Post by scottyderp on Aug 15, 2016 22:51:49 GMT -5
As one who comes from a family with The Craziest Shit, Ever (TM) happening 24/7/365, some of us truly give Augusten Burroughs a run for his money.
Not everyone has their husband driving a boat full of balloons past our work in a Miami Vice blazer or whatever the heck went on with you. It sounds nice, though. Think more along the lines of mothers who flee the country to avoid parenting responsibilities and people who show up to family reunions on meth. I like you, don't get it twisted. You have good hair.
And His has not asked for a single thing aside from prayers and good wishes.
Unless God is suddenly accepting Mastercard and Visa, these two are not the same damn things.
Lots of people have said @she hasn't asked for anything", like that means something. I don't follow this enough to have an opinion about whether she's full of it, but hundreds of sympathetic responses IS WHAT SHE'S ASKING FOR. So there is a "payoff" if you will for people who make shit up.
That said. My dad died in hospice care at his home. And you bet your fucking ass that I crawled into the crook of my dad's arm while he was dying and put my head on the chest I laid my head on as a little girl and stayed there for about 15 mins because I knew I would never ever feel my dad's embrace again. So unless you've lost someone that close to you, right in front of your eyes, you don't fucking know what you will do. Including laying with their "dead body".
Edit: I'm not dire ting his at you. Just quoted for the "she didn't ask for money or anything" part cause multiple posters said that.
And anyone who lies about cancer like its great sympathy mining can burn in hell. That cookie lady can DIAF.
Post by noodleskooze on Aug 16, 2016 6:30:39 GMT -5
I was being tongue-in-cheek, @hungrycatepillar, I promise. I didn't mean to make you feel bad, which is why I didn't tag you. If anything it was a little nudge at Elsa. I'm glad you're in a much better place than you were back then!
Just go back the last year, hell even the last 6 months, and put it all together.
Is it just that she has been vocal about wanting to quit work to watch her granddaughter, to which the board was nearly universally opposed, and now she cannot work because of her illness? Or more?
yes, I can't work. I also don't eat. I can't walk without the assistance of a walker now because my knees wobble at the first sign of discomfort. I pass some days puking out what would normally be food or bile, but since I don't eat, I just kneel there puking and heaving and hoping I don't shit myself at the same time. My hands shake uncontrollably and therefore, I can't drive anymore either. A side effect of one out of three meds Is that I can't touch anything cold. If I touch anything cold, like a brass doorknob, it feels as if my skin is being jabbed with pins and needles. The same thing applies to anything I eat or drink. or touch. or walk on, or lay on. and even a few degrees too cold is excruciating.
i hate to be hot but I can't even use the AC unless im covered in blankets, sweating like a pig. no cool showers. no cool drinks. no cool sheets to slip into on a hot night.
So you go right the fuck on speculating your pathetic life away.
Hope that clears it up for you.
I just fucking KNEW this was going to happen and that really sucks.
His, you don't need to explain or try to prove anything to anyone here. I think that 99.99% of people here believe you. Don't worry about the other 0.01%. Sending you all the good, healing thoughts!
Is it just that she has been vocal about wanting to quit work to watch her granddaughter, to which the board was nearly universally opposed, and now she cannot work because of her illness? Or more?
yes, I can't work. I also don't eat. I can't walk without the assistance of a walker now because my knees wobble at the first sign of discomfort. I pass some days puking out what would normally be food or bile, but since I don't eat, I just kneel there puking and heaving and hoping I don't shit myself at the same time. My hands shake uncontrollably and therefore, I can't drive anymore either. A side effect of one out of three meds Is that I can't touch anything cold. If I touch anything cold, like a brass doorknob, it feels as if my skin is being jabbed with pins and needles. The same thing applies to anything I eat or drink. or touch. or walk on, or lay on. and even a few degrees too cold is excruciating.
i hate to be hot but I can't even use the AC unless im covered in blankets, sweating like a pig. no cool showers. no cool drinks. no cool sheets to slip into on a hot night.
So you go right the fuck on speculating your pathetic life away.
Hope that clears it up for you.
I just fucking KNEW this was going to happen and that really sucks.
hisno1girl, I don't know if you were replying to me directly and I hope you didn't think my post was questioning the coincidental timing. I was questioning the so-called receipts. When you told us about the cancer, I told my H about it and said how awful life can suck that here you wanted nothing more than to be a full time grandma and life throws this at you instead. It's just not fair I've got nothing but good thoughts and prayers for you.
hisno1girl - hugs. I'm so sorry that on top of everything you are dealing with, you have to deal with this bs as well. Enjoy your new grand baby and beat the eff out of that cancer. Love and prayers to you.
I don't know, this feels icky. I will say I don't think the going to her friends house and laying with her dead body happened. I mean, the police get called, bodies get stiff and no!
This post pissed me off almost more than the His BS call out.
If you don't know what you are talking about when it comes to best friends (or anyone you are close to) dying and how people might grieve that loss, maybe you shouldn't say anything. It's been said about a million times that there is not one right way to grieve. If my best friend died in hospice, I guarantee her H would call me and I'd be there before the funeral home. I'd also be giving her one last hug, stiff body or not.
That goes for everyone else in this thread who said something similar and those who liked those posts.
I'm sorry hisno1girl. I hope something is helping you with chemo side effects. They are awful and I don't wish anyone that hell.
I don't know, this feels icky. I will say I don't think the going to her friends house and laying with her dead body happened. I mean, the police get called, bodies get stiff and no!
This post pissed me off almost more than the His BS call out.
If you don't know what you are talking about when it comes to best friends (or anyone you are close to) dying and how people might grieve that loss, maybe you shouldn't say anything. It's been said about a million times that there is not one right way to grieve. If my best friend died in hospice, I guarantee her H would call me and I'd be there before the funeral home. I'd also be giving her one last hug, stiff body or not.
That goes for everyone else in this thread who said something similar and those who liked those posts.
I'm sorry hisno1girl. I hope something is helping you with chemo side effects. They are awful and I don't wish anyone that hell.
Yup. And this coming from someone who had a family member die in hospice and purportedly sees death at her work - and still publicly judges how people grieve. Maybe you're in the wrong line of work, then?
But I also would never guess that a person would completely make up a child's existence and death on an internet message board.
Vaba. JLM. Montereybride.
Jaded? Yeah, a little.
So what are we talking about here then. If she has cancer, and has not been up in here asking for money or anything, we're mad because she what. Wasn't as stressed out about the baby shower as she said?
I think that's what some assholes are waiting for....the Amazon wish lists, the subtle hints about expenses, etc.
Well, I can guaranfuckingtee you that that will never happen. Ever.
So what are we talking about here then. If she has cancer, and has not been up in here asking for money or anything, we're mad because she what. Wasn't as stressed out about the baby shower as she said?
I think that's what some assholes are waiting for....the Amazon wish lists, the subtle hints about expenses, etc.
Well, I can guaranfuckingtee you that that will never happen. Ever.
I'll vouch for you, His.
Hell, I IMd His a couple of weeks ago letting her know I'd be driving past her town on my way to see my parents and I'd be more than happy to bring her whatever she wanted or needed from any point in between and she was all "Nope, I'm good... and thrilled shitless that you are even offering to do this for me!"
Rock on, His. And you know the offer still stands.
Post by pistolshrimp on Aug 16, 2016 11:04:51 GMT -5
Easier said than done, but don't even give this BS the honor of a reply His. Some people showed their immature,shit-stirring true colors and it didn't really go in the direction they had hoped. It sounds like a lot of people have your back and GBCN never forgets.
I do not think she is faking things or making everything up. I think there is embellishing going on.
I don't have receipts - but let's see. Her H has cancer. She has cancer. Her best friend recently died of cancer (and then she went over to her house and cuddled with her body after she passed).
Her H wouldn't let her go part time to help take care of her granddaughter but they are giving her son a house? Free and clear? Baby Rocky. Her granddaughter was born early and in the NICU and her daughter had seizures. The shower this weekend had 25 people who didn't RSVP show up and they had kept the secret of the baby's sex and surprised everyone- including His' own parents- even though the baby had been born over a week earlier.
There is more but that is a starting point. Again. Not making big stuff up just embellishing.
please let me give you more ammo!
my FIL -dead - cancer my MIL - Dead - CANCER The house we are giving away has a value that's equal to his potential inheritance when we die. no one else wanted it so yeah, it's his. If you are questioning baby's Rocky - Fuck you If you are questioning my daughter's traumatic deliver - fuck you even more.
there, that's it. I'm done with you for even suggestions I would embellish stories of pain, agony, and suffering.
Easier said than done, but don't even give this BS the honor of a reply His. Some people showed their immature,shit-stirring true colors and it didn't really go in the direction they had hoped. It sounds like a lot of people have your back and GBCN never forgets.
Except we do. This isn't the first time this has been levied against His (by some of the same people), and probably won't be the last.
I only lurk occasionally so I must have missed that. It's sad that someone(s) would do this to someone that hasn't been anything other than supportive to others. Leave the callouts for the real assholes.
I do not think she is faking things or making everything up. I think there is embellishing going on.
I don't have receipts - but let's see. Her H has cancer. She has cancer. Her best friend recently died of cancer (and then she went over to her house and cuddled with her body after she passed).
Her H wouldn't let her go part time to help take care of her granddaughter but they are giving her son a house? Free and clear? Baby Rocky. Her granddaughter was born early and in the NICU and her daughter had seizures. The shower this weekend had 25 people who didn't RSVP show up and they had kept the secret of the baby's sex and surprised everyone- including His' own parents- even though the baby had been born over a week earlier.
There is more but that is a starting point. Again. Not making big stuff up just embellishing.
please let me give you more ammo!
my FIL -dead - cancer my MIL - Dead - CANCER The house we are giving away has a value that's equal to his potential inheritance when we die. no one else wanted it so yeah, it's his. If you are questioning baby's Rocky - Fuck you If you are questioning my daughter's traumatic deliver - fuck you even more.
there, that's it. I'm done with you for even suggestions I would embellish stories of pain, agony, and suffering.
OMG. Elsa, what in the fuck is the matter with you? I get the board has had issues, but damn.
I have no idea where this so coming from. She's been on this site for as long as I have (12+ years I think), and has offered nothing but a kind heart and a gentle soul.
I know free speech and all but I think this whole thread should be deleted. And I am heavily side eyeing anyone who would tag his and want her to see this with everything she is going through. It was her worst day. If tagging was necessary in your minds, it should have waited. Ugh.
I just wanted to jump back in here to say that I tagged her early on when she showed up to the board and was posting, literally, right above this post where ppl were talking about her. I thought she deserved to see it w/o stumbling across it and also see the support she was getting throughout. I've been on the board with His since '04 and I've got a lotta love for her. I did realize later that maybe it's not so cut and dry and not everyone would want to see the post. I apologized to His for tagging her and she graciously said we cool.