New week randoms

[Deleted]

It's been four years and a month (and a day!) since my divorce has gone through. It's been 3 years and 10 months since last talking to my ex-husband. His last words to me were "Have a nice life, FirstName" sarcastically. I can't remember my last words to him (likely "no" as we were discussing cancellation fee of my phone contract he owed since he wouldn't transfer me the number). I've now been divorced longer than I've been married.

[sweetchix]

I have my very first mammogram tomorrow morning. I am NOT looking forward to it.

DDs started school today. DD2 was super excited but DD1 was definitely not. She said she was scared. I think it was because she wasn't familiar with her teacher. But her BFF is in her class so hopefully that helps. Here they are this morning. Sorry if they're crooked and, as usual, PDQ.

Waiting for the bus:


The bus is coming! Love their 2 different reactions <

[dancelnow]

BF and I did the kid introductions yesterday. Technically they've known each other since they were babies from daycare, but never met outside of there. It wasn't as him and I dating, just a fun laser tag day. It went beautifully, they loved each other and want to do a sleepover. I'm so glad it worked out and our respective exes are ok with the meeting as well.

[jenstar]

I bought a house in March and we still haven't been able to close on it and move in.. I'm getting a little over it but it's giving me more time to get rid of all of the stuff we won't be taking with us. And I like where we currently live so I'm not in a rush, but there's a huge part of me that feels like my life has been in limbo for the last 3.5 years since I started thinking about divorce. I'm ready to be somewhere that's ours and to be settled.

It was Father's Day here on Sunday and I dropped xh's presents over as we'd forgotten to pack them and when he answered he told me DS was being really difficult and he didn't want to get dressed and threw all his clothes off the bed etc. Yesterday on the way home from daycare DS told me that he got angry and threw the clothes off the bed because xh locked him in his room and suddenly it makes sense why he's been so clingy since he got home.

[itsmyparty]

I went on a first date (first meeting or whatever we call it) this afternoon with a guy from OKC. I was so encouraged going into it because he was confident and take-charge about scheduling the date - didn't waste time exchanging too many messages, called me to arrange it, etc. Well...he was a pretty miserable person. I mean, complained and bitched about all kinds of random stuff the whole 1.5 hours. This is after the place he asked me to meet him at was closed (not a big deal, we found something else to do, but he didn't even check to see if they were open?), and he was 15 minutes late.

On to the next!

[thedutchgirl]

My divorce is nearly final. Just waiting for the judge to sign the agreed judgment entry. There's a bit of concern that the court may not sign it because XH refused to sign with language in that the division of assets--where he gets more than 50% to waive spousal maintenance--is fair and equitable. All because I "ditched" him now that I've "made it big." (I made partner at my firm at the beginning of the year.) Fingers crossed the judge signs.

I've gone on two dates with a really nice guy, but there's no spark. We also are really different in some ways that are really important to me. I met him through work (not a co-worker), so I need to say no to the next date gracefully. He hasn't asked yet, but he will. These were my first post-divorce dates. I was with XH for 14 years. The fact that I need to say I'm not interested is hanging over my head!

Labor Day is a little mental end of summer for me, and it always makes me so sad.

[Deleted]

I'm traveling for work tomorrow. Ugggg I'm over it. I don't usually travel much for work so I don't have it down to a science. At least I'll be back on Friday night. I've become like SUCH a homebody. It takes everything to get me to leave the house and do something. I'm not depressed or anything I think I've just been way over scheduled on travel and people and I'm burn out. I did go to the dahlia festival yesterday and that was really fun!

[itsmyparty]

@pdx18, dahlias are my favorite flowers! So many different kinds and colors!

[cuddlyevil]

@pdx18, I grew heirloom dahlias at my old house. My current place isn't good for them so I can't now

POF guy is officially gone. Took himself out of the running completely. So I am back to square one. But it's all good.

New job starts Monday! They've already changed my title in the directory at work.

[jigsy]

Almost done with my vacation, and im ready for it. I feel like i should be happier, but i miss my puppy and not living out of a suitcase.
Vegas was with me over the past 10 days, and it was actually good i think...yes, we had sex, but it was not nearly as great as it used to be. Experiencing sex with am emotional connection them doing it without is stark. Physically satisfying, but not complete.
Spending that much time with him also made me realize that while we do get along wonderfully and have a great time together, i do want more than he can give me, so i do feel like im at peace with the state of the relationship.

[cuddlyevil]

Liking for the peace w/r/t Vegas jigsy, not the rest of it. I am sorry you're feeling unsettled.

[TR]

jigsy, I'm glad you're feeling at peace with the relationship. I didn't want to bring that part of it up over on ML so I'm glad you updated about that here. I was worried about you because I've been there, haha. Sorry you're feeling out of sorts in general, though.

[Linie]

I still haven't received any news from my BFF, who I call my soul mate. He told me he needed some quiet time to think things over and I should be able to do that, but I miss him terribly!

BF and I are getting closer and I'm sometimes scared that I'll mess it up. I try not to have any expectations, but when a relationship becomes intense, I do and I'm often disappointed.

And I'm starting not to like my job anymore... I should have stayed in private practice.

[bl]

jigsy yay for being at peace with Vegas, sorry you are feeling blah about the rest of stuff. How was HP?

@pdx18 that pic of you is adorable!

Bf and I officially booked our trip to Vegas in November over the weekend, so happy to have that done, now just counting down. He is on his new schedule of working nights, and I work days so 3 or 4 days/nights a week I don't see him, but then he is off the other 3-4 days which is nice.

I just booked a semi last minute work trip to AZ in two weeks, and have never been there, so hopefully I can find some fun stuff to fill my evenings for the week.

[jigsy]

Sept 7, 2016 11:44:57 GMT -5 bl said:

jigsy yay for being at peace with Vegas, sorry you are feeling blah about the rest of stuff. How was HP?.

HP was amazing. I think that finally seeing it, after looking forward to it for over a year, is adding to my overall sense of ennui. It was magical and everything i wanted and more...but now its over, and that makes me sad.

[doglove]

Is that at the Japanese Garden/rose garden @pdx18? Loved that place. Your hair looks super cute.

My date for tomorrow and I decided to mutually cancel. Being worldly, adventurous, eating worldly food and making memories from worldly food like octopus (his words) are most important to him and those are just not my same values. We couldn't have been any more different other than being active and having our dogs as our BFFs.

[bg]

I'm patiently (mostly) waiting for my start date for my new job. Trying to be productive in the meantime, but today I'm feeling sick and all productivity has gone downhill. I've made it through a lot of the netflix shows I wanted to watch -- Stranger Things and LOVE most recently.

[Deleted]

Finally had a talk with the guy (J) on Monday. I think we're in a good place for now. Although I did catch him off guard last night when I told him I had other plans on a night we usually go out. Sorry, dude. I can't give ALL the nights to someone who doesn't want to be exclusive. For not wanting to get emotionally invested, he certainly seems so.

I WAS SO EXCITED TODAY WAS NOT TUESDAY! Hooray for short weeks!

I have a repeat date (C) tomorrow night. To bang or not to bang, that is the question. I think we might head across the bay for drinks and live music.

[Deleted]

doglove no it's from the Dahlia Festival here are so more pics since everyone seems to be such fans of the flower!

[Deleted]

@pdx18, you look so damn cute with your sugar daddies. ADORABLE.

jigsy, sorry you're having feelings of unrest. (hugs)

cuddlyevil, on to the next one!

[doglove]

Pretty! Love that short cut on you @pdx18!

[Deleted]

Thanks everyone for the compliments!!!

[glitzyglow]

I might be getting a new job. I'll know on the 20th. Different but related field.

[glynn]

Sept 6, 2016 23:34:31 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

I'm traveling for work tomorrow. Ugggg I'm over it. I don't usually travel much for work so I don't have it down to a science. At least I'll be back on Friday night. I've become like SUCH a homebody. It takes everything to get me to leave the house and do something. I'm not depressed or anything I think I've just been way over scheduled on travel and people and I'm burn out. I did go to the dahlia festival yesterday and that was really fun!

This is a great picture of you.

[glynn]

I have a first date with a new guy in 4 hours and I can't wait. He says the same so I am hoping we hit it off in person. brought to you by Match.com.

[sweetchix]

Had my mammogram this morning. It wasn't nearly as bad as I expected. Results were negative and I apparently have dense breast tissue.

I want it to be 5 o'clock already!!!

[doglove]

It's w(h)ine about it wednesday for me with my two gay besties tonight. Count down to wine is T minus 2 hours and 15 minutes. Come on!

[shoofly]

I'm struggling a bit. I've come to realize, over the weekend, that most of it is probably due to stopping my anti-depressant. I've tried about 4 or 5 different meds, and all have lead to horrible headaches. I kinda just gave up. But this weekend was tough...I've found myself dwelling on a lot of old, painful thoughts from my break up earlier this summer. Why me? Why can't people see him for who he is? Why does he keep getting the "good" things in life? They keep popping up at random times and are just not helpful. I am also constantly thinking of my brother and it feels like I'm going through the grieving process all over again. It's never stopped, but it's ramping up again. He passed away in February of this year, at 27. It's all just...painful. I'm trying to deal, but I feel as though I don't get anywhere. And motivation is completely lacking. I know this and yet, not much changes.

I really try to focus on work and on my niece and nephew (my brother's little ones). Living with them and my parents is somewhat of a blessing in disguise and keeps me going. Sorry to be a Debbie Downer.

I hope all upcoming dates go well - @32flavors, glynn, @bigtowlittletoe/

And sorry about the ones that haven't worked out. All in due time and all that

[shoofly]

Sept 7, 2016 15:59:16 GMT -5 mp said:

shoofly how long did you give your other anti depressants before stopping? I've had headaches in the beginning, maybe a week, but they go away.

I tried the first 3 only for about 3 weeks each. Those had more side effects than just the headaches and were much worse.

The last I tried was Zoloft. We started at a small dose and worked our way up (25mg to 125mg). The increase was over about 3 months. Each time it was increased, the headaches would be around for about a week, but then taper off. With the last increase, they just became worse and worse. I much prefer how I was feeling while on them, but also wasn't a fan of the headaches and weight gain. I have a follow-up appointment soon. I hope to see about other options, but I'm a little pessimistic...

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Sept 7, 2016 15:44:44 GMT -5 doglove said:

It's w(h)ine about it wednesday for me with my two gay besties tonight. Count down to wine is T minus 2 hours and 15 minutes. Come on!

This rubs me the wrong way. No need to clarify their sexuality. Like I wouldn't say "I'm going to visit my AUTISTIC nephew!" or "I'm going to go bang my Hispanic boyfriend!" or "I live with a black roommate".