It's well known that Isabelle is gassy as fuck and miserable at night. We are doing everything we can to fix it. But she basically cried from 4pm till now.
H worked late and got home about 7. Dinner was almost ready. He said he wasn't very hungry, but then in the middle of one of I's crying spells said "do you mind if I eat first?" Sure asshole. Go ahead and eat while it's hot. Oh and THEN he was the one that pulled the pork chips out of the oven and mine wasn't done (maybe his too, don't know, he ate it) so I had to put mine back in and wait AGAIN. If he gets food poisoning then I guess we know karma is real.
So while my food is cooking, Isabelle is screaming. So I take her. He asks if she needs to eat, no. It's been an hour since she ate last. It's gas. I get her calmed down, she is asleep when I give her to him. I am eating and she starts screaming again. He tries for like 3 min to calm her down and then storms into the living room pissed off snapping at me cause I didn't feed her. He just KNOWS she is hungry.
FUCK YOU H. She isn't hungry. Her fucking tummy hurts. And if you tried to ACTIVELY calm her for 5 min she would settle.
And you know what? Because I didn't take her (I actually threatened to leave him on his own with both for the night), he had to get her calm and he did and she was fine.
BECAUSE SHOVING A BOOB IN HER MOUTH ISNT ALWAYS THE ANSWER ASSHOLE.
Omg, my h does the same thing. He thinks she wants to eat any time 5he makes a peep. AND, he ate his dinner first because, as he said, he was hangry. Dude.
Also, um, how do we get to the point where we can put her down, while she's awake, without her crying?
Ughhhhhh. I remember when I was nursing an we'd be at a family gtg, my h would have a leisurely fucking dinner, seconds, thirds, dessert. And then wouldn't understand Why TF I would get pissed. What's wrong with these effers?
The only solution is for you to bring her to me for a bit tomorrow and go have a breather. I've having withdrawals.
Omg, my h does the same thing. He thinks she wants to eat any time 5he makes a peep. AND, he ate his dinner first because, as he said, he was hangry. Dude.
Also, um, how do we get to the point where we can put her down, while she's awake, without her crying?
Obviously, every kid is different, but I just started doing it around 8 weeks as an experiment. Sometimes she would stay calm, and then fall asleep. Sometimes she would get upset and cry too much to settle down, so we would rock, repeat.
I was actually a fascist about putting her down while awake (at least trying until it worked) and the payoff was great later on because the house didn't have to be at DEFCON-10 silence in order to get her down.
Short answer: just start doing it. If it's going to work for R, with time, you'll have more and more success.
Post by sparkythelawyer on Aug 2, 2016 21:34:38 GMT -5
No jury of your peers would convict you.
Signed,
The woman who managed NOT to kill her husband who told her when the baby was about three months old how tired he was and how "It's different for you. You don't NEED sleep like I do."
The woman who managed NOT to kill her husband who told her when the baby was about three months old how tired he was and how "It's different for you. You don't NEED sleep like I do."
What's that, motherfucker?
He never said that again.
Holy f'ing shit! He actually said that to you? *hulk smash*
Mind you, my H has said his fair share of rage worthy bs....I'm pretty sure at some point he made a similar comment....my sleep deprived brain has chosen to block it out at this point....
Omg, my h does the same thing. He thinks she wants to eat any time 5he makes a peep. AND, he ate his dinner first because, as he said, he was hangry. Dude.
Also, um, how do we get to the point where we can put her down, while she's awake, without her crying?
When C was little, even an infant, I would put her down for the night, drowsy, but still awake. She would just kind of gaze at me and drift off to sleep.
I will say this, try not to get into the habit of rocking her to sleep, because at some point you want her to be able to fall asleep on her own, and this can make it really, really tough.
I am guessing you have a swing. Does she like it? I would just try putting her there for a while at a time. And see how she does.
When M was fussy in the beginning, my H would be like, "maybe it's the wine?" And I would think, "the wine is the only reason anyone is alive right now."
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