I helped plan it. It's suppose to be overnights all weekend. I was already planning on leaving on Saturday after the agenda, but now I'm not feeling awesome and I'm wondering if I'm a huge asshole if I just drive up tomorrow for the actual meeting part of it? Tonight and Saturday night is just social stuff. I've had a rough go of it lately and just don't feel up to it. Plus last night was the first night I've actually slept in over a week. I'm afraid if I got on this retreat where I will likely be sleeping on a couch or the floor, it will fuck up my sleep again.

[sweetchix]

I'm really struggling with figuring out whether to stop trying to give advice and get someone to see the light about someone else or just say fuck it and let the shit hit the fan. I'm really not the 2nd person but I'm almost to that point.

[glynn]

Soon to be X has no boundaries and it has got to stop. I have been out of the house 2 weeks tomorrow and he has shown up 3 times and wanted to come over 2 others. He is the one that started the divorce I do not get why he won't leave me alone. Today he came by my office at work....

[bg]

Feb 5, 2016 13:30:22 GMT -5 glynn said:

Soon to be X has no boundaries and it has got to stop. I have been out of the house 2 weeks tomorrow and he has shown up 3 times and wanted to come over 2 others. He is the one that started the divorce I do not get why he won't leave me alone. Today he came by my office at work....

Yikes -- that's not good at all. What does he say when you tell him it's not appropriate?

[glynn]

He just looking around the first time. I would not let him in the second time and he like what is the problem.... I said not your place not your business. We have a child so I am trying to be decent about it but this is crazy. The first weekend he was suppose to get DD he did not get her Friday at school per the agreement but Saturday morning at my house. The whole reason the agreement says pick-up at school is so we do not have to interact. I told him last night NOT to come over. Today I asked for over due medical bills and within a few mins. he was here with a check. I was glad he paid me back but it was crazy that he showed up at my office within mins.

I do not think he know what a divorce is. Our house is set to close next Friday and we both have to bring money to the table and he wants to take a loan out together for the money.... I said thanks but no thanks.

[cuddlyevil]

glynn, I would tell your work he's not allowed on the property. There's no reason for him to show up like that.

[cuddlyevil]

Here's mine: I am really happy for my friends who are happily dating, but I'm a little sad and jealous too--like is there something wrong with me and that's why I haven't found anyone who wants to stick around for more than a date or two? Maybe it's just Valentine's day coming up, but I've really been feeling it lately.

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cuddlyevil, my FFFC is that a lot of times it's hard for me to get too happy for them, because I'm sad for me and hate seeing less of them. What I've found though is that like after the year mark or so they start coming around again, wanting more girls nights out and stuff. So I just have to power through hahah.

sweetchix nothing you say to anyone will make them change their mind about another person. They need to see it for themselves. I figure I make my comment or two if I'm really worried for them (dating a known player, making a backstabbing friend at work) but beyond that not my problem. I am usually always there for them when the shit hits the fan though without an I told you so. Unless they keep going back to the person.

[cuddlyevil]

Feb 5, 2016 14:16:41 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

cuddlyevil , my FFFC is that a lot of times it's hard for me to get too happy for them, because I'm sad for me and hate seeing less of them. What I've found though is that like after the year mark or so they start coming around again, wanting more girls nights out and stuff. So I just have to power through hahah.

Heh. I'm not upset about not seeing them as much, I just wish I was in the same position kwim? I haven't had a date since November and can't seem to find anyone who I want to meet up with let alone keep around for more than one date. So mine is more "Is there something wrong with me?" than "I don't see my friends much anymore because of Bob.".

[jigsy]

Here is a real flameful....

I found out this week that Vegas started to follow his ex on instagram, and she now follows him.

I do not like this.

Flameful because I was all la dee da, SM stuff is NBD.

But in my defense, it was a month ago that we both got messages from the EX about how we needed to block her on IG because it was too hard to see our happy lives and apparently, she couldn't help herself...so this change in attitude is confusing - what happened that she can now not only handle it, but have it automatically show in her feed. I am bringing it up.

hoisted on my own petard...well...not really, but I definetly feel like the universe was like "O rly...lets test Jigsy's patience for this foolishness"

[1confused1]

jigsy, that's very interesting timing, didn't you say you were going to have the DTR talk with him soon?

[jigsy]

Were talking tonight, we usually don't see each other over the week, and this is an in person conversation... Seeing the new IG connection and my subsequent hurt feelings was the catalyst to the need for the talk. It was coming anyways, this just made me realize I need to do it sooner rather than later.

[sweetchix]

Feb 5, 2016 14:16:41 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

sweetchix nothing you say to anyone will make them change their mind about another person. They need to see it for themselves. I figure I make my comment or two if I'm really worried for them (dating a known player, making a backstabbing friend at work) but beyond that not my problem. I am usually always there for them when the shit hits the fan though without an I told you so. Unless they keep going back to the person.

Oh, I totally agree. On that same note, she keeps letting it happen over and over again (4 times now that I'm aware of) and she just keeps going back. Just this past Tuesday she was in tears and so pissed and then today I see that she went to pickup lunch with him. And yes, I see the irony of me now being in ALL of SO's position back when I went through this with WG. If we can't try to help our friends see their true worth, what kind of friend are we?

[dreamcrisp1]

I hardcore judge anyone who gets a dog from a breeder. I also torture myself and look at shelter pages on fb and all the beautiful dogs who have a short life for absolutely no reason. I don't get how people give up their dogs.

[TR]

jigsy, you know I'm with you on this one, lol.

@32flavors, get it girl, no flames from me!

I guess my flameful is that last week I had a dream I took a pregnancy test and it was positive and in the dream I was nervous about telling BF, but overall was excited. I have been feeling all gooey about it since. I guess that's what's prompting me to make sure he's not HELL NO on having kids. Because...I might want one with him someday. Could also be because I'm surrounded by pregnant women and am just jealous, lol.

[boing]

I think social media has made relationships so much harder. It's easy to just friend or follow an ex when 15 years ago you could break up and lose track of them! Ugh.

[pandora]

I headed out in sneakers today because my boots were in my car and I didn't feel like grabbing them. We are looking at a foot today. Dumb a$$ move especially with a 30 minute walk ahead of me. Sneaks are soaked still from earlier. I may get an uber, lol.

[berbles]

I've got a weird one that's related to today's apparent theme: my BF and XH are friends on FB. XH and I are not. XH requested BF a few months ago.

So weird. My XH is so fucking weird. He invited BF and me out to watch a game with him last weekend. Thankfully we were out of town.

[achase123]

My little brother is getting married and I really dislike his fiancé. Ugh. She's the same crazy he's been dating for a long time. All I can do is hope all goes ok.

I went skiing with a guy two weekends ago. We slept in the same bed and didn't even come close to having anything remotely sexual. I'm actually relieved because I only like him as a friend.

We're moving and I was cleaning and found an old card from J. It made me sad for a second but I keep reminding myself that we're not right for eachother and wayyyyy better things are ahead.

[pandora]

Feb 5, 2016 22:27:01 GMT -5 achase123 said:

My little brother is getting married and I really dislike his fiancé. Ugh. She's the same crazy he's been dating for a long time. All I can do is hope all goes ok.

I went skiing with a guy two weekends ago. We slept in the same bed and didn't even come close to having anything remotely sexual. I'm actually relieved because I only like him as a friend.

We're moving and I was cleaning and found an old card from J. It made me sad for a second but I keep reminding myself that we're not right for eachother and wayyyyy better things are ahead.

How did your exam go?  Good to see you on here!  

[pandora]

Feb 5, 2016 21:18:09 GMT -5 mp said:

Feb 5, 2016 20:51:09 GMT -5 @32flavors said:

So I decided to turn down the new opp.

That all makes complete sense given the additional details. Continue to kick butt at your current position and build your experience in the new(er) industry and you will do well!  

[achase123]

Feb 5, 2016 23:57:59 GMT -5 pandora said:

Feb 5, 2016 22:27:01 GMT -5 achase123 said:

My little brother is getting married and I really dislike his fiancé. Ugh. She's the same crazy he's been dating for a long time. All I can do is hope all goes ok.

I went skiing with a guy two weekends ago. We slept in the same bed and didn't even come close to having anything remotely sexual. I'm actually relieved because I only like him as a friend.

We're moving and I was cleaning and found an old card from J. It made me sad for a second but I keep reminding myself that we're not right for eachother and wayyyyy better things are ahead.

How did your exam go?  Good to see you on here!  

I passed!!!!!!!

[pandora]

Feb 6, 2016 0:54:11 GMT -5 achase123 said:

Feb 5, 2016 23:57:59 GMT -5 pandora said:

How did your exam go?  Good to see you on here!  

I passed!!!!!!!

So happy for you!!! You're rocking it in everything!!!!

[achase123]

Feb 6, 2016 6:35:28 GMT -5 pandora said:

Feb 6, 2016 0:54:11 GMT -5 achase123 said:

I passed!!!!!!!

So happy for you!!! You're rocking it in everything!!!!

Thank you! I feel like I've been studying almost non stop since i started in this biz 9.5 years ago. This should be my last test!

My boss was so relieved. He's branch manager and wants to phase out. He was like "wow, look at you just hitting new highs everyday!" It was a good feeling!

[FormerlyRR]

Feb 6, 2016 17:12:51 GMT -5 @32flavors said:

I'll add- I heard that the xbf (db) accomplished something really big. I was actually proud of him, despite all the ill will I have toward him. For about 5 minutes I wanted to congratulate.

But the less flameful part is that I knew it would be supremely stupid and did no such thing.

Good job. 

[pandora]

Feb 6, 2016 9:05:15 GMT -5 achase123 said:

Feb 6, 2016 6:35:28 GMT -5 pandora said:

So happy for you!!! You're rocking it in everything!!!!

Thank you! I feel like I've been studying almost non stop since i started in this biz 9.5 years ago. This should be my last test!

My boss was so relieved. He's branch manager and wants to phase out. He was like "wow, look at you just hitting new highs everyday!" It was a good feeling!

So awesome!

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The thought of pee pads for a pet grosses me out. IDK why a litter box doesn't bother me, but pee pads ... ugh. Can't you just walk the dog? I thought that was a perk to dog ownership - no pee or poop in the house (usually).

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Feb 8, 2016 13:55:38 GMT -5 mp said:

Feb 8, 2016 13:33:12 GMT -5 @bigtowlittletoe said:

The thought of pee pads for a pet grosses me out. IDK why a litter box doesn't bother me, but pee pads ... ugh. Can't you just walk the dog? I thought that was a perk to dog ownership - no pee or poop in the house (usually).

Sometimes dogs are old, or incontinent, or have other health issues. That would be where I consider them acceptable. I let my dogs out on my patio w/fake grass in addition to walking, which is kinda gross but it's outside and gets hosed down. lol. 

Sure.  Health issues or age are one thing.  But just because?  I just can't understand that inside the house.

[FormerlyRR]

Feb 8, 2016 13:55:38 GMT -5 mp said:

Feb 8, 2016 13:33:12 GMT -5 @bigtowlittletoe said:

The thought of pee pads for a pet grosses me out. IDK why a litter box doesn't bother me, but pee pads ... ugh. Can't you just walk the dog? I thought that was a perk to dog ownership - no pee or poop in the house (usually).

Sometimes dogs are old, or incontinent, or have other health issues. That would be where I consider them acceptable. I let my dogs out on my patio w/fake grass in addition to walking, which is kinda gross but it's outside and gets hosed down. lol. 

Mine can't make it all night and sometimes I don't hear her get up. It's better than her using the rugs. :/

[doriswe]

Feb 8, 2016 19:08:25 GMT -5 FormerlyRR said:

Feb 8, 2016 13:55:38 GMT -5 mp said:

Sometimes dogs are old, or incontinent, or have other health issues. That would be where I consider them acceptable. I let my dogs out on my patio w/fake grass in addition to walking, which is kinda gross but it's outside and gets hosed down. lol. 

Mine can't make it all night and sometimes I don't hear her get up. It's better than her using the rugs. :/

can I get some info on the pee pads? How do the dogs know to go there vs. the floor? My dog has been peeing in the kitchen at night randomly. It's totally bizarre because she's in the house longer during the day, without potty breaks, than she she is overnight.