Debbie Downer/vents

[mbcdefg]

Anyone have anything to share, so I'm not the only one complaining?

[irene adler]

SIL was in town for the weekend, and MIL planned a big family dinners both Friday and Saturday nights, except it slipped her mind to invite DH and I (truly, she has a lot on her plate and don't believe there was anything intentional about it). I found out about both on Saturday morning, were assured that "no time had been set for tonight but we'll text you when we order food" and then no one remembered to contact us.

We were working in the yard and didn't even notice the time until 6 pm, when the moxie to get our tired, dirty selves out the door was all but shot, so without the heads up we pretty much scrapped the idea. So shame on us for not taking initiative, but I'm a little WTF at dh's mom and all his siblings.

It bothers me that we have become so alienated from the family since FIL passed away and because we don't have kids.

[konapoppy]

I complained about this on TTTC yesterday, but I am just so sad about our struggle TTC. I feel like such a failure. If my first pregnancy had been a success, we would have a 14 month old. If my second one had been a success, we would have had a 2 month old. But here we are with no kid and no plan. I am working no the plan piece, just having a "life sucks" pity party.

[explorer2001]

I'm tired of being sick. I haven't really been better since I got sick on 2/2/16. I thought I was just in for a long recovery, but no. I spent yesterday puking up bile. I'm willing to do almost anything to stop the constant pain. You want to put me on a feeding tube and tell me I never get toneat again, ok. You want to tell me I can only eat 3 foods for the rest of my life, ok. I don't care I'll do anything. Just make it stop and give me a plan.

Hopefully I get something useful at my appointment today. I've gotten nothing so far.

[Mushe]

I am a BALL of nerves today. We've been looking for our next house for basically 2 years, and just yesterday a house popped up that we both love. We rushed to get an offer in last night, but there are already 4 offers (incl ours) and 2 more expected. This market is insane! We thought it wouldn't be as bad at this price point, because it's nuts on the starter homes. A coworker is looking in that lower range, and he said one place he made an offer on had TWELVE offers.

This place is just perfect for us, and I don't want to go back to looking.

[mbcdefg]

My period's still about a week late but I got a BFN on Saturday. I'm getting some kind of spotting today but I don't know WTF it actually is, or if I should bother testing again this week. My due date likely would've been on/around today, if my short pregnancy last year had actually worked out. My work department had a lunch today to welcome a new person ... I was seated next to someone who's due pretty soon. She was chatting with another guy and I discovered from their conversation that his wife is also expecting, and the new person has a young child so they all talked about that for over an hour. And then a visibly pregnant customer walked in. 



So I decided to change the subject ... I had heard the new person mention something about a dog, so I asked if she had a cell phone pic. She replied that the dog died a couple years ago. 



And then I asked to have my uneaten half of my lunch wrapped up and the waiter never came back with it and I didn't feel like being the fat girl asking where the rest of her food is. 

It was just a perfect storm of stupid meaningless stuff.

[anna7602]

I loathe being the family administrator. I just spent the last hour and a half making pedi appointments, registering DD for summer camp, looking at flights for a wedding, lining up a babysitter for this coming weekend and making sure our calendar of every-damned-event-and-appointment is up-to-date. And there will always be something else left to do or that I forgot to do, on top of getting my professional work done and making sure the children are fed and kept alive.

[sfy]

(hug) mbcdefg and konapoppy, (hug2)

explorer2001 and @foodielicious,  I hope you both feel better soon.

Fingers crossed for you, Mushe.

My husband is bringing me down with his job woes.  I have quite a bit to say, but I think I will regret it, so instead, I will say nothing.  But I am getting annoyed with him.  I am doing everything I can to help him feel better about the situation, but dude, if you are determined to wallow and/or quit, then why am I getting involved.

Also, I am annoyed because my mother essentially gave my sister and BIL a business and I feel like they're slacking wrt it.

Further, I will be fucking damned if I cook tonight.  And I bet I end up cooking tonight.  ARGH!

I might DD this.

[mbcdefg]

I'm sorry to everyone who is hurting *hugs*

Let's all put on our big underpants and take a nap.

[UnderProtest]

Hugs to everyone! Who wants to join me in curling up in a warm blanket and hiding from the world for the next week....or decade?

[farfalla2011]

I transitioned into 100% owner of the investment property I've been managing for the past 5 years (co-owned with XH). In order to make it happen, I had to pay him a sum of money. Ever since that event took place, there have been so many things come up with this damn house! Mostly because we neglected to check in since I didn't want to deal with XH, but still annoying.

Since December we have replaced the water heater, dishwasher, and garbage disposal. We still need to replace the stove (the glass on the front is no longer existing and is a hazard), replace the kitchen faucet that is leaking, replace the fence since various panels are constantly falling down on all 3 sides and it's 15 years old, and get the exterior painted and repairs since trim boards are rotting out and need to be replaced. Not to mention, the heater and AC are both 15 years old and fingers crossed they continue to make it for a couple more years so we can recover from the current issues.

[dreamcrisp1]

I now have a solid burn on my arm from yesterday which will scar forever thanks to how my body works. Ugh. Also I miss my bf like crazy.

Hugs to everyone. February slump is so real.

[farfalla2011]

sfy , my DH has job woes too that are bringing me down. I waver between telling him to suck it up and quit complaining, look for something else and just listening like a nice loving wife. We used to work for the same company, but I left 4 months ago and have no tolerance for the crazy place anymore. Hugs!

[mbcdefg]

Feb 22, 2016 14:21:22 GMT -5 @foodielicious said:

Feb 22, 2016 14:07:15 GMT -5 mbcdefg said:

I'm sorry to everyone who is hurting *hugs*

Let's all put on our big underpants and take a nap.

LOL I did indeed select my big underpants this morning...I attempted a wildly inappropriate experiment with boyshorts a few months ago, and my size in regular undies is not my size in boy shorts.  Today I'm kind of loving it. 

ALL of my underpants have transitioned to big underpants. I just don't give a shit anymore. 

[Pom]

I got nothing to complain about other than being ready to hibernate after we get this latest round of stressful shit behind us.

To all of you guys with big hurts, I'm not sure where to start with the hugs. I'm sorry for all the sadness in this post.

[sfy]

Feb 22, 2016 14:26:22 GMT -5 farfalla2011 said:

sfy , my DH has job woes too that are bringing me down. I waver between telling him to suck it up and quit complaining, look for something else and just listening like a nice loving wife. We used to work for the same company, but I left 4 months ago and have no tolerance for the crazy place anymore. Hugs!

DD. Of course, he said something that made me feel like a jerk for talking shit about him . He's a very nice man lol...I'm going to try to remember that when he gets on my nerves!

[irene adler]

sfy , are we married to the same guy? I would be proud to have you as a sister wife.

[Susie]

mbcdefg and konapoppy, hugs.

[explorer2001]

FML I just puked up water! Yes water! That's all I've been able to force in since breakfast and I have a dehydration headache so I know I need it. This isn't good.

[sfy]

I'm really sorry you felt that way, @foodielicious, and especially, if I personally was ever anything but supportive. My personal perception is that people were empathetic (except for the reaction to one comment you made that seemed out of character for you), but of course, you were living it and I was not. Sometimes, I don't acknowledge every comment, but it's not because I am not wishing the person well, but because sometimes, I think people just want to unload it. That may not be what's best. Either way, I certainly hope that everyone here who is struggling with infertility will have a healthy and happy baby very soon, and in the interim, feels comfortable talking freely about it. Hugs to you, also.

[raangoli]

Huge hugs konapoppy and mbcdefg it's not fair at all

Feel better @foodielicious and explorer2001

Mushe I hope they accept your offer and not the others.

dreamcrisp1 maybe the scar won't be so bad? Why do the outside of crockpots get so hot?

[explorer2001]

Feb 22, 2016 17:46:17 GMT -5 @foodielicious said:

explorer2001 what is going on? Food poisoning?

No food poisoning would be better than this. It doesn't stick around for weeks. They think it's my gall bladder but no idea really. I'm hoping I get info at my specialist appointment this afternoon.

[pretzel]

Because my dad lacks the ability to leave a voice message with content and was leaving these REALLY serious voice mails, I was sure my mom was really sick or dead. Dad just wanted to return his bday present. ARGH.

He updated his Amazon wishlist two days AFTER his birthday. I wish he would learn how this works.

[mskitkat]

@foodielicious, I am so sorry that you are dealing with that. I really hope that adoption works out well for you and brings you some measure of peace.

My downer post is I'm so sad about my cat. She has mammary cancer, and all of the research I've seen says due to her tumor size, she has < 6 months. We are going to do surgery, but I can't justify putting her through chemo. The vet is acting like I'm giving her a death sentence without the chemo or choosing not to treat entirely, but seriously. She's 14, and chemo's biggest side effect is loss of appetite. Food is this cat's favorite thing. If she only has a short time left, I'm not taking away her favorite thing. I hope surgery is the right option for her, but I can't take the idea of not treating her at all. It sucks. I don't know what I'll do if she doesn't make it through surgery. DH, OTOH, wants to just do palliative care for that reason. He doesn't think she could handle the surgery. I hate when there isn't a clear right choice to make.

[mbcdefg]

I'm just pissy because I was already BEC about the one person. Just someone who (seemingly - I know I don't know what happens behind closed doors) gets everything they want, and someone with a crappy overall attitude to boot. I wouldn't have been so affected otherwise.

[konapoppy]

Big hugs all around.

@foodielicious and mbcdefg sorry we are all in the same funk

[explorer2001]

@foodielicious so many hugs. I know it's not much but it's all I can do to send hugs and let you know you are loved.

I'm scheduled for a follow up testing and waiting for Zofran at the pharmacy which should stop the puking.

[sfy]

@foodielicious, that made me so sad to read, I wish I could give you a rl hug. Lots of good vibes and best wishes for a smooth and successful adoption process.

I'm sorry, mskitkat .

[Susie]

Feb 22, 2016 19:23:58 GMT -5 @foodielicious said:

Susie Miss Hobbes makes me smile involuntarily when I get to the bottom of your posts.

That is so sweet of you to say.  I had a hard day today, and I really appreciate it.  Wishing you lots of luck on your adoption journey.

[biscoffcookies]

@foodielicious, I wasn't aware of your TTTC before, but I wanted to offer hugs and hair pats now. You have had a really hard time, and it isn't fair. I M sending good thoughts for a quick and smooth adoption process.